7 conseguenze dell'essere subdoli in una relazione (e come affrontarle)

It’s a fact that being sneaky in a relationship can really harm the bond between partners beyond repairable. It damages trust between them, which leads to completely destroying their connection.

Some people are sneaky because of their shy natures; however, in most cases, there is a good reason for a partner’s sneaky behavior. Either they’ve made a mistake that could endanger their relationship, or they’ve done something they think their partner can’t forgive them for.

I think the last thing we all want is a sneaky partner. It can really put a person in a very complicated situation… You love someone, but, on the other hand, you also can’t put up with their sneaky behavior. In this article, you’re going to find out how to cope with it and save your relationship.

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Let’s start with the consequences of being sneaky in a relationship because they’re the best way to emphasize the seriousness of this issue.

1. Danneggia la comunicazione tra i partner

If a partner behaves sneaky in a relationship, it means they’re doing something behind their partner’s back and that there is something they aren’t telling their significant other.

And the truth is, if you don’t feel free to talk about everything with your partner, you can call your relationship anything but healthy. If you don’t communicate regularly and healthily, you won’t be able to understand each other’s needs, which means you won’t be able to fulfill them either.

Una persona timida può anche avere una personalità subdola e può essere più difficile per loro aprirsi con qualcuno, anche se lo amano.

However, if they don’t start working on their communication skills and try to overcome that fear of bonding with someone on a deeper level, they’ll never be able to maintain una relazione sana con un altro essere umano.

2. Lascia spazio a dubbi inutili

Che abbiate o meno dei dubbi sull'altro, questo vi farà sicuramente venire dei dubbi. Quando un partner è subdolo, lascia molto spazio all'altro partner per giocare a vari scenari nella sua testa.

It’s really unnecessary and can damage your relationship more than you think. No matter what you did, you should admit it to your partner and hope they’ll appreciate your truthfulness and try to understand your actions.

3. Rovina completamente la fiducia tra i partner

When one partner is sneaky, the other will soon start having doubts. Either they’ll think their partner is cheating on them, or they’ll think they’re trying to break up with them.

Of course, a partner might be sneaky because they’re planning a birthday surprise party for their better half, but, of course, even if that’s true, we’ll never think of that.

The bottom line is that if they don’t talk about it, doubts will soon start eating away at their relationship, and it’ll start falling apart. Even if they’ve already built trust, it’ll be destroyed, and even if they overcome this and move on with their relationship, they’ll never be able to trust each other the way they used to.

And I think this goes without saying… Without trust, no relationship will ever be able to prosper and last.

4. Influisce sul benessere emotivo e mentale

Both partners will start questioning their own mental health, that’s for sure.

Il partner subdolo sarà stanco di tenere le cose per sé. Sono stati reprimere le proprie emozioni for too long, and they’ve been lying to their partner, and now, it has all come to the surface.

Now, they need to face all of those things, and they don’t know how. They think they aren’t brave enough, which means they will doubt their own autostima.

On the other hand, their other half will question everything all the time, and they will try to put the blame on themselves, but they won’t find a reason to do so. They’ll doubt their partner’s fidelity and, more importantly, their love, which will harm their emotional well-being.

As you can see, being sneaky in a relationship doesn’t only harm your relationship – it also endangers your general well-being. I hope you’re now aware of the seriousness of this issue and that you’ll work on fixing it immediately.

5. Permette alle altre persone di parlare male della vostra relazione

And I’m not just talking about your best friends, family members, or co-workers. I’m also talking about those who hate or envy both of you.

Those people would like to see you breakup more than anything else. And this way, you’ll only give them that pleasure.

You’ll give them the pleasure of talking about how your relationship is toxic and unhealthy and how you should break it off. And all of that, all of those unpleasant comments will only make you both start thinking about how breaking up is really the best solution for both of you.

That’s why you need to fight this together, overcome it, and come out of it as winners. È necessario salvare la vostra relazioneRimanete l'uno accanto all'altro, qualunque cosa accada, e mostrate al resto del mondo quanto sia forte il vostro amore. You need to show them all that they’ll never be able to separate you.

6. Crea un'atmosfera totalmente tossica

A sneaky partner won’t be able to relax, they’ll feel like they are walking on eggshells all the time, and it’ll eat them up inside. On the other hand, the other partner will go crazy trying to understand their other half.

Il fatto è che nessuno dei due sarà felice. They’ll be aware that la loro relazione è tossica, but they won’t have the courage to end it because of the feelings they have for each other.

However, with time, they’ll start disconnecting more and more, which will make their love smaller and smaller. If they don’t start working on fixing their relationship soon, it’ll definitely reach the point where it won’t be fixable at all anymore.

7. Alla fine, porta a un'inevitabile rottura.

If partners don’t work on fixing this issue, unfortunately, the only result will be a breakup. With time, it’ll lead to a break in communication, destroying trust between them.

As much as they both love each other, if they aren’t able to communicate openly with one another, their la relazione è destinata a fallire. La verità è che senza una comunicazione regolare e sana non si può mantenere alcun tipo di relazione.

Either the sneaky partner will get tired of their secrets and hiding things from their partner, or the other side will get sick of their sneaky behavior. It’s irrelevant, but the important thing is that one side will end up hurt.

The only way to avoid this scenario is to talk to each other. Figure out what brought you both here and work on finding a solution to your problems. If you care about each other deeply, you’ll fight for your relationship.

Come comportarsi con un partner subdolo?

If you see any potential red flags that you’re in a relationship with a sneaky person, these things will help you deal with them and stop them from ruining your emotional and mental health.

• Talk openly with them

If they’re sneaky, at least you shouldn’t be. The first time you notice they’re behaving sneaky, you should be the one to lay all the cards on the table and start a serious and direct conversation.

Fategli sapere che il loro comportamento vi dà seriamente fastidio e che potrebbe danneggiare la vostra relazione.

Ask them what the reason for their sneaky behavior is. Maybe you unintentionally gave them a reason for being sneaky, and they didn’t have the courage to confront you. On the flip side, maybe they’re hiding something from you and can’t help but behave in a sneaky way.

• If it’s part of their personality, try to understand it

If you aren’t dealing with un fidanzato traditore/girlfriend after all but a partner who has a sneaky personality, you should try to understand them. Maybe you also have some flaws they don’t quite like but learned to accept because they love you.

After all, that’s what amore vero is based on. Being able to accept and understand each other’s differences, imperfections, and flaws.

And no, don’t worry. They won’t stay sneaky forever. If they love you the way you love them, they’ll try hard to change. In the name of that love, in the name of keeping you in their life.

And if they don’t take any steps to change their sneaky behavior, that will be proof of how much they (don’t) care for you.

• Give them an opportunity to change

If you have found out that sneaky behavior is a part of their nature, you shouldn’t give up on them that easily. Especially not if you have romantic feelings for them.

Talk with them about it. If they’re ready to work on changing that part of themselves for the sake of your relationship, you should give them another chance.

Be there for them and help them open up to you more. The only way they’ll end their sneaky behavior is if they understand by themselves how bad it can affect their relationship.

• Try to figure out their reason for that sneaky behavior

You also need to understand that your partner wouldn’t be sneaky if they didn’t have a good reason for it in the first place. Well, that is, of course, only if they don’t have a sneaky personality.

Maybe you’re dealing with a coniuge traditore/partner, and you aren’t even aware of it.

They’re most probably hiding something from you, and it’s up to you to figure out what. This is especially important if this is the first time your partner is behaving sneaky.

Look around their social media. Pay attention to the people they hang out with too. Keep at it, and I’m sure you’ll find all the proof you’re looking for.

• Don’t allow them to harm your self-esteem

I know you love them. However, you also need to understand that you’re dealing with a manipulative person, un narcisista, and a liar, someone who’ll try to invalidate your feelings and make you think less of yourself.

They know that it’ll be easier for them to manipulate you if they succeed in destroying your self-esteem and mental health. And that’s exactly why you shouldn’t allow them to.

If you can’t let go of them, then you need to set clear boundaries. This will also be a great opportunity to test their feelings. If they sincerely love you, they’ll respect your boundaries, and if they don’t, they’ll break them and continue trying to manipulate and hurt you.

• Know when to give up and move on

Calmatevi, prendetevi un po' di tempo per concentrarvi solo su voi stessi e ascoltate il vostro istinto.

Vi sta dicendo che il vostro partner cambierà e che dovreste lottare per mantenere la vostra relazione? Oppure, dall'altro lato, vi sta dicendo che dovreste abbandonare e andare avanti da loro al più presto?

Quanto conta per voi la vostra relazione? Li amate davvero? Ti meritano? Vi meritate un partner subdolo?

Think about all of these things. And if your partner clearly shows they have no intention of changing, you should think about giving up. The more you stay and keep those false hopes alive, the more it’ll hurt you in the end.

Quali sono i segni di una persona subdola?

Come si fa a sapere se una persona è subdola? Il primo modo per riconoscere una persona subdola è la sua linguaggio del corpo nervoso. Per quanto cerchino di nascondere qualcosa, i movimenti delle mani, l'agitarsi, il contatto intenso con gli occhi e il tremolio del corpo li riveleranno sempre.

Un altro segnale di allarme di una persona subdola è frequenti sbalzi d'umore. They don’t know how to cope with their lies, or they get caught up in it all, and it results in those mood swings.

Tra tutti i cartelli subdoli, questo è di gran lunga il peggiore: Modelli di comportamento manipolativo e narcisistico. They always need to feel like they’re in charge, like the whole world revolves around them. They also tend to tell others how they should feel.

Una persona manipolatrice è quasi sempre subdola perché usa le sue tattiche, le sue menzogne e le sue bugie per manipolare le persone e metterle l'una contro l'altra.

Cosa spinge una persona a essere subdola?

La causa più comune di un comportamento subdolo è nascondere qualcosa al partner. Ad esempio, i traditori tendono a mostrare un comportamento subdolo perché mentono al partner e vivono una doppia vita.

Another cause may be self-esteem issues. When someone has a bad self-image and isn’t aware of their possibilities, they may struggle with sneaky behavior.

Essere in una relazione malsana may also cause sneaky behavior. In that kind of relationship, partners aren’t able to communicate in a healthy way, which leads to them being sneaky and doing things behind each other’s back.

Alla fine

Credo davvero che nessuna persona abbia mai un buon motivo per essere subdola in una relazione. Se avete dei dubbi su qualcosa o se qualcosa vi preoccupa, dovreste parlarne direttamente con il vostro partner.

If you don’t have anything to hide from your partner, you’ll have no problem putting all your cards on the table. After all, healthy communication is always the best way to solve your issues in a relationship.

Se il vostro partner vi tradisce o viceversa, prima o poi la verità verrà a galla. Il vostro comportamento subdolo non farà altro che infastidire il vostro partner e danneggiare profondamente la vostra relazione.

Quindi, invece di essere subdoli e mentire alla vostra metà, dovreste parlarne con il vostro partner. If you’ve made a mistake, they’ll understand and forgive you. In the end, there is absolutely nothing that true love can’t overcome.