Ti ama (o no)? 21 Segni evidenti che lui presume di amarti

I know you feel confused. One part of you wants to know the truth, and the other would be happy living a lie as long as you’re still with him.

Ma, per quanto faccia male, meriti di sapere cosa prova veramente per te. Being with a guy who doesn’t care about you is nothing but a waste of your precious time.

I’ve been where you are. Mi ci sono voluti anni per rottura con lui. I learned my lesson the hard way… but I still learned it.

Anche se la domanda da porsi è: È davvero necessario lasciarlo? E se il tuo istinto fosse sbagliato? Quali sono i segni che lui finge di amarti?

Stay with me, and let’s find out together!

21 chiari segni che lui fa finta di amarti

Il suo amore è reale?? Questi 21 segni vi daranno la risposta:

1. You just don’t feel the love at all

You’re probably confused right now. You’re wondering if your insecurities are lying to you or if he really doesn’t have feelings for you. Which is it? Well, I’m here to help!

Let’s do it this way.

Voglio che vi prendiate un momento per pensare a tutte le persone che vi amano.

A quante persone avete pensato? Come vi fanno sentire? Come vi trattano? Cosa vi rende così sicuri del loro amore?

If you’re capable of sensing their love but not that of your boyfriend, then the problem is definitely him.

SEMPRE fidatevi del vostro istinto!

2. Sembra che non si riesca mai a uscire da questa situazione.

A man who loves you is eager to show you off to the world. He wants to scream your name and tell everyone that you’re his woman.

If he’s not yet ready to do that, it might be one of the signs he pretends to ti amo. He enjoys the benefits of your relationship but doesn’t care enough to make it official.

He’s just wasting your time because he doesn’t have anyone else to turn to. Please, don’t let him treat you like that anymore.

You should be with someone who’s proud to call you his own. Don’t ever settle for less.

3. He doesn’t share much with you

Does everyone know what’s going on in his life but you? Do you find out important stuff from a random person on the street?

If so, that’s a MAJOR bandiera rossa.

Se un uomo è innamorato di te, you’ll be his go-to person for EVERYTHING. He’ll do it not because he has to but because he genuinely wants to. His love for you urges him to share every little thing that happens during the day.

If your man lacks these traits, that’s one of the segni sicuri fa finta di ti amo. Don’t put up with it any longer!

4. You’re the only one making an effort

He never initiates conversation. You’re probably trovare scuse per lui, but deep down, you know he just doesn’t care enough.

Trovate sempre un modo per sorprenderlo e renderlo felice, ma lui non apprezza né ricambia.

When you go out, you feel like a circus clown that’s meant to make him laugh. He puts so much pressure on you and blames you when you don’t live up to his expectations, even though he doesn’t lift a finger.

Why not try to put in as much effort as he does? I bet he won’t like being treated the way he treats you!

5. Il suo comportamento cambia di fronte ad altre persone

Ah, the ”nice guys.” They will charm you and make you feel special only to get your attention, but they don’t mean any of it. What they feel for you isn’t amore vero.

It’s not even infatuazione. They probably just like their ability to have you wrapped around their little finger by whispering sweet words into your ear…

Of course, this is not your fault. It’s not easy to see through someone’s lies. But, you can start by noticing how he treats you in davanti agli altri.

One day, he’s all cute and loving, and the next day, he’s cold as ice. He suddenly turns into a misogynist full of sexist jokes about women, and he dismisses your every word because he’s got to be ‘the man.’

Tenete presente questo importante elemento di consigli di relazione per le donne:

If he ”loves” you only behind closed doors but not in front of others, that’s one of the obvious signs he pretends to love you.

6. Nessuno sa della vostra relazione

A little privacy can definitely be exciting, but this guy isn’t just keeping your relationship private – He is HIDING the fact that he’s in a relationship with you from EVERYONE!

Perché diavolo?

Who knows! Maybe his family members don’t approve of you, or his friends don’t like you. Or maybe he wants other women to think he’s single so he can still flirt with them.

It’s especially awful if he doesn’t even tell you why he’s doing it. He doesn’t think you deserve to hear the truth. But, oh, you so do!

Chiedetegli apertamente qual è il suo accordo. Se si rifiuta di dirvelo, allontanatevi. Se vi dice la verità, ma vedete che non ha ancora progetti per il futuro, allontanatevi ancora.

Un uomo che ti ama veramente non ti farebbe mai passare una cosa del genere!

7. Non ci sono sciocche battute interne

It’s so evident when two people enjoy each other’s company. You can just percepire la chimica dell'aria. A volte basta una parola per farli scoppiare a ridere.

Hanno un linguaggio proprio che nessun altro intorno a loro capisce.

So, if you’re looking for signs he pretends to love you, think about how you both feel in each other’s presence.

È piacevole o dovete sempre dare spettacolo per poi tornare a casa esausti?

If you feel happier and more peaceful in his absence, that’s a segno rivelatore che qualcosa è MOLTO sbagliato.

8. Non ti chiama mai

Se questo ragazzo non si prende mai la briga di prendere il telefono e chiamarti, he just doesn’t care about you affatto.

Può trovare tutte le scuse che vuole, ma la verità è sempre la stessa: Se qualcuno vuole trovare del tempo per te, lo farà. Nessuno è così occupato.

Questo vale soprattutto se la persona in questione ha una relazione seria con voi.

Certo, ha la sua vita di cui occuparsi, ma un vero fidanzato metterebbe sempre la sua donna in cima alla lista delle priorità.

But, if he NEVER makes time for you, that’s not a sign of a loving and relazione sana.

Don’t believe his lies anymore. Look at his actions instead. If he is busy literally all the time, that’s just one of the signs he pretends to love you…

9. You don’t feel all that happy

Vi sentite in qualche modo infelici ogni volta che vi parla? Avete perso il legame che avevate inizialmente con lui?

Siate onesti con voi stessi. You actually already have the answer to your question; you’re just afraid to face the facts.

But, sadly, it’s necessary… unless you want to be stuck in a relazione senza amore per sempre.

You need to trust your feelings. When you’re unhappy, you just know it. You don’t need to listen to anyone’s advice or his lies.

Ora, voglio che facciate un respiro profondo e riflettiate su queste domande:

• Pensi di meritare di essere così infelice?
• Aren’t you sad that you’re missing out on happiness with someone else?
• Are you really going to waste your life being with a guy who doesn’t appreciate you?

10. He doesn’t take your feelings into consideration

If your man has a 24/7 job of insulting you and making you feel unworthy, his love for you isn’t as real as you might’ve thought.

He probably justifies himself by saying that he’s just ‘brutally honest,’ but that’s nothing more than an excuse to be cruel to you.

He doesn’t even apologize if he takes it too far because your feelings aren’t his concern.

D'altra parte, se si feriscono i suoi sentimenti, è tutta un'altra storia. He’ll pin you with awful labels and be more than happy to fare la vittima.

In reality, you’re just copying his own behavior, but he clearly doesn’t see you as equals.

Vuoi davvero un uomo come questo nella tua vita?

11. You’re there to fulfill HIS wishes

What YOU want doesn’t matter. There is no YOU at all. To him, you’re simply someone who exists to please him.

He doesn’t see relationships as a bond between two people who are equal to each other. No. Even if he claims that he’ll be there for you, his actions prove otherwise.

When he’s bored, he’ll ask you out. If you reject him, you’ll be the bad guy. But when he rejects you, that’s totally fine, and you’re the crazy one for overreacting.

A lui interessa solo che tu accresca il suo ego e che ti faccia sentire degno. Smettete di dargli questa soddisfazione. Meritate di essere amati per chi siete veramente.

12. Lo si sorprende a flirtare con altre donne

L'audacia! Questo tipo di uomo seduce spudoratamente e apertamente altre donne e poi vi accusa di essere gelosi! Voglio dire, che cosa?

He thinks it’s okay to disrespect you like that. He feels like his need to talk to someone else needs to be satisfied because, after all, you don’t have the right to restrict his freedom.

But, that’s the thing. Your jealousy isn’t a way of taking away his freedom but rather of demanding il rispetto che ogni donna merita in una relazione.

Remember – if he doesn’t see how wrong this is, it is one of the signs he pretends to love you.

13. Parli solo di cose superficiali

È interessato solo a intimità fisica? Ha mai aprire a voi?

When a man isn’t serious about you, he will stick to lighter topics. He will laugh with you but won’t ever dig deeper because he doesn’t care about connecting with you.

Se condividete qualcosa di importante su di voi, cambierà volentieri argomento. Se gli chiedete di raccontarvi la sua storia, trasformerà tutto in una barzelletta.

When he touches you, he only does it to satisfy his lust. There is no emotional element to ANYTHING he does. It’s very easy to sense this if you pay attention.

P.S. It’s also possible that he has problemi di impegno. In that case, give him some time… but not too much time. After all, you want a boyfriend, not a project!

14. He doesn’t give you his full attention

Tutti gli indizi sono nascosti in il suo linguaggio del corpo.

Controlla le altre donne mentre trascorrere il tempo with you? Does he stare at his phone a lot while you’re talking to him?

Questi sono tutti segni sottili fa finta di ti amo. He can’t fully focus on you because he just doesn’t care about what you have to say.

Un uomo innamorato pazzo di voi non vi toglierà mai gli occhi di dosso!

Tutte le sue attenzioni saranno rivolte a voi perché ci tiene e vuole che lo sappiate.

15. He’s a master manipulator

I know it’s not always easy to notice signs of gaslighting, but you just know that something isn’t quite right…

He always plays the victim while you’re the one to blame. And then you start feeling guilty even though you’re aware you did nothing wrong.

If that feeling sounds familiar, then he is most likely gaslighting you. It’s not your fault.

Uomini con bassa autostima seek power by hurting someone else because that’s the only way they can feel good about themselves.

Don’t believe a word he says. Talk to someone you trust who will help you see what’s what.

Quando un ragazzo si preoccupa veramente di voi, lo farà assumersi la responsabilità delle proprie azioni. Non scaricherà mai la colpa su di voi. Quindi, ricordate che meritate molto di più.

16. He’s never there in your time of need

If you find yourself going through hard times alone while he’s out there having fun, that’s also one of the signs he pretends to love you.

If he truly cared about you, he wouldn’t leave your side until he was sure you were okay. He would do his best to make your pain more bearable.

Don’t settle for a guy who puts everything else before you. Do you really want someone you can’t rely on, someone who can watch you cry without even flinching?

It’s time to accept that he’s just not worth it because only then can you andare avanti a qualcosa di meglio.

17. I bei tempi sono storia

Do you know that feeling when you just leave your guy after a date, and you’re all smiley?

Yeah. If that doesn’t happen to you anymore, that’s your intuition telling you that he only pretends to love you.

La fase della luna di miele ended a long time ago. You barely see each other, and when you do, he just doesn’t try to make you feel special like he once did.

Riunirsi è più un obbligo che qualcosa che si fa per amore.

It’s even worse when you’re in a relazione a distanzaeppure non avete più nulla di cui parlare. Questo è stato il mio caso, almeno.

The words that come out of our mouths were there only to fill in the awkward silence. And then it suddenly hit me – This isn’t going to work!

Trust me, when he loves you, you can’t ever get tired of each other.

18. Le bugie non finiscono mai

I once read that ”to love is to stop lying.” How very true that is!

Quando si tiene a qualcuno, si vuole creare un legame profondo con loro, and you know you can’t do that if you’re not telling the truth.

Quindi, uno dei segni evidenti fa finta di ti amo is when he keeps lying to you. Even his “Ti amo‘s” feel fake.

He has become so used to lying that you don’t even know who he really is.

Do you really want to be in a relationship with someone who doesn’t value you enough to be honest with you?

19. He doesn’t care about your life at all

Vi interrompe quando iniziate a parlare per raccontare la sua storia? O peggio ancora, è troppo distratto dal suo social media applicazioni di prestare attenzione a voi nel primo posto?

Un uomo che fa solo finta di ti amo non si interesserà mai a ciò che avete da dire. He won’t bother asking how your day went or what childhood events affected you the most.

He won’t ask because, to him, you’re just… there. He may label you as his girlfriend, but he doesn’t treat you as a loved one.

So, yes, if you notice that he’s the one doing all the talking, that’s a big red flag.

20. He doesn’t respect you yet demands your respect

Uno dei segni che lui finge di amarti è quando he doesn’t respect you eppure esige il TUO rispetto.

Whenever you’re open about something that bothers you, he’s quick to judge you. You’re always the dramatic one who makes a fuss about nothing at all.

He probably manages to convince you that you ARE wrong, but deep down, you know he just doesn’t respect you enough to listen to your wants and needs.

In a nutshell, he disrespects you, but when you call him out on it, he acts like you’re the one who disrespected him.

21. Si prova solo delusione

When you feel someone’s love, it fills you with energy and strength. Every time you think about them, it makes you so happy you might burst.

Ma quando pensi al modo in cui il tuo uomo ti ama, il tuo umore cala improvvisamente.

Sembra che la vostra vita sentimentale sia diventata una delusione dopo l'altra. Riesci a malapena a ricordare l'ultima volta che sei stato veramente felice.

I hope you know that true love isn’t supposed to hurt. If you feel nothing but crepacuore, then it’s not love.

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Mi ama, non mi ama

Have you noticed any one of these signs he pretends to love you in your own relationship? I sure hope not, but if you have, don’t forget that you deserve much better.

I know it’s hard to leave someone you love, but it’s even harder being with them despite knowing that they don’t reciprocate your feelings.

Don’t turn your amore non corrisposto into something poetic because that’s self-destructive. Keep the love in your heart, but don’t stay where you aren’t appreciated.

Nel momento in cui finalmente arriverete a un luogo in cui SONO amati, vi accorgerete di aver fatto la scelta giusta.