7 peligros de reconectar con un ex estando casado

Reconectar con un ex estando casado es una muy mala idea por muchas razones. Puede herir a mucha gente e incluso arruinar la vida de unos cuantos.

When a relationship ends, both partners need to take time to heal. If they keep in contact, they’ll never be able to move forward properly. If someone isn’t ready to completely let go of their past, they should not engage in a new relationship.

However, if two exes keep coming back to each other, it’s obvious that they have a strong connection that doesn’t allow them to let go of one another.

7 peligros de reconectar con un ex estando casado

Vale, todos sabemos que reconectar con un ex while married is the wrong idea. Now, it’s time to find out all the dangers behind it.

1. Su cónyuge puede enterarse

I’m sure your spouse doesn’t know about it for now, but one day, they’ll find out one way or another. And what will you do when that day comes?

Will you be able to look your partner in the eye? What will you say to them? Will you be able to endure that you’ve broken their heart?

2. Puede dañar o destruir completamente su matrimonio

Si su cónyuge se entera, pueden ocurrir dos cosas:

Either they’ll decide to forgive you, and you’ll have to work hard to recuperar su confianza y salva tu matrimonio, or they’ll decide to end your marriage ASAP.

Algunos problemas de confianza entre usted y su pareja surgirá definitivamente. Además, puede dejar a su cónyuge con muchas inseguridades. Todo esto debilitará su conexión.

Now, it’s up to you to decide. Is reconnecting with your ex really worth losing the beautiful relación duradera you have with your current partner? If it is, then go for it, but if it’s not, end every form of communication you have with your ex.

3. Dar falsas esperanzas a tu ex

Maybe you’ve reconnected with your ex from high school, and you really want to be friends with them, but maybe that isn’t what they have in mind. Toda comunicación puede darles la esperanza de que usted también quiere reaviva tu antigua relación.

So, even if you don’t have any intention to, they might think that you do. Maybe all you want is a long-distance friendship, where you’ll be texting over social media from time to time, and that’s it. However, your ex may be wishing for something completely different.

4. Puede que empieces a pensar en reavivar la vieja llama

¿Puede un amor perdido be reborn? It most definitely can, but it’ll never be the same again. That’s what you should keep in mind if you’re thinking about rebuilding the connection with your ex.

Maybe you didn’t think about it when they reached out to you, but if you spend too much time texting, those kinds of thoughts will definitely appear.

5. Los viejos sentimientos pueden reaparecer

Bueno, la verdad es que si los viejos sentimientos vuelven, puede ser una señal de alarma de que ni siquiera se han ido. Tal vez enamorado de tu ex todo este tiempo mientras estabas casada con tu actual pareja.

Perhaps you married them hoping it’d help you forget about your ex. I agree it’s a bad thing, but if it’s true, you need to come clean with your spouse and admit the truth to them.

Ni usted ni su cónyuge merecen permanecer en un matrimonio en el que no hay amor verdadero.

6. You may do something you’ll regret later

Al principio, puede que sólo se envíen mensajes de texto. Sin embargo, si dejas que continúe durante algún tiempo, puede que tu ex te invite a salir y tú aceptes su invitación.

And I honestly doubt it’ll only be two old friends hanging out. You might do something. Heck, I’ll be direct: you may sleep with them and cheat on your spouse. Even if you’re absolutely sure you’re still in love with your ex, you won’t be able to forgive yourself for engañar a su pareja actual.

7. Mucha gente a tu alrededor puede resultar herida

Si se encuentra en una relación sana/marriage with your partner, doing something like this behind their back won’t only hurt them. It’ll also hurt everyone who loves them and loved you two as a couple.

Your mutual friends, your close friends, your family, his family… All those people will be hurt by your betrayal. Are you sure you can deal with such a huge weight around your neck? Will you be able to move on knowing that you’ve hurt so many people?

Reconectar con un ex estando casado: ¿Qué hacer?

If you’re reconnecting with your ex while you’re married, here are some things you should pay attention to. I’m sure these things will make you change your mind and end communication with your ex.

1. Recuérdate a ti mismo por qué tu relación terminó la primera vez

Just remind yourself of why you and your ex broke up in the first place. It’s not like they were the best partner ever, and you decided you’d one day had enough of them.

Your relationship wasn’t healthy, and you weren’t a good match because if you were, you would still be together. Recuérdatelo cada vez que empieces a pensar en volver a conectar con ellos.

2. Céntrate en tu salud emocional y mental

When you find yourself in this position, it definitely starts affecting your well-being. You become obsessed about it, you find your situation hopeless, and you blame yourself for doing it behind your partner’s back.

Maybe that is your ex’s goal: to ruin you completely. To break your heart again. To leave you with emotional wounds once again.

Don’t allow them to do that. Pay attention to your emotional and mental health. If it’s needed, seek professional help.

3. Dejar atrás el pasado y aferrarse al presente/futuro

Por el bien de tu relación actual, necesitas deja atrás tu antigua relación y a tu ex. Deja esas cosas en el pasado, donde pertenecen.

All married couples go through different phases, and if you and your spouse are currently in a rut, you’ll overcome it. Whatever it is, it doesn’t give you the right to find comfort in your ex.

4. Think about everything you may lose… Is it worth it?

You aren’t only going to lose your marriage and your spouse… You may lose your close friends because they might be angry at you because of what you did.

Si hay niños de por medio, también pueden estar enfadados por lo que le hiciste a su padre/madre. Y tu familia puede sentirse herida, y tus suegros pueden empezar a odiarte.

Now, tell me… Is it really worth it? I always say that true love is worth anything, but even if there are some feelings between you and your ex, it’s not true love.

Believe me, it’s not worth losing everything you have and have been building with your current partner over the years you’ve been together.

5. Recuerda, un ex es un ex por una razón

You didn’t end your romantic relationship with your ex just because. I’m sure there was a good reason for it, just like there is a reason you decided to marry your current partner.

If they were truly your soulmate, they wouldn’t be stuck in your past. If you care about your future, you’ll focus solely on it and your present, and leaving your past behind forever.

Think about all these things before your ex takes you down the rabbit hole. Even if you two are just texting, those things aren’t harmless… it may harm your marriage to the point it won’t be fixable anymore.

¿Está bien hablar con tu ex estando casado?

It’s okay ONLY if your current partner knows about it. If you’re doing it behind their back, it isn’t and can’t be okay because that means you have a reason for hiding it from them.

Aun así, debes prestar atención a cómo hablas con tu ex. Keep those talks on amicable terms. Don’t allow them to cross the line.

If you notice at any moment that it’s started to bother your spouse, you should end communication with your former partner. After all, you should always know your priorities: your new partner and your marriage.

¿Se puede ser amigo de un ex estando casado?

If you agreed to be friends before you met your new partner and before you got married, it’s okay to ser amigo de su ex pareja when you’re married.

I think your partner shouldn’t make a big deal about it because you two were friends even before you got married, especially if you aren’t the best of friends but the kind of friends who text or see each other only a couple of times in a year.

However, if your spouse doesn’t agree with it, you should try to explain it to them calmly, or if that doesn’t change their mind, you should start thinking about ending the friendship with your ex-partner.

¿Se considera infidelidad enviar mensajes de texto a tu ex?

Some people would say that it’s not because you’re only texting. However, there are different kinds of cheating – unfaithfulness isn‘t only when a partner sleeps with someone else.

If you’re texting your ex behind your spouse’s back and keeping it a secret from them and everyone else, and if that texting is making you think about rekindling the old flame, it’s most definitely engaño emocional.

Imagina cómo se sentiría tu pareja si se enterara. O intenta imaginar cómo te sentirías tú si te hicieran lo mismo a ti.

Si de verdad quieres a tu pareja, deberías dejar de enviar mensajes a tu ex cuanto antes. Deja atrás el pasado, avanzar once and for all, and focus on your marriage. On the other hand, if you still have feelings for your old love, be fair and respectful with your spouse and tell them the truth – they deserve it!

Citas para hablar con tu ex durante una relación

I hope these quotes will show you how dangerous it is to reconnect with your ex behind your new partner’s back.

1. “Ladies, if he still talks to his ex, even if it’s trash talk, he’s not over her. When a man is over someone, he doesn’t talk with them.”

2. “I just found out that my soon-to-be ex-husband is texting with his ex-girlfriend. Well, it’s his bad because he’s the one who is about to lose the real diamond because of his search for all that glitters.”

3. “When your partner starts talking to their ex, you might as well ask them to bring yesterday’s trash back into the house while he/she is at it..”

4. “Entertaining your ex is disrespectful to the relationship you are in. When you mix the past with the present, you destroy the future!”

5. “No! Talking to your ex is a form of cheating. You don’t do that if you are in una relación seria. Period.”

6. “Mi ex-novio me envió un mensaje, and I texted him back. It was the biggest mistake of my life because it almost cost me losing the two most sacred things in my life: my husband and our marriage. This is an appeal to you all, don’t even think about making the same mistake!”

7. “Yes, it is cheating. An ex is an ex for a reason. You shouldn’t be talking to an ex-wife/husband if you have a new love, and you shouldn’t be in a relationship if you’re still not over your ex.”

8. “If you have feelings for them, go back to them and leave your new partner to find their own happiness. That way, only one person will end up hurting. Playing both sides will hurt all three of you.”

9. “If you are talking to your ex, you’re definitely cheating on the person you’re currently in a relationship with. Just as sex is cheating, in any case, talking to your ex would also be considered cheating.”

10. “Think twice before deciding to text back someone you loved in the past. That could be the mistake of your life because you could lose the person standing beside you in the present.”

11. “If you’re going to remain friends with your ex, it will happen organically and when you’re over them. Anything else is auditioning to get your old job back while playing the role of doormat.”

12. “If you’re even thinking about texting your ex, tu matrimonio está condenado al fracaso.“

13. “Your partner shouldn’t have to remind you to cut off communication with your ex. Only then will your relationship move forward.”

14. “You opened a new chapter of your life when you said ‘yes’ to your spouse. With respect for that chapter, you should never think about reopening past ones.”

15. ”Stop communicating with your ex unless you’re ready to end your relationship now. Remember, he/she is an ex for a reason. If you get back together with them, the reason you left will just resurface.”

En pocas palabras

En definitiva, reconectar con un ex estando casado es lo peor que le puedes hacer a tu pareja actual. Nadie merece ser traicionado de esa manera.

If you think you still have feelings for your ex-partner or your old feelings have come back, you shouldn’t ignore them. You can give your ex another chance, but you need to admit it and talk about it with your spouse first.

Don’t allow a moment of passion to ruin your marriage. Ten siempre presente que hay una buena razón para que esa persona pertenezca a tu pasado y tu pareja actual forme parte de tu presente.

Deja que eso te guíe a la hora de tomar la decisión sobre a quién quieres en tu futuro.