How to talk dirty to a guy without feeling embarrassed or uneasy?
How to use super-hot, dirty phrases to make him fantasize about you all the time and drive him wild with desire?
Talking dirty can feel like walking on the edge.
Most people feel awkward and uncomfortable about trying it because it’s not something that they were used to doing before or because they simply aren’t familiar with it.
This can lead to multiple stressful situations in the bedroom when a partner asks you for dirty talk, and you as the dirty-talker instantly go numb, rewinding a whole process of dirty talking that you might have seen somewhere in the past.
And while you’re asking yourself the following questions: OMG, what am I supposed to do now? If I say this, will he laugh at me?
Maybe I shouldn’t say anything because I’ll only make a fool out of myself, chances are that you will diminish your performance and deprive yourself of pleasure by the incessant overthinking which will influence your partner as well.
But, this shouldn’t be so, and that’s why I’m here today to teach you everything you need to know about dirty talk phrases and to help you enhance your sexual performance.
You see, talking dirty truly is an art in itself, but it is not that hard to learn as you might have thought.
The first thing you need to do is to understand why you need to talk dirty and what the benefits of it are because it is hard to master something when you’re not familiar with all of the details regarding the subject.
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So, the next thing I’ll talk about are some benefits of dirty talk, after which I will explain how to talk dirty to him (the ultimate dirty talk guideline), and I’ll finish all of it with 95 dirty talk phrases (and if you want to skip straight to them now, feel free to do so).
THE BENEFITS OF DIRTY TALK
On the question: “Why do I have to talk dirty in the first place?”, first I will tell you one thing—“Why not?” If you haven’t ever tried dirty talking, there are more reasons to do so, and if you’ve tried but you kind of failed at it, do not worry because we’re all just human, and today I will help become a master of it!
While to many of you out there screaming dirty phrases to your guy may sound a little bit appalling (because it instantly reminds you of all of those porn stars who use it in their videos), this shouldn’t be so because talking dirty has many more benefits than you might have thought!
Implementing the idea of using super-hot phrases in the bedroom, in public or via text can benefit you on multiple levels.
It can help you build up and intensify the emotional and sexual tension, intensify your orgasms, and boost your enjoyment.
Also, it can help you make your guy fantasize about you all the time which will undeniably drive him wild with desire and create ultimate anticipation.
By talking dirty via texts, calls or in the middle of the action, you will undoubtedly make him go crazy for you, and you will soon become the only thing on his mind!
Now, as we have made that clear, here are the three main benefits of dirty talk explained in detail!
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Build Longing, Sexual Tension, And Arousal
Building sexual tension is one of the most important things when it comes to our sex life for both those who are in a relationship and those who are not.
When you have been in a relationship for some time, the sexual tension lowers (naturally) which means you have to find a way to keep things interesting and maintain the same old fire.
And, guess what, talking dirty is just what you need!
When you keep exchanging dirty thoughts with each other and act accordingly in ‘the sheets’, you will create a longing and sexual tension that will be as strong or even stronger than those at the beginning of your relationship.
Your bodies will become one, and you will bond on so many levels that you weren’t even aware of.
The same thing goes with those who are not in a relationship (yet).
Dirty talk is the universal, ultimate weapon that can be used by anyone, and it will always have the same, positive results!
But, don’t mistake it with making your guy horny.
Making him horny is another process in itself, while dirty talk is more linked with the awakening of the inner sexual energy that will help you create a greater bond!
Intensify The Emotional And Sexual Tension
When it comes to intensifying your sex life, dirty talk should definitely be at the top of your list.
You see, many people think that emotional and sexual tension is only linked with what you are doing physically to your partner. But, this isn’t so.
The intensity of sex greatly depends on your mental aspect rather than (solely) the physical one.
So, to intensify sex, you have to intensify the emotional and sexual tension which is done by talking dirty to each other.
Whispering into his ear, telling him dirty things, playing submissive, and following all of it with your actions is a sure way to boost the intensity and experience the most intense orgasms.
The thing you need to pay attention to is his preferences when it comes to dirty talk.
Is he more about listening to you describing how you are feeling when he’s doing things to you or does he prefer listening to you telling him what you’re going to do to him?
Options are innumerable; you just have to find the right one for yourself (the one that makes you comfortable) and the one that will make him go crazy.
But in the majority of cases, mixing it up turns out to be the best choice!
Make Him Fantasize About You All The Time
Making your guy daydream and fantasize about you all the time is probably every girl’s dream, and dirty talk will help you achieve it!
So, let’s say that your guy is currently at his job, and you two are about to meet later and have some sexy time with each other.
Usually, both of you will just finish your jobs and tasks and arrange dinner or something for later when you’re together.
But instead of just waiting for it, if you send him a dirty text or a voice message including all of the dirty elements while he’s at work, you will instantly trigger his imagination, and he will be turned on within seconds, and most importantly – he will be unable to stop thinking about you and what he would like to do to you.
The same thing goes with talking dirty while in the middle of the action.
When he sees and hears you screaming dirty things to him looking all sexy and sweaty, it will be hard for him to forget that picture for a long time after.
You will arouse him physically and mentally which is an ultimate combination when it comes to making him fantasize about you all the time.
His mind will be occupied with all of the steamy details, and he’ll be unable to stop thinking about them until he sees you again, and again, and again.
And once you become a part of his mind, you will become a part of him, and it will be almost impossible to alter it.
As you can see, dirty talk has multiple benefits and not a single disadvantage (except for potential disappointments if you’re not that comfortable with it), and I will do my best in the following dirty talk guideline to help you see the bigger picture of it, so you can accept it as something natural and a part of you!
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DIRTY TALK GUIDELINE (HOW TO TALK DIRTY TO HIM)
Now that we’ve gone through the benefits of dirty talk, the next thing you need to know is how to do it (like a boss)!
1. Don’t rush things!
If you’re not that familiar with dirty talking or you’ve (for some reason) stopped using it in the bedroom for a while now, it is always a good idea not to rush things.
You don’t want to skip all the levels by immediately describing his cock or things like that.
First, you want to say something lighter, then accentuate it a little bit and continue doing so.
The worst thing you could do is just stick to one pattern and skip the whole idea of gradually building sexual tension.
You can say something like, ‘You look so hot today’, watch for his response, and continue in accordance with his reply.
If he responds positively, you may continue spicing it up and so on. Remember to play it smart and safe!
2. Do it gradually and casually
If he is not that into receiving dirty text messages, you should first do the dirty talk while in the bedroom, and then consider sending him some dirty phrases via phone to remind of the hot, steamy time you had together.
You can also say something dirt-ish while being in public or somewhere else where he wouldn’t really expect it.
The point is to gradually make him comfortable with it and turn it into your ‘daily regimen’.
You don’t want him to start suspecting that you’ve lost your mind or that you have a lover on the side, and he taught you all these dirty things.
You want to test the waters first and make the gradual shifting from your routine to the new dirty regimen of yours.
Remember to tease him from time to time, and see how he reacts.
After that, whisper something kinky that you want to do to him into his ear and enjoy watching him go wild!
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3. Think about his personality and preferences
The next important thing to remember is to think about your guy’s personality and his preferences.
Now, what does this mean?
It means that for successful dirty talk and building of sexual and emotional tension, you need to find the appropriate way for it.
For example, an introverted guy will probably not be that comfortable with you screaming dirty things to his face all of a sudden in the middle of the action.
He will feel a little bit weird and might get distant as well. So, the best idea is to introduce him to it via text messages first.
When you do it gradually, he will be prepared for it, and he will know how to act accordingly.
As a matter of fact, when he gets used to it, he will even beg for more! Another thing, some guys are more into sensual dirty talk, while others are into more of a filthy type.
An example of sensual dirty talk would be, ‘You make me feel amazing baby’, while a filthy one would sound like, ‘I want to feel your cum all over my face’.
Now, don’t think that the sensual ones don’t have the same power as the dirty ones. The truth is that all dirty phrases are equally powerful, and the only difference is your guy’s preference.
If he’s gentler-natured, chances are he will prefer the sensual type (but this doesn’t mean that you should exclude the dirty ones either).
Feel free to combine a variety of them and according to it, decide which one will prevail!
4. Stay genuine to yourself
Also, one of the most important things is to stay genuine to yourself no matter what.
This means that you should never say something you don’t feel comfortable with or that it doesn’t describe your current mood.
If you do this, I can guarantee you that he will notice it regardless of whether you’ve sent him a text or voice message or you did it in the middle of the steamy action.
To avoid any types of complications when it comes to dirty talk, you should always stay genuine to yourself, and never do something that doesn’t resemble your thoughts or style.
If you’re not that comfortable with those hardcore dirty phrases, there is no need to use them (at least not for the time being).
You have to find what feels natural to you instead of forcing yourself to be something you’re not.
If you stay genuine to your style, you’ll be more successful at it, and there will be no need to stress about What ifs.
Always stick to what feels right for you at the moment, and then, through time, you can always upgrade your ‘dirty vocabulary’ and enjoy its effects!
5. Never force anything
Similar to staying genuine to yourself, another thing to remember is never to force it no matter what.
This means that you shouldn’t shout out a dirty phrase out of blue when having sex with him.
If you do this, it will just look weird, and you will want to forget what has just happened.
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Also, if you say something ‘inappropriate’ at the wrong time of the day and wrong circumstances, you will get the same results as in the first situation.
So, the best thing to do is listen to your gut. Just enjoy the moment, and go with the flow!
If you feel like you want to say that specific dirty phrase (if it comes to your mind naturally), there’s no need to prevent yourself from doing so.
But, if you have to think twice before you want to say something, it usually means that the certain dirty phrase you want to utter is not really what you should say at the moment.
Remember that forcing it will give you a counter effect, but going with the flow and enjoying it will result in positive outcomes!
6. Don’t overdo it
When it comes to dirty talk, some women forget that modesty is a virtue. Once they get the hang of it, they usually take it up a notch and unintentionally overdo the whole thing.
But, overdoing it will never bring you anything good.
Don’t convert the dirty talk sessions into sexually aggressive ones because it’s not true that the more aggressive you are, the better the outcome.
On the contrary, being aggressive has nothing to do with dirty talk because this is a whole, separate concept in itself.
And guys respond better to sensual, shy or dirty phrases than to your sole aggressive treatment. But, don’t get me wrong.
I’m not saying that some guys don’t like when you’re totally dominant physically and mentally.
Some of them are, and it is okay to use it from time to time, but it is not good when it becomes a routine (when you mistake it for a real, genuine, dirty talk).
Sometimes just whispering something innocent into his ear will make him want you more and give you better results than anything else.
Always keep that in mind!
Now that we’ve taught you something new and you’ve learned why we need dirty talk and how to do it, it’s high time to dive into some of dirty talk phrases and drive him wild!
DIRTY TALK PHRASES GUARANTEED TO DRIVE HIM WILD
The following dirty talk phrases are divided into three categories in accordance with the above benefits.
Just take your time, reread them a few times if needed, and try memorizing your favorite ones so that you can drive him wild next time you see him!
(But pssst! Let him wonder about the secret source of your dirty phrases).
DIRTY TALK PHRASES TO HELP BUILD LONGING, SEXUAL TENSION AND AROUSAL
1. If we weren’t here (public place) at the moment, you have absolutely no idea what I would do to you.
2. Let’s play a game… If you guess right, you get to (do something kinky). Do you think I’m wearing panties now?
3. I was wondering about what are your plans after work…because I need a dose of you ASAP.
4. You smell so good! I think I won’t be able to control myself anymore.
5. You’re making me so horny…I just want to make your body wet and share with you all of my juices.
6. Damn, I’m so hungry for you. If you don’t come now, I’ll call 911 and tell them that it’s an emergency.
7. You better stop looking at me that way or I won’t be responsible for what happens next!
8. I can’t stop thinking the way you (did something) to me last night. It was SO HOT!
9. My body can’t wait a second longer for you to come here. I need you NOW!
10. Guess what I’m thinking about now…I’m thinking about you and me, naked, in my bed. If you want to turn it into reality, I’m waiting.
11. I bet no one around us knows what a hot lover you are.
12. I can’t imagine sharing you with anyone because you’re so freaking hot, and I want you all for myself!
13. Why don’t you suck on my nipples? They are waiting for you.
14. Do you want to do something nasty like (something you’ve never done before)?
15. I’m sure that no one would know if you put your hand up my skirt right now. Let’s keep it our secret.
16. Can I play with it?
17. You always make me so damn horny. I can’t stand it anymore!
18. Just imagining you playing with my (a part of your body) makes me wet.
19. I’m dying to share every inch of my body and soul with you.
20. I can’t stop thinking about your cock every day. I want you to stay forever inside me.
21. When I get bored at my job (or something you do), the first thing I think of is how you fuck me so hard!
22. We haven’t seen each other in a long time, but I can still remember every inch of your body like it was yesterday.
23. Let’s do it in front of a big mirror, so I can see you how you make love to me.
24. Why can’t we do it right now? I’m pretty sure that none of them will never know.
25. Licking your stick is better than any lollipop.
26. I think I will explode if you let me wait a second longer!
27. I want to feel your cum all over my body and face.
28. I want you deep inside me, and I want it now!
29. I like when you grab my hair and fuck me like a dog.
30. I’ve been a bad girl, and I think it’s time for you to punish me for that.
DIRTY TALK PHRASES TO INTENSIFY THE EMOTIONAL AND SEXUAL TENSION
1. Every time you pull my hair, it makes me want to come.
2. Stop talking and just do me!
3. Your cock is the most delicious treat I have ever tasted.
4. I think we have a problem. I’m pretty sure that I’m addicted to you.
5. Please, don’t ever stop! It feels SO good!
6. I love how you look at me when we’re making love. So hot.
7. Can I be your personal toy tonight?
8. I want to give you the best oral sex you’ve ever had… and I want to do it now!
9. What do you want me to do to you next? Do you want me to (do something nasty)?
10. Tonight I’ll be your sex slave. You can do to me whatever you want, whenever you want.
11. Yes, that’s how I like it! Fuck me more, more! Please, don’t ever stop!
12. Fuck me harder. I’m going to cum!
13. I will make you come so hard like you’ve never experienced it before.
14. Fuck me again! I want more!
15. I love feeling your stick in my hands.
16. Just lie back, and let me take care of everything.
17. Grab my tits, and hold them while I cum.
18. I love when you’re acting so naughty. Bad boy!
19. I’m your naughty girl. Now, what naughty thing do you want me to do to you?
20. I love sucking your cock so much!
21. Your cock fits in me so perfectly.
22. Stand up and fuck me!
23. Tell me how do you want me to fuck you? Like this? Or perhaps like this?
24. Slow and easy or fast and crazy. Just say a word. I’ll fuck you however you like.
25. I want you to watch me suck you hard.
26. I want you to ruin my pussy tonight!
27. Can’t you stop being such a walking turn on? You’re making it hard for me to concentrate on anything else besides what I want to do to you.
28. What would you say if I asked you to go down on me right now?
29. Making love to you is out of this world.
30. Doing (something hot) is driving me crazy!
31. Mmm…I fucking love it when you fuck me like this!
32. Stop being so delicious because I’m gonna eat you alive. Tonight.
33. Tell me how much you love it when you fuck me!
34. Do whatever you want with me.
35. You’re driving me fucking crazy!
36. I want to taste you.
37. You look so sexy right now.
38. You just know how to turn me on within seconds.
39. I wore these panties just for you.
40. I’ve never been fucked like this before.
DIRTY TALK PHRASES TO MAKE HIM FANTASIZE ABOUT YOU ALL THE TIME
1. I can’t stop thinking about you inside me baby… When are you coming home to your mommy?
2. I love it when you do (something nasty) inside me. It’s really insane.
3. How do you want me to please you? Do you want me to suck on you a little?
4. I’m all nice and wet for you…Don’t let me wait for long.
5. I keep repeating in my mind (something) you did last night to me. It felt so damn good!
6. I’m wondering how do you succeed in making so damn wet within a second?
7. I can’t concentrate on anything else right now. All I can think of is sitting on top of your hard cock and riding you hard!
8. I’m imagining that you’re fucking me from behind right now. It feels so good.
9. I’m wondering what is going on in your kinky head? What do you want me to do to you next?
10. Even when you’re miles away, I can always feel your dick inside me.
11. I’m bare naked under this robe, and I’m touching myself thinking of you (doing something) to me.
12. I want you to slowly kiss my lips, go down my neck, suck my nipples, and go all the way down my body.
13. Your ass is driving me insane!
14. I want you to look into my eyes while you’re fucking me deeply.
15. Keep going, keep going!
16. I want you to fuck me on the stairs!
17. I liked it when you pressed me hard against the wall and fucked me wildly. I can still feel the sensations of your cock inside me.
18. Mmm…I can still taste your dick on my lips. It’s so damn tasty.
19. I want you to tear off all of my clothes and fuck me hard like never before.
20. Make me cum, baby!
21. Next time I see you, I’ll jerk you off so hard until I get every last drop out of you.
22. My pussy is waiting for you.
23. Holy shit, I’m cumming!
24. I want you to fuck me in the shower.
25. What do you want me to wear in bed tonight? A few drops of my perfume?
Here it is. I hope you’ll find the right ones that will make you feel comfortable enough to enjoy the whole process of dirty talk.
Just remember one more thing before we part (okay, maybe two).
Remember to pay attention to the tone and speed of your voice and to coordinate your actions with your dirty phrases!
It is recommended to use a deep, husky tone of voice when the atmosphere is not that steamy (if you know what I mean) and a more exciting tone when in the middle of the action.
Also, remember to follow your words with your actions as well.
If you tell him ‘Your ass is driving me insane’, make sure to grab that ass with your hands, and let him know that you really mean it!
You see, the secret is in making a perfect harmony of your words and actions, and once you master it, you’ll be the hottest dirty talker in the whole world!
