Ever since you’ve broken things off with this guy, all you wish for is to get over him completely and to move on with your life once and for all. But somehow, that isn’t happening and you don’t know why.
Have you ever thought that the real reason you can’t seem to get over this guy is that you are the one keeping yourself from moving on? Sometimes it’s the apparently little things which keep us hooked on someone but those are usually the things you need to do (or stop doing) before you expect to get over him.
You won’t get over him until you stop checking his social network accounts. It won’t happen until you stop checking when the last time he was online, what kind of pictures he posted and who he followed. It won’t happen until you stop posting pictures and Instagram stories of yourself looking great, hoping that he will see them and trying to convince yourself that you are doing it only so he can see what he’s lost, when you secretly hope they’ll make him call you.
You won’t get over him until you stop obsessing over this guy. You won’t move on with your life as long as you pass by his street just to see if the lights in his apartment are on, if you deliberately show up to places where you could meet him and as long as you go out hoping you’ll see him. I am not saying you should avoid some places just because of this guy but you shouldn’t do your best to accidentally run into him either.
You won’t get over him as long as you are interested in who he has been seeing and dating and as long as you are interested in anything that has to do with him. It won’t happen unless you stop comparing yourself to his new girlfriend, asking your friends if she looks better than you.
You won’t get over him as long as you wait for your birthday or some other important date in your life, not for yourself but because you hope he’ll call you. It won’t happen as long as you are looking for excuses to contact him in any way.
You won’t get over him as long as you hang out with his friends and family. I understand that with time all of these people have probably become a part of your life as well but it is one thing if you’ve stayed in touch with them because you don’t want to lose them and it is something completely different if you hang out with them just so you can gather information regarding your ex or because you hope they will talk to him about you.
You won’t get over him as long as you keep everything that reminds you of him, as long as your room is filled with pictures of you two and as long as you go to sleep every night wearing his T-shirt. It won’t happen as long as you aren’t taking off the necklace he bought you and as long as you keep playing all those songs that remind you of him. I am not saying you should get rid of all the things that remind you of him but maybe it wouldn’t be such a bad idea to at least put them all away until this mourning phase passes.
You won’t get over this guy as long as you keep bringing his name up in every possible conversation with just about anyone. I know a lot of things and people remind you of him and that you simply have the need to share your emotions and thoughts with people but by doing this, you are only keeping him alive in your head. Constantly talking about how much you miss him or even how much you hate him won’t do you any good—it just creates the illusion in your head that this guy is still in your life.
You are never going to get over him as long as you keep behaving in this manner, as long as there is hope that he’ll come back and as long as you keep holding on to this guy.
So please make a difference in your life and let go of all these things and let go of him because you are the only one who can do it.