20 segni rivelatori di una donna manipolatrice (e come affrontarli)

Avete notato alcuni segni di manipolazione emotiva nella vostra relazione sentimentale? Avete paura che la donna con cui uscite stia giocando e vi stia usando?

Ecco i 20 segnali di una donna manipolatrice che confermeranno se i vostri dubbi sono veri o meno. Se riconoscete la maggior parte di queste bandiere rosse, allora sapete cosa dovete fare.

Rimanere in una relazione manipolatoria sperando che il partner cambi è come cercare di farsi del male di proposito. Sooner or later, you’ll need to come to terms with the truth, and the more you wait, the bigger your pain will be afterward.

20 segni infallibili di una donna manipolatrice

Per metterci al lavoro, ecco le bandiere rosse e i segnali più evidenti di una donna manipolatrice:

1. Ha molti tratti di un narcisista.

Maybe you didn’t notice it when you first started dating, but the more time you spend with her, the more tratti narcisistici si rende conto che l'ha fatto.

Deve sempre avere ragione, deve essere sotto i riflettori e tutto il mondo deve girare intorno a lei, a lei e solo a lei.

La verità è che quasi ogni la persona manipolatrice è in realtà un narcisista because they’re using another person just to fulfill their needs. It’s what a narcissistic person would do.

2. L'inizio della vostra relazione è stato un bombardamento d'amore

At the beginning of your relationship, everything was so perfect, and you still can’t believe that you’re dating someone prone to comportamento manipolativo. Era così presa da te e ha cercato in tutti i modi di conquistarti.

Ora, quando lo si guarda, ci si rende conto che è stato solo bombardamento d'amore. Non è mai stato amore vero. She just wanted to make you fall in love with her, and that’s when her game of manipulation started.

3. Cerca di rovinare completamente la vostra autostima

La fiducia in se stessi è la prima cosa che una donna manipolatrice attacca. Lei sa che uomini con bassa autostima sono le prede più facili da manipolare.

She wants you to have a bad self-image so it’ll be easier for her to make you think that you need her, not the other way around. And the more you allow her to do this, the more she’ll use it until she completely destroys your self-esteem.

4. Ti illumina con il gas molto spesso

When someone humiliates, disrespects, and guilt-trips you all the time, it’s obvious that they’re actually trying to gaslight you. In other words, they want to manipulate you into thinking that you’re going crazy.

You’ll doubt your own sanity, and she’ll see it as an opportunity to make herself look like your “savior.” That way, you’ll be grateful to her, and she’ll use it to keep using you as it benefits her.

5. Vi fa il trattamento del silenzio senza motivo

When someone goes no contact with you, it’s mostly because they have a good reason for it. Maybe you did something bad to them, or they’ve found out that you were badmouthing them or something similar.

Tuttavia, quando qualcuno vi fa il trattamento del silenzio without providing any explanation for it, it’s probably because they’re using it as a manipulation tactic. Vogliono farvi fare qualcosa che sia conveniente per loro.

6. Le offese sono diventate la nuova normalità per voi.

Anche la denigrazione è una forma di abuso emotivo. You know that it hurts someone who has strong feelings for you, and you’re belittling them on purpose because you actually want to hurt them on purpose.

In the beginning, you weren’t okay with it, of course. But with time, you learned to cope with it and accepted it as a ‘normal’ part of your relationship.

7. Le esplosioni emotive improvvise sono la sua tattica di manipolazione preferita.

Ok, la maggior parte delle donne ha sbalzi d'umore, and we all have emotional outbursts sometimes. However, if your partner has really gone too far with those outbursts, it’s a clear sign they’re using it as a manipulation tactic.

And it’s mostly when they run out of words to talk about or arguments to defend themself that they use those esplosioni emotive per ottenere ciò che vogliono.

It’s because they know you care about them and don’t want them to endanger their well-being.

8. She’s so used to playing the victim card

Indipendentemente da come iniziano e finiscono i vostri scontri, in qualche modo lei riesce sempre a sembrare la vittima.

Even though she started the whole thing, and you were convinced that you’re right, she became so good at playing the victim that she manages to convince you that you’ve made a mistake.

And it’s actually like everyone around you sees her, especially those who are aware that your relationship is abusive. She is a victim in their eyes, and she’ll continue to be as long as you don’t show them the real picture of your relationship.

9. You’re so sick of her mind games

Tempo fa vi siete resi conto che she’s playing mind games with you, but you don’t know how to put an end to it. It really bothered you before, but you kept telling yourself that it’s not true and that you’ve been imagining it all.

However, you’re now aware that it’s true, and you’ve finally had enough of it. Trust me, it’s high time to put an end to it and show her that she can’t play with you as she likes because you can be a player too.

10. Ti fa venire i sensi di colpa ogni volta dopo un litigio

Sarah Ruggera, LMFT, says: “I manipolatori emotivi ribaltano le vostre affermazioni e fanno di voi il problema..” And if it seems like she’s a pro at blame-shifting, it’s one of the most obvious signs of a manipulative woman.

She does it mostly because she wants you to feel bad about it and apologize for something you didn’t do. She’ll never accept her part of the blame, and you’ll always be the one to blame for every single fight and disagreement you’ll have.

11. I ricatti emotivi sono la sua arma per ottenere sempre ciò che vuole.

Whenever you don’t do something she wants you to do, she starts blackmailing you emotionally. She tells you it’s a sign you don’t care about her as much as you say you do, or she starts crying just to make you regret your actions.

If you love her, it’s most likely that you’ll fall for her emotional blackmails. Farete tutto il necessario solo per renderla felice ed emotivamente soddisfatta.

12. Ma usa anche la manipolazione psicologica

She’s your romantic partner, and she knows that the best type of manipulation to use on you is emotional. However, she’ll also try to manipulate you psychologically, making you look bad in your own skin.

She’ll try to harm your self-confidence because it will make it easier for her to manipulate you. You’ll constantly seek validation from her, and she’ll use it to benefit her.

13. She doesn’t care that much about your well-being

The truth is, if she did, she would never do this to you. Every single one of us knows how much it hurts when someone you love plays with you, and it’s definitely not something you would do to someone you care about.

And when you say you don’t feel well and expect her to take care of you, she ignores you and disappears. After all, you need to understand that she’s only there when it’s convenient for her or when she needs something from you.

14. La sua passivo-aggressività è intollerabile.

Whenever she’s angry at you, she doesn’t show it directly. Instead, she is stubborn and refuses to do things you ask her to do.

It’s like she’s under protest just to make you realize that she’s angry at you. Esprime tutti questi sentimenti negativi con il silenzio o con il sarcasmo.

15. However, she’s always overly nice to you around other people

Do you know why that is? Well, she behaves so nicely around others only to create an ‘alibi’ for herself if you ever accuse her of being a manipulative person.

Others have never seen any trace of her manipulative behavior, and, of course, they won’t believe you.

Dovete capire che qualsiasi cosa faccia, la fa con un'intenzione. Non ci sono coincidenze nelle sue azioni perché pianifica tutto in anticipo.

16. Tutto questo si ripercuote anche sulla salute emotiva e mentale.

And it’s really no wonder why. When someone you love plays with you, it needs to leave serious consequences on your emotional well-being. It leaves you with serious trust issues and doubts about whether true love really exists.

Lascia anche segni sulla salute mentale perché abbassa l'autostima.. Iniziate a pensare meno a voi stessi e a incolparvi per tutto quello che è successo e sta ancora succedendo.

17. You’ve noticed that she’s manipulative with her loved ones too

The surprising thing is that you also noticed that you aren’t the only person who’s fallen for her manipulation. Her best friends and family members have also been manipulated by her on various occasions.

Then, my friend, I need to tell you that you’re dealing with a serial manipulator here.

When she’s able to use all those people she loves, just think what she can do to those she doesn’t care about at all.

18. Ti minaccia di rompere così spesso

This is also a form of manipulation. She’s aware of your feelings for her, and she uses them to scare you. Sa anche che perderla è una delle vostre più grandi paure, quindi la usa per farvi fare le cose che vuole.

This is a perfect example of emotional manipulation. You’ll do anything just to keep her by your side, and that (unfortunately) means you’ll accept her manipulation.

19. She makes you feel as if you’re the worst partner ever

Even though the truth is far from that. Even though the truth is that she is, she’s the bad one in your relationship.

However, she knows that if she manages to make you believe this, you’ll do whatever is needed to show her that it’s not true. You’ll shower her with love and affection 24/7, and that’s actually what she wanted from you.

20. You know very well it’s not a healthy relationship

You’re aware of it. Especially now that you’ve convinced yourself that she’s manipulating you. And I know that despite it all, you still can’t find the courage to let her go.

Come si può lasciare andare una persona che si ama profondamente? Quando e come smetterete di amare quella persona?

Unfortunately, I can’t give you the right answer to these questions. All I can say is that no one can guarantee that you’ll stop loving her immediately. But I promise you will one day.

You will meet someone who really deserves you, and that’s when you’ll understand why things happened this way.

Vedi anche: 10 frasi manipolative: Frasi da tenere d'occhio

Come comportarsi con una donna manipolatrice?

Now that you’ve learned how to spot a manipulative woman, it’s time to learn how to deal with her. Here are 7 ways to help you cope with a manipulative partner.

1. Affrontare e confrontarsi con lei

When you’re in an intimate relationship with someone, and you have strong feelings for that person, it’s difficult to understand and realize when you’re being used by that same person.

Li amate e non fareste mai nulla per ferirli, e pensate che loro pensino lo stesso di voi. However, we aren’t all the same. Even if it means losing her, you need to face her and tell her that you’ve had enough of her manipulative behavior.

I know you love her, and you’re afraid that you might lose her, but if you don’t stand up for yourself, you might lose yourself forever. And that’s the worst thing someone can allow themselves to do.

2. Raccogliere tutta la forza necessaria per resistere alla sua manipolazione emotiva.

Even if you realize that you’re being manipulated by the person you love, you don’t have enough strength to resist them. You think you’re weak because they’ve managed to trick you in that way.

Tuttavia, dovete farlo. Dovete credere in voi stessi e nella vostra forza. Just because they used you once doesn’t mean you’re weak. It means you were blinded by your love and couldn’t see the real truth.

Ora dovete alzarvi e combattere per voi stessi. Lasciate da parte i vostri sentimenti e ponete fine alla loro manipolazione emotiva. Fate capire loro che nessuno può giocare con voi.

3. Stabilire i confini una volta per tutte

The fact is, no one can manipulate you if you don’t allow them to. Those who don’t have clear personal boundaries are always the easiest prey for persone manipolatrici.

If you don’t set boundaries, if you don’t stand up for yourself, she will continue to manipulate and use you in a way that benefits her. If you don’t try to resist her, she’ll see it as a green light to continue with her manipulative tactics.

4. Don’t allow her to use your feelings

Just because you love someone doesn’t give them the right to play with your feelings. Just because you love someone doesn’t mean you should allow them to use you how they want.

You don’t have to be with someone at any cost. Sometimes, it’s better to be alone than with the wrong person che possono solo ferirvi e lasciarvi.

5. Don’t allow this to make you think less of yourself

You’re just a human being, a vulnerable man who has fallen in love with a woman. Don’t think that makes you look stupid, no matter how things ended.

You aren’t guilty because someone else was playing with your feelings. Sei stato onesto per tutto il tempo e dovresti essere orgoglioso di te stesso. D'altra parte, lasciateli affrontare il karma perché un giorno li colpirà.

You’re an incredible man who ran into the wrong woman. Tuttavia, tutti noi dobbiamo affrontare situazioni come questa per imparare una lezione.

One day, you’ll meet the right one, a woman whose only priority will be making you happy – a woman who will love you more than you’ll love her.

6. If she doesn’t want to change, you need to leave that toxic relationship

Se provi qualcosa per lei, dovresti darle un'altra possibilità, soprattutto se cerca di dimostrarti che merita davvero questa possibilità.

However, if you see that she doesn’t put any effort into making things work, if she continues with her emotional manipulation, you have one choice and one choice only… To turn your back on her and walk away FOREVER.

It’s the only way to save yourself from any further hurt. Truthfully, it’s unlikely a manipulative person will change, and waiting for something you’re aware will never happen will only break your heart little by little.

7. Don’t be afraid to seek help

If you need advice on what to do or simply need someone to share your sorrows with, don’t be afraid to speak to someone outside of your relationship. Talk to your best friend and let them be your confidant or a shoulder to cry on.

If your partner becomes too aggressive, and if you feel at any moment that you’re in danger, please call 911 or the National Domestic Violence Hotline. Ricordate che nessuno merita di vivere una relazione abusiva.

Se il vostro partner ricorre alla manipolazione emotiva e questo inizia a ripercuotersi sulla vostra salute emotiva e mentale, rivolgetevi a un esperto che vi aiuti ad affrontarlo.

No matter what you do, don’t ever keep those things and your negative feelings to yourself. In this case, sharing is indeed caring!

Di cosa hanno paura i manipolatori?

Manipulative people aren’t as cold and strong as most of us think. They also have their fears and insecurities. They also have imperfections like we all do, but they hide them much better.

Rivelare le proprie vulnerabilità è la paura più grande di quasi tutte le persone con un comportamento manipolativo.. It’s like they think it would make other people think less of them, which would, in a way, take away their power to manipulate others.

Also, other people’s vulnerabilities are their greatest tool when it comes to manipulating others, so they believe that revealing their weaknesses will make them easy prey for others to manipulate.

Per concludere

Queste erano tutte le bandiere rosse e i segni di una donna manipolatrice. Spero davvero che non vi capiti una donna del genere, ma se mai doveste essere coinvolti in una relazione manipolatrice, ora sapete come affrontarla.

And if you’ve just found out that your better half is manipulating you, all I can tell you is that I know how much it hurts. So quanto fa male scoprire che qualcuno che ami sinceramente ti sta usando solo per ottenere ciò che vuole.

So che il vostro cuore è spezzato in questo momento, ma dovete accettare la verità. Devi accettarla e concentrarti sul superamento di quella relazione tossica.