7 pericoli di una nuova relazione con un ex mentre si è sposati

Riallacciare i rapporti con un ex mentre si è sposati è una pessima idea per molti motivi. Può ferire molte persone e persino rovinare la vita di alcune.

When a relationship ends, both partners need to take time to heal. If they keep in contact, they’ll never be able to move forward properly. If someone isn’t ready to completely let go of their past, they should not engage in a new relationship.

However, if two exes keep coming back to each other, it’s obvious that they have a strong connection that doesn’t allow them to let go of one another.

7 pericoli di una nuova relazione con un ex mentre si è sposati

Ok, sappiamo tutti che riallacciare i rapporti con un ex while married is the wrong idea. Now, it’s time to find out all the dangers behind it.

1. Il vostro coniuge potrebbe scoprire

I’m sure your spouse doesn’t know about it for now, but one day, they’ll find out one way or another. And what will you do when that day comes?

Will you be able to look your partner in the eye? What will you say to them? Will you be able to endure that you’ve broken their heart?

2. Può danneggiare o distruggere completamente il vostro matrimonio

Se il coniuge lo scopre, possono verificarsi due scenari:

Either they’ll decide to forgive you, and you’ll have to work hard to riconquistare la loro fiducia e salvare il vostro matrimonio, or they’ll decide to end your marriage ASAP.

Alcuni problemi di fiducia tra voi e il vostro partner sorgeranno sicuramente. Inoltre, può lasciare il coniuge con molte insicurezze. Tutto questo indebolirà il vostro legame.

Now, it’s up to you to decide. Is reconnecting with your ex really worth losing the beautiful relazione a lungo termine you have with your current partner? If it is, then go for it, but if it’s not, end every form of communication you have with your ex.

3. Dare false speranze al vostro ex

Maybe you’ve reconnected with your ex from high school, and you really want to be friends with them, but maybe that isn’t what they have in mind. Ogni comunicazione che avete potrebbe dare loro la speranza che anche voi vogliate riaccendere il vostro vecchio rapporto.

So, even if you don’t have any intention to, they might think that you do. Maybe all you want is a long-distance friendship, where you’ll be texting over social media from time to time, and that’s it. However, your ex may be wishing for something completely different.

4. Potreste iniziare a pensare di riaccendere la vecchia fiamma

Può un amore perduto be reborn? It most definitely can, but it’ll never be the same again. That’s what you should keep in mind if you’re thinking about rebuilding the connection with your ex.

Maybe you didn’t think about it when they reached out to you, but if you spend too much time texting, those kinds of thoughts will definitely appear.

5. I vecchi sentimenti possono tornare a galla

La verità è che se i vecchi sentimenti tornano a galla, potrebbe essere un segnale di allarme che non se ne sono mai andati. Forse eravate innamorati del vostro ex tutto questo tempo mentre lei era sposata con il suo attuale partner.

Perhaps you married them hoping it’d help you forget about your ex. I agree it’s a bad thing, but if it’s true, you need to come clean with your spouse and admit the truth to them.

Né voi né il vostro coniuge meritate di restare in un matrimonio in cui non c'è amore vero.

6. You may do something you’ll regret later

All'inizio potreste limitarvi a messaggiare. Tuttavia, se lasciate che la cosa vada avanti per qualche tempo, il vostro ex potrebbe invitarvi a uscire e voi potreste accettare il suo invito.

And I honestly doubt it’ll only be two old friends hanging out. You might do something. Heck, I’ll be direct: you may sleep with them and cheat on your spouse. Even if you’re absolutely sure you’re still in love with your ex, you won’t be able to forgive yourself for tradire il partner attuale.

7. Molte persone intorno a voi potrebbero farsi male

Se siete in una relazione sana/marriage with your partner, doing something like this behind their back won’t only hurt them. It’ll also hurt everyone who loves them and loved you two as a couple.

Your mutual friends, your close friends, your family, his family… All those people will be hurt by your betrayal. Are you sure you can deal with such a huge weight around your neck? Will you be able to move on knowing that you’ve hurt so many people?

Ricongiungersi con un ex mentre si è sposati: Cosa fare?

If you’re reconnecting with your ex while you’re married, here are some things you should pay attention to. I’m sure these things will make you change your mind and end communication with your ex.

1. Ricordare a se stessi perché la relazione è finita la prima volta

Just remind yourself of why you and your ex broke up in the first place. It’s not like they were the best partner ever, and you decided you’d one day had enough of them.

Your relationship wasn’t healthy, and you weren’t a good match because if you were, you would still be together. Ricordatevelo ogni volta che iniziate a pensare di riallacciare i rapporti con loro.

2. Concentrarsi sulla propria salute emotiva e mentale

When you find yourself in this position, it definitely starts affecting your well-being. You become obsessed about it, you find your situation hopeless, and you blame yourself for doing it behind your partner’s back.

Maybe that is your ex’s goal: to ruin you completely. To break your heart again. To leave you with emotional wounds once again.

Don’t allow them to do that. Pay attention to your emotional and mental health. If it’s needed, seek professional help.

3. Lasciare andare il passato e aggrapparsi al presente/futuro

Per il bene della vostra attuale relazione, dovete lasciate andare la vostra vecchia relazione e il vostro ex. Lasciate queste cose nel passato, al loro posto.

All married couples go through different phases, and if you and your spouse are currently in a rut, you’ll overcome it. Whatever it is, it doesn’t give you the right to find comfort in your ex.

4. Think about everything you may lose… Is it worth it?

You aren’t only going to lose your marriage and your spouse… You may lose your close friends because they might be angry at you because of what you did.

Se sono coinvolti dei bambini, anche loro potrebbero essere arrabbiati per quello che avete fatto alla loro mamma o al loro papà. La vostra famiglia potrebbe essere ferita e i vostri suoceri potrebbero iniziare a odiarvi.

Now, tell me… Is it really worth it? I always say that true love is worth anything, but even if there are some feelings between you and your ex, it’s not true love.

Believe me, it’s not worth losing everything you have and have been building with your current partner over the years you’ve been together.

5. Ricordate che un ex è un ex per un motivo.

You didn’t end your romantic relationship with your ex just because. I’m sure there was a good reason for it, just like there is a reason you decided to marry your current partner.

If they were truly your soulmate, they wouldn’t be stuck in your past. If you care about your future, you’ll focus solely on it and your present, and leaving your past behind forever.

Think about all these things before your ex takes you down the rabbit hole. Even if you two are just texting, those things aren’t harmless… it may harm your marriage to the point it won’t be fixable anymore.

È giusto parlare con il proprio ex mentre si è sposati?

It’s okay ONLY if your current partner knows about it. If you’re doing it behind their back, it isn’t and can’t be okay because that means you have a reason for hiding it from them.

Tuttavia, è necessario prestare attenzione a come ci si rivolge al proprio ex. Keep those talks on amicable terms. Don’t allow them to cross the line.

If you notice at any moment that it’s started to bother your spouse, you should end communication with your former partner. After all, you should always know your priorities: your new partner and your marriage.

Si può essere amici di un ex mentre si è sposati?

If you agreed to be friends before you met your new partner and before you got married, it’s okay to essere amici del proprio ex partner when you’re married.

I think your partner shouldn’t make a big deal about it because you two were friends even before you got married, especially if you aren’t the best of friends but the kind of friends who text or see each other only a couple of times in a year.

However, if your spouse doesn’t agree with it, you should try to explain it to them calmly, or if that doesn’t change their mind, you should start thinking about ending the friendship with your ex-partner.

Mandare messaggi al proprio ex è considerato un tradimento?

Some people would say that it’s not because you’re only texting. However, there are different kinds of cheating – unfaithfulness isn‘t only when a partner sleeps with someone else.

If you’re texting your ex behind your spouse’s back and keeping it a secret from them and everyone else, and if that texting is making you think about rekindling the old flame, it’s most definitely tradimento emotivo.

Provate a immaginare come si sentirebbe il vostro attuale partner se lo scoprisse. Oppure, provate a immaginare come vi sentireste voi se loro facessero lo stesso con voi.

Se amate davvero il vostro coniuge, dovreste smettere di mandare messaggi al vostro ex il prima possibile. Lasciate perdere il passato, andare avanti once and for all, and focus on your marriage. On the other hand, if you still have feelings for your old love, be fair and respectful with your spouse and tell them the truth – they deserve it!

Parlare con il tuo ex mentre sei in una relazione citazioni

I hope these quotes will show you how dangerous it is to reconnect with your ex behind your new partner’s back.

1. “Ladies, if he still talks to his ex, even if it’s trash talk, he’s not over her. When a man is over someone, he doesn’t talk with them.”

2. “I just found out that my soon-to-be ex-husband is texting with his ex-girlfriend. Well, it’s his bad because he’s the one who is about to lose the real diamond because of his search for all that glitters.”

3. “When your partner starts talking to their ex, you might as well ask them to bring yesterday’s trash back into the house while he/she is at it..”

4. “Entertaining your ex is disrespectful to the relationship you are in. When you mix the past with the present, you destroy the future!”

5. “No! Talking to your ex is a form of cheating. You don’t do that if you are in una relazione seria. Period.”

6. “Il mio ex ragazzo mi ha mandato un messaggio, and I texted him back. It was the biggest mistake of my life because it almost cost me losing the two most sacred things in my life: my husband and our marriage. This is an appeal to you all, don’t even think about making the same mistake!”

7. “Yes, it is cheating. An ex is an ex for a reason. You shouldn’t be talking to an ex-wife/husband if you have a new love, and you shouldn’t be in a relationship if you’re still not over your ex.”

8. “If you have feelings for them, go back to them and leave your new partner to find their own happiness. That way, only one person will end up hurting. Playing both sides will hurt all three of you.”

9. “If you are talking to your ex, you’re definitely cheating on the person you’re currently in a relationship with. Just as sex is cheating, in any case, talking to your ex would also be considered cheating.”

10. “Think twice before deciding to text back someone you loved in the past. That could be the mistake of your life because you could lose the person standing beside you in the present.”

11. “If you’re going to remain friends with your ex, it will happen organically and when you’re over them. Anything else is auditioning to get your old job back while playing the role of doormat.”

12. “If you’re even thinking about texting your ex, il vostro matrimonio è destinato a fallire.“

13. “Your partner shouldn’t have to remind you to cut off communication with your ex. Only then will your relationship move forward.”

14. “You opened a new chapter of your life when you said ‘yes’ to your spouse. With respect for that chapter, you should never think about reopening past ones.”

15. ”Stop communicating with your ex unless you’re ready to end your relationship now. Remember, he/she is an ex for a reason. If you get back together with them, the reason you left will just resurface.”

In breve

In definitiva, riallacciare i rapporti con un ex mentre si è sposati è la cosa peggiore che si possa fare al proprio partner attuale. Nessuno merita di essere tradito in questo modo.

If you think you still have feelings for your ex-partner or your old feelings have come back, you shouldn’t ignore them. You can give your ex another chance, but you need to admit it and talk about it with your spouse first.

Don’t allow a moment of passion to ruin your marriage. Tenete sempre presente che c'è una buona ragione per cui quella persona appartiene al vostro passato e il vostro attuale partner fa parte del vostro presente.

Lasciate che questo vi guidi mentre decidete chi volete nel vostro futuro.