If You Date A Girl Who Is Used To Being On Her Own, These 17 Things Will Happen
1. She’ll act awkward, but she’s not
She’s just unsure. She’ll just act awkward, and she won’t be able to decide anything. She’s been alone for a long time, and letting a person into her life is not so easy as you might think. Letting you into her life is going to be such a challenge because she is used to doing everything on her own. She has built a life without you, and she can’t let you be a part of it right away.
2. She’ll do things without telling you
She is the girl who’ll do whatever the hell she wants. She won’t consult with you, nor she will ask for your permission. She is used to being on her own, and she does things she wants without asking anybody for their opinion.
3. Her communication will be terrible
She is not used to texting while she works. She won’t answer your calls right away because she doesn’t feel the need to answer to anyone. She’s been alone for such a long time. Her communication skills are not that good. She will have to go back and take one step at a time.
4. She’ll take things slowly
She won’t rush into a relationship because of all the attention she’s getting. It’s just too much for her. She is not used to being the girl someone is interested in.
5. She will avoid arguments
She doesn’t want to fight with you. Arguing and fighting is emotionally exhausting for everyone, especially someone who’s been out of the game for quite some time. If you want to discuss something with her, don’t attack her right away. Go easy on her, and talk things out in a polite and calm manner.
6. Her friends will keep an eye on her
They will be overprotective because she’s been alone for a long time. They will be scared for her well-being because she’s naive, and she trusts everyone. They don’t want you to play and manipulate her.
7. She’ll demand her personal space
She has let you in her life, but she doesn’t want to become a part of you. She wants to keep her privacy, and she wants to keep on maintaining her time alone. She needs her space to just be left alone with herself because that is the state in which she feels most safe in.
8. She’ll do everything by herself
She won’t let you do things for her. Her independence is very important to her, and she won’t risk letting you take it away. She’s used to taking care of herself, and she simply can’t give herself up to someone else.
9. She’ll be stubborn as hell
She won’t take your opinions so easily. She is used to listening to herself and doing things that she sees right. She is just getting used to the idea that she’s not alone anymore. So, don’t force her to ask for help because for now, she doesn’t need it.
10. She’ll pull away
Don’t look at this the wrong way. She is not pulling back because she doesn’t like you. It’s exactly the opposite. She is pulling back because she likes you, and she’s scared. She’ll need some time to adjust to the new feelings consuming her.
11. She will be a lot of work
She’ll always tell you that she has everything under control. She’ll tell you not to worry about a thing, that she’ll take care of it. You’ll never date a more difficult girl than her. She is independent and stubborn. She will try to get herself out of any possible situation without anyone’s help. It will take a lot of time for her to adjust to you and her new life. She is a challenge but a challenge worth taking.
12. She’ll doubt you
She’ll ask a lot of questions. Some of them are going to be obvious, and some of them are going to be under the radar. Anyway, you’ll know every time she doubts you. She just cannot believe that you are a real person. She cannot believe that she actually found someone who suits her.
13. She’ll think she doesn’t need you
She thinks that she can do everything by herself, and she doesn’t need anyone’s help, physical or emotional. She says she doesn’t need you, but what really happens is that she is scared she’ll have to need you. She doesn’t want to get herself to that situation. That’s why she is closed, and it will take a lot of time to get through her.
14. She’ll appear too strong for you
She only looks like that. That looks intimidating, and a lot of men don’t even want to try to get to women like that. But don’t be scared. She just looks like that because she is used to being on her own. She has to appear as a badass because she has had no one to help her when times got rough. She depends solely on herself.
15. She refuses to be vulnerable
Most of us have that fear of opening up to someone, to letting them in and showing our deepest emotions. Well, she has that problem as well. She simply doesn’t want you to see her vulnerable side, especially because she has kept her life to herself for such a long time and it’s not easy to let someone in all of a sudden.
16. She’ll tell you she doesn’t believe in love
She is telling you that because she is trying to make herself believe that’s true. Getting attached to someone is a new and strange feeling for her. She keeps saying she doesn’t believe in love just in case you leave her, so she doesn’t feel pain because according to her, nothing was ever real.
17. Being alone is her thing
She is used to spending her time all alone. It’s the place where she feels the safest in. Although she claims she doesn’t need you or that she doesn’t believe in love, she’ll fall in love with you in a heartbeat, but she’ll hide it from you. Her love won’t be obvious and all present, but her love is going to be true and genuine.
Her love is what you need and what you’ve been looking for. Because even if it doesn’t last, it will change you forever.
Hi everyone!! I’m Maria, but all of my friends call me Mare (meaning the sea in Italian). I was born and raised by the sea in a small town in the Mediterranean. I’m an “accidental” writer and a passionate singer. Alongside with being a mom, I spend my free time doing gigs which my friends never miss. I think that family and friends are the most valuable thing you can have in your life. That is what I see every day when I look at my son and the loving people around me. Would you like to join my little group and become my friend, too?