Have you ever felt that instant connection with someone that only got deeper and deeper once you got to know them? That one of a kind feeling you get when you think you must’ve known that person in some other life? He or she complements you in a way you never thought possible.
That’s an emotional attraction. It happens when somebody finds the key to your soul. When that happens to you, you can say that you have found love with the right one. At that particular moment, everything looks so perfect and your love life is slowly transforming into the most beautiful love story.
You feel that your souls recognized each other and that you clicked from the start.
It’s much, much deeper and more intimate than physical attraction will ever be. Physical attraction shouldn’t be disregarded either but you should always put more trust in emotional attraction. Physical attraction has a tendency to fade away if you don’t share an emotional attraction too.
If you are lucky enough to have both, you have probably found the person you are supposed to spend your forever with. The perfect relationship of your life will be with a person you can share both types of attraction.
Emotional attraction could be described as an invisible force from within both of you that pulls you closer together. Your minds fall in love. Your souls fall in love.
The best way to really explain it is to look for the signs of emotional attraction:
1. The time you spend together is priceless
You simply like hanging out together so you spend most of your free time together. Not all of it of course; you both have your own life, family, friends, work and interests. But every second you can steal, you spend together and you cherish it like it’s something of great value.
It doesn’t have to be some big event, a romantic getaway for two or a candlelit dinner, it can just be simply hanging out, Netflix and chill, stargazing, eating pizza or talking about anything you can possibly think of.
The important thing is that you are together and that just their presence makes you feel a joy that cannot be described with words. You are there to make the emotional connection and to increase emotional intimacy with your loved one.
To make this happen, you are working on building a long-term relationship that you will be proud of. That is the best dating advice any relationship expert will provide you with. Trust me, whenever you work on creating a deeper level in your relationship, amazing things can happen. You just need to have some faith.
2. Your calls, texts or Snapchats don’t have a time limit
Sometimes it could be a short message in the middle of an overwhelming workday that just makes everything better. Other times it could be a short call just to check on you or to see when you guys could meet.
Then there are those other times. When one of you is away from town or you just feel the need to talk to them. The more distant they are, the more you want to talk to them.
You somehow feel that you will be closer to them if you call them and let them know about your day. Also, the sound of their voice can calm you down and make your day. Then there are days where you text non-stop about anything and everything.
There are nights where you catch yourself almost falling asleep while hearing his voice on the phone. Those days and nights you just can’t stop yourself from saying basically everything to one another show that even when you are not physically together, you feel the need to connect in some way. It’s never forced, it comes to you naturally.
3. You share the same sense of humor
People often overlook this but a shared sense of humor proves that your minds operate at the same level. A sense of humor says a lot about your connection.
Humor is intertwined with emotions and if you both have the same sense of humor, you’ll end up with that unbreakable bond everyone searches for. If you can manage to use your sense of humor on the first date, you are already halfway to success.
Little things are the most important and if you manage to use some of them, like for example to flirt and to create a good atmosphere, it will be easy for you to form a deeper connection.
4. You finish each other’s sentences
They are not the missing puzzle piece or the other half of you, they are more like an extension of you. You almost feel like you spend time in their mind or them in yours.
It has to be something like that because it seems almost impossible that someone knows you that well on the inside that they are able to finish your sentences. If you have ever experienced something like this, just know it was an incredible emotional connection.
It’s not out of this world but it’s amazing nevertheless. It proves that both of you listen to one another and that you know how the person you care for would think about certain topics. Then again, sometimes you just seem to guess the next thing coming out of their mouth because you were thinking it too.
And if you think this only happens in long term relationships, you are wrong. It will happen whenever there is a deep connection between two people.
5. You know each other’s vulnerabilities and strengths
You find both of them equally attractive. Bearing your soul in front of somebody and allowing them to do the same leaves you naked in more than a literal sense of that word.
Opening up to somebody might not be easy but that’s why it is invaluable. You can’t do this with just anyone except with a special person.
Once you found the one you have been waiting for your entire life, you will feel the level of emotional intimacy you have never felt before.
Opening up to somebody means showing that you are vulnerable but it shows immense strength and trust and it gives you closeness. When it comes to signs, this one is the most powerful signs of emotional attraction as it stands out and it speaks the loudest.
6. You knock on each other’s door when in need of advice
When you are struggling with something, they are the first person you go to for advice. That’s because you share mutual trust, you are aware that they have your best interests at heart and that they get you in ways nobody else can.
It doesn’t matter whether it’s something big and life-changing or some small bump in the road, what matters is that you went to them first, that you thought of them first. In any case, it demonstrates that their opinion matters a great deal to you.
Once you find someone like this, you can be sure that you found your person, your partner in crime for life.
7. You know each other’s friends and family
It means you made a spot in your life that’s only theirs to take. That spot is reserved for a person who is so valuable to you that you want them to get to know the people who are important to you. You want them to be close.
You want them to get to know the person who bettered your life, the person who makes you happier than you ever thought possible. Once you find a person like that, you can be truly happy because that is what most people look for their entire life. It is a real blessing to be with someone who knows all of you.
The one who knows how you feel just by one look into your eyes. Being in love with your soulmate and feeling incredible chemistry with them is all you need to feel satisfied and happy.
8. You like to take care of each other
Every now and then, you appreciate the person in your life who pampers you. They like to make you happy as much as you like making them happy.
Taking care of them is more than spoiling them. It’s about being concerned with the other’s well-being, both emotional and physical. It’s about matching their efforts and their goodness. It’s about reciprocating the love. It’s about emotional attraction.
That is the key to every successful relationship. If you have a person like this in your life, make sure you cherish them because it is not something you will feel often in your lifetime. Mutual respect and love is actually all you need to feel satisfaction and happiness at the same time.
9. You respect each other
One of the most important things that defines a relationship full of emotional attraction is respect. In fact, respect is more important than love in long-term relationships.
When you grow old with your soulmate and you don’t feel so crazy in love like before, respect is what will make the bond between the two of you unbreakable. When you have someone who respects your opinion, your outlook on life and your goals, you can consider yourself happy.
That is the dream of every single woman and once it happens, every one of them will feel like she made a good choice when she said yes to him. If you want your loved one to feel extremely good in your relationship, respect them and their choices because you are one of them.
10. You give each other all your attention
Two of the most important things you can give to your loved one are your attention and your time. If you get them unselfishly and you feel good in their company, it is a sign of true love.
Maybe you just need more time to get to know each other but if you feel good when you are with them now, chances are it will only continue later. When your partner does everything to make you feel happy, be good enough and reciprocate in the same way.
I am not saying you should spend all your time with them but make sure you are there when they need you. If they have a special occasion in their life and they want you to be there, make sure to be with them. Maybe some of them can’t express what they need using words but there is no doubt when they want something like this.
Love is great when it is with the right person, someone who gets you totally and who doesn’t ruin your life by making stupid mistakes. If you have found a love like this, cherish it and nurture it because that is the only way it will last.
11. You can be yourself when you are with him
You know how we all pretend that we are a bit different at the beginning of every relationship? It is natural because you want your potential partner to think only the best about you. But after some time, you get bored with that and you want to show all your vulnerabilities.
If you have found someone you can be yourself with, that is a great achievement. Luck has something to do with it, though. When you can totally open up about everything that bothers you, when you show them how you look on your worst days and when you have no secrets in front of them, it really means something.
When you have someone who accepts you just the way you are and who loves you and reminds you of that every single day, you are a truly happy woman. This is the dream of every woman alive but sadly, many of them never experience it. So, if you are one of those lucky ones, enjoy your happiness and make it last.
12. You feel like you are the only woman alive when you are with him
If your man treats you like you are the only woman alive, make sure to never let him go because he is a keeper. It means that he is not interested in the rest of the women because he has found what he has been looking for. To him, you are the only woman he needs to be happy.
He wants to be with you, to talk to you and listen to you. He feels comfortable in your company and he will always try to find ways to spend some quality time with you. You make him complete and you give him what no other woman before you could.
With you, he experiences failure but also an amount of pleasure and that incredible mix is what makes the unbreakable bond between the two of you. When you find someone who makes you feel this way, you can just thank God for sending him into your life.
Love like this happens only once in a lifetime so make sure that you don’t do anything that could destroy it.
13. You feel that deep connection is present all the time
When you have a deep connection with the man you are dating, it really means something. If you have it from the start, chances are that you will have it throughout the whole relationship. If you feel he is your person who understands you always no matter what you do, keep him close.
A man like that is hard to find so when you finally find him, consider yourself lucky. Unfortunately, there are so many relationships that are based on physical attraction only. Those relationships have an expiration date and it is only a matter of time before something will end it.
But when two souls are connected and when the bond between them is strong, there is nothing that can destroy what they have. They will always find each other no matter what happens and they will solve every problem they have.
That is called real and unconditional love and if you nurture it and take care of it, it will just get stronger every day.