When it comes to relationships, there are lots of tiny things that might seem insignificant at first but when seen as a whole, they’re what make that relationship run smoothly.
There isn’t just one thing or one trick to a long, stable relationship. It’s a whole bunch of little things and a lot of effort on both parts.
Now, cheating is definitely the most deadly sin of them all… there is rarely anything that hurts as much.
But when you look at it from a different point of view, there is a variety of harmful and painful relationship behaviors that endanger the relationship slowly but surely other than being unfaithful to your partner.
Want to know exactly what I’m talking about here and see for yourself?
Here’s a list of some very dangerous patterns of behavior that have been the final nail in the coffin for many a relationship.
1. Being dishonest and secretive
There are many reasons as to why people keep secrets.
It could be to save face or to not hurt their partner’s feelings… but the thing is, if it’s going to hurt their feelings, don’t you think maybe you shouldn’t engage in that thing in the first place?
If you feel like there’s anything you need to keep from your partner, you’re not in a committed relationship and sooner than later, it’s coming back to bite you in the ass.
Either you’re all in or your relationship is slowly going to fizzle out.
2. Sulking in quiet
This can start out quietly… and slowly turn out into a huge thing that’s going to be killing you on the inside.
If there’s anything about your partner that is bothering you, either be upfront and honest about it, or deal with the fact that harboring negative emotions in silence leads to relationship doom!
There is no third option.
3. Denying any type of affection
Whichever way your partner and you express emotions to each other and show love, you need to be doing it regularly (and I’m not necessarily referring to sex here).
You may not be the touchy-feely type and that’s okay but if you can’t show your partner that they are loved and appreciated, they’re going to start questioning your commitment soon.
If you love them, show them. It’s really as simple as that.
4. Poor communication
You don’t have to be texting your SO all day every day but talking to each other is important to keep your relationship alive.
If there’s something on your mind, always share it with them. If there are problems, talk it out.
Never keep anything bottled up, as it always finds a way to explode at the worst possible time.
You should be able to communicate about anything, as uncomfortable as it is.
If you can’t, it’s never going to work out. Keep in mind that communication is one of the key factors in a healthy relationship.
As long as you’re talking, there’s a way out of pretty much everything.
5. Refusing to compromise
As you all know, compromise is a must when in a relationship. You’re not always going to be able to have it your way and that is just fine.
There is one other person there whose needs are just as important as yours and being able to find common ground is the key to going the distance!
Keep in mind that you’re not the only one who has wants and needs and if you really love this person, it should come naturally to you to meet them halfway, as their happiness is equal to yours.
6. Allowing the little things to become huge things
Doing the dishes, taking out the trash or folding the laundry, those are all everyday things that need to be done pretty much on a daily basis and there’s no question about that.
If you keep taking your partner for granted and expect them to always be picking up the slack and to be okay with that, you’re sadly mistaken.
See, these little things might not seem like a big deal now… but wait a few months.
If you’re still not willing to share the household chores and your partner still has to remind you that’s it’s your job as well, they’re not going to put up with it much longer.
One day, they’re just going to be sick and tired of being taken advantage of and leave your ass.
You are equals and if you don’t treat your SO as such, they’re not going to be around for too long.