19 sinais alarmantes de que o marido gosta de uma colega de trabalho + como testá-lo
Deixe-me adivinhar. O seu marido tem agido de forma estranha ultimamente e não sabe exatamente o que se passa com ele (ou com o seu casamento).
Perhaps you’re no longer intimate as you were before, your marriage stagnates in every aspect, or your husband is spending more time at work than usual.
O que é que se passa exatamente aqui?
O seu casamento precisa de ser corrigido? Há algo de errado com o seu marido? Ele conheceu outra pessoa? Quais são os sinais de que um marido gosta de uma colega de trabalho?
Maybe you’re overthinking things but maybe you aren’t. How will you know for sure? Here’s how.
Below you’ll find all the obvious and not-so-obvious signs husband likes coworker. We’ll also go through the signs of guilt by a marido traidor. Espero que estejas preparado.
19 Sinais de que o marido gosta da colega de trabalho
Constant business trips, spending more time at work, neglecting you and your marriage… These are just a few signs that your husband might like his coworker more than what is appropriate If the majority of these signs resonate with him, then you know it’s time to have a serious conversation with your husband:
1. Passar cada vez mais tempo no trabalho.
De repente, passar mais tempo no trabalho do que antes é o sinal vermelho número um de que algo está errado com o seu marido.
Spending time at work has suddenly become his favorite activity (if it can even be called so) and every time you ask him about it, he has a “valid reason” why he has to work long hours. Essas razões válidas são provavelmente apenas desculpas esfarrapadas.
I’m sure you’re familiar with those famous movie scenes: A married man comes home late almost every single night. What does his wife start to think? That he’s having an affair, of course!
No entanto, existe sempre a possibilidade de ele estar realmente a fazer algo relacionado com o trabalho e não ter nada a ver com o facto de gostar do colega de trabalho.
2. Viagens e reuniões de negócios frequentes.
What’s the perfect cover up for spending time with his female colleague? Business trips and meetings, of course!
Se suspeitar que é esse o caso, então a relação de trabalho pode ter evoluído para um caso amoroso. Procure sempre mudanças no seu estilo de vida, personalidade e comportamento.
Viagens de negócios repentinas e frequentes ou trabalhar mais horas do que antes são sinais de alerta que talvez devesse investigar.
3. Esforçar-se mais pela sua aparência no trabalho.
Perfumes caros, ir regularmente ao ginásio, mudar de estilo, cortar o cabelo. If these things don’t sound like cheating at work, then I don’t know what does.
It’s not really about him doing these things but about this SUDDEN change in his behavior.
Why didn’t he put in extra effort to impress you? Why would he all of a sudden decide to look at his best and put so much effort into his appearance?
Men don’t do it for no reason. It’s evident that he wants to impress someone. That someone could be his colleague. Why would he want to impress her? Because he likes her.
4. Comparar o colega de trabalho consigo (subtil ou diretamente).
Here’s the thing. When we like someone, we subconsciously start comparing them with all the other people in our life. If he likes his colleague, chances are he’ll compare you with her in a direct or subtle way.
Por exemplo, se você se comportar de uma determinada maneira, ele dir-lhe-á que o seu colega se comportaria ou faria algo diferente (normalmente melhor do que você).
É evidente que ele vê a colega de trabalho como uma potencial parceira e, por isso, compara-a consigo. A mente dele está preocupada em analisar a sua personalidade e comportamento com os dela. He might be even convincing himself that he’s more compatible with his coworker than you.
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5. O carro dele transpira perfume feminino.
Have you ever paid attention to the perfume smell in his car when he returns home from work? If he’s doing something behind your back with his colleague, his car might reveal his sneaky nature.
If you notice any suspicious perfume smell in his car (and you know it’s not his or yours), then you have every right to suspect there is something going on between him and his colleague.
Perhaps he’s cheating you with a coworker or just offers to give her a ride home. If you don’t ask, you’ll never know for sure.
6. Evita falar dela.
One of the subtle signs that he might be into his female coworker is when he avoids mentioning her. Let’s say that he’s talking about every single one colleague in his company (including his boss) but he never mentions that one specific lady.
Como assim?
Maybe because he likes her and he knows that he couldn’t look you in the eye when mentioning her. He doesn’t want you to start suspecting something because his body language might tell you more than his words.
7. Nunca lhe pedir para o acompanhar a eventos de trabalho.
Alguma vez lhe pediu que o acompanhasse a uma festa do escritório ou a outros eventos relacionados com o trabalho em que é permitido levar a outra metade?
Se ele nunca o fez (e você sabe que ele teve oportunidade de o fazer), então este pode ser um dos sinais de que o marido gosta de uma colega de trabalho.
Obviously, he doesn’t want his female coworker (read: the object of his affection) to see him with you. Perhaps he told her that he’s single and he wants to keep it that way so that he can continue doing things behind your back.
8. Os outros colegas fazem piadas e gozam com ele por causa dela.
Já alguma vez ouviu os outros colegas dele a gozarem com ele ou a fazerem piadas sobre outra mulher? Essa mulher também pode ser colega dele.
Acredita em mim, os colegas de trabalho nunca gozam sem motivo.
Pensem neles como rapazes no liceu. Sempre que um rapaz gostava de uma determinada rapariga, gozavam com ele por isso. Sometimes this behavior continues even when they’re supposed to act mature.
Continuam a provocar os seus colegas do sexo masculino, especialmente quando se apercebem de alguns sinais de afeto de uma colega de trabalho em relação ao seu colega.
Por isso, se ouvir algo deste género ou se alguém lhe contar do escritório, tem todo o direito de começar a questionar os seus motivos.
9. Ele e o telemóvel tornaram-se inseparáveis (especialmente à noite).
Does he have that goofy smile every time he’s texting with someone on social media? Does he have lots of late-night phone calls?
Memorize este conselho sobre relacionamentos: Opposite sex friendships in a workplace are really rare. If he tells you that he’s texting his friends aka coworkers, ask him their names.
O facto de, de repente, ele ter uma colega de trabalho como melhor amiga no trabalho pode ser uma dessas amizades inadequadas enquanto casado. If that is the case with him, then it’s essential to establish limites em relação aos amigos quando casados.
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10. Apresenta um comportamento defensivo.
Ele fica na defensiva sempre que lhe pergunta sobre o seu comportamento estranho ou porque é que fica no trabalho até tão tarde? O comportamento defensivo é definitivamente um dos sinais de que um marido gosta de uma colega de trabalho.
Porque é que alguém ficaria na defensiva se sente que não tem nada a esconder de si? Pense nisso.
Sempre que começa a questionar o seu comportamento, ele sente-se ameaçado pelo facto de poder vir a descobrir a verdade. That is why he immediately starts defending himself. He’s doing that because he knows he’s guilty and his subconsciousness is eating away at him.
11. Acting differently when she’s around.
The easiest way to find out whether your partner has an affair with a coworker is by observing his behavior when she’s around him. If he likes her, he won’t be able to stop smiling when being in her vicinity.
Ele também se tornará mais consciente de si próprio na presença dela. He might even start fixing his appearance (his hair, tie, or shirt). He’ll do that because he’s focused on impressing her.
Pay attention to all those and similar things and you’ll notice any change in his behavior. If he’s acting differently around her, then you know she’s the reason for that.
12. Ele sabe muito sobre ela.
Se o seu marido sabe mais do que devia sobre a sua colega, isso também é um sinal de aviso.
Does he know her favorite food, the name of her pet, who her best friends are, or some personal info he normally shouldn’t know?
Knowing a lot about someone always means one thing: INTEREST. If he wasn’t interested in her, he would never bother remembering all those things about her, right?
When we like someone, we focus on absorbing as much details as possible about them. Maybe that’s exactly what he’s doing right now.
13. He’s neglecting you in every sense of the meaning.
Se um homem gostar de outra pessoa ou a estiver a trair, vai negligenciá-la em todos os sentidos do termo. Isto significa que ele deixará de iniciar o ato sexual e deixará de lhe dar atenção.
Quando um homem deixa de fazer coisas por si or stops expecting things from you, it means he’s giving and getting it back somewhere else.
This might also be followed by the following famous excuse: “I’m so tired lately.” Yes, maybe he’s “tired” of hanging out with his female colleague all the time. Right?
14. A sua casa já não é o lugar feliz dele.
If he’s evidently unhappy every time he comes back from work, it’s a clear sign that something’s not right. A sua casa deve ser o seu porto seguro e o seu lugar feliz.
If it is not, it could be that spending time with her outside work hours means more to him than spending time with his significant other – YOU.
15. He’s not that happy about the idea of you meeting her.
Have you ever thought about meeting this female colleague he can’t stop talking about? Se o fez e ele nunca ficou satisfeito com a sua ideia, então este é também um dos sinais de que o seu marido gosta de uma colega de trabalho.
He doesn’t want you to meet her because this would only mean one thing: You would figure out that he actually likes her more than just a friend or a colleague.
Because of that, he’ll keep making excuses why you can’t meet her. He will tell you that she’s sick or that he’s on vacation, or even that she got fired recently. Any excuse is better than telling the truth!
16. A visita ao seu local de trabalho é-lhe estritamente proibida.
His workplace is like his man cave. He’s so protective of it that he openly and literally forbids you to go there. Para mim, isto cheira-me a sinal de um caso no local de trabalho.
What if you need him in case of an emergency and he doesn’t answer your calls? Logically, you will visit his workplace to find him. Wait, you can’t do that because he doesn’t want you to go there.
Visiting his workplace shouldn’t be that much of a big deal for someone who has no secrets (or side chicks).
17. Doesn’t share work-related things with you any longer.
Pare por um minuto e tente recuar no tempo. No passado, ele partilhava consigo mais coisas relacionadas com o trabalho do que agora?
This could also be one of the signs your husband likes a coworker. He doesn’t want you to be updated on his work situation.
He doesn’t share anything with you because he’s scared that he might tell you something he shouldn’t. He’s scared that you might connect the dots and catch him out. So, he chooses to remain silent.
18. Woman’s traces in his belongings.
Quer saber como saber se o seu marido está a traí-la com um colega de trabalho? Basta prestar atenção a quaisquer vestígios de uma mulher nos seus pertences.
By this I mean things like lipstick on his collar, locks of hair on his clothes, his clothes being soaked in a woman’s perfume, and similar.
Traces of a woman in a man’s belongings are always a sign of a red alert. It means that he doesn’t only like this female but he’s actually spending time with her outside the workplace.
19. Nunca te apresenta a nenhum dos seus colegas.
Looking for more signs of a cheating husband at work? You don’t need to be a relationship expert to figure this one out. If someone doesn’t want to introduce you to his or her colleagues, then something’s fishy.
For every action, there is a reaction. For every suspicious behavior, there is a reason behind it. There’s a reason why he never introduces you to his colleagues.
Chances are high that it’s one of these two things:
• He likes his coworker.
• He’s already cheating on you with his coworker.
Ver também: 15 sinais da síndrome do marido infeliz (+ dicas para lidar com isso)
Quais são os sinais de um marido culpado?
Os sinais de um marido culpado incluem a transferência de culpas, o distanciamento, a falta de atenção e as queixas constantes.
Um marido culpado pode estar envolvido numa caso emocionalum caso físico, ou uma combinação dos dois. Aqui estão alguns indicadores sinais de culpa de um marido traidor:
1. Transferência de culpa.
If a man (or a woman) accuses you of cheating and you know you aren’t guilty, then chances are high they are THE ONES who are cheating on you.
Os batoteiros recorrem frequentemente a este método chamado transferência de culpa. Acusam-nos das coisas de que são culpados. They do this to justify their actions by creating an imaginary narrative that you’re the one being unfaithful.
Basicamente, estão a dizer-lhe: “You’re probably cheating on me and that’s why I feel no guilt of cheating on you as well.” Eles sabem que isso não é verdade, mas continuam a fazê-lo para se sentirem melhor consigo próprios e com as suas acções.
2. Atuar à distância.
If your husband is suddenly acting distant, it is a sure sign of his guilt. He can’t deal with the fact that he’s a legit cheater and he can’t look you in the eye.
He’s acting distant because your presence makes him feel guilty about what he’s doing behind your back. He knows he doesn’t deserve you and that’s why he refuses to be close to you.
It could also mean that he’s aware of the bad situation at work as well. Chron explica como a batota afecta o local de trabalho dizendo: “Extramarital cheating at work can disrupt workflow, lower morale, diminish productivity and damage reputations.”
Tanto em casa como no trabalho, sente-se nervoso e inquieto. A culpa está a penetrar em cada fibra do seu ser.
3. Dar-te demasiada atenção.
Sabia que o facto de lhe darem demasiada atenção de repente também pode ser um sinal de alerta? Fazer algo em excesso é sempre um sinal de que algo maior está a acontecer no fundo.
Your husband didn’t choose to suddenly become the best husband in the world overnight. Well, don’t get me wrong. Sometimes they do convert into the best husbands in the world but oftentimes it’s because they feel guilty about something.
Ele arrepende-se de a ter traído?? Is he paying you special attention because he’s actually feeling guilty about being a terrible husband?
That’s a lot to process but take your time to find out what the truth is.
4. Queixam-se constantemente de si.
Se o seu marido está constantemente a queixar-se de si, pode ser para justificar a sua traição. Quando uma pessoa se sente culpada por ter feito alguma coisa, também sente essa necessidade de a justificar.
Uma das formas de o fazer é fazendo-o sentir que há algo de errado consigo. If he’s complaining about every single little thing you do, he’s doing it to let you know that you’re not such a good partner.
In his head, he’s giving himself a green light to continue doing what he’s doing (read: cheating on you). How lame, right?
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TESTE-O: 3 coisas a fazer se suspeitar que o seu marido gosta de uma colega de trabalho
Todas as mulheres gostam de brincar aos detectives (especialmente quando se trata de infidelidade). Gostamos de seguir pistas e descodificar a sua linguagem corporal. Se suspeita que o seu marido gosta de uma colega de trabalho, aqui estão as melhores formas de o testar:
• Invite your “enemy” for dinner.
Yup. You read it right. I suggest that you invite your husband’s coworker for dinner only to see his reaction. De repente, ele parece confuso ou ameaçado?
If yes, then you know there’s probably a reason why he’s acting that way. Obviously, he can’t invite a colleague he likes for dinner in his own home to sit with his wife. Or can he?
• Say something insulting about her and watch his reaction.
Quando um homem gosta de uma mulher, torna-se sensível à sua reputação. Se alguém disser algo de mau sobre ela, ele entra imediatamente em modo defensivo. Por isso, pode usar isto a seu favor.
Pode dizer algo insultuoso sobre a colega de trabalho dele e esperar pela sua reação. Ele defende-a? If yes, he’s doing it because he cares about her. Every other husband would just nod at what his wife says about his coworker (only to avoid confrontation).
If a husband starts actively defending her, there’s probably something he’s not telling you about her.
• Suggest going on a double date.
I know this sounds creepy (the same level of creepiness as in inviting a coworker for a dinner), but it’s worth a try! Suggest to your husband that you should go on a double date with his coworker.
Isto significa que vocês os dois precisam de encontrar um par adequado para a colega de trabalho dele. Será que ele vai ficar contente com a ideia de a sua colega de trabalho estar com outra pessoa na sua presença? Caramba, isso vai doer!
Or, will he become determined to sabotage your idea of a double date with some pro excuses? Hmm…
• Try one of those spy apps.
Spy apps allow you to track your husband’s online and offline activities on a cell phone. They give you access to his call logs and text messages, so you’ll know for sure whether you’re lidar com um marido traidor ou não.
Aqui estão algumas das melhores aplicações gratuitas para experimentar: ClevGuard, Hoverwatch, uMobix. Brincar aos detectives nunca foi tão divertido, certo?
Ou podes sempre falar com ele!
If you’re not interested in looking for signs husband likes coworker or testing your husband but you want to directly confront him regarding your suspicions, then DO IT! Talk to him about it, and most importantly, pay attention to his body language.
A husband who knows that he’s guilty of something will start muttering, cross his arms, and be unable to look you in the eyes. If it turns out that he likes his coworker and is having an affair with her, then it’s time to do something about it.
Deve acabar com ele (leia-se: divorciar-se)? Ele deve procurar um novo emprego?
I’m not here to tell you what you should (or shouldn’t) do if you find out that your husband is cheating on you. Every situation is unique. In my personal opinion, a woman should never tolerate a man who is cheating on her.
Here’s one more opinion: A woman should never tolerate a man who is cheating on her if he doesn’t show serious signs of remorse.
Um homem que não está interessado em ficar consigo não sentirá a necessidade de a compensar pelos seus erros. Esse homem não é digno de estar consigo. Ponto final.
