Don’t be surprised one day when you look around and notice she isn’t there for you anymore. Don’t be surprised when you ring her and she doesn’t pick up the phone. Don’t be surprised when you’re no longer the first person she calls when something bad happens to her. Don’t be surprised when she stops counting on you. The bottom line is, you were the one who showed her she didn’t really have you.
You showed her she couldn’t count on you.
You were never there when she needed you. You should’ve been partners but you left her to do all the work while you laid back and relaxed. You let her swim the oceans for you alone and you didn’t even lift a finger for her.
All her battles, she had to fight alone. Whatever was done to her in her life, she had to handle it without you. And you know why? Because you showed her she couldn’t count on you. She had no other choice but to handle it alone then.
You showed her she shouldn’t miss you.
You made her feel like you never missed her. She never felt like her absence was noticed by you. She never saw you reacting scared to the idea of losing her. You never told her what she meant to you or that she should be there in your life. Actually, you showed her the absolute opposite. You showed her you didn’t care that she was missing you or craving you.
You showed her she shouldn’t choose you.
You kept choosing others over her. You kept giving your time to others rather than spending it with her. You never made a true effort to show her she was the one you truly wanted, so what do you think she could conclude from that? You showed her she shouldn’t keep putting at the top of her list someone who didn’t even put her on his list at all.
You showed her that you don’t really care.
You’d been numb and oblivious to her needs for far too long. You never cared to invest yourself in the relationship as much as she did. She was the one who always went the extra mile for you and she never complained about any of it. But you soon made it clear that she was walking miles for someone who didn’t really give a damn. So why should she continue walking miles for someone who didn’t even deserve it? She shouldn’t. So she stopped.
You showed her you don’t really love her.
Those who love don’t behave like you did. Those who love treat the person they love with respect. Those who love make sure their love is visible, they don’t play games, they don’t make the other person wonder if they’re loved or not. See, those who love take care of the people they love. If you loved, she wasn’t the person you loved.
You showed her she’s better off on her own.
With you next to her side she should feel like the only woman in the world. Instead, your actions made her wonder her worth. The way you treated her made her feel like no matter what she did it was simply not good enough for you. She never felt like you cared for her or like you loved her.
After a while, she realized that you were only tearing her confidence down. After a while, she realized you were only dragging her spirit down. After a while, she realized she was swimming the ocean for someone who was far from willing to do the same. After a while, she realized she was the only one trying, that she was trying so hard for the wrong guy, for the guy who wasn’t good for her. You were the one who showed her she’s better off on her own.
So please don’t act surprised when she’s no longer there for you. You were never there for her anyway.