Uma carta aberta ao namorado para expressar sentimentos de mágoa

Haverá algo pior do que um coração partido? E o mais triste é que nunca se está à espera disso.

Pensa que a pessoa que está à sua frente lhe vai dar sempre o o amor que mereces.

After all, they’re YOUR person. You don’t doubt them.

And then, all of a sudden, they turn into a stranger who mercilessly tears you apart. You barely know what to do. You stand frozen… and all alone.

But, it’s okay to be lost. It’s okay to have dificuldades de relacionamento, too. Their actions can never be justified, but I do hope you know that it’s not necessarily the end…

Se te sentes mal, desabafa. Escreva uma carta ao namorado a expressar os seus sentimentos de mágoa.

If you’re doing it for the sake of your mental health, that’s fine. If you talk because you want to fix your problems, that’s also fine.

Whatever you feel is valid. But, if you’re not quite sure how to start expressing your feelings, take a look at the open letter below.

Uma carta para o namorado a expressar os sentimentos de mágoa

O meu ente querido,

Where do I even begin? What I feel inside is too overwhelming for words, but I still believe they’re necessary.

If I don’t tell you how I feel, we’ll never move past this, and we’ll just keep falling apart… silently… surely…

Magoaste-me. Tu partiu-me em pedaços. Não por causa do que fizeste, mas porque foste tu que o fizeste. Nunca esperei que fosses tu a tratar-me dessa maneira.

Sabias que eu estava mal e, no entanto, disseste coisas tão horríveis, coisas que me podiam assustar para sempre. Essa foi a primeira vez que quis acabar contigo.

As tuas palavras continuam a ecoar na minha cabeça, destruindo-me uma e outra vez. Queria pôr a minha saúde mental em primeiro lugar e tirar-te da minha vida.

Eu pensei: ”How will I ever take care of myself properly when I have someone like this in my life? How will I ever become a better person if he keeps reminding me of everything I did wrong?”

I know what I’m guilty of. I’m not afraid to assumir responsabilidades for my actions. But, aren’t we all guilty? Does that mean I am less deserving of love?

That’s all I really wanted – for you to love me, for you to hug me tightly when my world was falling apart. Instead, you were the one to make it fall apart.

But that’s not all… From that moment, Senti-me abandonado e sozinho no mundo. Pensei que eras a única pessoa que me compreendia, a alguém que me pudesse tirar da escuridão.

I didn’t think you’d ever judge me for having a hard time, nor that you would make me perder a minha autoestima.

Tu sabes o quanto eu tentei! Tu sabes que luta contra a depressão hasn’t been easy for me, yet you weren’t there for me. You just threw your accusations around when all I wanted was for you to tell me that it’ll be okay.

You made me a promise. You told me you would always support me no matter what I was going through. Why couldn’t you honor those words?

I tried to pretend that I was okay, that you didn’t hurt my feelings. But, when we talked the next morning, I knew that wouldn’t be so easy.

Cheguei mesmo a duvidar de ti por um momento. Disse para mim próprio: ”He’s not the love of my life. If he were, he wouldn’t treat me this way.”

But, the next moment, it all became clear – Eu sabia que tinha de dizer tudo o que me estava a pesar.

I’m not writing you this letter to blame you for what you did. I just want you to know how much magoaste-me because if I don’t let it out, it’ll ruin our relationship forever.

And, I don’t want that. I still think of you as a minha alma gémea, the one I’m supposed to be with the rest of my life.

Do you feel that way, too? Don’t you think we deserve a segunda oportunidade? Achas que, da próxima vez, serás mais gentil comigo?

I know things haven’t been perfect lately, but have you really forgotten all the good times?

Já te esqueceste dos anos que passámos a fazer-nos rir um ao outro e tu loving me when I’m at my most unlovable?

We’ve always had grande químicaE eu sei que parece um disparate, mas no momento em que te vi, soube que te ia amar para sempre.

E aqui estou eu, anos mais tarde, e nada mudou.

Yet… Tenho saudades tuas. It’s only been one fight, but it tore me apart. It’s like we created a space between us, but neither of us has the guts to admit it even exists, let alone cross it.

That’s why I made this decision… writing a love letter to boyfriend expressing hurt feelings and heartbreak. After all, I’ve always been a mulher que usa o coração na manga.

Acredito que podemos resolver isso. A última coisa que quero é perder-te.

For God’s sake, I’ve never loved anyone the way Eu amo-te. And, I know you love me, too. We can solve any problem that comes between us because it’s not stronger than our bond.

I’ve never been very good at letting go. I’m someone who remembers every single bad thing anyone has ever done to me. But, this is you…

You’re the one person I would forgive anything, the one person I could look at only with loving eyes. You’re my one true love.

But, I know I have hurt you, too. In a moment of rage, I’ve said things I’m not proud of. Maybe you started the fight, but that’s still no excuse. We are both to blame.

Achas que também me podes perdoar? Achas que podemos pôr isto para trás das costas?

After all, we are only human beings. We can’t be flawless. Making mistakes is what we do. Otherwise, how can we learn?

I believe that these trials and tribulations are necessary. I believe they’ll make our connection even stronger. I just believe… in us.

I can’t lose my best friend in the whole world. Who would I share my silly thoughts with then? Who else would understand my weird sense of humor?

Please… can we go back to how we used to be? It’s only been a few days, but it feels like an eternity.

I kept trying to tell you how I felt. I would sit down, start typing a message, and then thoughts would creep in… ”Oh, come on, he hurt you. He should be the one to apologize,” ou ”Oh my God, you sound so desperate!”

But, here I am! Why? Because I don’t see this as desperation. I see it as fighting for the homem que amo.

I don’t care that you haven’t said anything yet. I get it. I know it’s hard for you to be emocionalmente vulnerável. It’s been hard for me, too.

But, I had a moment of clarity last night – alguém tem de dar o primeiro passo. I don’t mind that being me because this isn’t about that at all. This is about keeping our relationship alive.

This may be a letter to boyfriend expressing hurt feelings, but I also want to say that I’m sorry.

Na verdade, nem mesmo mil desculpas poderiam expressar o quanto me sinto mal.

It wasn’t my intention to make you feel unworthy. And I know your intentions weren’t bad either.

We may have said things we didn’t mean, but let’s not ruin the beautiful thing we have over a bad day.

We’ll just make sure to treat each other with love and respect in the future. But, we can’t do that unless we talk about the past.

Hell, why don’t we recreate that evening, erase it from our memories entirely?

I’ll talk about my troubles, and you won’t try to encourage me.

You’ll just take me by the hand and carefully listen to what I have to say. No judgment. No words at all, for that matter.

Just a soft, empathetic look and a gentle smile that says, ”I’m always here for you.”

Do you think we can do that? Do you feel the same way I do? As hurt as I am, you’re a man I don’t want to let go of. Acredito que o nosso amor é tão forte que pode resistir a qualquer tempestade.

People say that love isn’t enough, but they’re wrong.

It’s love that’s kept us together all these years. It’s love that made me write esta carta aberta. It’s a million little things that always make me find my way back to you.

We may have lost our way, but we won’t be lost forever. Ainda tens o meu coração, even though it’s been bruised.

Besides, bruises heal. We can heal it… with our love.

Então, minha querida, o que dizes? Ainda somos tu e eu? Vamos perdoar-nos um ao outro? Vamos amar-nos ainda mais ferozmente no novo ano que se aproxima?

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Como escrever uma carta ao namorado a expressar sentimentos de mágoa

If you’ve reached your ponto de rutura e quiser escrever a sua própria carta ao seu namorado, tente responder primeiro às perguntas que se seguem:

• In what way did your boyfriend hurt you?

• How did you want him to treat you?

• How does it all make you feel?

• Do you think your relationship is worth saving?

• If yes, what can you do to fix your problems.

Uma vez que tenciona escrever uma carta ao namorado a expressar os seus sentimentos de mágoa, talvez seja melhor responder a estas perguntas no papel.

Pense cuidadosamente em cada uma delas. E depois, deixe que as suas emoções façam o resto.

Confie em mim, escreverá a melhor carta quando se deixar dominar pelo que sente.