I always say that life is the most unpredictable force. One moment, you’re laughing and enjoying spending time with your loved ones. The next, you’re crying and cursing your destiny because all of a sudden, everything is going wrong.
Perhaps you or someone close to you is sick, maybe you lost your job, or you’re having a hard time dealing with your relationship problems. There are so many potential things that could go wrong, and once Murphy’s law kicks in, you enter a state of utter desperation.
For those who aren’t familiar with this law, Murphy’s law is an adage or epigram that means: “Anything that can go wrong will go wrong.”
So what do you do when everything is going wrong in your life?
Do you sit in the corner of your room and cry over your bad luck and your life being a mess? Or do you try to find a silver lining even when it seems impossible to do so?
Here are the things you should keep in mind and do when everything goes wrong!
11 Things To Remember When Everything Is Going Wrong
When you’re feeling lost in life, you have two options here: You can continue wallowing in self-pity or do something about it. According to my personal experience so far, I can confirm that the latter is a much better option. Here are a few things to remember when you’re going through hard times:
1. No single problem lasts a lifetime
Why me? Why does my life feel like a dead-end street named bad luck?
Do these questions sound familiar to you? I bet they do because these are the questions that every single one of us asks ourselves when everything goes wrong.
Here’s the thing. Bad things happen to everyone, but no problem lasts a lifetime. If you’re having a bad day, week, or month, know that this too shall pass.
2. Recognize what is going right
I’m sure there are many things in your life that are going right at the moment, but you simply refuse to acknowledge them. Why? Because you’re focused solely on everything that is going wrong.
It’s time to change that.
Instead of focusing on the sentence, Everything I do is wrong, think of the things that are going right!
Do you still have a job? Are you in a great relationship? Are your family members and friends supportive of you? Do you have access to safe drinking water, a place to sleep, and food to eat?
There are so many things we take for granted, thinking that the universe owes us. Some people don’t have the luxury of having a place to sleep tonight or food in the fridge.
If you’re not one of them, then that’s the most important thing that is going right, right?
3. Your approach to life is responsible for your happiness
When your world is falling apart, stop looking for culprits around you. No one is to blame for it. The way you approach life is the result of your happiness (or lack thereof).
This that means when something bad happens to you, you have the power to make it right. And I don‘t agree with you – you not being good at anything is such a lie.
You’re capable, smart, beautiful, and simply amazing. You’re one of a kind.
Instead of waiting for things to magically solve themselves, I encourage you to take responsibility for your actions. Focus on one problem at a time.
Don’t try to solve all your problems at once because chances are, you won’t succeed. Baby steps are strongly recommended.
4. You’re in control to a certain degree
Feeling like you’re out of control can be frustrating, which can negatively affect your mental health. When everything seems to be against you, realize that you’re still in control to a certain degree!
During difficult times, you have the option to choose how you respond to them. Will you focus on looking for solutions? Will you wait for things to fix themselves on their own? Will you seek help from others?
You see, you are in control. Simply making a decision to do or not to do something means being in control. You’re in control of your mind, which means you’re always in control, but during tough times, you forget that (just like we all do).
5. Most of the problems won’t even matter in a few years
Be honest with yourself. Will what you’re going through at the moment matter a few years from now?
I bet that 99% of your problems won’t. Exceptions are problems with your health. Any problem that doesn’t affect your health and well-being has a great potential to be solved.
Just because you can’t see the light at the end of the tunnel right now doesn’t mean you eventually won’t. The light is there, and it’s only a matter of time before you reach it.
At the end of the day, there’s no point in stressing over things that won’t matter in a year, two, or more. So, think about that.
6. There’s nothing wrong with asking for help
Many people refrain from asking for help during tough times, mostly because they don’t want to bother others with their problems. Well, this is a huge mistake.
Now think of the times when you were there for someone who needed help or simply to be listened to? Did you feel like they were bothering you with their problems, or were you glad you could help them?
Be gentle with yourself. There’s nothing wrong with asking for help when you need it. Talk to those close to you or your partner, or seek professional help if your well-being is being compromised.
7. Accept the things that you cannot change
I bet that the biggest source of frustration comes from not being able to accept the things you cannot change. That is when you start feeling like everything is falling apart.
Don’t let things bother you. To be more exact, don’t let things you cannot change bother you. Accept them or die trying. (I hope you recognize the reference to the saying “Get rich or die trying”).
Let go of everything you cannot influence. If you keep worrying about what you have no control over, your hopelessness will only increase. You deserve better, and you know it too.
8. You CAN and WILL get through it
What if I tell you that this part of your life when everything is going wrong will pass? How? Because you can, and you will get through it.
No matter what’s happening at the moment, you will get through it. Period. Well, if you believe this, then you’re halfway there already.
So, stop sabotaging yourself. Stop thinking that the universe is plotting against you or that bad karma is haunting you. The thing is, all of us go through tough periods in our lives, but luckily, they don’t last forever.
9. Find a silver lining
If I’ve learned anything during my humble life, it is that bad situations teach you valuable life lessons. That’s my favorite silver lining when I feel hopeless and lost.
To find a silver lining means to rewire your outlook to a positive one. It means finding that one thing (or more things) that will serve as a reminder to keep going no matter what.
To find a silver lining means never losing hope regardless of how bad the situation is. I know it’s easier said than done, but the worst thing you could do is give up without even trying.
10. You’ve survived even worse
I bet you’ve survived even worse so far but just forget to remind yourself of that. Now, what does this mean? It means that you’ve already experienced tough times, and you survived them like a true warrior.
This is also a promise and a valid reminder that you’ll survive this too. All in all, if you occasionally don’t remind yourself of how strong and resilient you are, you will feel lost in this vortex called life.
Keep going even during hard times because you have the capacity to do wonders. You have the capacity to change the path where you got stuck at the moment.
11. Take good care of yourself
When everything is going wrong, the best thing you can do is take good care of yourself. Self-care should be your number one priority.
So, focus on yourself, get out of your rut, take a break from social media, go for a walk, meditate, exercise, take a deep breath. Taking good care of yourself will help you cope easier with difficult situations.
Releasing stress should be your most important self-care method. Even when everything is falling apart, you still deserve and can feel good about yourself.
12. Never underestimate the power of positive thoughts
Validate yourself (read: express your feelings), but don’t let negative thoughts prevent you from establishing a positive attitude.
It’s highly recommended to let go of negative thoughts because they will attract more negativity in your life. Like it or not, you attract into your life what you think about.
So, what are the things that you usually think about? If they are solely negative, then they’ll put you in a state of low vibrations (read: perpetual unhappiness).
Positive thoughts are linked with higher vibrations, and you should focus on them. Never underestimate the power of your thoughts because they are responsible for things happening (or not happening) in your life.
13. You’re not alone
I know you’re probably feeling alone in the world right now, but you’re not. Don’t let your problems push you away from your loved ones and other people who are there for you.
You’re surrounded by millions and millions of people on earth, and it has never been easier to reach someone from a different continent via social media. Sometimes, talking to strangers can help you a lot because you get to hear their neutral perspectives on things.
I’m sure there are also many online support groups where you can share what’s in your heart and communicate with others. And yes, if you feel like you need a hug, I’m sending you a virtual one. 🥰
Why Is Everything Going Wrong?
When you’re feeling lost and defeated, it’s normal to think that someone is plotting against you. You become convinced that the universe randomly chose you to suffer today, the next following days, or months.
I’m sure that no one has managed to answer the question of why everything is going wrong, but I’ll try to do it now. Everything is going wrong when we get stuck in our own routines and when we’re unwilling to change our perspectives on things.
To put it simply, not everything is going wrong, but our minds trick us into believing this. So, your task is to find a way to reset your thinking, focus on things you can change, and arm yourself with positive thoughts.
The moment you stop thinking that everything is doomed is the moment you start living.
When Everything Goes Wrong, Perhaps It’s Setting Itself Right?
YES! A hundred times, yes! People often fail to see that things going wrong are actually a form of life transformation. And we all know that transformations are anything but light.
Your heart will be broken multiple times, you will lose jobs, you will cry, and you will lose hope.
Do you know what happens after this?
You will find the right one for you, you will find a better job, you will smile, and you will regain hope.
When everything goes wrong, this is actually an opportunity for things to set themselves right; the way they should be. All you need to do is to believe.
“When Things Go Wrong, Don’t Go With Them!” – Elvis Presley
Do you still think that everything is going wrong? It’s okay. I understand you need some time to process all this, and that’s fine.
Just remember that you have power over your feelings. You have the power to choose your actions, so choose them wisely.
Additionally, here are some wise words from Verywell Mind:
“If you are dealing with symptoms of anxiety, panic, or depersonalization/derealization, it can be helpful to seek professional mental health help, particularly if your experience is intense, is interfering with your day-to-day life, or doesn’t seem to respond well enough to self-care and other forms of stress relief.”
Have a good day and good luck!