Most of the signs of physical attraction between two people are unconscious, meaning that their body is in charge.
We can be attracted to other people without a single word being said. It’s a reaction between the chemistry of two bodies and, well, there’s nothing we can do to hide it.
To understand the ways physical attraction works, all it takes is a little bit of intuition and knowing how people react when they’re next to someone they’re attracted to.
How Can You Identify Attraction Between Two People?
Flirting, chemistry, intense eye contact, sexual tension, and subtle touches are surefire signs of attraction between two people.
However, not everyone reacts the same way when they’re next to someone they find attractive, so there is no easy formula to know if the other person is drawn to you.
But it takes a little bit of time and watching them to know for sure if there is strong chemistry going on between the two of you.
Remember that almost 90 percent of communication is based on body language and little signs of affection.
While words can be deceiving, the body never lies. No one can control if they’re going to be nervous next to you, if their palms will sweat or their voice will be higher.
In order to make it easier for you to see what the signs of physical attraction between two people are, we gathered together the most common and obvious ones.
All you have to do now is to pay close attention to their behavior.
Strong Signs Of Physical Attraction Between Two People
Smiling all the time
It’s impossible to contain your smile when you’re with someone who’s attractive to you. It just feels good to be around them.
If you notice someone looking at you with a silly grin on their face, that’s a strong sign that they’re attracted to you.
We have all experienced the feeling of grinning without any particular reason—it’s not something we do consciously, we just can’t help it.
Even though we look like complete idiots (most of the time), we can’t stop smiling around the person we find attractive. Obviously, we’re on cloud nine and we’re so excited about what will happen next.
So, don’t forget to pay attention to the way the other person looks at you because it will tell you much more than their words do.
It can be a pat on the shoulder or back or something more obvious like kissing and hugging.
Skin-to-skin contact activates the dopamine receptors in our brain. Dopamine is known as a happy chemical produced by the brain because it releases feelings of happiness or euphoria.
Physical contact can also happen more subtly if they’re still getting to know each other, but it will still be more frequent than it is with other people.
This is especially obvious if you know that the person is not someone who often touches others. Still, there are people who have to touch you, no matter what the status of your relationship is.
Our body’s reaction to nervous situations is sweating. And is there any greater reason to be nervous than when sitting next to someone we find attractive?
If you notice that your palms are sweating around a certain special person, ask yourself why that is so.
Is it because you’re strongly attracted to them and you don’t know how to behave around them? Do you feel like you want to connect with them on so many levels but you’re not sure that you’re on the same page?
If you notice a certain person who has sweaty palms around you, pay attention to his behavior. Sooner or later, you’ll be sure if he’s attracted to you by looking for these signs.
They seem nervous
When they seem nervous and keep on fidgeting, that’s a clear sign they’re attracted to you.
When we’re around someone we find attractive, someone who we care about in a certain way, we may feel insecure and less confident.
So, we keep on fidgeting with our fingers, running our hands through our hair, and adjusting our clothes all the time.
For example, women will play with their hair, while men will play with their clothes or cellphone. I know for a fact that every time I’m nervous, I start playing with my curls and I’m not even aware of that.
So, pay close attention to what your body’s telling you because it usually knows your heart’s desires before you do.
Licking their lips
Remember those movie scenes where usually a girl seductively licks her lips while sitting at the bar and looking at that one handsome man in her vicinity?
Whenever I see such and similar scenes, I start feeling uncomfortable because their physical attraction seems so real.
Well, if you catch them licking their lips while they’re looking at you, that could be a sign that they’re thinking about using them on you.
Or they will keep touching and playing with them because they unconsciously manifest where and how they want to be touched. And you’re the one who triggers those needs in them.
Blushing and shyness
This one is more common for women, but if there is a huge change of behavior regardless of whether it’s a man or a woman, that’s a sign.
Even the toughest of players can be swept off of their feet when they approach someone they’re highly attracted to.
He will be blushing, stuttering and suddenly acting either shy or extremely confident in front of a woman, just to impress her.
And when it comes to a woman, blushing is a natural body reaction that happens when they’re with someone they’re attracted to. Blood rushes to their face, making them blush and thus more attractive.
Fixing their appearance
If they are constantly trying to fix their appearance, whether it’s their clothes, hair, or make-up, that is a sign they want to look their best for you, even if it’s unconsciously.
And if there is something that won’t just stay in place, for example, a strand of hair, they will soon get frustrated because they are failing at looking perfect for you.
This is so TRUE because it happened to me multiple times. My hair is usually all over the place because it’s curly and voluminous but that doesn’t bother me until I’m next to someone I find attractive.
All of a sudden, every single thing on me starts bothering me. Fixing my appearance turns into a severe OCD within seconds but I guess there’s nothing I can do about it.
Even though I don’t like experiencing this myself, to be honest, that is the most adorable thing I see in other people.
Sharing a comfortable silence
People with whom you can share comfortable silences are the people you want to keep around. Whether they’re friends or soon-to-be lovers, those people are truly precious.
We all had those kinds of dates where the awkward silence eats you up, makes you even more nervous than you already are, and eventually ruins the mood completely.
But people who are mutually attracted have no problem in sharing silence, because they enjoy each other’s company already. This is one of the biggest signs of unspoken mutual attraction.
If there are no thoughts rushing through your mind when silence comes up, but instead there’s this calm feeling of being understood without even using any words, they’re the one you should choose.
People who are attracted to each other have their own way of communication. It’s not something they intentionally do, it’s just them sharing something they can’t share with others.
They tease each other about things only they know about them, and all of the teasing usually relies on inside jokes. Undoubtedly, teasing is one of the biggest signs of physical attraction between two people.
It’s their way of showing everyone that they are sort of an item and making sure that they have each other’s complete attention.
If he’s lowering his voice when he’s talking to you, it’s because he’s trying to make it more intimate between you two.
That way you will lean closer to him to hear what he’s saying thus making it easier for him to maybe lean in for a kiss or enjoy your presence.
Couples who are attracted to each other will always be leaning in closer than those who are not.
If you’re wondering why that happens, it’s simply because they gravitate toward each other and share more of an intimate chemistry bond than they do with the rest of the people.
Trying to make each other laugh
If he’s going out of his way or making a fool out of himself just to see you smile, that’s a sign of attraction.
He’s trying to impress you, so that you would want to spend more time with him. And another important reason is that he honestly enjoys when you smile because of him.
Seeing you laugh and trying to catch a breath because of a joke he said gets him higher than any drug out there.
I personally think that the laughing aspect is one of the most important indicators of strong attraction between two people (be it emotional or physical). As a matter of fact, a sense of humor works as a tool that boosts attraction.
There’s a reason they say that couples who laugh together, stay together.
Mirroring your movements
If you noticed that they’re trying to mimic any of your expressions and movements, that’s a clear sign they’re attracted to you.
They say that couples with great chemistry are like a mirrored version of each other, and that’s basically true.
That’s not something they’re doing on purpose, it’s their body’s way of trying to be like you because they want to be with you.
If you’re leaning, they will lean too, if you cross your arms, they will cross them too. The last time I was on a date with a guy, I noticed that every time I touched my forehead, he would do the same. Or every time I would start drinking, he would do the same.
A few days later, I told him that I knew he was attracted to me from the first date because he was mirroring all of my movements. We’re still dating and I think this mirroring will continue happening for some time in the future.
So, if you’re not sure if they’re attracted to you, pay close attention to their movements.
Trying to impress each other
You would say that this one is quite obvious, but there are people who always try to impress everyone around them.
Like players who are trained to impress every woman along the way and narcissists who are trying to manipulate you into loving them, so they have someone to praise them other than themselves.
But if you notice that he’s trying to impress you in ways other than just for you to admire his body or career success, that’s one of the signs he’s quite serious about you.
If you told him how much you love pandas and the next time you see him he remembers it and he actually did some research about them, that means he listens to you and cares about your passions.
If you mentioned how much you’re looking forward to the new Marvel movie and he bought you tickets for it, do I need to say more? Marry that one!
This one goes for the couples who have been in a relationship for a while longer.
If you notice that they’re still very affectionate with each other, that means that there is still a strong physical attraction in their relationship.
No matter how long they’ve been dating, she still looks at him like he’s the only man alive and he has the most genuine look of awe on his face when she enters the room.
Like with Blake Lively and Ryan Reynolds; they managed to prolong their honeymoon phase and got the best of both worlds.
Their passion is the same as the first time they met, but it’s accompanied by love, understanding, and an emotional connection. If that’s not relationship goals, I don’t know what is.
Not paying attention to other people
Couples who are deeply attracted to each other have a habit of shutting down the rest of the world. If there’s a group of people around them, they will most likely ignore them.
This is specifically obvious if they just met and they don’t seem to notice anyone around them. They’re just trying to understand what’s happening and why it just feels so good to be next to the other one.
Yes, not paying attention to other people is one of the strong signs of physical attraction between two people.
This kind of attraction and connection is honestly the best one to look for because couples who are genuinely in love with each other will never look around for some side action. And if you ask me, there’s nothing sexier than loyalty.
You can’t pull away
When there’s great chemistry between two people, they are unable to pull away from each other. It’s sort of a drug, really.
You enjoy each other’s company, it feels right to be next to them and they basically feel like a part of you.
Once you’re separated, it feels like something is missing, so you try to make the best of the time you two have. You try to steal as much time as possible, just to be with them for a little longer.
That’s why couples who just entered a relationship spend so much time together— they’re just addicted to each other and the feeling they get when they’re together.
Body language signs
When we feel attracted to someone and our chemistry matches, our body language changes in order to get their attention and make us more attractive to them.
Most of these actions are something we unconsciously do, the way our body reacts to being attracted to someone.
With so much of communication being based on body language and the little signs of affection that we show each other, it’s important to pay attention to someone’s behavior around us.
Words are important as well, but they mean nothing if actions can’t follow them. They can promise you the sun and the stars, but can still have difficulties proving it to you.
Trust your guts and pay attention to their body language, which manifests differently in men and women.
Male body language
Male body language is a lot simpler than women’s. When they’re with someone they’re attracted to, their pulse is faster, while their breathing and blood flow are increased.
All of this leads him to acquire a certain level of nervousness because he’s trying his best to impress you.
Pay attention to his palms and the way he looks at you. He will keep intense eye contact, bite his lips and keep his legs wide open. It’s his body’s way of inviting you closer to him.
He will also do his best to appear stronger, more skillful, and more impressive than he is.
He might stutter while doing so, but it’s all because of you and your chemistry that attracted him so madly.
Female body language
Female body language is a little bit more obvious because we blush. A lot. We giggle when we’re nervous, play with our hair, and keep on crossing our legs all the time.
We do a series of small actions just to keep his focus and attention on us.
We also blink faster and our voice is higher when we’re talking to someone we are attracted to. All of the men who say we are complicated are simply not paying attention.
We are like open books when we’re attracted to someone and there’s nothing we can do about it. Seriously guys, just open your eyes for a change.
Intense eye contact
Intense eye contact is both an indicator of romantic love and pure lust but one thing is sure: Prolonged eye contact is always equally powerful.
As a hopeless romantic, I can’t imagine a love life without deep eye contact that literally freezes blood inside your body and forces your heart to pump harder.
If you feel like you can’t stop looking them into the eye when you’re with them (and vice versa), then you know this is an indicator of strong mutual attraction.
When you look each other in the eye, you can feel the nervousness becoming more and more intense. It’s when you try to tell them with your eyes what you would do to them when the time comes and how you feel about them.
The best thing about prolonged eye contact is the fact that you can say so much with your eyes without uttering a single word.
The production of pheromones
As you can see, this is a scientific sign that indicates strong attraction between two people. If the chemistry between two people is strong, their bodies will produce a chemical called pheromones.
This chemical is responsible for the sexual desire and attraction that two people have towards one another. Truth be told, you cannot see when these pheromones start to kick in but you can feel it.
Once the attraction is created, lots of changes happen in your body and mind. Some of them are not so noticeable while others can’t be missed.
A slight increase in your heartbeat
How do you know that there is a strong physical attraction between two people? Just pay attention to their heartbeat (or yours).
If you notice a slight increase in your heartbeat, it’s one of the telltale signs that you’re attracted to that person.
Every time this happens to me, I immediately start thinking that it’s my anxiety saying Hi to me because I used to have problems with my mental health.
It took me a long time to realize that an accelerated heartbeat is my body telling me that I’m totally smitten by the person next to me.
When two people are attracted to each other, they create a unique melody and their heartbeat is like the rhythm of their attraction. It’s your body’s way of telling you that you’re TOTALLY crazy about each other.
Did you know that sexual attraction is closely connected with strong romantic chemistry? These two terms are often intertwined.
As a matter of fact, chemistry is coupled with lots of things from love to infatuation and strong sexual desire. It’s like a tool that joins all these elements together.
Signs of chemistry between two people include lots of eye contact, subtle touches, laughing, a slight increase in your heartbeat, teasing, enjoying comfortable silence, you name it.
All these little things turn into something BIG called intense attraction between two people. This intense attraction consists of both romantic chemistry and physical attraction.
It’s when you feel like staring at the ceiling with them is something you could do for an eternity without getting bored. Do you know why? Because the intense chemistry you two share makes even the most boring things EXCITING.
Being TOTALLY focused on one another
Are you freely inviting yourself into their personal space (and vice versa)? Are you totally focused on one another?
Interpersonal attraction is based on having a strong desire to be as close as you can next to someone you’re attracted to.
You observe their body language signs, you pay attention to every single word that is coming out of their mouth. You feel like you’re on a desert island even though there are plenty of people around you.
You’re so focused on each other that even if an apocalypse happened, you wouldn’t notice it. These lines from Ed Sheeran’s beautiful song Tenerife Sea explain the scene perfectly:
“You look so wonderful in your dress
I love your hair like that
The way it falls on the side of your neck
Down your shoulders and back
We are surrounded by all of these lies
And people that talk too much
You got that kind of look in your eyes
As if no one knows anything but us…”
If you have the same kind of look in your eyes and you feel like no one knows anything but you, then you know you’re deeply attracted to each other.
Many relationship experts claim that strong physical attraction is created by anticipation and I can confirm that they’re totally right about it. Anticipation is an attraction in disguise.
Imagine that you’re at dinner with someone you’re strongly attracted to. Every sound of silence will be like music to your ears and with every word, anticipation becomes more and more unbearable.
When you observe them, their every move looks like it’s in slow motion. You can’t wait to touch their hand and connect with them both physically and mentally.
You feel like only one touch of their random body part would drive you completely crazy. Your lips are begging you for mercy because they can’t bear this level of anticipation.
If all these things resonate with you, then you know there is a strong physical attraction between the two of you.
Losing track of time
Whenever you feel like you’ve lost track of time, this is a good sign. It happened to me a lot of times so far but not with everyone.
I’ve noticed that this doesn’t happen only in real life but on social media as well.
Whenever I text someone to whom I’m strongly attracted, I lose track of time. So, instead of sleeping, I find myself texting them the whole night because of strong textual chemistry.
Losing track of time is also a strong sign of compatibility between two people. It’s when you have so much to share with them that you simply forget about time.
Every hour spent with that person feels like one second because their presence excites you and brings you pleasure in so many ways.
Noticing small things
Have you noticed that there is a lot of complimenting between you two? Do you feel like you can’t help yourself but compliment every single thing on the other person you’re attracted to? Do they feel the same way about you?
Obviously, if you feel the need to notice small things about them and compliment their outfit, hairstyle, and so on, it’s for a reason. You feel a strong attraction toward them and your body is forcing you to express it through words.
This is a good thing (especially in relationships). So, here’s one of the best relationship advice: Never underestimate the power of little things.
Can Other People See Chemistry Between Two People?
Yes, other people can notice if there is strong chemistry between two people. I also noticed it multiple times. Chemistry is one of the most powerful forces which means it cannot be hidden. Why?
Because when two people are strongly attracted to each other, they can’t help themselves but show it in various ways from intense eye contact to subtle touches.
The main indicator of strong chemistry is the magnetic energy that they exude when they’re together. So, yes, other people can feel this energy as well.
Wrapping It Up
Signs of physical attraction between two people can sometimes be confusing and you might misinterpret them.
If a guy or a girl is acting nervous, you might think that something else is bothering them when in reality, they can’t handle the intense attraction they feel for you.
Sometimes, these attraction signs will be obvious, while at other times you will have to play detective a little bit.
However, if there is an intense attraction between the two of you, remember that this cannot be hidden (in the long run). Trust your intuition and enjoy!