O que procurar num homem: 25 qualidades de um verdadeiro homem

What do you look for in a guy when dating? How do you differentiate a real man from “an almost man”?

Dark, handsome, tall, green eyes?… and the list goes on and on. Since the beginning of time, women have been making real or imaginary lists of “the perfect man” according to their standards (or according to society’s standards).

Some women solely focus on the physical qualities of a man while others look at the bigger picture. But, what’s common to every single woman on earth is the fact that we all stop at one moment to ask ourselves:

“Wait, what SHOULD we even look for in men? Should we look for perfection or rely on expectativas razoáveis?”

Worry not. Today, we’ll unravel the myths and mysteries of an ideal man.

O que é que as raparigas normalmente procuram num homem?

Let’s not fool ourselves. Girls usually look for a good-looking guy (just like the majority of guys do when it comes to girls). There’s absolutely nothing wrong with that except for one thing:

Um homem bem-parecido com um interior (personalidade) terrível não é o tipo de homem quer estar numa relação romântica com. Ponto final.

I don’t know about you, but I personally am looking for a man who knows what he’s doing, and by that, I mean a man with his shit together.

To the world, this type of man is usually known as ‘um homem unicórnio‘ that a few women have the privilege to meet. Why?

Because they’re becoming extinct.

A man who cares about his family and friends, a man who is passionate and has goals in life, who knows how to make a woman laugh… a man who supports his loved ones through the ups and downs is REALLY hard to find nowadays.

But, ladies, this doesn’t mean we should lower our standards (because estar numa relação de situação não é uma opção).

Instead, we should make the list of qualities that define a real man that every girl deserves to be with! So, let’s do it!

O que procuras num homem?

O que procuras num homem quando namoras? Atração física A certeza é importante, mas nunca deve ser um fator decisivo. Há qualidades muito mais importantes a procurar num homem para além da sua aparência:

1. Um grande solucionador de problemas

Dear ladies, I can’t accentuate enough how important this quality is in a man because everything stems from it. A man who is a problem solver won’t hide or run away from you once things become complicated.

Instead, he will roll up his sleeves and deal with any issue at hand because he’s a problem solver and not a runner. Isto inclui problemas na sua (e na dele) vida pessoal e amorosa.

You certainly don’t want to be with a guy who can’t handle a little stress in his life or in a relationship. Weak men are the type of men you can’t rely on. Strong men are problem-solvers.

2. Encontrar o lado bom da história é a sua especialidade

If there’s one thing I hate most, it is people who can’t look on the bright side even if their life depended on it. I’m talking about eternal pessimists whose negative thoughts can drain even the most optimistic individuals.

Faça um favor a si própria e evite estar com um homem assim. Em vez disso, escolha um homem que saiba como encontrar um lado positivo em qualquer situação. A man whose levels of optimism are stable and don’t get easily reduced by trivial events.

Por que razão escolheria um homem assim?

Because life is too short to be with someone who can’t see the beauty of life even if you slapped them in the face with it. Ups and downs are inevitable, but choosing how to react to life’s events is a matter of choice.

Se me perguntarem, deve estar cientificamente provado que estar com um homem otimista é uma das ingredientes-chave para uma relação feliz.

3. He’s ambitious

According to my previous romantic endeavors, I’ve realized that men who lack ambition are a huge turn-off. There’s something truly mesmerizing when you look in the eye of a man who has his goals set and knows exactly what he wants to pursue in life.

Such men have become a rare occurrence (or they’re already taken). Estar com um homem ambicioso dá-lhe uma sensação de segurança, porque esse homem não só está orientado para o presente, como também tem planos para o futuro.

Esse homem tem uma rotina de exercícios estabelecida, cuida da sua saúde e actualiza regularmente a sua lista de objectivos e realizações.

No, he doesn’t only sit with crossed arms hoping that the universe and a lei da atração will do everything for him so he doesn’t need to lift a finger. Instead, he’s realistic and persistent.

4. Maturidade emocional

Can you even imagine how many potential relationships have failed mainly due to men’s emotional immaturity? I’m not saying that women can’t be emotionally mature, but in this context, we’re referring to men.

Então, o que é que significa ser maduro num aspeto emocional?

It basically means that a person doesn’t have problems making decisions in life and relationships, and is not afraid of commitment.

Emotionally mature men aren’t afraid of feelings, but they embrace them. They don’t run away when things become serious, but they stay.

Todas as mulheres devem procurar um homem que seja franco em relação aos seus sentimentos, porque esta é a receita para uma relação bem sucedida. Tudo o resto não passa de complicações desnecessárias.

5. Segue os seus próprios padrões morais

Outra boa qualidade de um homem de verdade, e uma das principais regras de namoroé um grande sentido de integridade. Vivemos num mundo em que os ideais falsos estão na moda, enquanto os valores reais estão enterrados no nosso subconsciente.

A man who has integrity follows his own moral standards and isn’t satisfied with mediocrity. He’s not indifferent or mindless about things going on around him.

He thinks outside the box, thinks about others, and strives to find a deeper meaning in everything. Being with such a man means knowing where you stand because he won’t allow his impulses to corrupt his reason.

6. He’s caring and protective of his loved ones

One of the surefire ways to know if he’s a man who will make you feel safe both emotionally and physically is to look at how he treats other people in his life.

Is he caring and protective of his loved ones (best friends and family)? Or, is he self-centered and doesn’t really care about other people in his life except himself?

Geralmente, os homens têm este desejo inato de proteger as suas mulheres e de serem os seus heróis. There’s actually a step-by-step guide on how to trigger a man’s hero instinctmas isso é uma história para outro dia.

Basically, what I’m trying to say is that men want to see themselves as protectors and providers because this is in their nature, but there are always exceptions.

Another surefire way to know if he’s a real protector is to observe his behavior when something bad happens. Does he run away or stay and offer help and protection? Hmm…

7. Ele tem um bom sentido de humor

“If you can make a girl laugh, you can make her do anything.” – Marilyn Monroe

Fazer rir uma pessoa requer um conjunto especial de competências (inteligência, perspicácia e criatividade). Por isso, um homem com um grande sentido de humor não é um homem que só a consegue fazer rir.

He’s a man who is intelligent, fun, and creative. He doesn’t take himself too seriously, and he wants his woman to enjoy every second spent with him.

Ele quer que a sua mulher se ria e se divirta, porque o sentido de humor é um grande alívio do stress, muito necessário hoje em dia.

Por isso, sim, recuso-me a estar com um homem que seja sério 24 horas por dia, 7 dias por semana, falando apenas de trabalho. Quero um homem que me faça rir em voz alta de várias maneiras.

I want a man with whom I’ll be able to make a list of internal jokes… a man who is strong enough to make me laugh even when the whole world is falling apart.

8. Ele respeita-te

If a man doesn’t know how to respect a woman, this is a huge red flag. Any type of disrespect shouldn’t be tolerated because a woman needs to know her worth.

Real men respect their women; they don’t abuse them or make them feel less worthy. Be with a woman who will both respect you and motivate you to keep working on yourself.

Don’t be with a man who looks for perfection because that doesn’t exist. Also, don’t be with a man who wants to change who you are because that’s not acceptable.

A man who respects his woman will never make her question his intentions, and will never make her feel like she’s ordinary (one of the reasons why I’m still single).

“Never love anyone who treats you like you’re ordinary.” – Oscar Wilde

Apaixone-se por um homem que a tratará como uma flor delicada e que nunca deixará de mostrar o seu espanto pelas suas belas cores. Apaixone-se por um homem que a fará sentir-se especial sem sequer tentar.

9. Compreende que o amor e as relações requerem sacrifício e esforço

Yes, this is one of the most important things women look for in a guy because EFFORT is hot. I’m so tired of men who want everything, but aren’t ready to invest themselves in anything they do.

Então, o que é que procuras num homem?

Procure um homem que saiba a importância do sacrifício e do esforço nas relações e na vida em geral. Qualquer homem pode ficar na sua vida quando tudo está a correr bem, mas apenas alguns homens estão prontos para lutar por aquilo em que acreditam.

So, look for a man who will fight for you and your relationship no matter what…. a man who knows that relationships are hard work that requires constant maintenance.

10. Ele transpira confiança

Ladies, is there anything hotter than a guy who is self-confident in both his words and actions? I bet there isn’t, and that is why this is one of the top qualities we should ALWAYS look for in a guy. Why?

Porque um homem confiante fá-la-á sentir-se confiante na sua própria pele. He will know exactly what he wants, and he won’t allow his insecurities to ruin your relationship.

Now, I’m not talking about those ‘wannabe confident men’ who fake their confidence. I’m talking about men who make goals early in a relationship, stick to their promises, and apologize when needed.

Being with such a man means having someone to rely on without fearing that he’ll run away once things get serious. Because men do that!

But, mature men who ooze confidence rarely make the mistake of losing a good woman just because they didn’t set their priorities at the moment. They can’t afford to make such a mistake because they know the value of such a woman.

11. Bondade e atenção

I don’t know if you’re aware of the fact that being with a man who is not kind or thoughtful equals a legit nightmare. How do I know that? Well, I’ve been with such a guy and I regretted it big time.

O facto é que estes dois valores estão interligados. Se um homem não for gentil, não será atencioso, e vice-versa.

A bondade e a atenção são algumas das características de um bom rapaz nunca se deve subestimar.

You want to be with a guy who knows the importance of little things… a guy who will always give his best to make your day (especially when you’re feeling off).

You want to be with a guy who will be kind to everyone around him regardless of their social status. That’s the kind of man who deserves our utmost respect and admiration, so don’t settle for anything less than that.

12. He pursues you like you’re the only girl in the world.

Chasing, pursuing, proving himself worthy of being with you… you can call it however you want, but one thing is sure: You should never give your heart on a plate to someone who hasn’t made the slightest effort to earn it. Período.

Be with a man who PURSUES you. Such a man won’t make you feel like there’s something wrong with you just because you have some standards.

Ele ficará entusiasmado por a impressionar com as suas capacidades de envio de mensagens e de encontros. Ele vai persegui-la não por motivos obscuros, mas porque gosta verdadeiramente de si.

E, uma vez conquistado o seu coração, ele continuará a manter o seu jogo de perseguição. Ele não te fará questionar o seu compromisso contigo, mas fará com que te sintas protegida, valorizada e amada.

Demorei algum tempo a implementar esta nova regra de namoro: Confia apenas nos homens que te perseguem. Those who don’t bother chasing you will never know how to appreciate you.

So, it’s your task to let the guys know that you won’t tolerate anything in between. He either pursues you or he’s not worthy of being with you.

13. He’s reliable to the core

O que é que procura num homem? Eu digo que devemos procurar um bom rapaz que saiba o que quer da vida e que seja FIÁVEL.

Do you want to be with a guy who freaks out like a little child when something bad happens? Do you want to be with someone you can’t rely on when you need help with anything?

I’m aware of the fact that we women are strong and independent, but even we need to rely on someone when it gets hard.

Also, we need to know that the guy we’re with is trustworthy and not someone who will leave us once they realize a relva é mais verde do outro lado da vedação.

CONFIANÇA, FIABILIDADE, EMPENHO. Estas são as palavras-chave que deve memorizar.

Finding such a man is really difficult nowadays because we’re greatly affected by the fake ideals of the modern lifestyle. A guy who values reliability is a guy worthy of your time.

14. He doesn’t try to change who you are

Too late… I’ve realized that you don’t have to follow a step-by-step guide to manter um homem interessado or change yourself completely to capture his attention. If you do, then you know you’re with the wrong guy. It’s as simple as that.

Um homem que goste verdadeiramente de si respeitará os seus gostos e não gostalouvado seja o vosso peculiaridadese valorizar a sua personalidade única. He won’t be intimidated by any of the mentioned, and he definitely won’t try to change who you are.

So, look for the guy who will see the real you instead of trying to change you to his preferences… a guy who will know when you need a hug, when you’re feeling distressed, and when you need some time alone.

Don’t be with someone who judges you just because you don’t fit their definition of the perfect girlfriend. I repeat: perfection doesn’t exist. Be with a guy who appreciates your imperfection and always finds new ways to embrace it.

15. Ele admira a tua força e devoção

Don’t ever allow yourself to be with someone who downplays the strength and efforts you invest into ser uma boa namorada.

A great guy will admire your strength and make you even stronger instead of trying to manipulate you. That’s the kind of man you want to stick to.

You don’t want to be with someone who will give his best to make you feel less worthy only to manipulate you. O mundo está cheio de pessoas tóxicas que perderam a capacidade de elogiar as boas qualidades dos outros.

Grateful men know how to value a woman’s selflessness, and they admire her strength and devotion to becoming the best version of herself.

Such a man encourages you and always lifts you up when you’re feeling down. He trusts in you, and he knows that you can achieve anything you set your mind to. Still, he lets you know that you can rely on him whenever you need to.

16. Assume a responsabilidade pelos seus actos

Irresponsible men have cost me lots of time and nerves so far. Here’s the newest example. Recently, I dated a guy who was the epitome of irresponsibility, but obviously, I was too blind to see it (on time).

On top of all his selfish actions, he even forgot about our date twice, after which, he ghosted me. A few days later, he apologized for it, and also made me feel like I should lower my “unreasonable expectations”.

A sério? Desde quando é que assumir a responsabilidade pelos seus actos e ser um ser humano de confiança é considerado pouco razoável?

That’s how, my ladies, you know you’re dealing with a man who is not good for you. Instead, choose to be with a man who takes responsibility for his actions in both love life and life in general.

Um homem assim dará o seu melhor para não a desiludir e, mesmo que o faça, pedirá desculpa a tempo e certificar-se-á de que não voltará a repetir o mesmo erro. Um homem assim é o homem que fica.

17. He’s attentive and supportive

In the age of smartphones and social media, it can be really hard (if not impossible) to get and hold someone’s attention.

However, if you have to teach him how to be attentive, that kind of guy is not worthy of your time, and he’s definitely not a candidate for a long-term relationship.

Quer estar com um homem que já sabe a importância de uma boa comunicação e de um apoio ilimitado.

Don’t ever beg for a guy’s attention or see it as something that should be earned. No, it shouldn’t. If you give your best to listen to him and support him through his life goals and other things, you have every right to expect the same thing in return.

A reciprocidade é uma coisa que nunca se tornará obsoleta. Men who are not worthy of your time will only be there when it’s convenient for them.

Do you know what? You don’t need such a man in your life because you deserve ten times better.

18. Um bom comunicador

A comunicação é um dos aspectos mais importantes de qualquer relação saudável. Um bom comunicador tanto dá como recebe numa conversa.

Não estão apenas concentrados nas suas próprias palavras e pensamentos, mas ouvem-no ativamente e respondem em conformidade.

One of the surefire ways to know that he’s a good communicator is if you can never run out of new temas para falar com ele. A sua linguagem corporal e as suas palavras unem-se, tornando a conversa apaixonada, significativa e inspiradora.

Um bom comunicador nunca o julgará, manipulará ou ignorará. Quando surgem problemas na relação, estará pronto para falar consigo sobre eles em vez de entrar no modo passivo-agressivo.

And, one thing is sure… relationship issues will always be present, and you can’t exterminate them, but you can learn to deal with them in an effective and painless way. Estar com um bom comunicador torna isto possível.

19. He always finds time for you (because you’re his priority)

Here’s a universal truth that every lady deserves to know: Um tipo que te toma por garantida não é digno do seu tempo, nervos, palavras e acções.

Imagine being with a guy who decides to simply ghost you from time to time, make excuses, and make you feel like you’re asking too much from him.

Agora, imagine estar com um homem que está sempre lá para si e que a faz sentir-se right. I won’t ask you which one you would choose because it’s evident.

With the right guy, you’ll never worry about where you stand, and he will never make you feel like you’re too much to deal with. Instead, he will always find time for you because he wants to. That’s the kind of guy you should be with.

20. Honestidade

Of course, being honest means that he’ll never do anything behind your back, and he’ll treat you the way you deserve. But, being honest also means having the courage to tell you things that might be painful for you to hear.

For example, if you’ve recently gained weight, the right man will express his concern for your health, and will help you with motivation and a training regimen.

Ele será honesto e atencioso consigo, independentemente da situação, porque quer o melhor para si. Por isso, esteja com um homem que seja um participante ativo na sua vida em vez de um observador passivo.

You deserve to be with someone whose honesty will help you improve your lifestyle and make you a better person. A kind man deserves the same thing, and he’s completely aware of that.

21. Segue as regras do cavalheiro

“Please” and “thank you” are the words you can find in his dictionary. He doesn’t feel the need to show off or boast about his successes.

Ele respeita-te e defende-te. Sim, ele também abre as portas para si.

Ouve-o com atenção e sabe exprimir os seus sentimentos de uma forma honesta e cavalheiresca.

So, what do you look for in a guy? Look for a good man who follows gentleman rules. Look for a man who will treat you like I described above, and don’t settle for anything less.

22. Uma alma romântica

I’m perfectly aware of the fact that most men have problems with expressing their romantic side, especially if they aren’t romantic souls by nature. However, we’re not looking for perfection, but a man who tries.

So, a man who tries will find a way to add romance to dating or to a relationship. He will not neglect the romance aspect just because he thinks he’s incapable of delivering it.

Em vez disso, ele fará o seu melhor para o impressionar com a pensar em si mensagens, cartas de amor, e citações de amor pirosas.

A man doesn’t have to be a hopeless romantic to make a woman feel loved. All he has to do is make an effort and his actions will match the level of his affection. Keep that one in mind when looking for the right guy.

23. Valoriza mais o empenhamento do que o seu ego

Fazer um homem comprometer-se has always been an art in itself. I’m sure every relationship expert would agree with me on this one.

So, you meet a nice guy and everything goes smooth until he turns into a legit commitment-phobe, which is every woman’s nightmare. Há algumas razões porque é que os homens fogem from commitment, and it’s often because of their ego.

Pensam que o facto de se comprometerem com uma mulher os vai prender e fazê-los parecer fracos aos olhos dos outros homens. De facto, é uma tolice.

Um verdadeiro homem valoriza mais o compromisso do que o seu ego. He doesn’t care about what other people will think of him because he knows he’s doing the right thing. That’s the kind of man you want to be with.

24. Partilham interesses e valores mútuos

Escusado será dizer que a compatibilidade de valores é essencial quando se trata de encontros e de potenciais relações. De facto, valores fundamentais numa relação também devem corresponder.

Se os vossos interesses e valores forem completamente diferentes, não conseguirão estabelecer uma ligação e compreender-se mutuamente. Sem ligação e compreensão, não há relação.

When you meet a guy, make sure to talk about your goals, core values, and things that matter to you. If you’re compatible, then it will be easier for you to form a healthy and happy relationship.

25. Jogar jogos não é a sua praia

Those men who like to play games certainly don’t care about your feelings or your mental health. Keep that one in mind as well when looking for the right guy.

A verdade é que bom rapaz que segue as regras dos cavalheiros expressará os seus sentimentos desde o primeiro dia, em vez de fazer jogos consigo. Ele não jogará com o vosso coração, mas dará o seu melhor para o conquistar.

So, do yourself a favor and don’t waste your time on players who make you question things and your own sanity. You deserve a man who is emotionally stable and ready to fully commit to you without any complication.

Quais são as 5 principais coisas que uma mulher procura num homem?

Se tivéssemos de resumir tudo o que foi dito acima, estas são as 5 principais coisas que deve colocar na sua lista de desejos quando procura um homem a sério:

1. Atencioso.

2. Maturidade emocional.

3. Um bom comunicador.

4. Fiável.

5. Responsável.

Of course, this list is not fixed, and it can be modified to everyone’s standards and preferences, but these are the top qualities that shouldn’t be neglected. I’m sure you all agree with me, right?

Embrulhar tudo

What do you look for in a guy? Now, I don’t want you to think that the right guy for you should have ALL of the qualities above.

There are some essential qualities that you shouldn’t take for granted, such as honesty and responsibility, and there are some things that he can work on, such as his confidence and his romantic efforts.

Seguir cegamente uma lista de coisas que um homem deve ser não o vai ajudar a encontrar O Sr. Certo porque escolhemos as pessoas com o coração.

In the end, what matters is that he’s a good man who is willing to work on himself because effort always sounds promising.

When you find your man, here’s some advice on making your relationship last: 6 sinais de um relacionamento sério e 7 dicas para construir um. Boa sorte!