Porque é que me sinto atraída por homens mais velhos? 20 razões surpreendentes
Porque é que me sinto atraído por homens mais velhos? Que feitiço é que me enfeitiçaram para eu mal reconhecer alguém da minha idade?
If these questions bother you as much as they do me, then you’ve come to the right place.
Eu digo-vos porque é que estão interessados relações com diferenças de idadeA diferença entre homens mais velhos e mais novos, e tudo o que influencia a sua escolha de parceiros.
Stay with me, and let’s explore the minds of both older men and us!
Porque é que me sinto atraída por homens mais velhos? 20 razões
Se quer saber porque é que as relações com diferenças de idade lhe parecem apelativas, veja as 20 razões que se seguem:
1. Têm um aspeto mais masculino
Not that there’s anything wrong with feminine men (God forbid), but there’s just something about the manliness you can see in older men.
It isn’t about looks but rather their energy. The way they move screams confidence and experience.
Estas raposas prateadas têm a capacidade de o arrebatar numa questão de segundos.
Tudo o que define um homem de verdade is there: strength, decisiveness, wisdom, intelligence, fearlessness… You can sense all that without even speaking to them.
It’s really true what they say… Homens mais velhos são como o vinho – melhoram com a idade.
2. São mais maduros
Younger partners call women out for being drama queens, but in reality, they’re no different.
They create problems where there aren’t any. They are often so possessive that they expect you to be there 24/7. Not even aconselhamento de casais could save these types of relationships…
Um homem mais velho nunca faria nada disso.
He’s self-sufficient and values his time, so he understands if you need some solitude. He understands the importance of limites nas relações.
When there is an actual problem, he doesn’t fight or give you the tratamento silencioso. Nunca o verá reagir de forma exagerada, mas sim procurar ativamente soluções para os seus problemas.
You shouldn’t be asking yourself ”Why am I attracted to homens mais velhos?” but rather ”Why wouldn’t I be?”
3. Eles sabem o que querem
You’re probably attracted to homens mais velhos because they always have a clear goal in mind. There’s no room for doubts or inseguranças.
Even when they are at a crossroads, they handle it like mature men. They’re not confused for long like their younger counterparts tend to be.
If they like you, they won’t sit in silence and hope for the best. They’ll reach out straight away and charm you with their decisiveness.
They won’t hide behind social media and dating sites but will prefer to talk to you in person.
Even if you’re a big challenge and give them a hard time, they won’t easily back out.
Acreditam demasiado em si próprios para desistirem.
4. They’ve already built a life for themselves
Younger men usually don’t have anything figured out. It’s like they’re totally excluded from real life and all they do is play video games and party with their friends.
How can they be capable of being a good partner then? It’s no wonder women find older men attractive.
Most of them have a career and a home of their own. Of course, this doesn’t mean that we are materialistic. It’s not about wealth at all.
It’s just a grande excitação to see a man who’s accomplished all of his goals, a man who overcame every obstacle to get what he wants.
Alguém que é capaz e forte irá certamente captar a sua atenção!
Since you (probably) haven’t accomplished your goals due to your age, you are inspired by his abilities. You want to be a part of his life because you think he might help you find your own purpose.
Além disso, alguém assim é uma escolha muito melhor para um relação sériaNão é verdade?
5. Apreciam mais a vida
When you’re younger, your main goal is to have fun. And you think that by having fun, you appreciate life more. But that’s not exactly the case.
Homens mais velhos já tiveram a sua quota-parte de diversão, por isso sabem que apreciar a vida é abraçar as suas muitas oportunidades.
They won’t hesitate to accept a job offer or form a relationship with you. This is because they aren’t looking for temporary excitement.
They’re aware that life is passing them by, and they want to be truly HAPPY. They don’t waste their time with the ‘what ifs.’
E acredita em mim, alguém que percebe o valor da vida saberá amar-te da forma que mereces.
6. Estão mais dispostos a empenhar-se
Sei que os homens de todas as idades se debatem com questões de empenhamento, but let’s be honest – homens mais velhos estão mais preparados para uma relação de compromisso.
O que quer que tenha causado problemas com o compromisso ainda está fresco na mente dos homens mais jovens, pelo que os afecta mais facilmente.
Se ficaram com o coração partido, demoram séculos a confiar novamente em alguém. E quando tentam, acabamos por ficar presos a uma homem emocionalmente indisponível.
Por outro lado, os homens mais velhos tiveram mais tempo para clarificar os seus pensamentos e descobrir quem realmente são.
Uma vez que conseguem lidar melhor consigo próprios, estão mais preparados para serem emocionalmente ligado a si.
Mesmo que lutem contra o desgosto (e todos nós lutamos), acabam por começar a vê-lo como uma coisa do passado.
This is because the years are passing by quickly, and they don’t want to die alone without a legacy. So, it’s not only that they don’t fear commitment, but they are desperate for it.
7. São mais atenciosos
Have you ever seen a 40-year-old man who doesn’t know how to take care of a woman?
Exatamente.
So, why do you still keep asking yourself ”Why am I attracted to older men?”
Não só nos mimam, como também sabem sempre as palavras certas para dizer. São verdadeiros cavalheiros que a tratam com gentileza e respeito.
Nada de cruel ou inapropriado sairá das suas bocas.
Vêem-no como um ser precioso que têm de proteger, por isso fazem o seu melhor para satisfazer os seus desejos.
If all of this sounds like a Hollywood romance movie, that’s probably because you’ve had too many relações imaturas with younger men…
8. Têm mais experiência de vida
That’s the first thing you think of when you look at an homem mais velho, isn’t it? You are attracted to how much they know about life, how much they have been through.
Pode já ser uma jovem experiente, mas continua a olhar para elas e a sentir-se tentada por tudo o que elas lhe podem ensinar.
Se se sente perdida ou sem esperança na vida, é provável que se sinta atraída por homens mais velhos.
You want a lover, but you also want a mentor, a guide. You want someone who will save you from the misery of life you don’t yet know how to deal with.
9. Proporcionam uma sensação de segurança
There are many strong and smart young men nowadays, but security isn’t about that…
Don’t you always feel safer when you’re with someone who knows more than you? That’s why you’re into homens mais velhos.
O facto de sabermos que eles são experientes cria uma sensação de segurança. Pensa-se que eles já lidaram com todo o tipo de situações e que provavelmente têm uma solução sensata para tudo.
In reality, you just want a hero. And you don’t see heroic potential in men your age.
10. Os homens mais novos continuam a desiludir-te
When I think to myself: ”Why am I attracted to older men?” the first answer that comes to mind is:
Porque homens mais jovens são demasiado decepcionantes!
I mean, no offense here, but let’s be honest… They never know how to handle their problems like adults, and it only ends up ruining your relationship.
Os homens mais velhos nunca permitiriam que isso acontecesse. Trazem consigo a sua bagagem, mas as suas relações permanecem intactas. Isto deve-se ao facto de níveis de maturidade mais elevados e inteligência emocional.
11. Estão mais confiantes
Quantos romances falharam por causa de jovens inseguros?
So many of them don’t have the courage to approach you, and if they do approach you, it only turns into a very relação complicada.
Older men rarely have these problems! They’ve probably had many relationships in the past that made them confident enough to namoriscar como um profissional.
You don’t ever have to worry that it’s not going to work. If they like you, that’s already finished business. Nothing will stop them from getting your attention.
And let’s be honest… Who doesn’t like to be chased?
12. São mais atraentes
What? This is a valid reason! Some women just like you better when you’re older. Some prefer 30-year-olds, whereas others are attracted to men twice their age!
Why wouldn’t they be? There’s nothing NOT to like. Just think about Dr. House or Aaron Hotchner from Mentes Criminosas. Deus sabe que o faço todos os dias.
We get to see scenes where they’re younger, yet I can’t help but be more attracted to them when they get older. Does that happen to you, too?
Don’t think that there’s anything wrong with you, though. You have the right to like whoever you want.
Besides, isn’t this encouraging? We often fear old age because we think our beauty will disappear, but look! There’s always someone who will find you attractive.
13. Tens problemas com o pai
It’s always some kind of trauma, isn’t it? Well, sadly, yes. Your fascination with older men might just stem from problemas com o papá. O que é que isso significa?
It means that your father didn’t offer you the love and protection that you deserved as a child.
Como foi emocionalmente abandonado, procura agora uma figura paterna that will make up for what you didn’t have in childhood.
Sounds complicated, doesn’t it? But it’s valid.
You’re not unstable for having problemas com o papá. It’s okay to want someone to protect you, especially if nobody ever did.
So, don’t think that this is wrong. You are not weird or messed up. Don’t let anyone convince you that you are.
14. Respeitam mais as mulheres
When you’re in a relationship with someone your age, they rarely know how to appreciate you. And since they don’t appreciate you, they have não vos respeito ou.
They’re just too young to understand what partnership means.
That’s what’s so appealing about older guys. They’re aware that you’re two individuals but you still function as a TEAM.
And a team values the opinion of everyone. They will always listen to your advice carefully. You don’t ever have to worry about not being taken seriously.
Older guys will never see you as ‘just a girlfriend’ but rather as a human being and a partner who’s equally as important as them.
15. Têm experiência sexual
Well… we are sexual beings, too, aren’t we? Having an older partner who knows what he’s doing is bound to make sex much more exciting!
After all, you’re young and (probably) don’t have much sexual experience. So, it’s not unusual that you want someone who does.
At least one of us has to know what they’re doing, right?
Tu queres experiência e eles querem alguém que não a tem.
Yes, as men age, they are more into younger women, in the age range of around 20–30, because they want to prove to themselves that they’ve still ‘got it.’
Quando têm relações sexuais com um 20-mulher de um ano, they get their validation, and you get great sex! It’s a win-win situation!
16. Sabem comunicar
Do you often ask yourself: ”Why am I attracted to older men?” Yeah, me too… Or at least I did until I figured out the answer.
It’s because I never have to worry that they’ll misunderstand me!
Mesmo quando o fazem, falaremos sobre o assunto como adultos e descobriremos onde está o problema.
Eu sei que eles nunca ficar na defensiva ou apontar o dedo. Compreendem que nunca se pode resolver nada sem comunicação.
O seu objetivo é resolver o problema em conjunto, e não estarem uns contra os outros, o que é um sinal de relação saudável.
Besides, you can’t form a ligação emocional mais profunda if you don’t hear each other out.
17. Estão financeiramente seguros
More often than not, older people have steady jobs and a secure future, so it’s understandable if you’re attracted to them.
But that doesn’t mean you want them for their money. You just want someone who’ll be able to take care of you.
Isto é especialmente compreensível se o seu objetivo é ser uma dona de casa.
And even if you’re employed, too, it’s okay if you don’t want to be the only provider. It’s okay to want a capable man who’s ready to help you out.
18. Queres um sugar daddy
Sim, talvez encontre o diferença de idade attractive just because there’s something in it for you!
A sugar daddy doesn’t mind paying for whatever your heart desires, and you’re happy because you’re able to live the life of your dreams.
Ser um bebé de açúcar benefits both you and your ‘benefactor.’ That’s why you shouldn’t feel guilty for doing it. If both sides are happy, then there’s nothing wrong with that.
19. Namorar com eles é um ato de rebeldia
Seja sincero. Quem é que alguma vez apoiaria a sua relação com um homem mais velho? Rarely anyone would…
And that’s exactly what strengthens your desire!
It’s a turn on to look at someone nobody would approve of, especially if you’re in your early to late 20s…
O seu espírito rebelde ainda está muito vivo e dirige os seus desejos. Queres o que a sociedade rejeita.
O diferença de idade não significa nada para si porque significa tudo para eles.
This isn’t wrong, but still make sure that you actually like the person, and not just what they represent!
20. São mais cómodos
Mesmo quando os nossos idade própria manage to approach us, they’re still struggling to relax. They try to look all macho but don’t know that we have a sixth sense that tells us a different story.
Older men, on the other hand, don’t have those problemas de autoestima.
They approach you with confidence and talk to you in a relaxed manner because they’re not intimidated by women.
Their beauty and intellect aren’t something to be afraid of, but something they need to conquer. And they usually do… because they believe they can.
Ver também: Como fazer com que um homem mais velho a queira em 27 passos infalíveis
Considerações finais
I hope that the question ”Why am I attracted to older men?” no longer keeps you up at night. See, it’s not just the influence of Lana Del Rey’s music!
Mulheres namoram homens mais velhos porque têm mais para oferecer.
It’s the same with rapazes mais novos. Estão sobretudo apaixonados por mulheres idosas.
A muitas pessoas quer um parceiro experiente que lhe proporcione uma sensação de segurança e proteção. A muitas pessoas querem alguém que lhes mostre como viver corretamente.
It’s no wonder we are attracted to people who are different from us. We want something that we don’t have because it’s new and exciting.
And don’t EVER think there’s anything wrong with that!
