Being in a relationship requires constant changes and innovations if you want to preserve that fiery passion and freshness between the sheets. And especially if you’ve been in a relationship for a long time, everything you’ve been doing so far has probably become routine.
How can you know if you’re stuck in a routine?
Are you doing the same things all over again? Do you have some imaginary scenario in your head when it comes to lovemaking? Are you able to predict your partner’s moves and actions?
If the answers are yes, you might be stuck in a routine which is a huge red flag when it comes to relationships. You see, a relationship is like a flower. If you don’t water it, it will wither. But if you water it too much, it will also wither.
It is of the utmost importance to find the perfect balance. While it is not good to stick to your routine, it is also not good to experiment too much with new things. The key is in finding the balance between the two.
And you’ll manage to reach the balance if you gradually add some new things that will spice things up when it comes to making love with your boyfriend.
Men are visual creatures
There’s one thing that you need to understand when it comes to men and that is that men are visual creatures and the sooner you accept it, the better. It is important to know this because you can use it to your advantage when it comes to sex.
This comprehension will reduce your time spent contemplating new things to try in bed with your boyfriend. So, if you don’t have time to organize something the way you would want to, you can always buy a sexy outfit that will get him hot.
Just pay attention to the visuals and you’ll be halfway to the moment of your sex life reaching its climax. There are so many choices out there for women that can make a significant difference when it comes to their sex life.
Even the type of lotion you’re using can change things in bed. If your skin smells of certain exotic ingredients and is really smooth, he will be mesmerized by it and it will feel like you’re making love for the first time.
Remember that it is all about the details and the more you pay attention to them, the more you will improve things in bed.
15 new things to try in bed with your boyfriend
1. Slowly seduce him
Tell him that his moves are driving you crazy and you can’t get enough of his touches. Whisper into his ear softly whatever provocative things come to your mind. Slowly undress yourself and then retreat.
Make him beg you for more and don’t give it to him until he’s deserved it. Treat him like your puppy. Give him everything step by step combined in short and long intervals and you’ll create a passion that will burn you up.
Seduction is all about being gentle, patient and finding the balance. You don’t want to give him too much of you or too less. You want to give him a little bit of you and make him beg for more.
2. Wear a seductive outfit
There are tons of seductive, hot outfits out there and if you still haven’t thought about wearing one, now is the time. Consider buying that hot lingerie you’ve been looking at every single time you’ve passed it (and for some reason didn’t buy it).
Most of the time, women wear sexy outfits only in the first months of dating and then get too cozy and chill about it. Wearing regular panties becomes routine and that is when the passion silently begins to expire.
Buying something new and sexy will take your passion to another level and it will free the beast in you and your partner. So, never underestimate the power of a seductive outfit because it is something extremely powerful and desirable in every single relationship.
3. Surprise him by not wearing anything around the house
Imagine his facial expression when he comes home from work and sees you naked preparing lunch or doing something around the house. Unlike wearing a seductive outfit, not wearing anything is a cheaper version that can have the same effect.
As I already said, men are visual creatures and if you succeed in surprising him and making him lose his head over what he sees, congratulations, you’ve just won the game and taken your relationship to another level.
Men are also creatures who are dying to see a woman’s skin. And if you serve him this amount of nakedness, he will have to try hard to chill out so as not to have a heart attack.
And when he comes to his senses, I can assure you that you’ll remember that day very well and you’ll thank God that you decided to discard all of your clothes.
4. Try out the charms of lube
A little bit of lube can completely alter the experience of sex. It will increase your sensitivity and give you unforgettable pleasure. And it will also protect condoms from eventual splitting.
Lube is mostly underrated when it comes to new things to try in bed with your boyfriend but once you discover the beauty of it, you will be utterly grateful.
5. Use light bondage
If you want to really spice things up, consider tying your partner to the bed. This is one of the most popular fantasies among men and it is a sure way to heat things up between the sheets.
There’s no need for you to go and buy the full equipment (chains, whips and similar). Just a piece of cloth that you can use for bondage or handcuffs would be enough. When you tie your man, you will be in control of everything that happens in the bedroom, which is fun and sexy as hell at the same time.
However, if you don’t feel that comfortable using bondage, try some other things from the list because you should never force yourself to do things you’re not comfortable with just to restore the passion between you and your partner.
6. Learn new positions from the Kama Sutra
As you probably already know, the Kama Sutra is the book offering you tons of new things and tips that will help you spice up your sex life. It has hundreds of new sexual positions that will open your eyes and bring an instant change to your bedroom.
If you’ve ever wondered about the meaning of its title, ‘Kama Sutra’ means the ‘Rule Book Of Kama’ and now you’re probably wondering what ‘Kama’ means. Well, ‘Kama’ refers to the sensual part of life, consisting of physical and emotional pleasure.
So, basically, the Kama Sutra encompasses everything that you need to rebuild the passion from scratch. It is an in-depth guide to improving your sexual potential and creating a firm physical and emotional bond with your boyfriend.
7. Give him a full body massage
There’s nothing more sensual than massaging your partner’s body. Giving him a full body massage is a win-win situation for the both of you. Start massaging him from head to toe and he will most probably do the same for you.
This way, you will connect on a deeper spiritual level, which is the main ingredient of reviving the passion and true bond between partners. You can use some essential oils to make it even more sensual and enjoying.
Your boyfriend and you will feel like you’re lying on the clouds and great sex afterward is guaranteed. You will both replenish your sexual and emotional sides at the same time. And I can assure you that you’ll never forget these joyful moments for as long as you live.
8. Do a sexy striptease
Another awesome way to revive the passion between the two of you is to turn on the music and do some sexy striptease for your guy. This will turn him on within seconds because he’s probably not used to seeing you in that sexy, provocative number.
Don’t let the shame or fear of failure discourage you. You don’t need to dance like a professional and you don’t even need to know how to dance at all. Just make sure that you’re moving your body in a sensual way and this will be enough.
To spice things up, dance in his lap and forbid him from touching for the time being. And when you’ve finished, both of you will be ready to tear off all of your clothes and enjoy ‘devouring’ each other.
9. Spice up your foreplay
You should never underestimate the importance of good foreplay. Jumping straight to sex is something that should be avoided at all costs if you want to preserve the romance and lust in your relationship.
Make sure to tease him a little bit, take his hand and touch yourself with it, touch him sensually and give him a good blowjob. Also, you can expect the same from your partner because I’m sure that he will want to reciprocate.
To spice things up even more, try including some food in your foreplay as well (whipped cream or something else sweet), which will level up your experience and bring you bountiful amounts of pleasure.
Disguising yourself or simply behaving like someone else sounds really exciting. Roleplaying is something that every couple should try at least once. It is the perfect situation to be someone you’ve always wanted to be but didn’t have the chance yet.
It will fulfill your deepest fantasies as well as the fantasies of your partner. And you’re free to go with the flow and improvise with your own scenario which is extremely fun. You can choose to be a sexy nurse and he can play a hot doctor or something else similar to this.
You’re free to decide which role you’ll be playing and the most important thing is that you both agreed to it. Don’t force something if your partner is not really happy with it. Your best bet is to always compromise when it comes to situations like this.
11. Discover the power of a vibrator
A vibrator is not only a woman’s toy, like many people would think. You can actually have fun in many ways, including both you and your boyfriend, if you only give this magic discovery called a vibrator a chance.
He can use it on you to intensify your orgasm and you can use it on him by placing it against his scrotum while you’re giving him a blowjob. You cannot even imagine how much he will enjoy this.
Think of a vibrator as a multi-tool that is not only for one type of use or for one person. Experiment with it and place the vibrator wherever you think it would be convenient. That way, you’ll learn some new ways and ideas on how to intensify your sexual acts and orgasms as well.
12. Watch porn with him
We all know that porn is mostly associated with guys but people forget that women watch porn, too. Maybe not that frequently but they certainly do.
So, why wouldn’t you join your partner to watch it together instead of watching it separately (in secret)? Watching porn together will actually bond you and there’s not a single reason why you shouldn’t watch it with your boyfriend.
You can choose what you’re going to watch and surprise your boyfriend with your choice or you can let your boyfriend choose instead.
And when you decide which it’s gonna be, simply lie back and relax. I’m sure you already know the rest so there’s no need to go into details (if you know what I mean).
13. Release your vocal cords
Many women fear releasing those vocal cords while having sex with their partner. Perhaps because they don’t feel comfortable doing it or they fear what their partner would think of it.
But the only truth is that men find it HOT as hell. So, don’t be so hard on yourself by suppressing your emotions while having sex with him. Feel free to release your vocal cords and enjoy every single second of the action.
It is something that will significantly spice up everything you’ve been doing so far in your bedroom. By including some sounds while making love, you are letting your partner know that you’re enjoying it. And there’s nothing sexier than this.
14. Show your dominant side
Being dominant is a trait that is most often associated with men because they are the ones who are supposed to be rough and tough in life and sex life as well. But this doesn’t have to be so.
Showing your dominant side to your partner will create another dimension when it comes to lovemaking. It is actually almost every man’s dream to make love to a dominant woman who will show him who’s the boss.
You can spice things up by wearing some black leather like a short dress, you can equip yourself with a whip and some heavy make-up that will make you look badass. When he sees you, I can assure you that everything will escalate quickly before you even realize it.
15. Use honey dust
If you’re not familiar with it, honey dust is an edible powder that you can put on your partner’s body and enjoy licking it off. It is a great alternative to essential oils and whipped cream because it’s not that messy.
Honey dust is a really sensual tool that you can use to spice up your foreplay, which will make you burn with passion. Another thing that you can consider using as well is a feather tickler, which is a device that you can use to gently tickle your partner’s body and you can be sure that it will improve their sensitivity and pleasure.
There is much more advice that you can use to enhance your bedroom performance and revive the passion and you should never be ashamed of trying it.
Always be open to new things because, after all, that is the key to improving everything. You can never be able to improve something if you’re not willing to adapt to new situations and compromise with your partner.
And remember to stay patient because passion is something that requires time and effort. You cannot simply decide that from tomorrow you’ll change things without supporting your words with actions.
So, be patient, make an effort and, most importantly, don’t forget to enjoy every single second spent with your boyfriend.
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