If he’s acting distant, don’t chase him. That plan won’t work because he’ll only feel more important.
He’ll see that you let him behave the way he wants and that won’t change anything.
He’ll see that you care about him and that you don’t want to lose him.
For as long as he sees that, he’ll keep on messing with you because he knows he can.
He can do whatever he wants and you’ll come back to him.
Change that approach! Screw with his head a little bit because he is sure messing with yours.
He is taking advantage of your love and you’re buying it. It’s time for you to change your game. Become more like him. Let him have a taste of his own medicine. You’ll see how things will work differently.
Usually men distance themselves because they want some space. They have issues they have to solve and by chasing them, you’ll only make things worse. If he wants space, let him have it.
Leave him alone and don’t bother calling him or asking where he’s been.
I know it’s hard to pretend you’re totally cold-blooded, but it’s a win-win situation.
Why? Because if you give him some space, there are two possible scenarios that can happen.
The first one is, he will solve by himself whatever was bothering him and he will come back.
And the second one is, he’ll see that you’re ignoring him and if he cares about you even a bit, he won’t be able to take it, so he’ll chase you.
You see, you can’t lose in this situation. You just have to play it smart.
I’m not saying you should play mind games and use him. You should just teach him a lesson and show him what you’ll tolerate and what not.
The one mistake you should never make?
It’s so natural that you feel abandoned and hurt if he wants some space, if he wants to get away from you.
You’ll feel rejected and who wants that in a relationship? A lot of women make this mistake because their instinct kicks in.
You’ve hurt me and now I want revenge. If you really want him to come back to you, don’t try to punish him for asking some space, don’t try to get even with him because you’ll push him away.
How to make him miss you after you distanced yourself?
Take your time
Don’t get ahead of yourself because you might do something reckless, something you’ll regret later on. Try to be alone for a while and let the passion withdraw.
Take some time to feel hurt. Absorb your pain and let it go away. After it’s gone, you can make plans on how to let him know he needs you and can’t live without you.
Let him go
If he needs space, give him space. You basically have to stop caring about him.
Of course, you’re not be able to do that, but you can pretend you’ve lost interest. Pretend that you are not so into him anymore.
Show him that if he doesn’t care and if he is doing this on purpose just to see what your reaction will be, he will see that you’re indifferent.
And if he really needs space to sort things out, do this anyway because it will show him that you listened and you left him alone to deal with whatever is bothering him.
Don’t post everything on your social media
Social media can be one of your strongest weapons. What you should never do is to post heartbreaking songs and status updates.
Don’t do that because it will make you look needy and clingy. You don’t want him to see you as a loser but as a fighter.
You can post photos with other men, but that is also not a right way to go.
It will provoke unhealthy jealousy and to be honest, these manipulation methods are not that healthy whatever the situation is.
If you want to post something, post your night out with friends. Post a selfie with a beautiful smile.
Keep your wall positive because after all, after your plan is f+done, you’re going to feel like it.
Show him that you’re not devastated and that your life moves on even when he is not in it.
This move of yours will touch him and provoke those feelings you want him to feel.
He’ll miss you and he’ll realize what a stupid mistake he has made.
Spend more time with your friends
Go out with your friends. Simply enjoy yourself and try not to think about him. Try to erase him from your memory to take the pressure off.
Relax and forget about him for a few hours. You should go and have a couple of drinks.
Go to a concert—you should go wild. Show him you can have fun and enjoy life without him.
He’s not the center of your universe (at least he shouldn’t be) and you have to make him aware of that.
Get your act together when you bump into him
You have to be aware that you can’t plan when you’ll see him—and you definitely will.
Prepare yourself for seeing him probably when you’re at your worst. Like coming home in the morning from a wild party still hungover or with your glasses on and greasy hair tied up in a messy bun (not the good messy, but bad messy).
Get your act together. Don’t panic. Act cool about it. Don’t panic because you look like shit, but try to show him that you don’t give a damn how you look and that you can rock every look possible because let’s face it, you would look amazing wearing a garbage bag.
Act friendly and show him that you’re glad you bumped into him because you haven’t seen him in a while.
Just stay cool and altogether. Chat a bit with him and ask him how he’s been?
Don’t let his presence affect you because he’ll see it and then you achieved nothing.
