It is very important to set our standards and know what we want from our partners. But it is also important to know what we don’t want!

When choosing a partner we will try to find out what their pros and cons are. You will be able to see if that person will make you happy or they will destroy your life by their actions.

There are certain things all toxic people do. They don’t do it intentionally—it is part of their genes and they can’t do anything about it. You know, a leopard can’t change its spots.

Here is a list of some bad things that people do when being in a relationship. If you are not quite sure that your partner is the right person for you, maybe one of these things is responsible for your bad luck in love.

1. They are always the victim

Someone who is always painting themselves as a victim will never be able to take responsibility for their actions. If they can’t take responsibility, nothing will work, including your relationship.

People who do this think this is the right way. They don’t care how you are going to feel. Their finger will be always pointed at you, and I am not sure for how long you will be able to put up with all that shit.

See also: 5 Signs He’s Not Complicated—He’s Just a Manipulative Asshole

2. They don’t really listen to you

When you are talking to them, it seems that they listen to you but the real truth is that they are just nodding their head as a sign of approval.

In fact, they are so distant and they are thinking about how they will tell you their problems. This is a selfish act so you better think twice if this is the right person for you.

3. There is always ‘drama’ in their lives

But they never seem to be the reason for it. Someone else is always guilty because they feel this way.

If your lady is a ‘drama queen’, it is most likely that she won’t lose that characteristic when entering into your life. You will be the reason why she has a bad day and why all the bad stuff is happening to her only.

If you see a sign like this, you can be sure that you are dating a toxic person. It is up to you if you are going to stay or leave. So, I ask you: “Can you handle this?”

4. They make you feel that you are the ‘crazy’ one

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Do you sometimes feel that you are crazy? And you were pretty normal a moment ago with your friends?

Well, the reason you are feeling this way is that your partner is a damn good manipulator. They will make you feel insecure about what you have been sure about for such a long time.

This is a big red flag, so you better pack your bags and leave if you don’t want to end up in tears.

5. They embarrass you in front of others

A real partner should support you no matter what happens, right? Well, with people like this, you are never secure.

They will embarrass and belittle you in front of others and when you get offended, they will say it was just a joke. So, tell me, who is crazy here?

6. It is always ‘their way or no way’

A person doesn’t have to be a genius to be a damn good manipulator. The reason they want it their way or no way is because that is the only way they know to handle things.

So, don’t try to fix them. Even if you try to do it, they won’t cooperate. Leave them while you still can if you don’t want to be wrapped up in their bullshit.

7. They suck all the positive energy out of you

If you feel super happy with your friends but totally opposite when being with your partner, something is wrong.

So, you better sit down and consider all the pros and cons of your relationship.

Do you really want to feel bad with the person you love? I thought so!

Do something about it. You are in charge of your life and if you don’t make cuts on time, the result can be a catastrophe. You deserve to live your life to the fullest and never let an asshole convince you of the opposite!

See also: 5 Signs He’s Emotionally Unavailable (Don’t Even Bother To Date Him)