We all have some problems at some points of our lives but we shouldn’t let them define us. I know it is easy for people to say that you should let go of something and move on but actually doing that is much more difficult. You just need to accept that no matter what kind of shit happens to you, it will eventually pass and you will get back on your feet again. In order to help you cope with life problems more easily, we found the best ways to let go of negativity in your life and to embrace your future. Here is what we found:
1. Accept that something bad happened
If you don’t accept that you have a problem, you will never be able to solve it. It is the same with drug addicts, for example; if they don’t accept the fact that they are addicts and that they need someone’s help, they will never be cured. Once you admit to yourself that there is something that bothers you, you can work hard on resolving that problem. Just by accepting the fact that you have a problem, you have already solved half of it.
2. Stop playing the victim
Have you thought about others with their problems? Did you ever compare your problems with theirs? Maybe some things will look better to you if you think about other people’s problems. Maybe just for a second you will think that you don’t have such a big issue after all. And when you realize that, you will feel much better because you are blessed. And you know why? Because you will also learn a life lesson from anything bad that happens to you but it may not hurt you as badly as it hurts someone else.
3. Remember that you have choices
All the negativity in your life happened to you for a reason. Some things happened to teach you a lesson while other things happened because you provoked them with your behavior. But the most important thing is that you remember that you always have a choice. That means that you don’t need to do things that you don’t want to do. Don’t make others happy if that will make you feel sad. I know it is good when you are all nice and polite but trust me, it is not worth it.
4. Be proud of letting go of negativity
Once you learn not to sweat the small stuff, you will be so proud of yourself and you will be able to embrace a new chapter of your life. By making this huge change in your life, you will learn to accept all the bad that happens to you as a sign of a test that you need to pass in order for you to be able to live a happy and fulfilled life.
5. Focus on the present
If you focus on the present more, you will have less time to think about the past. You should leave the past where it belongs and think about all those good things that you can do now. Just think about it: you are here, you are breathing, and you are feeling everything. Why would you let your past define you? That is not what you need. Instead, live in the present and be the best version of yourself.
6. Forgive yourself
Okay, so you may not be the best person alive but you sure are leaving a trace in this world. Even if you admit to yourself that you made some mistakes, be prepared to forgive yourself because that is something that you need to do to move on. If you can’t do that you will be stuck in the past and you won’t be able to move forward. And if you think about it, this is the best thing that you can do for yourself because it would be in vain to live in the past all the time.
7. Forgive others
No matter how much people have disappointed you, forgive them. Not because they deserve forgiveness but because you deserve peace. Forgiveness means letting something go so do that and don’t think a lot about doing so. You will feel much better because it will take the load off your back. Just remember that nobody is perfect and that you can’t expect people to be perfect in this kind of a world.
8. Be proactive
The next time that you feel a lot of negativity inside of you, do things that will change your life. Enroll in that foreign language class that you always wanted to do or finally start to eat healthily. Do some things you will be proud of and be satisfied doing them. Don’t forget that you are the one who can change your life and that you can do even the impossible if you want.
9. Replace negativity with positivity
Why would you waste your energy thinking about negative things? Instead, think about positive stuff because that is what matters the most. If people are negative, don’t be in their company. If some places are negative, don’t go there anymore. The catch is that you need to do everything in your power to live a high-quality life and to try things that make you happy. I know that it won’t be easy to be positive all the time because life is hard but at least you can try to maintain a good and healthy life.
10. Think about the negativity as a lesson
We were born to learn lessons in our lives so consider your negativity one lesson more to make your life better. If you think about it, you will see that all the bad that happens to you will make you stronger and that you will learn a lot about yourself from the mistakes you made in your life. And don’t try to learn from other people’s mistakes because that is impossible. You need to make a mistake to learn from it but that is all a part of life. And even shit happens, but after all, life is beautiful!