What is love anyway?
All human beings need love. For some, love means friends and family, while for others, it is a romantic relationship.
Is it really that hard to find true love?
No, it isn’t. But it all depends on what you are looking for and what you expect from love. If you have unrealistic expectations or all your relationships end the same, it indicates that there is a problem, either with you or your partner.
Read on to learn more about the main problems that lead to relationship failure, as well as the obvious signs you will never find love.
20 Obvious Signs You Will Never Find Love
Do you have any theories as to why you are still single? Here are 20 telltale signs that you will never embark on the journey of love.
1. Love is not on your list of priorities
This is unquestionably the first sign that true love will never come knocking on your door.
Why? Well, most likely because you don’t care about it.
Love is at the bottom of your priority list; in fact, it is not there at all. Your priorities right now are probably your loved ones, i.e., family and friends, or perhaps your career.
This doesn’t make you less important or indicate that something is wrong with you. Quite the contrary. You’re at a point in your life where you want to build and improve yourself, regardless of whether or not you’re in love.
That does not mean you will not change the course of your life in the future. Perhaps it will lead you on a romantic journey.
However, romantic relationships do not fit into your busy schedule at the moment.
2. Your expectations are greater than reality
I am not a relationship expert, but I believe that people often find themselves disappointed in life because of unrealistic expectations. Of course, it is important to have some principles in life because they help develop our self-confidence.
But what if you have too high standards in a relationship? Have you ever thought about this?
Unrealistic expectations are also an obvious sign you will never find love.
No relationship is perfect, and it requires a lot of time and effort. If you really want to connect with someone, you need to be open to change, accept your partner’s differences, and be understanding.
However, if you still do not see yourself in it or do not think you can handle that no one is perfect, you should avoid it because love is not for you.
3. Unhealed wounds
The past is one of the possible reasons you cannot find true love.
Zillions of failed first dates and past relationships cannot be easily forgotten, no matter how hard you try, can they?
You probably believe that your next relationship will end in heartbreak, and you do not want to trust anyone. As long as you have this attitude towards new loves, you will never find the right one.
It is difficult to try something new when we are disappointed in a relationship. That is why, despite their best efforts, a large number of people end up single.
But if deep down you feel like you need someone, and your past is holding you back, remember this quote:
“We are products of our past, but we don’t have to be prisoners of it.” ― Rick Warren
4. When times get tough, you are your own hero
You will never find love if you are used to being single and trusting no one.
We are all our own heroes sometimes because no one knows us better than ourselves. But why do you keep your feelings hidden from others?
Maybe there is someone out there just waiting to be there for you when things get tough, so you do not have to go through it all alone.
Your new relationship can be your hero.
But only if you let it.
5. Fear of commitment
Long-lasting relationships are just not your cup of tea.
Fear of commitment is also one of the signs you will never find love.
As I previously explained, it can be the result of a failed relationship, but it can also be your personal perception of love.
If you prefer the one-night-stand kind of love over long-term relationships, it is very likely that any attempt to find true love will fail.
6. Potential partners find you intimidating
Your approach might scare off potential partners.
I am not referring to your appearance but your body language, which sometimes speaks louder than words. It is a red flag that others will find you intimidating.
This is a clear sign that you will not find “the one” unless you change your attitude and get rid of the negative vibes.
7. You are chasing after the wrong person
One of the signs you will never find love is that you force things in life, especially in relationships.
It just does not work that way. You cannot force someone to love you if they are not interested in you.
On the other hand, what are the chances of you getting into a new relationship if someone takes advantage of your kindness and then breaks up with you? If you ask me, zero to none.
Think about who your potential future partner might be. Because if you spend your whole life chasing the wrong person, the love of your life will pass you by.
8. You are too picky
We all have fantasies about what our ideal romantic partner would be like. But, dreams are one thing, and reality is quite another.
You should never belittle yourself by being in a relationship with someone who doesn’t deserve you. However, there are times when you must lower your standards.
You may be too picky, which is why you haven’t found love yet. They say that as a man ages, he becomes pickier. That is something I completely agree with. This is true not only for love but in all aspects of life.
So, if there is room for another person in your life, try not to look for flaws in everyone.
9. You’re not sure what you want
Let’s put it this way:
You have started a new relationship, you are dating your partner, you are hanging out together…everything seems perfect.
The very next week, you are bored with the relationship, you do not want to commit, and you feel like it is an unnecessary obligation.
That, my dear, means that you do not know what you really want.
This is another sign that you will never find your soulmate because no one likes it when someone plays with their feelings, do they?
10. No one is worth your time
You probably value your free time and do not want to share it with anyone else.
I agree that time is precious, but do you not want to share your life with someone?
If your answer is no, I can only tell you that love has closed its doors to you and that this is another sure sign that you will never find your dream partner.
11. Unrealistic beauty standards
A lot of people care about their appearance. When it comes to love, however, physical features come second.
Have you ever given up on love because your potential partner didn’t have beautiful eyes, good legs, or dark thick hair? Then you will undoubtedly fail the test of finding your soulmate.
What matters is inner beauty and personality.
However, if you spend too much time scrolling through pictures of a potential partner just to evaluate their appearance, know for sure that you will never find real love.
12. You are too hard on yourself
If you want to have a loving relationship, you must first respect yourself and become your own best friend. Too much self-criticism has never led to anything positive.
If you are constantly questioning your words and actions, it means you doubt yourself. But I am sorry to tell you that no one will love you if you have this attitude because if you judge yourself, others will too.
Let go of your fears, and do not be too hard on yourself.
Yes, this could be one of the reasons romantic love will not be at your door.
In today’s world, social media is the most popular tool for meeting people. If you are still single but are not in the habit of scrolling through dating apps or giving someone a chance to meet you, it’s going to be a little harder to reach out to you.
Of course, social media is not a requirement for finding a life partner, but it is a popular tool for getting to know someone better.
14. Failing to let go of your insecurities
Your greatest enemies are insecurities and low self-esteem.
Even our overwhelming desire to find love isn’t always enough because of something called insecurity.
You may have previously been disappointed in love, which has caused trust issues, and as a result, you are afraid to start something new, even though the inner you craves it.
It’s difficult to let go of the past and everything it has left behind, but if you want to experience the true meaning of love, you must begin working on yourself as soon as possible.
15. You think that there’s no such a thing as “significant other”
Falling in love seems to be an impossible task for you because you do not believe in the concept of Mr./Mrs. Right.
You may have been disappointed by a previous relationship, or you may have witnessed your friends’ bad experiences in love and decided to turn love down.
16. You are unwilling to change
This is where many people go wrong.
Of course, love does not require you to pretend to be someone you’re not or completely change your personality.
But it is possible that you cannot find love because you believe that you are always right.
Single people enjoy the lifestyle they have created for themselves, and there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that.
However, some single people are unwilling to compromise or admit they’re wrong. Because of this, many of their relationships fail.
17. You are a couch potato
It’s much more interesting to watch new movies and series on Netflix than to meet people. Yes, welcome to the modern world.
What does “couch potato” have to do with love? That’s right, nothing.
This is another indication that you will never find true love.
Do not expect your love life to change if you devote your free time to TV, social media, movies, or any other form of screen time.
18. You are a mama’s boy/girl
Don’t get me wrong. It is important to maintain positive relationships with family members, especially parents.
However, if your mother or father has always gotten you out of trouble, or if you always call them first when you need relationship advice, it suggests that you are overly dependent on them.
Your partner will most likely get tired of your love problems being solved by your mother or father. Such a relationship and everything that follows will almost certainly fail.
19. You think you’re too old
Instead of looking forward to your birthdays, you are sad because the years have passed, and you still haven’t found love. If you feel this way, I can assure you that you will never find your soulmate.
But let us dispel that myth right now. It’s never too late to fall in love. Of course, there are some facts and assumptions about when the right time to fall in love is, but in my opinion, the right time is when your heart wants it to be.
Also, do not think of age as a disadvantage. The older you get, the wiser you become, and the better you know which option is best for you.
20. You gave up a long time ago
You may be ready for love and want to try to start a relationship, but old emotional wounds and frequent disappointments make you lose hope for a better future.
If you give up on love, it shows that you lack faith in this feeling. People who do not believe in love cannot love not only others but also themselves.
If you have already resigned yourself to the fact that love has passed you by, it is a sign that you will never find it.
How To Find True Love
Now that you have identified the red flags that indicate you’ll never find Mr./Mrs. Right, consider taking action.
Here are some suggestions on how you can find true love. I hope you find them useful.
Work through your past for a better tomorrow
If you truly want love to knock on your door, the first step is to use the best of the past to create a better future.
Don’t expect every relationship to fail like the last. You may have always chosen the wrong people, but now is the time to experience the true meaning of love.
Say yes to new things
Do not be afraid to meet new people, because someone could change your life and make you a better person.
If you have not installed one of the dating apps yet, do it now. You never know what’s going to happen because sometimes little things grow into a big love.
Dare to try new things in life.
Don’t lose hope
Never lose hope for love, no matter where you are or what happens in your life.
Don’t put yourself down or think ill of yourself just because the one hasn’t arrived yet. Love does not have to take the form of a romantic partner. There is love in everything.
Surround yourself with positive thoughts and people, and make sure you always strive for better.
Step out of your comfort zone
This is another important element for finding the right person. No one is saying that you have to completely change or give up your habits.
When you step out of your comfort zone, you get to try new things and meet new people. You do not have to limit yourself to what you are used to.
Seek the little things in other people
I mentioned earlier that high expectations can end badly. It’s not bad to have goals in life, but you also need to know what you can give someone and expect the same in return.
However, I know from my own experience that love can be measured in small things. It all starts with signs of attention, like words, gestures, and messages. This gives someone a chance to get to know and love you.
Start noticing the little things, and you will be surprised at how many soulmates you have.
Embrace the power of love
“When you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it.” — Paulo Coelho
You were born to love and be loved in return, so don’t be afraid to embrace it.
Open your heart to new love opportunities, focus on the positives, and don’t get stuck in the past.
At What Age Do Most Find Love?
According to science, true love finds you between the ages of 27 and 35.
Mathematician Dr. Hannah Fry conducted a study known as “stopping theory.” It uses algorithms and mathematical calculations to help determine the right age for true love.
According to this theory, all previous relationships serve to prepare you for what is to come. They are simply a part of the process that will assist you in improving your personal growth until you find true love.
Science does not lie, but neither do feelings.
So, if you fall in love before the age of 27 or in your late thirties, forget about theories and follow your heart.
Is It OK To Never Find Love?
Yes. I would say perfectly normal and okay.
Some people who are single by choice: even if they have romantic relationships from time to time, they are not partial to long-term partnerships. So, just as some people feel the need to start a family, others believe it is better to be alone.
Other reasons why some people don’t feel the need for a significant other:
- They do not want to deal with misunderstandings.
- They do not want to share their money.
- They like to be alone.
- They do not believe in healthy relationships.
- “I love you” is just a bunch of words for them.
Love is not a fairytale.
Love is about overcoming obstacles, facing challenges, fighting to be together, and never letting go.
Idealizing a relationship, having unrealistic expectations, choosing the wrong person, and convincing yourself that you are not good enough are all signs you will never find love.
On the other hand, some people are simply born to be single. They have a hard time connecting with others, and it’s okay if they never find their perfect match.
If you want to stay single, then you have a really good reason to do so.
However, if you have chosen the path of love, you should re-examine the above signs and be prepared to make changes and adjustments in your life.