Due to the insane pressures of society, we always feel this overwhelming need to be in a relationship. We are made to feel like there is something wrong with us if we’re single.
But guess what, there isn’t. These societal constraints only tie us down and make us play to their tune.
But just because somebody who doesn’t know you makes you feel a certain thing, does not mean that they are right.
Don’t let these insane pressures of society make you feel like you need to be in a relationship just for the sake of it.
It’s not supposed to be an obligation. A relationship means love. And you can’t force love.
People are constantly judged based on their relationship status, and more and more commit to loveless relationships, all in an attempt to not be judged by the outside world and made to feel different.
In all honesty, not only is it totally normal being single, but it’s actually good for you!
It gives you an amazing opportunity to discover yourself, find out exactly what you want out of life and love, and learn how to be the best version of yourself.
So, why should you feel guilty for not conforming to society’s norms and keeping yourself happy?
When the time comes, and you feel the need to change your relationship status, you will work on it, date, and make an effort to find the one you want to share your life with.
But until you’re ready, it is perfectly fine to enjoy life by yourself and explore all there is to learn about love, life, and yourself.
Some introspection is good for the soul, and it will ultimately make you a better partner when the time comes.
If you don’t feel the need to be in a relationship, it’s really simple – don’t be in one.
I was always letting myself listen to people around me and always kept a guy around me, just for the sake of not being alone.
But it wasn’t for me. It was for all these other people who have absolutely no business telling me, you or anyone who to date and who to spend our time with.
If you don’t feel like spending the majority of your time with a specific individual, that’s okay! You don’t have to.
You can go out with whomever you like, stay as long as you want, and you don’t have anybody to report to.
You are free to spend the day any way you choose, and if that means hanging in front of the TV in your favorite pajamas, watching reality television, drinking wine, so be it!
Whatever floats your boat, girl!
Enjoy this now because when you have a partner, there won’t be much alone time on your plate.
So why not make the most of it! Screw anyone telling you otherwise. They’re just miserable people, unhappy with their own lives.
Not everybody has the same priorities in life, and that is completely normal. We are all differently wired, and we have all had our own ups and downs when it comes to love.
You have your reasons why you chose to be single at this time, and more power to you.
It’s okay whichever way you want to live, for as long as it’s your own decision and nobody else’s. You are in control of your life.
People like to pry and ask around as to why you’re not with somebody right now. But you don’t have any reason to explain anything to anyone.
They are not a part of your life, and therefore, they shouldn’t play a role in how you feel about being single.
It could be that you are in an amazing place with work right now, and you want to dedicate your time to that, which leaves you with very little time for a fulfilling love life, and that is your decision to make.
It could be that you are simply sick and tired of boys playing mind games with you and always ending up disappointed in the male species, so you’re taking a little much needed break from men.
Again, your and only your decision to make.
Whatever makes you feel good and comfortable is what you should do. Don’t feel like you have to explain your decisions to irrelevant people.
Commitment issues are a real thing.
Somewhere deep down in all of us, there is this silent fear of being tied down. Of losing a part of yourself by giving your all to a guy.
I personally have always had this fear within me.
I always end up messing up my relationships because I get so scared and paranoid of committing, and it always makes me feel bad about myself.
That is exactly why I decided to take a little break until I figured myself out, and you should too! Don’t feel bad if you are scared of commitment.
You’re only human. There is this fear in all of us, and we all deal with it in our own way.
Just because you are doing it in your own way does not make you any worse for it.
It makes you brave to do your own thing, regardless of what people around you think.
Spending time with yourself is extremely important and not appreciated enough. Do what you need to feel okay again, and listen to your head.
After all, it’s your life. You’re the only one living it. So you might as well make it a good one.
Sometimes, it’s okay to be your own number one priority. If you want to have freedom to do what you need to do, then that is exactly what should happen.
In relationships, we often lose a little part of ourselves, and our priorities inevitably change. It’s not necessarily a bad thing, but it can be if you don’t feel ready for this step yet.
When it comes to me, I always felt this unhealthy grudge toward my partners because being with them would take up so much of my time, not leaving me alone with myself enough to figure out if that was what I wanted.
And it took me a while to realize that it was my fault and not theirs. I was not in the right headspace for a serious relationship, and it only chased me away when they wanted so much of me.
Avoid sacrificing yourself for the sake of pleasing others. You have a long life ahead of you. There is plenty of time to be happily in love. If that time isn’t right now, listen to your gut!
If you feel too flirty and casual to be in a committed relationship, then, by all means—do as you please. It’s better to be single and be able to hook up with whomever you want, than to be in a relationship and have all these desires for other people!
Explore your feminine side, see what the city has to offer, meet new guys, flirt your ass off, and make out with hot strangers. There’s no better time for it than right now!
And when you’re done with this, you’ll feel ready and capable of being in a serious, committed relationship, without having all these annoying needs for freedom and other guys, and you won’t end up cheating.
As long as you’re honest about what you want with yourself and with others, you’re doing absolutely nothing wrong. Be true to yourself, and make yourself a priority. Nobody knows what you need better than you.
Don’t give a shit about people talking and making you appear like you’re not the relationship type. There is a time for everything. You need to focus on whatever is important to you at that particular time.
If your career is the most important thing to you right now, it’s okay to shift your focus solely to it. There’s plenty of time for love. Make a name of yourself in the business world, and you’ll feel less strained when you meet someone new who you want to spend time with.
Life is about being happy and finding your place in this world. It’s about getting to know exactly who you are, what your desires are and how to accomplish them, without hurting anybody in the process.
It’s about discovering who we want to share our lives with—be that family, friends, coworkers, lovers. They all somehow end up shaping us into one whole person, so it is important to let yourself live your life to the fullest, and do what feels right.
You are only young once. Make sure you have something to tell your grandkids about one day.
Enjoy your singlehood without regrets because when you find your one, true love, you will feel complete and ready for this next step, knowing you have lived your life to the fullest.
