So, you’ve met this guy who makes you feel so special and he’s cute, caring and kind. But! He tells you that he has never had a serious relationship and that makes you think about whether he has commitment issues or not. Also, he doesn’t show any signs that he wants to start a relationship with you. He’s surrounded by beautiful girls who make you feel uncomfortable and awkward and you get to the point where you see that you’ve been dealing with a player. Of course, this doesn’t change the fact that you still want to show him how relationships are a wonderful thing. But, before you jump straight into this mess, let me tell you some tips on how to get a so-called ‘player’ to commit to you in 7 easy steps:
1. Show him your worth
There is nothing sexier than a confident woman who knows what she wants in her life and she’s eager to get it. You know how smart you are, how attractive and also how much of a catch you are. He’s not going to play with you that easily. And even if he does play with you a bit, it’s because you let him. You are a busy woman who doesn’t have time to wait around for him forever, so make sure that he knows that. If he texts you to go out, you make a plan and what he does is cancel it at the last minute, let him know that you are a lady with attitude. “You know what, dear, how about you figure out what you want and then you can text me?” This is a way of making his ego run into the corner crying, because you didn’t break, but you played the player.
2. Know what you deserve and don’t settle for anything less
You know what you want in a relationship and there is nothing that can change your mind. You have high standards and you don’t need to settle for anything less. The thing with ‘players’ is that they need to have the woman they have their eye on, so they will do some crazy sh*t to get her. So, you know what you want in a relationship (a best friend, someone who’s there for you, someone who respects and appreciates you), then he will become all that you want. You will show him that it’s not that bad to be with someone who loves you dearly and he will get addicted to it.
3. Do not talk about the future
You will scare him if you start talking about a future together. He will freak out and hide in the corner. Rather, have fun and enjoy the moment. Make him think that you are as easy-going as he is and don’t scare him by talking about how you two could be a cute couple or something like that. Wanna know why? Well, you will scare the crap out of him if he starts thinking about how you will be the only person he will fuck for the rest of his life.
4. Make his family and friends love you
If he introduces you to his close group of friends or his family, make sure to make a good impression. You want to be the female brother among his friends, but also the perfect woman in front of his parents. You probably already are cool and wonderful enough for both scenarios, but just make sure that you are aware of the fact that men love it if their girlfriend gets along with the people he loves and the people he spends the most time with. Also, his friends will put in a good word for you if you chug down that beer—just sayin’.
5. Have fun
Most men don’t want to hear a word about a committed relationship because they are afraid that the fun will be over and that they will turn their life into everything they didn’t want it to be. They certainly don’t want someone who is boring and doesn’t have any fun in their life. So go out and dance like there’s no tomorrow, because there isn’t. All you have is the right here and right now, so have fun! Forget about commitment and relationships and genuinely have fun. He will come to you faster than you think.
6. Do not have sex with him
At least not until you’re sure that there is an emotional connection coming together with the physical. Know that men love to have sex and they will do anything that it takes to get in your pants. So slow down and wait a bit. He will see that you are not like other girls and you will show him that he needs to step up his game if he wants to see your panties.
7. All he needs is food and sex (and maybe a beer)
Men are very simple creatures. They don’t think about stuff as much as we do and they don’t complicate things. There is a saying that a man will never cheat on you if you don’t let him out of the house horny and/or hungry. So hand him a sandwich when he doesn’t have a boner and he’s yours for good.
This is the point where he will also do anything he can to please you, because he has finally realized that relationships and love aren’t scary, but rather fun. But only with the right person. And you? You are his right person.