Has your husband been very grumpy and moody lately, and sometimes you feel like it’s his time of the month?
Well, he might not have period but men do have something similar, and it’s called miserable husband syndrome.
Chances are your husband might be struggling.
If you notice these red flags below, you should start worrying and start acting on it before resentment grows more.
1. Frequent mood swings
You thought it was just an episode and that it’d soon pass. However, is your husband’s moodiness getting worse with each passing day, and you just feel like you won’t be able to put up with it for much longer?
You know what? You don’t have to. What you actually need to do is to find out the root cause of your husband’s frequent mood swings. Once you find out what that reason is, you need to make him confront it and be there to support him.
2. Low self-esteem
Science says that when testosterone levels in a man drop, it immediately impacts his self-esteem. Which then affects the quality of his life too.
Now, the important question, and the one I’m sure you want to know the answer to is, what may cause that drop in sex hormone levels? Poor life quality, some health conditions (like diabetes), and weight issues.
When a man has a poor self-image, it immediately affects his ego. His work, social, and love lives start suffering because he feels unworthy, which also makes him feel miserable. And it’ll stay that way as long as he doesn’t start working on improving his self-esteem.
3. Male depression and mental health issues
Depression and anxiety have unfortunately become very common health conditions nowadays. Women and men all around the world are suffering from them, and the worst thing is that most of them (especially guys) are still ashamed to admit it and seek help.
If you notice any traces of male depression in your man, you need to make sure he gets the help he needs. Find the best men’s health group that will help your man overcome his issues and, of course, help you both save your marriage.
4. High-stress levels
The fact is, we all deal with many situations daily that bring too much stress into our lives. If we don’t know how to cope with stress in a healthy way, our mental and emotional health is doomed.
If you know for sure that your husband is going through a stressful period in life, you need to find a way to comfort him and make his stress go away. And be very careful because stress is contagious, especially in romantic relationships.
5. Reduced energy level
Has your husband’s mood changed? Has he become depressed and tired all the time? Does he spread bad vibes all around?
Those are the clear signs of miserable husband syndrome. If you can’t help him increase his energy levels, at least try not to allow him to drain your energy with those bad vibes.
6. Odd body language
If your man has negative body language, it’s a big red flag that he has miserable husband syndrome.
The truth is, our body language can’t hide what’s going on inside of us. Your emotions and your current mood can always be figured out through your body language.
7. Going through andropause
Have you ever heard of this term? Andropause is, in a way, male menopause. Yes, men go through menopause, too, and they have hormonal fluctuations, mood swings, and most of the other symptoms women experience when they go through menopause.
What can you do to help your man cope with andropause? Frankly, not too much. You just need to offer support, be understanding, and hope that it’ll all be over soon.
8. Bad lifestyle choices
What is your husband’s lifestyle like? Has that changed lately, too? If he has made some bad lifestyle choices recently, it’s also a good sign he’s dealing with irritable male syndrome.
And you know what you need to do if this is true? You need to help your man open his eyes and realize that his bad lifestyle choices are affecting your marriage. Help him improve his quality of life as it will immediately improve and fix your marriage.
9. Stonewalling
Do you feel like your partner is becoming emotionally distant? Do you always feel like you’re talking to a brick wall when you try to speak to him?
It’s clear that he’s stonewalling you, and you shouldn’t get angry at him because he’s probably doing it unintentionally. Perhaps it’s his coping mechanism or the result of those internal fights and battles he’s struggling with.
10. Avoiding communication
It’s not only that he doesn’t want to listen to you anymore, he also doesn’t want to talk to you either, right? Has he started avoiding you totally, and it seems like he’s afraid of communicating with you?
You know what? You’re absolutely right. Your man is currently so confused and emotionally messed up, and he doesn’t know how to open up to you because he’s afraid that once he communicates his emotions, it may drive you away.
11. Running away from conflict
Do you know why your husband is avoiding communication and stonewalling you? It’s because he’s afraid of getting into a fight with you.
Right now, he isn’t able to explain himself and fight with you. He’s aware that the changes in his hormone levels and mixed-up emotions can make him do or say things he might regret afterward.
12. Neglecting his responsibilities
Does your man not only neglect you but has he started ignoring his responsibilities around the house and your kids? Speak no more, it’s obvious he’s dealing with irritable male syndrome.
Don’t just wait around and hope that it’ll be over soon and that he’ll start paying attention to you and the kids again. As long as your husband doesn’t deal with his issues, he won’t be able to be the husband and father he was before.
Related: 14 Reasons Why My Husband Never Does Anything Special For Me
13. Physical health issues
Has your husband’s physical health not been great lately? Maybe he’s keeping that bad news to himself, but if it’s true, I’m sure you’ve noticed some signs that something is off.
You need to talk to your man about it. If he still doesn’t want to admit he’s having some physical health issues, you should talk to your family doctor or your husband’s best friend because he needs to confide in someone.
14. No physical intimacy
Stress levels, poor quality of life, hormonal changes, relationship issues… these are the most common reasons men experience a loss of drive for physical intimacy. Yes, that happens, too, no matter how awkward or impossible it seems.
If you notice that your husband is becoming disinterested in being intimate, it’s one of the HUGE red flags of miserable husband syndrome. Fortunately, you’re the best person to help him deal with it.
First of all, you need to make sure your husband eats good, healthy food. Then, you need to find a way to revive the spark in the bedroom. Also, you need to strengthen the emotional and intimate connection between you and your husband.
15. Erectile dysfunction
Unfortunately, a lot of men struggle with impotence, especially when they get older, and this issue affects their physical intimacy and love life. It also affects their personality because it decreases their self-esteem.
To be honest, it’s not that hard to realize whether your man has this issue or not. In fact, in these modern times, it doesn’t even have to be an issue because there are different kinds of medicines and treatments for erectile dysfunction.
You can still have a healthy and passionate love life even if your man has ED. Also, there are natural ways a man can regain erectile strength, and you should try them too.