“I can’t take it anymore”. How many times has this sentence passed through your mind lately?
If this is something your inner voice is often telling you, it means you are going through some bad things in your life. Maybe you are heartbroken, betrayed, disappointed or just scared or anxious about what tomorrow will bring you.
Either way, you’ve hit your breaking point and you don’t see a way out. You feel like your only option is to completely give up because you just can’t take it anymore, as much as you try to.
Well, you’ve come to the right place because you are about to read some things that will help you get through this period. Some things which will help you see that you are stronger than you might think and which will assure you that you will survive, no matter what.
It’s okay to feel like this
The first thing you need to remember is that you are not weak for feeling like you can’t take it anymore. There is no need for you to repress your emotions or to run away from them, pretending that everything is all right, when clearly it isn’t.
This doesn’t mean that you should let this feeling define you. You shouldn’t let it consume you completely but you ought to accept it.
Never blame yourself for feeling overwhelmed, because it is all a part of life and it only shows that you are a human being, made of flesh and bone. Instead of judging yourself, take it easy and give yourself a break.
Stop comparing yourself to others
Another thing you should stop doing whenever you are going through something like this is comparing yourself to others. Even though everyone seems like they are happy and as if they have their shit together at all times, trust me that the truth is quite different because things aren’t usually the way they appear.
Forget about social media because they don’t represent the way someone’s life really is. After all, start with yourself—you’ll only post pictures or videos of yourself when you are having a good time and you probably don’t share your breakdowns with the rest of the world.
Just remember that we all fight our own battles and struggle with our inner demons, even when we don’t show that to others. You don’t have it worse than everyone around you—it only appears to be like that.
So instead of looking at the people around you and allowing them to determine your value, focus on yourself. Focus on becoming the best version of yourself and don’t ever try being someone else.
This won’t last forever
Everything that you are going through right now is only temporary. This pain and the dissatisfaction you might be feeling are not permanent and they won’t last forever.
I know you are convinced that you’ll never heal and that you’ll spend the rest of your life trapped in this never-ending circle of negative emotions. You are desperate and hopeless and you don’t see any light at the end of the tunnel.
But I assure you that it will come. Think about all the times when you had it worse than today. And what happened? Everything always sorted itself out one way or another, right?
You survived all of your difficulties and you managed to solve all of your problems. Otherwise, you wouldn’t be here today, would you?
Think about all the times you had it better than today as well. Those times will come again, I can assure you.
Time does heal all wounds
I know you’ve heard this one a million times before but it really is the truth. Even if you don’t think this way now, time heals all wounds sooner or later. You just have to give time enough time.
You’ve broken off a long-term relationship you were convinced would last a lifetime? You are in the middle of a family crisis or you are having career problems?
Either way, the point is that you feel like you’ve hit a brick wall. You feel like you are stuck and you don’t see a way out.
And not only that—it is like your emotional pain has become physical. You are feeling anxious and depressed all the time and you are convinced that this state will never go away.
Well, let me tell you one thing—whatever the reason for your broken heart is, you will heal sooner or later. Everything in life passes, including the bad stuff and no emotional pain is permanent.
It really does get better, just have faith
Here is another phrase you’ve heard numerous times but it is something you need to be reminded of every time you feel like you can’t take it anymore. Things will get better, I promise you that.
I can’t tell you exactly how or when but a resolution to whatever you are facing now will come when you least expect it. Just have faith and believe in yourself.
Remember, what you reflect is what you attract. So instead of allowing all of these negative thoughts to consume you completely, try your best to think positively, even though this seems impossible at the moment.
Reprogram your mindset and bring optimism into your life. Even when you feel like you are at your lowest, have faith in a better tomorrow because that will give you the mental strength you need to get up from all of this.
You are strong enough to handle this
Repeat after me: I am strong. I am powerful. I can do this. There is nothing and nobody who can conquer me. I will heal. I will survive. I will be better and I will find a way to salvation.
No, this is not just some useless mantra and it is anything but bullshit. I know you don’t see it now but you really are strong enough to handle whatever is bringing you down.
This is nothing more than a test of your strength. And you are about to pass it.
One day, all of this will just be a lesson
Whenever you wonder why you have to go through all of this when you clearly didn’t do anything to deserve this heartache, remember that everything in life happens for a reason and for a bigger cause. And this rough patch you are going through right now serves to teach you a valuable lesson.
You might learn to cut off some toxic people from your life. Or the importance of self-love.
You might learn to finally see your own worth and everything you are capable of.
Either way, the fact is that one day, you will look at this period from a distance and you’ll be grateful that it happened. You’ll be proud of each one of your emotional scars because you’ll see that all of this pain you’ve experienced shaped you into becoming the person you are today.
I am an English Language and Literature teacher. I am a writer. I am a daughter, a sister, a friend… But most of all, I am a woman, just like you.
A woman who has experienced the same things you’ve been going through. A woman who’s been fighting battles similar to yours. A woman who wants you to learn from her mistakes and who wants to help you empower yourself.