Dirty talk is THE ULTIMATE tool for seduction. When talking dirty, rest assured you can’t go wrong. Wait, I’m lying… You CAN go wrong if you’re insecure and you feel dumb saying the words you’re supposed to say. If you let it bother you, your discomfort will show, and the dirty talk will be ruined. So, that’s something you don’t want to happen!
The truth is, you have to get over it if you want to get it. (wink!)
Although some people look at dirty talking with reserve because they think it’s a bit too much, there is one thing you need to know. Real sexy talk is not like porn has made it out to be. That’s completely the wrong picture and sense of dirty talking. It’s over the top, it’s too much, and it’s distasteful.
Basically, the whole thing is just an act made up to help people reach their sexual peak alone in front of a screen. Once again, we don’t want that.
What we want is the real thing, and the real thing can be beautiful if you keep it within reason. Its purpose is to make your man horny like crazy, not to make him feel weird and uncomfortable. The way you juggle the ‘naughty words’ will make him keep coming back and begging for one more dose of your sexual magic. He’ll be all like: “Talk dirty to me babe because I can’t get enough!”
Don’t be ashamed of saying dirty things and using your body language!
Using this kind of language doesn’t mean that you are a bad girl, and you don’t have to be uncomfortable doing it. Why? Because this sexy talk has one purpose only—sexual arousal. The main purpose of saying the ‘inappropriate’ words is to turn on your partner to the point of madness and take your sex life to the next level.
Also, keep in mind that words are not the only way of speaking. Body language can usually reveal so much more than you’re actually saying, so keep that in mind, too.
Why do you need to use dirty talk?
- to keep the sexual spark alive
- take sex to the next level
- to make your partner think about you nonstop
- to make your fantasies come true
First, you have to know the philosophy hiding behind the dirty talk. Of course, it has to do everything with the human psyche and how the human brain works. Psychology basically has to do with everything, including dirty talking.
Therefore, never restrict yourself to using this language just in the bedroom. Who says it won’t be fun to exchange text messages containing ‘strong language’ or maybe even throw in quick phone sex at your lunch break, right? There is a first time for everything, so try, oh please, try making dirty talk phrases a common part of your everyday life.
Yeah, and you’ll thank me later!
You need to use dirty talk to…
1. Keep the sexual spark alive
When talking about a new relationship, there is no need to worry about keeping the spark alive. The honeymoon phase takes care of everything for you. You’re excited about the new things happening to you which makes the sexual attraction hit the roof. Every new relationship is exactly like that.
The problem is in longer relationships. You’ve tried everything, and you know each other so well that nothing can surprise you anymore. The usual sexy things you did to each other have become normal and not so sexy anymore.
There isn’t a body part of your partner left which you haven’t explored and done all kinds of things with. It seems like there is simply nothing left to do to keep the relationship alive sex-wise. That’s where you’re wrong.
By talking dirty, you’re unleashing your inner sex goddess, and most importantly, you’re not tricking your partner into becoming horny. You’re only making the process faster and easier to achieve.
2. Take sex to the next level
By whispering dirty things into his ear, you’ll enhance the arousal level to the point he can’t take it anymore. That’s how you’ll start; you’ll take it slow. As the act of sex goes further, you’ll be more hardcore. At a certain point, all kinds of dirty things will come out of your mouth, and you won’t be even aware you’re saying them. But, it will be good, so good you won’t stop.
Try even telling him what you want him to do to you. Give him instructions, and be very descriptive. The way you talk and the way your body moves will drive him insane. Because of the dirty talk, your sex life will go from normal to ecstatic.
3. Make your partner think about you nonstop
Your sexual abilities will ensure you a nice and safe spot in your partner’s mind and heart. He won’t be able to stop thinking about you. Isn’t running around in his mind the kind of goal we’re trying to achieve here? Isn’t being the only one in his mind what you’re aiming to do?
There is nothing worse than your man forgetting all about you the moment he goes to work. That’s why you need to do a great job. You need to paint a picture in his mind of the night you’ve spent together. Him thinking about you depends on your ability to make your night unforgettable.
In case you’re not sure you left a good sexual impression, send him a few dirty texts during work hours or leave a dirty voicemail just to remind him how hot you are and what a great time he had with you.
4. Make your fantasies come true
Real sex talk can help you make your fantasies come true. Every fantasy includes role play of some sort. It’s up to you to choose whatever turns you on. Is it the college professor and a student, the CEO and the employee or the fireman and a lady in need of rescue…you name it.
If you really want your little scenario to play out right, decide upfront who is going to play which role and how is everything going to play out, so everyone is clear on what to do from the beginning. Whatever role you get, don’t forget to dirty talk because it will make your play memorable.
How to talk dirty to a guy? (Dirty talk guide)
1. Start slow
One of the most important things to successfully perform dirty talk is to start slow, being careful not to go over the top and ruin the whole situation. If you don’t want to fail in your dirty talk, you have to build your confidence, and that’s why you have to take it step by step.
Each thing you do will give you a boost to do the next one. Start by moaning quietly, and then pick up the intensity with a couple of lines that will make him ache for you.
2. The bedroom is the perfect place
Start your dirty talk in the bedroom—of course if the situation allows it. You will have your privacy, and you will be able to completely relax, not thinking about anything other than your partner and the tension you’re about to make.
You know that you can’t go wrong if you do what your instinct tells you.
3. Consider texting
If you are really terrified of dirty talking, the best way to go about it is over a text. That will give you the boost you need because you’re not face to face with him, so the chances of embarrassing yourself are smaller, and even if you do something stupid, you always have time to think about how to make it better or not to do it at all.
If you are not that comfortable, you should practice in the mirror. I know it sounds silly and you probably think you will look stupid while you’re doing it, but this is the ideal way to go if you want to bring your dirty talking to perfection.
See how your mouth moves and what kinds of expressions your face makes while you’re trying to pump him up. Don’t stop until you make yourself horny.
5. See what he likes
Let’s face it—everyone likes going a bit dirty every now and then, but the catch is that not all people like it in the same way. Some men like you to do it in a subtle way, while others like it hardcore.
So, actually, the hardest task is before you even get to the dirty talk. You have to figure out what kind of a guy he is and what he wants. According to that, you decide with which approach to go.
6. Don’t leave yourself out
If you don’t like dirty talking, you don’t have to use it. The whole point is that both of you enjoy it, but if you have problems with using a bit more explicit language, don’t use it.
Because if you go ahead and do it despite the fact that you feel uncomfortable, you won’t enjoy it and neither will he because your dirty talk won’t come naturally. But, don’t make any irrational decisions. First, try it, and then decide if you like it or not.
7. Set a boundary
Today it’s almost too easy to dirty talk. We are too available because of the technology we have and a bit of innocent dirty talking can quickly change into something you don’t want, making you really uncomfortable.
So, the point is, if there is no trust, there shouldn’t be any dirty talk. Remember, everything you wrote can so easily get to the places and people who have no business reading it—not to mention that it can be used to hurt and embarrass you.
8. Be creative
Get yourself all heated up. Doesn’t matter how you do it, just do it, and then only the sky’s the limit. Do a bit of research—see what other people are using for dirty talk, ask your best friend to help you out.
Show him that you can do it, and be creative while at it. Just let yourself go in the moment, and the words will come out of your mouth without you even noticing it.
9. Don’t push it if it doesn’t work
If things are not going in the direction you want them to, try something else. You don’t have to insist on dirty talk if your partner is just not in the mood for it. There is also a chance that you might say something wrong or he will take it in a wrong way because he is not in the mood. So it’s better to leave it than force it because if you force it, there will be consequences you’ll have to face.
10. Try to take control
Usually men like to take this role—especially when you’re having sex. They like to know that they are the ones who will take care of their woman and take them to their pleasure land for the best time ever. But, to spice things up a bit which leads to mind-blowing sex, you should definitely try to take the lead. Let him be submissive, and believe me, he’ll enjoy it. Dirty talk will just appear naturally once you take charge.
11. Be descriptive
There is nothing wrong with saying: “I want you to have sex with me!” but don’t you think this could sound even better if you add a few more details to it? Naturally, by sounding better, the results are going to be better, too.
So instead of ‘I want you to have sex with me’ try: “I love the way you grab the sheets and your whole body starts shaking when you’re about to come. I love how your heart beats wildly when I’m on top of you, kissing you passionately.”
Now, isn’t this way better than just saying: “Have sex with me!”?
12. Choose your words carefully
Not all people like the same things. Some of them prefer when you use clinical terms while dirty talking (penis, vagina) while the other like slang terms better (cock, pussy). Some will get incredibly turned on if you tell them that you are their ‘little slut’.
The point is, you have to find out what your partner likes and what they don’t like before engaging in sex talk. The best way to do this is to feel how they breathe in a non-sexual environment. Choose those moments to ask him if are there any words they don’t want you to use.
Now that you know how to dirty talk to a guy, let’s see the situations in which you use dirty talk and how are the best ways to use it.
Dirty talking is actually a piece of cake; it’s not that difficult. It’s all about speaking your mind and telling your partner things you want them to do to you, without any shame and with huge sexual tension. You may even do role-playing if it will make it easier for you to really get into character to start talking dirty to your partner. You’ll probably be able to do things that never crossed your mind before since you’re pretending to be someone else. And also, you can blame your character if you take things a bit too far. So, it’s a win-win situation.
Types of dirty talk
Aside from the fact that it feels so damn good, sex talk is a great tool to build tension. If you try it, you won’t regret it, and your sex life will be better than ever—that I solely promise. But, before you choose to dirty talk to someone, you have to decide what kind of dirty talk you are going to use:
- Soft dirty talk
- Slowly getting there dirty talk
- Hardcore dirty talk
You can use soft dirty talk as a means of flirting when you just met the guy and maybe you want something more. It’s an extremely innocent kind of dirty talk, also great for beginners.
Examples of soft dirty talk
- If we weren’t here, in (insert public place) right now, you’d have absolutely no chance of keeping your clothes on.
- That feels amazing baby.
- I need you right now.
- You get me so hot.
- Do you think I have panties on right now?
- Come sit on my lap, love.
- I get so turned on just thinking about the last time we made love.
- Just wait till we get home…
- What are you doing after work? I need some of your cock ASAP.
- Mmm… do you like that?
- I feel so weak and turned on at the same time when I’m in your arms.
- I can’t wait to be alone with you.
- Damn, you smell good enough to eat.
- Just lie back and let me take care of you.
- I want to give you the best oral sex you’ve ever had.
- I can’t wait to have you inside me. / I can’t wait to be inside you.
- I just want to make your whole face wet with my juices.
- I’m getting so turned on/wet/hard.
- I want you to slowly kiss me from my lips, down my neck, onto my breasts, and all the way down my body.
- You look so fucking good! I can’t wait to get you home.
- Are you hungry baby? I want to swallow you up.
- You look so beautiful/handsome/gorgeous/manly right now.
- I just want to be used by you tonight. Can I be your personal toy?
- Guess what I’m wearing under this.
- If you keep looking at me that way, I’m not responsible for what happens to your cock.
- What do you feel like doing to me?
- I want to tie you up later and have my way with you.
- I love how your hands feel on me.
- Feeling you on top of me and in control is the hottest thing ever!
- I love when you talk to me like that.
- I was thinking about you last night before I went to sleep.
- I love it when you growl.
- I love how you look at me when we’re together; it’s so hot!
- Ughhh… I love your body so much.
- I love how you look at me when you’re turned on.
- Mmm… I can tell that you’re having fun.
- You feel so good inside of me baby.
- I want you to tease me until I can’t take it any longer.
- I could spend all day between your legs.
- I can’t wait to taste you on my lips.
The second type of dirty talk is great to use when you didn’t decide yet on which level of dirty talking you want. Just go with it, and in the meantime, you’ll decide what type is perfect for the situation.
Examples of ‘slowly getting there’ dirty talk
- When you pull my hair, it makes me want to come.
- I love it when I can squeeze my pussy around your cock.
- Just lie back and let me take care of business.
- Don’t stop!
- I want you all the way inside me; give me all of you.
- I want you to cum for me.
- I love feeling you in my hands!
- Deeper / harder / faster.
- Your cock is so delicious.
- I want you to cum all over me.
- Keeping going, keep going!
- Right there!
- I want you to cum inside of me.
- I love how you taste.
- You’re going to forget your name after I’m done fucking you tonight.
- Relax… just lie back and let me make you cum.
- You dominating me is such a turn on.
- I want to dominate you tonight.
- Your cock fits in me so perfectly.
- I want you to take control of me.
- You have a very talented mouth.
- You have such a perfect cock… I love it so much.
- I never want you to stop, it feels so good.
- You have such a perfect/gorgeous cock… I love it so much.
- (Taking her hand and putting it over her vagina) Show me how you touch yourself baby… I want to see you surrendering into your deepest pleasure for me.
- I want you to finish wherever you like.
- Mmm… I fucking love it when I ride you like this.
- Cum in my mouth. I want to taste you.
- Get on your knees, now.
- You look so fucking sexy right now.
- Is this pussy yours? Are you going to take it?
- Ask for permission before you cum…I want to hear you beg for it.
- You look like a sexy little angel with your lips wrapped around me like this.
- You are a good little slut, aren’t you?
- Pound my little pussy with your big cock daddy.
- I want you to be as loud as you can when you come.
- I’m going to drain every last ounce of cum out of you.
- Do whatever you want with me, daddy.
- I want you to fuck me in front of the mirror baby.
- Tell me how much you love it when I fuck you/when you fuck me.
On the other hand, there is a hardcore dirty talk. This is more for the pros and those who have been in a relationship quite some time, so they truly know what their partner likes and how he’s going to react.
Examples of hardcore dirty talk
- Why can’t I have you like this all the time? You’re my new addiction.
- Tell me how badly you want me to fuck you.
- Fuck me hard.
- This cock is all I need—and maybe some air.
- I want you to fuck me until we wake up the neighbours.
- I love being your fuck slut.
- Your dick is so full. It feels amazing.
- Stand up and fuck me.
- I think I’m in love with your dick.
- When you hold my buttocks that way, It makes me explode.
- Yeah daddy, give me every last drop of your delicious cum.
- Holy shit, I’m cumming.
- What naughty little thing do you want me to do to you next?
- I love it when you grind your cock into me.
- You’re going to make me pass out with pleasure.
- You have no idea what you’ve gotten yourself into. I’m going to be your sex slave.
- Use me like your little fuck toy.
- Grab my hair and fuck me like a dog.
- Yes, that’s what I like. That is so hot. Fuck me more.
- Keep that pretty little mouth open to me when I’m fucking it.
- I want to feel your cum all over my face.
- Let’s fuck again. I want more.
- I love sucking your cock, daddy.
- I want to feel you shoot your load in my mouth.
- Let me get on top of your cock, sweetie.
- I’m your whore.
- Pound me harder!
- You need to grab my tits and hold them while I cum.
- Yeah, ruin my pussy. Take it!
- Your cock is huge.
- What a well behaved little whore you are.
- How do you want me to fuck you? Like this?
- Mmmmm… yeah, fuck my face.
- That pretty little face deserves to get fucked.
- Slow and easy, or fast and crazy. I’ll fuck you however you like.
- Don’t make a sound until I tell you to… and if you do, I’m going to pause and wait until you can be quiet again, like a good little boy/girl.
- Do you want to watch me suck you?
- You’re going to need crutches when I’m done fucking you.
- You make me so wet it doesn’t feel real.
- Tell me who owns this fucking pussy?
When to use dirty talk?
- Dirty questions
Sexting can go from soft dirty talking to really hardcore. It depends on which direction you want to take it. Usually, sexting the safest way to go because you have a lot of time to think about what you’re going to send, and you don’t have to be afraid you’re going to make a fool out of yourself. The risk of embarrassing yourself is minimal.
Here are some texts you can use, depending on the situation you’re in:
- I think it’s time we tried (fill in the blank).
- Looking forward to having you later.
- I had so many dirty thoughts today… Guess who inspired them all?
- Lying in bed and bored. Wish you were here to play Simon Says with me.
- I’m under so many blankets and I’m still cold… I guess I should put on some clothes…
- I have a secret – I’m watching a very dirty video online right now…
- If we were together, what would you want me to do to you?
- I’m typing this with one hand because my other hand is busy…
- This new underwear feels soooo good against my skin…
- I’ll be wearing only heels tonight…
- I would rather be in bed with you. Right now.
- Thinking about you touching me, literally, it turns me on.
- I’m imagining your hands on my body…your mouth on my body…and finally, your body on mine.
- I was looking at the sex toys today.
- Whenever your name pops up on my screen, my knees weaken.
- Next time I see you, I want to be as dirty as possible.
- It sounds weird, but I couldn’t stop myself from thinking about us last night. I play it over and over in my mind, and it feels sooo good.
- I was thinking about you and me and suddenly, out of the blue, I found myself completely undressed and wet down under. How did that happen?!
- I have a mystery for you, but I’ll give you a clue. Tonight, I’m gonna make you the special guest between my legs.
- You were screaming some filthy words last night. Wanna do it again tonight?
- I’m touching myself. Too bad you aren’t here.
- The thoughts I was having about you were so dirty that I had to take a shower.
- My roommate is gone for the weekend. We can be as loud as we want, and I am planning on tearing down the walls.
- Let’s get one thing straight. When we meet later on, there will be no foreplay.
- I’m so shy, but you have no idea what I’m thinking.
- Wait, are you alone right now.
- Tell me your secret fetish. I bet I’ll like it.
- Send me your nudes, and I’ll send you mine.
- You know what? I want to feel you so bad now.
- Just wanting to let you know that I’m lying on my bed naked thinking about you.
- Tonight I want you to undress me slowly with your muscular touch and bite every inch of my body with no inch left untouched.
- Just wanted to tell you that my new red underwear feels really good and sexy on my skin. I could show it to you if you were here now.
- I don’t get it how it happens every time, but the moment you lick my nipples, my legs get weak.
- Can you guess the color of my panties? If you guess it right, I will give you anything you want tonight.
- I want to see how good your tongue can play between my gaps.
- I get thrilled with excitement when your fingers dance on my wet floor.
- Baby, you are too sexy for me to resist.
- It makes me feel amazingly hot when you touch me down there.
- What are you wearing right now? I hope you say nothing!
- I just got out of a steamy shower. I’m soaking wet right now.
Dirty talk can be used in all varieties, so they go far beyond just sexy texts. What about questions? Have you ever consider how to talk dirty to a guy using questions that will arouse him, building the mutual sexual tension and turning him on like no one ever did before?
- What would you do if I send you a dirty photo of me?
- Would you like to play dirty Truth or Dare?
- What do you think my lips taste like?
- Guess what I’m wearing right now?
- Do you prefer your woman shaved or all natural?
- What kind of outfit would you like to see me in?
- What would you do if I answered the door naked?
- What is your biggest sex fantasy?
- What is your favorite part of my body?
- Can you guess the color of the underwear I’m wearing right now?
- What is the naughtiest thing you’ve ever done?
- Have you ever dated two girls at the same time?
- Have you ever had a threesome?
- Have you ever used sex toys?
- I sleep naked; do you?
- Are you a boob guy or a butt guy?
- Have you ever had sex in public?
- Have you ever been caught going solo?
- What’s the longest you’ve gone without doing it?
- Do you like watching me touch myself?
- Does the thought of recording a video turn you on?
- Have you ever tried edible underwear?
- Rough or sensual?
- Do you like sexting?
- Have you ever done it in front of other people?
- Have you ever used food while you’re doing it?
- Do you like the lights on or off?
- Have you ever used a lubricant?
- Do you want me to talk dirty?
- Have you ever dreamed about me?
- Would you ever do it in a car?
- What’s your favorite position?
- Have you ever had anal sex? What did you think about it?
- Have you ever played strip poker?
- Have you ever done it in the water?
- Do you prefer to be in control or you’d like me to take the wheel?
- What do you think I should wear to bed?
- Where do you want to touch me right now?
- Where is the naughtiest place that you’ve done it?
- Do you like me on top or on the bottom?
Once you ask him these questions he will be ready to go. But, that is not the only thing that will make him sexually addicted to you. Foreplay is the most important part of the whole sex act, and if you get it right, you’ll definitely have the best sex of your life.
Dirty foreplay talk:
- Make me cum with your tongue.
- I’m going to need some bad-ass servicing in the next ten minutes.
- Fuck me harder.
- I’ve never been satisfied like that before.
- Did you take a course on how to make me come?
- I dreamt of you last night and woke up dripping wet—pretty much like right now.
- I love it when you’re rough with me.
- I’ve been a bad girl, and I deserve a spanking.
- Take your clothes off, and get your hands on my knees. Right now!!
- I feel so incredible when you press your penis against me.
- I love the way you fill me up.
- Put your mouth on my breasts.
- Suck my nipples until I say it’s enough.
- I want you in me so baaadly.
- I want you to take me in your arms and make me cum hard.
- I’ve never been kissed like that before.
- I’m craving you.
- I love it when you give me ‘the look’.
- I want you to tie me up.
- I absolutely adore feeling you on top of me.
- I’m going to make you cry with pleasure.
- I’m going to make you scream and beg for more.
- You won’t be able to walk tomorrow.
- Making you hard is my number one priority.
- I love holding your cock and feeling it getting hard in my hands.
- I want you to handcuff me and fuck me any way you’d like.
- Take me right here, right now.
- I want you to scream my name when you come.
- Make me your bitch!
- Punish me; I’ve been very naughty.
- Slap my ass!
- Fill me up with happiness.
- Shut the fuck up, and take off my clothes right away.
- Bite me, and make me yours.
- I want you to kiss my entire body.
As you can see, you have so many ways to talk dirty to someone and make them charged with sexual tension. Some of these are pretty hardcore, but some are completely innocent—it depends what you like and in which way you want to go.
The point is that anyone can dirty talk. You just have to get rid of the blockage in your mind and boost yourself up with confidence because when you think about it, it’s really not that difficult.
If you don’t know what to say or your fear is blocking you from completely relaxing, try some of the suggestions above, just to have something to start with. Once you loosen up completely, you’ll forget about what you do and don’t have to say, and it will just come out of your mouth—making your partner incredibly horny.
He will thank you later for getting an orgasm he will never forget. That’s how much dirty talking can be powerful. Try it, don’t be shy!