If a guy or a girl calls you bro—that’s something special. It’s a connection that can’t be broken. It’s a bronnection that doesn’t have any limits.
Guys call each other bro because they really mean it. They really feel the deep connection between each other like they are brothers and most importantly, best friends.
And they act that way. Of course, they won’t call every guy they meet in the street bro, no, because saying bro has a deeper meaning—it’s reserved for close friends only.
Although there is an exception to the rule. Sometimes co-workers call each other bro and not because they are so close but because they see each other every day, so bro calling becomes a thing which occurs in the work environment often. In the office, you are all connected and you all have the same or similar problems, so it’s easy to understand each other.
But if you look on a deeper level when someone calls you bro, it’s more like a sacred bond between two men who feel like they were supposed to be brothers but unfortunately, they are not.
A short history of the word bro
The word bro sneaked into the English language in the 1660s, solely as an abbreviation of the word ‘brother’.
The same goes for ‘sis’, abbreviated from the word ‘sister’. Back then, the meaning of the word bro was restricted to a sibling but slowly in the 1970s, bro began to mean something completely different.
Bro shifted from a sibling to a male friend. By the end of the century, bro earned more meanings.
A man was known otherwise as bro or brah, or bruh which became a synonym for a young guy, the real masculine type who was partying and having a good time almost all the time. (I bet I know what you’re thinking if he calls you bro now, lol).
But you don’t have to worry because calling someone bro has become a universal name for people you like, respect and love—people who mean a great deal to you.
Okay, now that we’ve established the origins of the word bro and why men call each other bro, let’s move on to the big question—why do girls call men bro?
This is so confusing because when you look at it, you have no idea whether she is friendzoning you or she likes you and wants to get your attention.
It’s not weird that you get confused after you have been called that because in most cases, you have a crush on that girl and her using ‘dude’, bro or even brother can really sting and you can feel like you’ve just been bro-zoned.
It’s entirely possible that a girl calls you bro because she calls all her friends that, it’s just what she calls people she likes but in most cases, her calling you bro has a different meaning or she just doesn’t like you and sees you as nothing but a friend, a bro if you will.
Take this from a girl and find out why she calls you bro.
1. She does it to everyone
If you see that you are not the only one who she calls bro or ‘dude’, then you can definitely be sure that she is not trying to bro-zone you.
What’s even better is that you can be sure that she likes you because you wouldn’t call someone that if you didn’t like them.
It may not be a big deal but it sure is better than being just a friend. From this point on, try to push your relationship in the direction you want it to go and that’s taking her out on a date to see where it goes.
Maybe that bro turns into something more personal.
Verdict: Possible attention-seeking
2. She trusts you
Calling you bro means she is comfortable with you. She wants to talk to you and tell you her problems because she really thinks you can help her.
She needs a shoulder to cry on and she doesn’t have a boyfriend, ergo The Bro is the best choice she has to spill her heart out to.
I’m sorry to say this but this is all screaming the friendzone.
If this bothers you, you should be honest and tell her that you don’t want her to call you that but you have to know that she’ll probably take it the wrong way and get angry and she won’t talk to you for days.
She may even realize that you like her and cease any contact with you because she is scared of what she has done.
You have to realize that doing this can be extremely risky because you could chase her out of your life forever.
Verdict: Definitely friendzoning
3. She hides something from you
She definitely wants to hide her feelings for you. The thing is that she probably likes you but is afraid to do something about it and as long as things are platonic, she feels safe.
Maybe she thinks that you will reject her because you don’t like her or maybe she is just scared of rejection in general because she has had a bad experience in the past.
So, to make things not so suspicious, she calls you bro. It’s always wise to try to read her body language because these signs never lie, so it’s best to check them before you do anything about it.
Remember, there is always a risk that you’ve misinterpreted her behavior and that it turns out she doesn’t like you in that way. Then your friendship is over.
4. She backs down
Okay, this one is pretty obvious. She really doesn’t want to have that kind of relationship with you. You can get that from the way she acts around you.
If she’s just like one of the guys, if she answers your texts with short messages, taps you on the shoulder, talks to you about the guys she likes, then I’m really sorry but you’ll have to find another crush, bro, because you’ve been heavily bro-zoned.
Don’t even try to think about having a romantic relationship with her because she is far from interested. If your feelings for her are too much, the best thing to do is tell her how you feel before you stop seeing her.
Make sure she knows why you can’t hang out with her anymore because it would be unfair to leave her hanging just because she doesn’t feel the same way about you as you feel about her.
Verdict: Definitely friendzoned
5. She is unsure
She is scared to fall in love with you. Maybe you are the hottest guy she has ever seen and she feels she doesn’t deserve you—that exists, you know?
Maybe her self-esteem is not that high, maybe she has stumbled upon jerks and fuckboys in her past and she doesn’t want to make the same mistake twice.
Be careful with the vibes you send out because she might take them the wrong way.
Don’t come off as too strong toward her if you see that she has some unresolved issues, if she is unsure of the whole situation.
This is probably why she calls you dude and spends a lot of time with you but doesn’t have a boyfriend. This is why she texts you in the middle of the night with the excuse of being bored.
She feels safe to text you and talk to you over the phone but when you’re together she calls you bro and acts like you are nothing more than just friends.
Verdict: Secret attention-seeking
6. She has different feelings for you
The common usage of the word bro is getting bigger and bigger. Everyone calls each other bro these days. But, when a girl calls you bro, I get it.
It leaves you confused and it gets you thinking. As I’ve said before, there are a few reasons why she does that and each of them has a perfectly good explanation.
I’m sad to say, one of those explanations is that she really loves you, she cares for you, but in a way you don’t want her to act.
She truly sees you as a brother. Maybe she never had a brother and you’re the closest thing to one she’s ever had.
In these situations, forget about any kind of a relationship, except the friendly one. That love cannot be undone nor it can be transferred into something else.
Verdict: Definitely friendzoning
7. She’s interested in someone else
This girl is suspiciously spending a lot of time with you. On one hand, any guy would think that the girl is interested in him. Any guy would think she wants something more than just being friends.
However, on the other hand, her calling you bro leaves you confused because conventionally, that is not the usual nickname you give to someone you like.
In this case, it’s a possibility she is hanging out with you because she likes someone else, someone close to you.
Pay attention to her behavior and if she insists on hanging out with your friends or one friend in particular.
If that’s the case, don’t get your hopes up because she’s not interested in you.
Verdict: Definitely friendzoning with a hidden agenda
Look at these signs carefully because you could always be wrong. But before you do anything, think about the fact that you can lose her if you decide to take a risk and go for it. Is your relationship with a girl who calls you bro worth fighting for?