You had a girl who loved you more than she loved herself. A girl who was ready to move mountains for you and a girl who always fought for you.
You had a one of a kind girl. A unique and special girl who loved you with all of her heart.
But you didn’t see it. You didn’t see all the pain you were causing her. You didn’t see that she wasn’t getting anything in return from you and that you never even gave her the love or the appreciation she deserved.
You didn’t see the endless second chances she was giving you and all the sacrifices she made for your relationship. You didn’t see how patiently she waited for you to change and that she was holding on to you for as long as she could.
But finally, she gave up on you. Finally, she saw her worth and she saw that you’d never become the man she needed. She saw that you’d always remain the same piece of crap and she’d had enough.
So, she left you, even though she broke her own heart by doing so. But she was strong enough to never look back.
The truth is that all of this time, you acted like you didn’t feel her presence. But I promise you one thing—you’ll feel her absence.
Because one of these days, you’ll wake up and all of a sudden, you’ll see what you’ve lost. You’ll see that letting go of this special lady was the biggest mistake of your life.
And all of a sudden, you’ll start missing everything about this girl.
1. The way she saw past your imperfections
This was the only girl who didn’t see you through your bad sides, even though she was aware of all of them. The only person in this world who didn’t love you despite your imperfections but because of them.
She was the only one who never judged you and who always managed to find justification for your actions, even though she was the one you were mistreating. The one who tried to fix you, when everyone else gave up on you and the one who did her best to save you, even when you didn’t want to be saved.
This was the girl who saw the good in you. Who saw everything you could be and who wanted to think that her love could change you.
But sadly, it didn’t happen. Sadly, you remained the same jerk you’ve always been, despite all of her efforts.
2. The way she always understood you
Whether you like to admit it or not, this girl was the only person in this world who really got you.
The one who could read your mind and the only one who understood all of your emotions and thoughts. The only one who had the power to motivate you and to get you going.
But not only that—this girl was also the person you could be yourself in front of. The one you could show your vulnerabilities to, without fear of being ridiculed or taken advantage of. You never had to pretend that you were this tough guy when you were around her because you knew she would understand all of your fears and insecurities.
3. The way she prioritized you
Remember how this girl always put you first, while you treated her like a second choice? How she took care of you and how she looked after your needs? Remember how she was never selfish and how she always considered your well-being to be the most important thing in the world?
How she just wanted you to be happy and how she was ready to do whatever it took just to see you smile? Remember all the sacrifices she made for your sake and all the effort she put into this relationship?
Yeah, I am sure these are the things you’ll never forget, even if you try your best to. But these are all the things that are gone, together with this woman.
4. The way she was always there for you
Every time you feel like you are all alone in this world, you’ll think about dialing this girl’s number—I can promise you that. You think how it would be nice to have her hand just to hold yours and to tell you that everything will be all right. You’ll wish to have someone to rely on and someone who would never leave your side, the way she didn’t.
And that is when you’ll understand that this girl was the only person in this world who never backed out on you. The only one who was there for you through the darkest of hours and the only one who never left your side, even when you were at your lowest.
You’ll remember all the times she picked up your broken pieces, all the times she dragged you up from the bottom and all the times she was the only light in your darkness. And that is when you’ll realize that you’ll never find someone like her because she really is one of a kind.
5. The way she loved you like no other
There are many things you’ll miss about this girl but most of all, you’ll miss how she loved you without any conditions and without asking for anything in return. And what did you do with all of that love? You took it for granted, instead of cherishing it.
The truth is that you never saw the value of this girl’s love for you until you lost it for good. You thought that every woman would treat you the way she did and that you could find another her on every corner.
And that is where you were wrong. You’ll understand this once you start searching for her in every woman you encounter and once you start feeling all the pain she’s been feeling for years. But that is when it will be too late for you to do anything.
I am an English Language and Literature teacher. I am a writer. I am a daughter, a sister, a friend… But most of all, I am a woman, just like you.
A woman who has experienced the same things you’ve been going through. A woman who’s been fighting battles similar to yours. A woman who wants you to learn from her mistakes and who wants to help you empower yourself.