Le persone trovano il tempo per ciò che vogliono. È vero (e perché)?
I don’t know about you, but whenever I am disappointed in fellow human beings for not making time for me, I immediately enter the overthinking zone.
La prima cosa che mi viene in mente è: Sono arrabbiati con me?
Ecco altre domande di approfondimento: Ho fatto qualcosa di sbagliato? Non sono degno della loro attenzione? O hanno cose più importanti da fare in questo momento?
Dopo questa sessione di pensieri eccessivi, faccio un respiro profondo e mi ricordo di questo famoso detto: Le persone trovano il tempo per ciò che vogliono. Punto.
Ora, che cosa significa veramente?
Siamo così impegnati che dedicare il nostro tempo a qualcuno o a qualcosa è diventato un lusso?
Are we unwilling to give our time to those who give their time to us just because we don’t feel like it? Have we become a nation of egocentric people who only think of their own needs?
As you can see, there are many reasons and theories for this “controversial” topic. Some of these reasons are totally valid, while others aren’t. Spero che la mia analisi critica di questo argomento vi riempia di conoscenza e saggezza.
Le persone trovano il tempo per ciò per cui vogliono trovare tempo
Sappiamo tutti che le persone hanno delle cose da fare. Sappiamo anche che le persone dedicano il loro tempo e le loro energie alle cose che gli stanno a cuore. Ricordate questa frase perché in alcune circostanze può essere una salvezza.
Quindi, sì, la maggior parte delle persone (tra cui tidsoptimisti) hanno un'agenda fitta di impegni. Si distraggono, si esauriscono (soprattutto se hanno un'attività sociale). ansia), o altre forze esterne possono interferire con il loro desiderio di trovare tempo per altre cose o persone.
Ma alla fine, nemmeno le persone più impegnate sono così impegnate o non è bravo a mandare messaggi that they can’t find a few seconds or minutes of their time to send you a text. No one is so busy that they can’t spend quality time with you once a month or a few times a year.
Le persone trovano il tempo per quello che vogliono e per chi vogliono, perché hanno le loro priorità. Se a questo si aggiunge la mancanza di empatia e comprensione per gli altri, ecco che si ottiene la ricetta per ferire chi ci sta a cuore: Una ricetta per ferire chi ci sta a cuore.
Fondamentalmente, possiamo dividere le persone in due categorie:
• Those who make time for what they want because they don’t have any other choice at the moment.
• Those who make time for what they want because they don’t really care about other things or other people.
With that said, below you’ll find a list of valid and not-so-valid reasons why people choose to make time for what they want.
Validi motivi per cui le persone trovano il tempo per ciò che desiderano
A volte le persone sono preoccupate da lavori impegnativi, problemi di salute o questioni familiari. In queste e altre circostanze, trovare il tempo per qualsiasi altra cosa diventa un lusso.
It’s difficult to prioritize other things when you aren’t at peace with yourself. Ecco alcuni validi motivi per cui le persone trovano il tempo per fare ciò che vogliono:
• A demanding and exhausting job.
Non tutti i lavori sono uguali. Alcuni lavori sono dieci volte più faticosi di altri, per cui alla fine della giornata non si hanno più forze per fare altro che dormire.
Dopo un po' di tempo, ci si trasforma in un robot privo di gioia umana, come ad esempio apprezzare le piccole coseconcentrarsi sugli hobby o passare del tempo con i propri cari.
If you’re a perfectionist with a demanding job, you’ll feel the urge to do everything in a “big way,” which can be exhausting.
• Health issues.
If you’ve ever watched the popular YouTuber known as Crazy Russian Hacker, then you’re familiar with the famous sentence that he says in every video: “Safety is the number one priority.”
I couldn’t agree more, but here’s my “advanced hypothesis”: Health should always be everyone’s first priority.
If you’re going through a period of life where you generally lack buona energia and you have poor health and low energy levels, then it’s no surprise that all your focus is directed on that.
• Family matters.
La salute e la famiglia sono sicuramente due cose che dovrebbero avere la priorità su tutto il resto.
Perhaps you stay at home every night to look out for your little sisters or brothers, you’re a single parent, or you have family issues that need to be addressed… All of these are legit reasons to make time for what you want – in this case, your family.
• Mental health problems.
You spend less time with others because you don’t experience relationships in the same way. The relationship you have with yourself is a burden, which is why you can’t focus on maintaining relationships with others.
La malattia mentale è accompagnata da emozioni negative che possono impedirvi di concentrarvi sulla cosa giusta. Inoltre, isolofilia doesn’t count as a mental illness.
• Working on finding themselves and their purpose.
Tutti abbiamo percorsi di vita diversi e alcuni di noi stanno ancora creando il proprio. If you’re at that stage in your life, know that it’s an important reason and should be prioritized.
Regardless of whether you’re focused on trovare il proprio scopo and passions or you’re going through the stages of spiritual awakening, working on finding and amare se stessi richiede molto tempo e pazienza.
Motivi non così validi per cui le persone trovano il tempo per ciò che desiderano
The not-so-valid reasons are characteristic of people who are lost and don’t have clear goals and who are only interested in doing things they can get some kind of pleasure from. So, let’s see:
• Not finding 5 mins in their day to text or call you back because “they’re busy.”
Here’s a quick recap of my recent experience: Every single time I texted him, he would ignore it the whole day. When I asked him why he acted that way, he just said that he was too busy.
Well, here’s my humble conclusion: Persone egoiste don’t have a problem finding selfish ways to get what they want or not do what they don’t want.
Non ci sarà mai un momento perfetto per fare qualcosa. Il lavoro importante non è più importante delle persone a cui si tiene. Tutti noi abbiamo 5 minuti al giorno per mandare un messaggio o chiamare qualcuno se vogliamo.
• Being constantly busy.
“Being constantly busy” is an “elegant way” to excuse yourself from doing things you don’t want to do. Even if they had the busiest schedule in the world, they’d still manage to find time for important people in their life. Why? Because it’s human nature.
A potential silver lining in all this is that if they’re constantly busy, they’re probably not worthy of being in your life. If you notice such signs, do yourself a favor and save yourself.
• Other lame excuses.
Alcune persone hanno poca comprensione per gli altri. Questo tipo di persone si concentra principalmente su se stesso e su cose banali, come passare troppo tempo a guardare la TV e rifiutarsi di fare altro.
Prioritizing such things over spending time with people who love you shouldn’t become routine. Le scuse deboli richiedono un grande sforzo, più di quanto non ne richieda il essere onesti con se stessi e altri.
How Do You Deal With People Who Don’t Have Time For You?
First of all, try to deal with it in a positive way. This means that you shouldn’t judge them or make them feel bad about their choices. It’s best to find a neutral way to tell them how their behavior makes you feel. An open and honest conversation is a must.
Se le loro ragioni sono valide, concedete loro un po' di tempo e aspettate che vi contattino per primi quando possono. If they don’t, or if their reasons are totally invalid, then you have every right to cut off all contact and focus on people who are happy to spend time with you.
The biggest mistake you can make is to think that the problem is you. If you’re sure that the problem is not you but their lame excuses, then you shouldn’t let them make you question your self-worth.
Invece, andate avanti. Perché? Because they don’t deserve to spend time with you, even if they want to. Life’s too short to waste time su queste persone.
How they treat others says a lot about how they perceive themselves and life in general. Do you really want to spend your time with superficial people who don’t care about your feelings and are only focused on themselves?
10 ‘People Make Time For What They Want’ Motivational Quotes
I’m sure these inspiring quotes summarize everything said above:
1. “People make time for who they want to make time for. People text and reply to people they want to talk to. Never believe anyone who says they’ve been too busy. If they wanted to be around you, they would.” – Unknown
2. “Many things aren’t equal, but everyone gets the same 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. We make time for what we truly want.” – Unknown
3. “Save the excuses. It’s not about ‘having time.’ It’s about ‘making time.’ If it matters, you will make time.” – Unknown
4. “You will never find time for anything. If you want time, you must make it.” – Charles Buxton
5. “When you really matter to someone, that person will always make time for you. No excuses, no lies, and no broken promises.” – Unknown
6. “The only people you need in your life are those who want you in theirs. Never make someone a priority if they only see you as an option.” – Unknown
7. “If someone wants to be part of your life, they will make an obvious effort to do so. Think twice before reserving a space in your heart for people who do not make an effort to stay.” – Unknown
8. “Don’t force someone to make time for you. If they really want to, they will.” – Unknown
9. “Nobody is ever too busy. If they care, they will make time.” – Unknown
10. “We all make time for what we feel is important in our lives.” – Unknown
Pensieri conclusivi
It’s true people make time for what they want. Also, people have different reasons when it comes to making or not making time for certain things and other people.
Tuttavia, alla fine dei conti, tutto si riduce a una cosa: dove c'è una volontà, c'è un modo. Everything else is just an excuse (unless we’re talking about one of those valid reasons above).
If this happens to you, don’t worry too much. Have enough patience to understand them. Also, avere il coraggio di andare avanti when you have to. It’s as simple as that.
