Has your ex been acting weird lately? Are you looking for clues and signs that your ex wants you back? If yes, you’re definitely in the right place.
You see, in many cases when a relationship ends, there is one person who doesn’t really want things to finish. It often happens that one person is still feeling the same things, but unfortunately still gets rewarded with an “EX” title. Regardless of your feelings, sometimes you can’t keep the person you want the most, and that sucks.
But sometimes, just sometimes, your ex really wants to get back with you and start afresh or make right what was done wrong in the first place.
But, they will never tell this to you, and do you know why? Because they are afraid that you don’t feel the same way they do, and that is why they fear rejection. But, not everything is black and white. (There is still hope for you.)
You see, they might be avoiding telling you directly what’s on their mind and that they want to get back together, but they sure as hell cannot avoid showing it with their actions! Their actions reflect their subconscious, and that’s how you can know for sure what’s on their mind.
Now, doesn’t it sound great to be able to read their mind and to know what they really want? Imagine if you could get a quick guidebook that would tell you what your ex is thinking or feeling.
We might be a little bit late with that guidebook. Even if you didn’t get it at the beginning of the relationship, we’re giving it to you now. Here are 10 simple guidelines and signs that will tell you if your ex wants you back!
1. Recalling the old times
If you’re still in touch with your ex, that’s a big sign that things are not over between the two of you. Another obvious sign that your ex wants you back is when they recall old memories. Usually, if your ex is trying to make you remember all the nice things you went through, it’s them waving a white flag.
Recalling the old times is surely one of the biggest signs your ex wants you back because if he doesn’t, he wouldn’t bother reminding you of any of the great things you did together. It means they are trying to alter your perspective by helping you delete all the bad things from the past. They are giving up on fighting you.
It also means they want you to forget why you broke up in the first place. When they make you remember all those times you laughed together or the stupid things you did that got you in trouble, they are simultaneously awakening the feeling of love you had towards them in those moments. And once your barriers have been breached and you’ve stopped being angry, the mission your ex had is accomplished.
2. Working on themself
You must’ve heard the saying, “The only mission your ex has after you’ve broken up is to get better looking.” It could be the case that they are trying to look better to get someone else. It could also be that they finally decided to take your advice and go to the gym. It may be that they finally decided to change their job or their looks.
If your ex is changing the things you didn’t really like so much, that’s a really big telltale sign that they want you back. It is because they hope that you’ll notice it and express a desire to come back to them.
Summarized, they are preparing a new terrain, so they can persuade you that it’s safe for you to come back. They are telling you that they are working hard on themselves, and they are determined to change everything that has ever annoyed you or something you didn’t quite like on them.
3. ‘What if’ questions
If your ex happens to want you back, they will offer a million things that could go differently in your relationship. They will be full of ‘what if’ questions that will make you think about your future. By doing this, they are kinda playing with your subconscious by instilling in your brain new ideas about different possible outcomes.
They will make you think about what would’ve happened if they hadn’t made the mistakes they made, if you hadn’t pushed too hard, and God knows what else. The only aim these questions have is to make you imagine your future together and for you to welcome your ex back in your mind.
When you change your perspective regarding your breakup, your entire mindset changes, and you no longer see things as badly as you might have. You start blaming something or someone else for all the bad that happened which automatically brings you closer to your ex.
4. Getting back in touch
If you think they are talking to you or texting you all over again because they want to tell you how mad they are, you’re wrong. If they were that mad, they never would’ve texted you in the first place. They’re reaching out to you again because that’s how they’re planning to get you back.
Eventually, they will switch to talking to you on a regular basis, and they will get you back to square one without you even noticing it. They will look for the most random excuses to contact you, like they suddenly remembered something about you two, they saw something that reminded them of you, or they’re suddenly interested in your day.
If it appears like you two are communicating more than you did in the relationship, then you can be sure that this is one of the biggest signs your ex wants you back. By constantly being in touch with you, they are becoming a part of your life again which is their primary goal after all.
5. Admitting the guilt
They would’ve never admitted fault. No matter what the fight was about, your ex would’ve died rather than take part of the blame. And now that you’ve broken up, your ex has no problem with putting some of the blame on him or herself.
They admit that they were acting childish, that they didn’t treat you right, and they encourage you to blame them for everything bad that happened in your past. By doing this, they are trying to let you know that they understand everything and are willing to change.
Maybe this is exactly what the original problem was, and maybe now you get to talk as two decent human beings. Your ex might’ve thought everything through and realized the mistakes that were made.
There’s a good possibility that they loved you madly and still do, so when they lost you, they had the time they needed to realize their mistakes. Now that they know what it’s like to lose you, they will make sure they never make the same mistake twice, which resulted in them finally admitting some guilt.
6. Constantly having new things to talk about
It could be the case that you said, “This is the last time we will ever talk,” and you’ve ended up talking to your ex again. If your ex wishes to have you back, they will try to get the communication going. They will constantly have something new to say or something new to ask, and that will be the way to keep hearing from you.
The card that your ex is playing is to get you used to constant messages and phone calls from them. This way, it’s easier to know what you want, what you need, and what you feel. This will be the essential information needed in your ex’s mission to win you over.
Your providing him with the latest updates regarding your life will definitely make it easier for him to be one step ahead of the game so that he can devise a perfect plan on how to get you back and give you exactly what you need at the moment.
7. All over your social media
Maybe you two broke things off on good terms and kept each other on social media, but if you notice that they are really active, something could be up. You didn’t get as many ‘likes’ and comments from them while you were dating as you’re getting now.
You feel like your ex is constantly stalking you. You can see them checking your Instagram stories or liking your pictures or even Retweeting what you Tweeted. If your ex wants you back, they will constantly appear in your notifications.
If your ex wants wants you back, they will constantly seek your new updates and be in touch with you no matter what because they can’t imagine their life without you, and they’ll do anything to win you over and remind you of their existence.
8. Talking about you to your friends
Talking about you to your friends is also one of the biggest signs your ex wants you back. It’s their sneaky way to send you a message that they want you back in their life without saying it directly.
So, they will try and constantly mention you to the friends you share or to the people who both of you hang out with sometimes. They will mention how great you’re doing, how proud they are of you, how you were the best partner they ever had.
Your friends will tell you all of that stuff, and your ex knows it. It’s a perfect way to stay in your life and to show you how much they care about you without being obvious (which is exactly their intention).
9. Trying to make you jealous or staying completely single
What is the relationship status of your ex? Do they have some one-night-stand kind of relationships to make you jealous? Or has your ex remained single since you broke up?
If you guys dated for a long time and they remained single, it could just be so they can get some rest, to enjoy freedom and the single life. But if this happens along with any of the other signs listed above, then the reason why they are single is pretty obvious.
However, if they show up randomly at bars where you go with some new person on their arm (but they are never really doing it randomly), they are making you jealous. They show off their new date, keep talking about them, keep mentioning them in front of you, but not because they’re madly in love with them. It’s because they’re madly in love with you, and they want to see if you still care for them enough to show some jealousy.
Either way, both of these are signs that they are either making you jealous enough to react or that your ex is waiting for you. If there is nothing serious going on, you’re the one your ex still wants.
10. Wanting to be friends with you
Being friends with your ex is a topic that has been discussed too many times by now. By now, it’s not a question of whether you should or shouldn’t be—the question is whether your ex really wants to be just a friend. There is no need to mention here that being friends with your ex almost always ends up the same way—people get back together with their exes.
And your ex wants you so badly that they are proposing something that obvious. They could really want to have you by their side, but there’s only a slight possibility of that happening. Mostly, exes propose to stay friends because that way they’re still in your life and getting you back is much easier.
If you suspect that this could be the case with your ex, you can be sure that their ulterior motives are somewhat different than you might have thought. They want to stay friends with you so that they can always be in touch with you and wait for the perfect moment to let you know that they want to be more than just friends.