You should not be feeling lonely. The amount of anxiety that is bubbling up inside you, those thoughts and feelings that you can’t really control, keep on haunting you.
But let me tell you that just because you are alone, it doesn’t mean that the world is coming to an end.
This feeling of loneliness is strongest at night, is it not? When all the lights are shut off and all you can hear is a few cars going through the neighborhood.
This is the time when you are alone with your thoughts and alone with the day that has passed. That’s why you have to look around yourself.
You are by yourself. You are now with the only person who has truly stuck by your side this entire time.
You are with the only friend who has had your back from the very beginning.
On so many occasions, we forget that we have to appreciate ourself more because at the end of the day, we are truly left on our own.
No one can read your thoughts, no one can feel that anxiety inside your chest when you need to go to the dentist or that crumbling heart when you have been hurt.
There is no one who knows you better than you know yourself and still you put other people at the top of your priority list.
You even put him there. The man who almost made you give up on love completely, the man who never wanted you to be happy.
He was more important to you than you were to yourself, so why not finally change that?
It’s the end of the day. All your friends have gone home, he is not there anymore to hold your hand, but you have yourself.
Believe me, you are the biggest gift you can give to yourself. And no matter what you might think, it is not pathetic.
People trick us into thinking that loving alone time and being able to get along with yourself are nothing but acts of selfishness that don’t bring you true love or any value.
But let me be the first one to tell you that the only true love you can find is within yourself!
All the love and respect and all the things you need for true fulfilment are inside of you! Because you are not here to fulfill anyone else’s needs except your own.
And that goes for every other person in this world too.
If you are someone who has learned to rely on others for their safety and love, then I must tell you that you are not really happy.
You should be relying on yourself for these things.
When the lights are off and when you are all alone in your room, no one is there to comfort you or tell you that your mind is playing games with you.
In these situations, everything is so real and your anxiety gets harder to manage each night.
You start to doubt yourself, you start to feel like something might be wrong, but believe me, the moment you accept yourself for all your flaws and all your amazing sides, there is nothing that can make you feel this insecure ever again.
At the end of the day, you have yourself.
Even when everyone has gone, even when everything is silent and dark, you still have yourself.
At times when you feel like there is no one you can turn to and no one who understands you, in those times, it’s most important to remember that you have yourself.
And no one can take that away from you.
People may try to convince you that loving yourself is selfish, that being there for yourself is not what you need, but you can fight that!
That’s why the next time you feel scared, lonely and abandoned, remember the one person no one can take away from you and thank yourself for that.
Just remember all those times when you could have given up, all those times when life seemed too hard, too scary, and all those times you felt like you weren’t good enough for any of this.
Well, guess what? You are here today with us.
Because you chose to stay true to yourself.
Never forget that.
