10 señales evidentes de que nunca volverá (y 10 de que sí lo hará)

¿Cuáles son los señales de que nunca volverá (o que acabará haciéndolo)? ¿Ya ha pasado página? ¿Cuánto tarda un hombre en arrepentirse de haberte perdido? To these and many other questions, you’ll find the answers below.

Poner fin a una relación sentimental con alguien a quien todavía quieres es todo menos fácil, y puede romper hasta los corazones más fuertes. Es la persona con la que compartiste tu vida y (tal vez) alguien junto a quien imaginabas envejecer.

Luego, un día, simplemente desaparecen de tu vida, y se espera que aceptes el final definitivo como si fuera pan comido.

Aunque seguir adelante siempre es doloroso, incluso aceptar que todos tus planes y esperanzas relacionados con esa persona han terminado, hay algo que duele aún más y es admitirte a ti mismo que las cosas han terminado de verdad.

And this is exactly what you’re going through right now: you are grasping the idea that your ex is really over you.

Let’s face it—no matter why the breakup took place, at first, most of us hope that things will soon fall in place and find a way of sorting themselves out.

You keep hoping that one of these days, your ex will reappear in your life even though you can’t help but notice all the señales de que nunca volverá.

Well, I am here to burst your bubble and to confront you with the harsh truth you’ve been trying to escape from. I’m also here to teach you how you will know that he’ll come back después de una ruptura.

Of course, we are all different and relating to just one of these signs doesn’t have to mean much. However, if you can recognize your ex’s behavior in all or most of them, then there’s no need to overthink or question any of it.

¿Cómo sabes si nunca volverá?

If your ex avoids all communication, doesn’t make an effort to get you back, and is in a new relationship, chances are he will never come back. There are also many other signs that indicate you’ll never get back together. If the majority of these signs resonate with his behavior, then you know your hopes of getting back together with him are in vain.

Señales duras pero ciertas de que nunca volverá

Evita toda comunicación

Una de las primeras y más claras señales de que nunca volveréis a estar juntos es el hecho de que tu ex haya dejado de comunicarse contigo desde que rompisteis.

No sólo eso, incluso evita cualquier tipo de comunicación que tú inicies.

Lo último que quieres ser es aburrido o necesitado, but you’ve probably tried calling this man or sending him mensajes de texto unas cuantas veces desde que os separasteis, ¿verdad?

Intentaste invitarle sólo para pasar el rato, sin contarle tus intenciones concretas o incluso fuiste directa sobre tus sentimientos.

Either way, you’ve never managed to get a positive response. It is like he is ready to do whatever it takes just not to see you or hear from you.

Deja de justificar su comportamiento.

Deja de decirte a ti misma que tiene miedo de lo que pueda pasar si se acerca a ti. Deja de mentirte a ti misma diciéndote que esto no es más que una buena señal de que aún siente algo fuerte por ti de lo que intenta huir.

Bueno, aunque hay una pequeña posibilidad de que esto sea cierto, hay una buena posibilidad de que sea una señal él es sobre ti.

Por muy fuerte mental y emocionalmente que sea este chico y por mucho que esté intentando luchar contra sus emociones, lo cierto es que tarde o temprano, habría accedido a quedar contigo si realmente te echaba de menos como esperas que lo haga.

Incluso si esto es cierto e incluso si él todavía te ama (que es, para ser honesto, poco probable), este hombre ha tomado la decisión de no volver contigo.

Todos estos son signos claros he doesn’t love you anymore, and that is something you’ll have to accept sooner or later.

Te ha aislado por completo

Además de evitar todo tipo de comunicación, otra de las señales de que nunca volverá es que este chico ha cortado todos los lazos posibles contigo.

I hate to be the one to break it to you, but it is more than clear that he’s left you in the past and that he has no intention of reuniting with you in the present or the future.

Puede que haya cambiado su número de teléfono, te haya bloqueado en todas sus cuentas de redes sociales, haya dejado de ir a los lugares en los que sabe que podría encontrarse contigo o incluso haya cambiado la ciudad o el barrio en el que vivía.

The point is the same—he has cut you off completely.

Don’t get me wrong—it doesn’t have to mean that your ex has made these drastic changes in his life just to avoid you, but the truth is that he hasn’t made an effort to give you his new contact data. This indicates that he doesn’t want to continue being in touch with you.

Of course, all of this might be a red flag for you to wonder if you’ve been stalking this man and if he’s done all of this just to get away from you.

This is probably the last thing you want to hear, but it’s not that he is playing hard to get, that quiere que le persigas o que está siguiendo el norma de no contacto.

This has been lasting for a while and it can mean just one thing—he is pretty serious about not wanting to go back together with you.

Cuando miras las cosas con realismo, puedes ver a este hombre viviendo su vida como si tú nunca hubieras formado parte de ella y como si nunca le hubieras importado.

Of course, something like this is painful to accept, especially if you still feel stuck in one place and like you haven’t moved an inch, but it simply has to be acknowledged.

Te devolvió todas tus cosas

Cuando sigues sintiendo algo por alguien que ya no forma parte de tu vida, te aferras a los recuerdos que tenéis juntos.

Guardas sus pertenencias, escuchas las canciones que te recuerdan a ellos y te cuesta borrar las fotos de los dos de tus perfiles en las redes sociales.

Besides, keeping each other’s things or intentionally forgetting something at your partner’s can always be a great excuse for people to get back together, once the initial storm passes.

Precisamente por eso, muchas parejas se niegan deliberadamente a dar este paso de devolverse sus cosas. Piensan que mientras tengan algo que pertenezca a su ex, aún hay posibilidades de volver con él.

Sin embargo, nada de esto se aplica a tu ex novio. Al contrario, es él quien te ha devuelto todas tus cosas y te ha pedido también las suyas.

This wasn’t an excuse he used to reach out to you.

He didn’t do it in a moment of anger or to get even at you. He didn’t throw your things at you while the two of you were fighting.

En lugar de eso, te llamó o te envió un mensaje de texto amablemente cuando ya había pasado algún tiempo desde vuestra ruptura, te dijo que tus cosas estaban todas recogidas y te pidió que hicieras lo mismo con las suyas.

He didn’t try to prolong the communication nor did he tried mentioning any other topics besides this one.

Besides, there is even a possibility that he did all of this through a mutual friend of yours because he didn’t want to see you even for a minute.

Si es así, está más que claro que este hombre quiere deshacerse de todo lo que pueda recordarle a ti y que quiere darse la oportunidad de empezar a escribir un nuevo capítulo de su vida sin ningún equipaje que le lastre.

Es simpático

Aunque puedas considerar el hecho de que tu ex quiera seguir siendo tu amigo como una señal de que quiere volver contigo, también puede ser visto como una de las señales de que nunca volverá.

En amigos con un ex nunca es fácil, y sólo puede ocurrir si ambos han dejado atrás todo el resentimiento y los rencores y una vez que la ira haya desaparecido hace tiempo.

Por supuesto, esto significa que tu ex ha superado todas las emociones negativas que pudo haber tenido hacia ti y tu relación.

He isn’t frustrated with you anymore, and he doesn’t blame you for the breakup or for some things you’ve done during your time together.

However, sadly, it also means that he’s become completely indifferent toward you.

He’s stopped seeing you as a romantic partner, but he respects everything the two of you went through together and all the years you shared, so he doesn’t want to start acting like a stranger all of the sudden.

He is still kind. He even remembers your birthday and when the two of you accidentally run into each other, he doesn’t avoid you.

Instead, he greets you politely. But that is it—he never mentions your relationship, doesn’t flirt with you, and doesn’t tease you in any way.

Te trata como trata a todas sus conocidas.

Quizá sería demasiado decir que los dos sois amigos de verdad porque él te trata literalmente como trata a todas sus conocidas.

Es más que probable que this man doesn’t have any feelings for you si puede charlar contigo sin que eso le cause ningún dolor.

He doesn’t care who is responsible for everything bad that went on between you guys, and he has no interest in resolving some things from the past.

Este chico sólo se acuerda de las cosas buenas, piensa en ti como en un bonito recuerdo y realmente te desea lo mejor.

Si esto es algo con lo que te sientes identificada, definitivamente tu ex ha conseguido desvincularse emocionalmente de ti y de vuestra relación al cien por cien y ha seguido adelante de la forma más sana posible.

Evita a tus amigos y familiares

You were in a relationship with this guy for a while, and things between the two of you were quite serious. So, it is expected that both of you met each other’s friends and family members and even developed friendly relations with them.

However, ever since your relationship failed, your ex hasn’t just disappeared from your life, he’s cut all ties with everyone close to you, as well.

It’s not that he became rude overnight or that he directly told anyone that he doesn’t want to be in touch anymore.

Still, he has started avoiding any type of contact with anyone connected with you to the point where your mutual friends and acquaintances think that they’ve done something wrong that might upset him.

This guy doesn’t want to have anything to do with anyone that might remind him of you and your past relationship. He doesn’t want to get himself involved in a possibly awkward situation in which you might think that he wants to take away your friends from you.

Quiere evitar que le bombardeen a preguntas sobre vuestra ruptura.

Quiere evitar que la gente intente pillaros a los dos de nuevo juntosy, sobre todo, quiere evitar la posibilidad de chocar accidentalmente contigo.

Of course, keeping a tight relationship with your loved ones could be this man’s free pass back to your life—this way, he could always keep you near in a way, and he could always know what you’ve been up to.

Sin embargo, está más que claro que es lo último que quiere. Así que, por favor, confía en mí en esto.

If a man hasn’t just cut you out of his life but is also trying to break all ties with everyone around you, it is one of the most surefire signs he will never come back to you, as much as you might still have faith in a different outcome.

No muestra signos de celos

If a man has feelings for you, he can never stand picturing you with another guy, let alone letting you go into someone else’s arms.

Even if this man is taking you for granted and doesn’t want to get back together with you at first, the moment he feels endangered and the moment he sees that he might really lose you to another dude, he won’t be able to control his jealousy, and he’ll do everything in his power to get you back.

Por supuesto, esto no es algo con lo que debas conformarte, pero si no hay nada más, en este escenario, tu ex intentará demostrarse a sí mismo que todavía tiene un lugar especial en tu corazón y que puede tenerte siempre que lo desee.

That is why one of the signs you will never get back together is the fact that your ex doesn’t show any signs of jealousy whatsoever.

He even saw you with other guys or people you both know have been telling him that you are seeing someone new, but sadly, you’ve gotten no feedback.

He doesn’t try to prevent you from empezando a salir de nuevo. He is not interested in whether you’ve moved on.

He doesn’t have the desire to compete with new men in your life.

Also, he doesn’t have the desire to chase them away from you. He doesn’t care if you’ve entered a serious relationship or if this is just something you are doing to get even with him.

Not only that—this guy doesn’t have any problem with wishing you all the best with your future amar la vida y con el deseo de que tengas una relación sana y buena.

He doesn’t feel threatened by the fact that you are about to replace him, and he even sincerely congratulates you on finding someone new, without the slightest trace of irony or sarcasm.

He has without a doubt rationally accepted your breakup, and he is aware that it’s time for both of you to continue living your lives.

Su redes sociales los mensajes no tienen nada que ver contigo

You know how you can’t help yourself but to publish some sad songs and status updates all over your social media accounts when your heart is breaking?

Puede que no queramos admitirlo, pero la mayoría de nosotros tenemos la necesidad de compartir nuestros pensamientos y emociones en nuestros perfiles de las redes sociales, y no es improbable que nuestros amigos y seguidores se hagan una idea de nuestras emociones a través de nuestras publicaciones.

Well, let me tell you one thing—even though men are considered to be a lot tougher and less emotional, the truth is that they are also likely to expose their feelings on social networks.

It doesn’t have to mean that they’ll necessarily post some cheesy or citas románticas o canciones de amor literally begging you to come back, but they’ll definitely drop a hint or two.

If a guy is hurt, he’ll want to express himself.

Probablemente publicará una canción que sea especial sólo para vosotros dos o alguna cita profunda que describa indirectamente su estado mental y emocional, mientras intenta no ser demasiado obvio y trata de mantener su dignidad.

He’ll use this tactic with the intention of getting inside your head, making you wonder if you are imagining things or he is really trying to send you a message.

This way, he wants to remind you that you still exist in his heart without actually having to make a concrete move because let’s face it—he is more than aware that you snoop through his profile from time to time.

Sin embargo, si esto no es algo que haga tu ex, entonces es una de las más claras señales de que nunca volverá a ti.

Not only that—this guy even deleted all traces you’ve ever existed in his life from his social media accounts or te bloqueó en todas partes. It’s like he wanted to delete all of your traces so he could move on with more ease.

He doesn’t respond to your flirty signals

Let’s be honest—whenever you spend time with this guy or talk to him in any way, you try to make a move on him or ayúdale a dar el primer paso.

You do your best to look as attractive as possible to remind him what he’s lost, and you keep on mentioning some funny and interesting things regarding your relationship.

However, your ex doesn’t seem to be falling into your trap because he never responds to your flirty signals, and he doesn’t give you the feedback you expect.

Incluso su signos del lenguaje corporal are showing you that he doesn’t have feelings for you anymore:

• When the two of you talk, he doesn’t stand next to you nor does he use any opportunity to touch you.
• He doesn’t try to make you laugh.
• He doesn’t notice any changes in your appearance.
• He doesn’t compliment you nor does he flirt with you in any other way.

Sé que probablemente estás intentando leer entre líneas y que interpretas cada mirada o sonrisa que recibes de él como algo más, pero la verdad es que incluso tu instinto te está diciendo que la chispa entre vosotros hace tiempo que desapareció.

Sólo tienes que hacer frente a estos señales de que nunca volverá and deal with the fact that your ex isn’t turned on by you anymore and see it as a sign he will never be yours again.

All of a sudden, all traces of the man you used to know are gone. Now he’s keeping you at a safe distance and is acting cold and uninterested.

This doesn’t mean that he’s rude or impolite when he runs into you.

En su lugar, intenta mantener las cosas oficiales sin lanzar ninguna insinuación o pista de que aún podría verte como objeto de su afecto o de que existe la posibilidad de que los dos volváis a estar juntos.

He’s never made an effort to get you back

Si empiezas a mirar las cosas con total honestidad y consigues prescindir de los sentimientos que tienes por tu ex, lo cierto es que él nunca te ha dado ni siquiera una pista de que quiera reviva su relación y que este periodo de no contacto dura ya un tiempo.

It’s not that he just hasn’t said it out loud that he wants you back, but he never made any kind of effort to win you over again.

You guys broke up a while ago, so it’s not that he is still angry or hurt by everything that went on between the two of you. He’s had enough time to get his shit together and to make a move on you.

Asumo que es una píldora difícil de tragar, pero tienes que entender algunas cosas sencillas:

Si un hombre quiere te perseguirá, y nada podrá impedir que te persiga.

A man’s effort is a reflection of his feelings for you, so if he isn’t trying to come back, it is one of the signs he won’t. Everything else is bullshit.

He’s found a new girlfriend

One of the most certain signs you will never get back together is the fact that your ex is dating someone else, and it’s starting to get serious.

Si su ex ha encontrado un nueva noviaes una señal de que probablemente se olvidó de ti.

When a guy jumps from one girl to another or when he is trying his best to get into every other girl’s pants, that is a signo inequívoco de su inestabilidad emocional y una señal de que está reprimiendo sus emociones.

However, this is not how your ex behaves. Instead, it looks like he’s completely committed to just one woman. The worst part is that we aren’t talking about una relación de rebote aquí.

He hasn’t made up a long distance relationship or found someone new just to make you jealous, and he hasn’t asked a friend to pretend to be his girlfriend just to get feedback from you.

La verdad es que tu ex ha pasado página.

You can see that he isn’t in a new relationship just for the sake of getting even with you by the fact that he doesn’t rub his new romance in your face.

It’s not that he hides it, but you finding out about his new girlfriend is not at the top of his priority list. Instead, this guy is more than ready to build a future with another woman.

Si pregunta a cualquier experto en relaciones para que le den su opinión al respecto, le dirán lo siguiente: He’s gotten rid of all of the carga emocional de su relación, y está listo para un nuevo y fresco comienzo.

I know that you probably want for all of this to be a lie, that you keep on justifying him by convincing yourself that he is just searching for you in all other women or that he’s jumped into a new relationship just to get over you with more ease.

Even if you refuse to accept these painful signs, the truth is that your ex has moved on—and you should do your best to do the same!

Véase también: No hemos hablado en una semana después de la pelea - ¿Se acabó?

¿Cómo saber si un chico está intentando deshacerse de ti?

Sabes que un tío está intentando deshacerse de ti si deja de esforzarse en todos los sentidos y ya no le importa cómo te sientas.

In most cases, we will know when someone is “trying to get rid of us” but when it comes to romantic relationships, things are not that simple. Oftentimes, we refuse to acknowledge the truth and we keep finding excuses for our exes or our current partners that should be exes.

He aquí algunos ejemplos directos y signos sutiles he’s trying to get rid of you:

• Ya no te colma de atenciones
• Se vuelve vago
• He doesn’t want to put a label on anything
• Te ignora
• Ya no te trata como su prioridad
• Te trata como a uno de sus amigos
• Falta de mensajes de texto y llamadas telefónicas
• Evita hablar de relaciones
• Falta de afecto e intimidad
• Ya no se preocupa por su aspecto
• Deja de hacer planes contigo
• Sigue inventando razones y excusas
• Constantemente busca cosas por las que pelear contigo
• Ya no te llama por tu nombre de pila
• Coquetea con otras mujeres delante de ti

If he acts like this, then he might have never loved you in the first place. Perhaps he was a player from day one but somehow you failed to notice it. When a guy is trying to get rid of you, he will do his best to make you feel like there’s something wrong with you.

He will try hard to make you feel like you’re the one to blame for your failed relationship. When a guy is trying to get rid of you, he will only think about himself and treat you as an option.

¿Cómo saber si volverá después de una ruptura? 10 señales de que lo hará

Si un hombre está realmente enamorado de ti, sabes que acabará volviendo después de una ruptura.

A few years ago I had a bad breakup and I didn’t expect him to ever come back after it. Instead of giving myself false hope that one day he’ll come back to me, I secretly accepted the fact that letting go was my only option.

To my amazement, he contacted me after a few weeks and said that he wanted to talk to me. I mean, what are the odds? Just when I was ready to move on, he comes back into my life and “ruins” everything.

Pero supongo que estaba predestinado. Así que nos reencontramos y después de un tiempo volvimos a romper. Supongo que también estaba predestinado.

Without further ado, here’s how you’ll know that he WILL come back after a breakup.

Le pillaste acosándote en las redes sociales

He liked or commented on one of your old posts. He regularly likes all your posts and comments on them. Obviously, he’s kind of stalking you on redes sociales y esperando impacientemente a que publiques algo nuevo.

He does that because he’s interested in what is going in your life and wants to be updated. This is a good sign because it means he isn’t ready to move on with his life because you are still on his mind.

He hasn’t returned your belongings

There are three reasons why he wouldn’t return your belongings:

a) He’s still attached to these things because he cares about you (so he’s not ready to get rid of them)

b) Se olvidó de ello

c) He doesn’t give a damn about it

Bueno, si el resto de los signos resuenan con su comportamiento, entonces usted puede estar cien por ciento seguro de que es a).

He hasn’t returned your belongings because he secretly hopes that one day you will reunite. Or he already knows that acabará volviendo but he’s not sure when exactly.

Si es amor verdadero, puedes estar segura de que volverá antes de lo que piensas.

He’s still single

Una de las mayores señales de que tu ex acabará volviendo es que siga soltero.

La mayoría de los hombres tienen esta necesidad de entrar en nuevas relaciones o en relaciones casuales una vez que rompen contigo. Tengo la sensación de que lo hacen para ponerse al día con todo lo que se perdieron cuando fueron tomados aka en una relación.

But if your man (read: ex-man) is still single, this is a great sign. It probably means that he’s still thinking about you and he can’t imagine being with someone else.

Además, si ya sabe que va a volver, no querrá conocer gente nueva ni entablar una nueva relación porque esto sólo complicaría aún más las cosas. Se centrará únicamente en ti y en cómo recuperarte.

Te llama y te manda mensajes cuando está borracho

Another big sign that he will come back is you receiving random texts and phone calls from him specifically when drunk. He seldom texts you or calls you but when he’s drunk, he can’t help himself but text you something heartwarming, desperate, or a combination of both.

His spelling mistakes are a surefire sign that he’s totally drunk. If he drunk dials you, you probably won’t understand a word he’s saying to you but you will hear some trigger words like “miss you”, “todavía te quiero” and similar.

Si un hombre todavía se preocupa por ti, pero está tratando de ocultarlo, te llamará y te enviará mensajes de texto cuando borracho. It’s up to you how you’ll respond to it. (I bet you will laugh for sure.)

He’s still in touch with your friends

Why would he still be in touch with your friends if he’s no longer with you? Hmm… Perhaps they are his middlemen. He’s probably asking them about you and trying to leave a good impression so that your friends can tell you what a great man he is and that you should get back together.

He’s still in touch with your friends because he still wants to be a part of your life. He wants to know your plans and all the other important events in your life but he obviously doesn’t want to ask you directly about it. Well, not until he finally gathers the courage to do so.

Responde a tus llamadas y mensajes de inmediato

I know for a fact that not a single man on earth would reply to your text or call immediately if he’s not GENUINELY interested in you. Men are not really into texting. To them, this is a waste of time. They use texting primarily as a means of making arrangements.

So, if he answers your calls and texts immediately, you know he was literally waiting for you to text him or call him. He was LITERALLY sitting next to his phone in hope that you will reach out to him. Ain’t that good news, girl?

Sigues chocando con él

The universe is either playing with both of you or he’s doing it on purpose. If you bump on him once, it’s not a big deal. If you bump on him twice or multiple times, then something is going on.

If you keep bumping on him, chances are he still cares about you and he’s probably gathering the courage to approach you. If that is the case with him, just give him some time and I’m sure volverá a ti.

He admits that he’s been unhappy ever since the breakup

If a man (especially your EX) admits to you that he’s been unhappy ever since the breakup, then he truly means it. He wants you to know that he still has feelings for you and he can’t move on with his life.

He also wants to know if you’re on the same page. So, if you feel the same way as him, make sure to let him know. Otherwise, you might lose him for good.

Te hace cumplidos

If a man doesn’t care about you, he will certainly not bother giving you compliments. So, if you notice that he seizes every opportunity to compliment your personality, achievements, lifestyle, and appearance, then you know he still cares about you.

Entonces sabrás que espera en secreto que tú también te preocupes por él. Obviamente, esta es una de las señales claras de que acabará volviendo.

Rompisteis porque teníais una relación a distancia

Si la razón por la que rompisteis fue la incapacidad de estar en una relación a distanciaentonces las cosas no son tan malas como parecen.

Si el único problema de vuestra relación era la distancia, lo más probable es que vuelva contigo. Puede que haya encontrado una forma de hacer que las cosas funcionen y ahora quiera darle otra oportunidad a vuestra relación.

¿Cuánto tarda un hombre en arrepentirse de haberte perdido?

La respuesta varía de un hombre a otro, pero la mayoría de los hombres sentirán arrepentimiento entre un mes y seis semanas después de romper contigo.

Cuando rompemos con alguien, lo primero que nos viene a la cabeza es: ¿Cuándo se arrepentirá este hombre perdiéndome?

Queremos que suceda inmediatamente porque, de alguna extraña manera, nos haría sentir mejor con nuestra ruptura (y con nosotros mismos). Por supuesto, todo esto depende en gran medida del motivo o motivos de tu ruptura y de las circunstancias.

¿Fue él quien inició la ruptura? ¿Te engañó? ¿Rompisteis sin motivo aparente?

If he hurt you…

Si te ha hecho daño de un modo u otro, lo más probable es que se arrepienta de haberte perdido antes de lo que piensa o de lo que tú esperas. Puedes esperar que experimente arrepentimiento en las primeras semanas. Sin embargo, si he’s a legit player...puede que necesite más tiempo para arrepentirse porque, obviamente, jugar con las mujeres y hacerles daño se ha convertido en su estilo de vida.

If he initiated the breakup…

Los hombres que iniciaron la ruptura por impulso también se arrepentirán entre un mes y seis semanas después de romper contigo. Los hombres son conocidos por tomar decisiones precipitadas, que es la razón principal por la que se arrepienten de más de la mitad de sus decisiones.

If you initiated the breakup…

If you’re the one who broke up with him, this is a direct attack on his male ego (regardless of the reasons why you broke up in the first place). He will feel the need to prove himself worthy of being with you again, so you can expect him to experience regret within around a month to six weeks.

Por desgracia, hay muchos hombres que no se arrepentirán al instante de haberte perdido. Si quieres que sientan remordimientos, tendrás que ser paciente y darle tiempo.

Un chico puede tardar más o menos tiempo en arrepentirse de haber roto contigo y plantearse volver contigo. Por lo general, al cabo de uno a seis meses, empezará a arrepentirse de haberte perdido.

If you’re thinking of recuperar a tu ex, Te recomiendo que esperes unas semanas. Tal vez se acerque a ti por su cuenta una vez que el arrepentimiento haga efecto.

¿Por qué los hombres vuelven meses después?

One of the biggest reasons why men come back months later is when they see that you’ve become a better version of yourself (and got a better man). Men are extremely competitive by nature and they can’t help themselves but experience regret about losing something or someone valuable.

Los hombres vuelven meses después cuando/porque:

Pensaron que la hierba sería más verde al otro lado de la valla.

Los hombres vuelven meses después, cuando se dan cuenta de que tenían expectativas poco realistas en cuanto a el síndrome de la hierba más verde. They come back once they realize what they’ve lost and that they were taking you for granted.

Estaban probando tus límites

Some men decide to leave you only to test your boundaries. They want to see how far they can go and if you will still care about them. So, once their “mission” is completed, they come back months later as if nothing happened between the two of you.

Se vuelven nostálgicos

Vuelven cuando empiezan a echar de menos tu voz, tus imperfecciones, tus rarezas, tu sentido del humor y todas las demás cosas que te hacen único y que realmente les encantaban de ti. Se vuelven nostálgicos de todas las cosas que solíais hacer cuando estabais juntos y ahora quieren darle otra oportunidad a vuestra relación.

A lot of people make a rash decision to break up with someone, and then after a certain period of time, they realize that they made a mistake. That’s when nostalgia kicks in.

Has crecido como persona

They come back when you’ve grown as a person and when you literally no longer care about them. They feel this strong urge to win you again and compete with other men for you. Usually, when a woman is grown as a person, she doesn’t give a damn about her ex (unless he’s also grown as a person).

Te quieren de verdad

Bueno, a veces los hombres vuelven porque te quieren de verdad. No hay segundas intenciones ni nada por el estilo. Vuelven porque te echan mucho de menos y quiero volver a estar contigo.

Lo esencial

Now that you’re familiar with all the signs he will never come back and the ones that indicate he eventually will come back, I hope this will help you make the right decision.

If you think he will never come back, this isn’t necessarily a bad thing because everything happens for a reason. I know it sounds cliché but it’s true.

Instead of waiting for him to come back to you (when you know he won’t), use this time to grow into a better person. Fall in love with yourself. Spoil yourself.

Enjoy your solo life before you establish a healthy relationship with someone else. When that happens, you’ll be grateful that it didn’t work out with your ex. All in all, good luck with whatever you choose to do!