Keeping the attraction alive is definitely one of the most difficult tasks in every relationship.
One moment you are crazily attracted to each other and the next you feel like something’s not quite right.
But before diving deeper into it, you need to understand that attraction is not only concerned with the physical aspect.
As a matter of fact, it is much more complex than you might have thought!
You see, when a relationship lacks reciprocal attraction, it means there is no positive dynamic, which includes arguing, supporting each other, playfulness, humor, a healthy dose of jealousy and so on.
And this doesn’t mean that your partner doesn’t love you anymore.
It means that you need to work harder on your relationship to increase the levels of attraction and once you succeed in it, every single aspect mentioned above will come into place.
If you suspect that this might be the case with you (and to help you realize it in time), here are 10 signs he loves you but is no longer attracted to you!
Sex feels like a chore
One of the biggest indicators that he is no longer attracted to you is when sex all of a sudden feels more like a chore than pleasure.
This is one of the reasons why it will become less and less intense.
Spicing things up in the bedroom is something that both partners need to pay attention to.
After all, if there are no mutual efforts, there will be no mutual attraction!
He stops being jealous
Jealousy in a relationship is most often linked with negativity but the truth is that a certain amount of jealousy is actually desirable in every relationship.
If someone is flirting with you, a normal reaction of his would be jealousy but if he’s no longer attracted to you, he will not exhibit a single sign of being jealous because his feelings are not as strong for you as before.
So, if he stops being jealous, the chances are that his levels of attraction toward you have somehow decreased.
He doesn’t hug you as frequently
When one of the partners stops being attracted to the other, you simply can’t fake it.
When you feel deep attraction toward your partner, you have the urge to be close to them and to hug them all the time.
Hugging is linked with a deep emotional connection and a healthy bond in a relationship.
So, if your guy is hugging you less frequently than before, this might mean that the attraction in your relationship needs some fixing.
You argue less
Arguing from time to time (especially over some trivial things) is healthy for every relationship.
Arguing, accepting your partner’s mindset, forgiving and apologizing all help you bond on a deeper level with each other.
If you initiate an argument and let your partner know that you don’t agree on something but still he refuses to talk about it, it means he’s not really as interested in your relationship as he used to be before.
He is no longer playful
Teasing each other and being playful is a sign of strong attraction and when disrupted it can cause serious problems to your relationship.
If your partner is no longer making an effort to be playful with you, it means he is no longer attracted to you.
And if he tries to initiate it and you no longer feel like it is coming naturally to him, it means that he’s just forcing it.
He doesn’t support you
He no longer finds the time to listen to you and support your decisions.
All he ever does is nod a few times to let you know that he is ‘listening’ or gives you eye-rolling disapproval.
Once the attraction is gone, the quality aspects of your relationship are gone as well and that is why he no longer bothers to support you.
He subconsciously turns himself off and focuses his attention on other things instead of you.
You feel like something’s wrong
If you feel like something’s wrong and your gut is saying it to you, then you can be sure that something needs changing.
Your intuition is the most powerful tool when it comes to ‘scanning’ your relationship.
What you feel inside you is a reflection of what is actually going on in your relationship, so you should always pay attention to it.
He’s no longer romantic
He used to surprise you with romantic dinners, with scented candles, a bouquet of beautiful flowers or leaving you a note in bed before going to work.
But now he simply doesn’t do any of this and you have no idea why.
Before accusing yourself of something, know that it is not your fault.
He’s no longer romantic (or he no longer tries to be romantic) because the attraction is not as strong in him as before, which has nothing to do with his love toward you.
You’re more like friends than lovers
Do you feel like your relationship has turned into being friends more than lovers?
Do you feel like there is no fiery passion and all you do is Netflix and chill or nothing at all?
You don’t spend that much time together but when you do it feels more like spending time with your best friend than a lover.
If this sounds familiar to you, I’m sorry to tell you that your relationship might have an attraction problem.
He’s calling and texting you less
When you’re no longer that excited about someone, you tend to call and text them less.
If you can’t remember when the last time was he called or texted you first, it means he’s no longer excited about hearing your voice or staying in touch with you.
He’s more focused on himself because of the lack of attraction toward you but once you get to the core of the problem and start working on it together, things will come into place sooner than you might think!
