When you see him your heart skips a beat, butterflies in your stomach go wild and you can almost see the signs of sexual tension streaming through the air like some unstoppable force.
And though the chemistry is so strong, you are unable to act on it.
There are reasons for being so restrained of course. Who in their right mind would agree to be in platonic relations with somebody they are so attracted to. You feel that sex drive overload every time your eyes meet. You would so gladly captivate him in your room for a long, long time and let your imagination run wild.
But, you are probably friends and are afraid it will ruin your friendship if nothing comes of it. Maybe you are both scared to say it aloud, you have the same group of friends and you don’t want to make things awkward, or you also might be co-workers and your work ethics don’t allow you to date; it can be one of a number of reasons but the bottom line is the same something is preventing you from entering into a relationship with them, both sexual and emotional, and there is nothing you can do about it.
So you keep the object of your desire at an arm’s length and hope for a miracle. You hope that one day your most hidden desires will come true. That something will change. It actually might change one day but for now, you are just enjoying that sexual tension between you two.
To make things more clear, these are the lusty signs of sexual tension you might be experiencing:
1. Eyes never lie.
At some point, you glanced at each other’s eyes and somehow that glance turned into a long, captivating stare. Something clicked and you could feel lust consuming your entire body. It’s not awkward when you lock eyes.
You have no perception of time but you know it takes longer than normal. The best thing about it is that neither of you ever feels the slightest bit uncomfortable. If anything, you feel more connected; the signs of sexual tension are getting stronger by the minute.
2. Flirty talk.
No matter the topic, sexual connotations are always somewhere underneath everything. Even in situations where you never before imagined there might be anything slightly sexual, you are discovering it now. Sometimes you even think you could take it down a notch but you find yourself unable to stop. Even when you don’t want to, something naughty comes out of your mouth. Flirting is your language now and it’s the best one you ever learned.
3. Innocent touches that drive you crazy.
You just want them close to you that it’s almost impossible to stay away. So, you make the best of what you have, your handshakes and hugs last a bit longer than they are supposed to and you feel your body responding to them with something so electric that you know they feel too. You sit next to them at lunch, you rub against them in the elevator, anything for that feeling of closeness and that’s all you can do at this point. It’s not awkward because they do the same when they are around you. The sexual attraction is undeniable.
4. Undressing them in your mind.
When you have the opportunity to check each other out you do it because it comes impulsively to both of you. Your eyes are stuck in all the strategic locations like lips, breasts, crotch or butt and you both find yourselves unable to walk away. Sexual tensions that are produced from these stirrings can make you picture the entire scene in your mind.
5. You want to look your best.
When you’re around someone whom you find sexually attractive, you have this innate urge to impress them. That’s why you can become very conscious of your own body and appearance, even if that is something you never thought about too much before. You may catch yourself thinking the night before about how to dress for work tomorrow. You want to show off your sex appeal in a subtle but still obvious way, and you have no intention of looking trashy. You dress to impress.
6. You can’t help but smile.
There is simply something about them that draws your smile out every time you see them. If you engage in conversation you might even start to giggle and laugh excessively. That’s natural when you simply like somebody let alone when you feel all this sexual tension bottling up inside you. It’s hard to keep a serious face when your mind just keeps on undressing him.
7. Your mind wanders off.
No matter how serious the task in hand is right now, you can’t prevent your thoughts wandering off to the object of your tension. You are easily distracted. You are physically present but your thoughts are not; they keep playing different scenarios in your mind of what you would do to him if the opportunity was to present itself and if all that’s preventing you from being with him disappeared.
8. Lingering on.
No matter the situation you are in with that object of your tensions, whether social, work or something different, you find yourself making excuses to stay around a little longer than you normally would. You have no problem doing things that you are not so into just to spend time being close to them. You know that they can do with just one gaze something that somebody else could never pull off even if they had you in their arms.
9. Body language.
You constantly lean toward each other when you speak. You always reach out and lightly touch each other when there’s no obvious reason to do so. You take deep breaths when you are near. He touches your arm or tucks your hair behind your ear. You both do these things subconsciously. Body language speaks when your words are unable to.
10. He has the leading role in your fantasies.
Thinking about him when you are all alone and helping yourself relieve all that tension you have surrounding you is really like nothing experienced before. All that tension and flirting triggered your imagination and when you are all by yourself it’s only natural that your imagination runs wild.
11. Perfect chemical match.
Sometimes the person you are into isn’t even your type to begin with. You never dated somebody who fits his profile but there is some kind of undeniable chemistry that is pulling you toward him. It’s something you never felt before. It’s not about his looks or his behavior, and you can’t single out just one thing you like—it’s more about liking the whole package. It’s about the intensity of those unspoken feelings you believe you both share.
12. Harmless electric shocks.
Electricity is running through your veins every time you lock eyes or brush against each other while crossing paths. Goosebumps start circulating your body and they take control over your system. You can’t shake them off. The sexual tension between you is undeniable and it makes you think about the other person (preferably without their clothes on) as much as you can.
13. Your voices are your telltale signs.
Even if you try to hide it, your voice subconsciously changes. It’s the ultimate giveaway of two people who are into each other. Sexual attraction and tension change people’s vocals. His voice becomes deeper and more masculine and yours becomes softer, gentler and even a bit raspy.
The best way to test this is to observe and listen closely to how he speaks when he is around his friends and how he speaks when there are just the two of you. Your voices are the ultimate weapons to turn on one another. A plus in these situations can be your accents too. If someone has a sexy foreign accent, sparks inevitably fly in all directions.
14. It gets harder and harder to resist.
You are literally in a fight with yourself. Trying to keep calm. Trying to settle your desires. You try thinking with your brain but the sexual tensions are too deep. You struggle and do your best to conceal your thoughts. You are even a bit scared that everything will get out in the open. If you start trying too hard, this means you are in deep.
15. You can feel it in the air.
While reading through these signs, you probably noticed that sexual tension has a language of its own, a language that has no words, the one you simply have to feel. Feel it and enjoy those moments.
Sexual tension isn’t something you can miss easily but these signs can help you if you are unsure if the other person feels the same. It takes you no effort to spot if you simply feel it. It’s something that you can usually just feel without having to examine the situation too closely.
However, some people are harder to read than others and some situations are more complex than others. Wherever your sexual tension leads you, just make sure that it is mutual and that you want the same things. Think about if calming down your sexual tensions is worth the consequences you might face.