I wish there was a way for me to hug you over the screen. I wish there was a way for me to show you how incredible you are, to show you that you are everything but ordinary. To show you that you deserve so much more than you’re settling for.
Instead, I’m writing over and over again, hoping that maybe someday, my words will help someone walk away from things that hurt them. Hoping that someday, my words will give someone courage to make a decision they should’ve made long time ago. A decision to put themselves first.
So, let me say it again: YOU DESERVE IT ALL.
You deserve to be happy. All those quotes about how love is not real if it doesn’t hurt, screw them! Love is not supposed to hurt you. Love is supposed to keep you safe when everything else falls apart. Yes, it gets hard, it gets messy, but if you don’t feel safe, it’s not real. If you don’t feel like you can talk about it, it’s not real.
And happiness is not just about being in love. You deserve to be happy at home, at work, in your own mind. I know, life’s a bitch, but you’ll never know how happy you can be if you don’t try it. They say that when things seem terrifying, you just need to jump. So, I’m asking you to jump. Jump into the unknown and remember that you are strong enough to deal with whatever is in there. Just jump.
You deserve to be respected. Respect is not a privilege and it pains me to see it being treated as such. You are not defined by your gender, your job or your ethnicity. And respect shouldn’t be based on those things. Respect shouldn’t be given to only some people. Demand respect if you’re not given any. There will always be assholes who will try to deny you the respect your deserve. There will always be assholes who will try to belittle the things you’ve done. But show them you’re stronger, better. Show them you’re worth it and walk away. Let them drown in your dust, while you’re thriving.
You deserve to be appreciated and accepted—as you are and for who you are. If someone wants you to change, screw them. If someone says that you’ve changed, it usually means you’re not the person they need anymore. It has nothing to you being worse or better. It’s just the idea of you they had that changed. But the thing is, if we don’t change, we don’t grow. And if we don’t grow, we keep on being stuck at the same fucking place for years until we fade away.
Don’t let anyone dim your light, because you have the ability to outshine the Sun. Don’t let anyone make you question your worth, because no one walked through your Hell but you. No one walked in your shoes but you. No one loved, hoped or dreamed like you and no one ever will. Be who you are and never change for others. Change by yourself, for yourself.
You deserve the love you keep giving everyone else. It’s sad that you keep on lowering your walls to help people, how you keep on giving pieces of yourself to make someone better, but getting the same thing from those people is impossible.
It’s heartbreaking to see you hurt because you think you’re unlovable. But let me tell you one thing. You’re not unlovable because someone doesn’t know how to love. You’re not any less pretty, worthy or good just because someone was too blind to see it.
Don’t close your eyes to your faults because they’re your own. Learn to accept them and learn from them. And accept the truth that you deserve that movie kind of love. You deserve a happy ending and you deserve to be treated like a queen. And so what if there’s no super-hero to save you? You’re perfectly capable of doing it by yourself because you’ve already saved so many people. So, why not save yourself this time?
From the deepest parts of my little messed-up heart, I want you to be happy. I want you to be loved and kissed like you’ve never been kissed before. I want you to laugh until you feel your abs forming and the only pain you ever feel is the one from laughter. I want you to jump so high that you get lost among the stars. I want you to learn to fly because you already have the wings. All you have to do now is to let go of all that shit that weighs you down and just jump!
With all my love,
Someone who is just two clicks away.