Por qué te rechaza un chico si le gustas y qué hacer al respecto

Posiblemente, la peor sensación del mundo sea ofrecer nuestro amor a alguien para que lo rechace en un instante.

¿Por qué te rechazaría un chico si le gustas? Even when we seemingly blame him, the truth is that we always feel we’re at fault.

Not knowing eats us away. Feelings of unworthiness arise, and we feel like we’re destined to be alone.

¿Por qué iba a rechazarte si estabas segura de que las cosas iban tan bien? ¿De quién es la culpa? ¿Cómo se torció todo tan rápido?

Well, I’m here to offer you empathy as well as show you all the possible reasons why a guy would reject you if le gustas, and how rarely you’re at fault.

¿Por qué te rechaza un chico si le gustas? 19 posibles razones

You’re probably very confused now; not really sure why this guy won’t accept you. You feel like you’re not good enoughy luchan contra sentimientos de indignidad.

You’re thinking: ‘’There must be a good reason why he doesn’t want me.’’

Y siempre lo hay. Pero, a menudo no juegas ningún papel en ello. A veces, el problema está en otra parte. It’s usually another girl or the guy himself.

It’s your job to recognize if it’s that or you. If it’s the former, there’s not much you can do about it, and if it’s the latter, you can always work on yourself (not to please the guy, but to be a better person!).

Stay with me, and let’s explore all the possible reasons why a guy doesn’t want a relationship with you!

1. Le gustas pero tiene miedo al rechazo

Guys aren’t as confident as they seem. If he has even the slightest doubt that you’re not really into him, it will discourage him from mover ficha.

And, you know how it is when doubt settles in your mind. It only increases with each passing second, and in the end, it manages to fully convince you that it’s telling the truth.

Entonces, ¿por qué te rechazaría un chico si le gustas? Pues porque prefiere adorarte desde lejos a confesarte lo que siente sólo para ser rechazado. El miedo al rechazo es mucho más fuerte que su amor por ti.

What’s the solution?

Bueno, la razón de su incertidumbre es en realidad tus señales contradictorias. Tal vez empezar a ser más abierto acerca de cómo se siente.

You don’t have to explicitly say ”Hey, you, I love you.”, but what you can do is show him your emotions in other ways.

You can be extra flirty, touch him more often while you’re talking, and make contacto visual prolongado. Or… you could actually say the words.

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2. Piensa que tu amor está en otra parte

Have you mentioned another guy in front of him without ever confirming that you’re single?

Have you talked about someone in such a loving way that it is sure to raise doubts in someone who fancies you? I sure made both of those mistakes…

Of course, it’s not a bad thing to have a male best friend you love so much that you want to shout it to the world.

However, if you’re telling it to the guy you’re romantically interested in, I hope you don’t fail to mention the actual nature of your relationship.

Al final, estás aquí. Estás leyendo esto y quieres hacer las cosas bien. ¡Y puedes hacerlo!

Openly admire your friends, but also make it crystal clear that you aren’t romantically involved with them. Facilitará mucho las cosas tanto para ti como para tu enamorado.

He may finally gather the strength to ask you out now that he knows you’re unspoken for! As one of the frases inspiradoras para enamorados dice:

“There is nothing better than when your crush has a crush on you, too.” – Unknown

Así que dale la oportunidad de expresarte su afecto.

3. Otra chica mantiene su interés

¿Alguna vez has estado enamorado de más de una persona a la vez? Si es así, sabes que nunca sientes lo mismo por todas ellas.

There’s probably one guy you find truly precious, and the rest are distractions because you can’t seem to have him…

A los hombres también les pasa. Puede que le gustes mucho, pero no lo suficiente como para empezar una relación contigo.

Él sopla frío y calor the whole time because he’s still hoping for someone else.

Comprometerme contigo significaría abandonando a la mujer por la que siente algo de verdad. In all truth, he seems like a nice guy, and you should be grateful that he’s not wasting your time!

You don’t want to have a partner who is secretly infatuated with someone else, now, do you?

4. He doesn’t want a girlfriend

Why would a guy reject you if he likes you? This one may be hard to believe, but maybe he just doesn’t want a relationship right now!

Quizá acaba de conseguir un trabajo y quiere destacar en él, dedicándole toda su atención. O puede que por fin haya encontrado la motivación para estudiar y conseguir esta vez todos los As.

A veces, la gente tiene otras cosas en la cabeza. Puede que el amor no sea una de ellas.

Besides, romantic love isn’t the only kind of love there is.

Puede que se haya embarcado en un viaje de amor propio porque se da cuenta de que la curación le acercará a la tranquilidad que busca.

Isn’t it so much more fulfilling to seek a romantic partner when you’ve resolved all your major issues instead of projecting them onto others?

P.S. If you happen to have mental health issues, I know it’s not easy to just get rid of your problems and know that you don’t deserve any less love because of it!

5. He’s still recovering from his ex

¿Ha experimentado alguna vez esa sensación de éxtasis al sentir por fin algo por el hombre adecuado sólo para que todo se arruine en cuestión de minutos?

Maybe you followed him on Instagram and saw that he didn’t delete pictures with his ex-girlfriend on social media. Or, maybe he’s still posting sad love songs.

Even though you sense that he’s really attracted to you, there’s this odd distance between you; boundaries you don’t dare to cross.

You can’t help but wonder whether he’s genuinely attracted to you or just being nice.

Ir demasiado rápido no es una opción. You just feel that he’s still in pain over a break-up with someone he genuinely cared about.

I hope you realise that the problem is not you… nor is it him. You just happened to meet at a very wrong time.

He still needs to heal, and I’m sure you don’t want to be anyone’s rebound girl. Appreciate your little experience, but move on.

Te mereces a alguien que sólo piense en ti.

6. Sólo quiere sexo

I don’t like saying this, but it’s very possible that this guy only wants sex, and he’s only interested in tetas y culo.

Cuando vio que estabas para una relación seria y comprometidadecidió huir.

Por supuesto, si compartieras sus deseos, estaría bien, pero como estás aquí leyendo esto, sé que tenías mayores expectativas.

Allow yourself to grieve, but remember that you deserve more than he wanted to give you. Don’t accept anything less just for the sake of having SOMETHING.

You may be tempted to indulge him and to stay, hoping you’ll somehow change him and make him realize how great your relationship could be.

Aunque las personas SON capaces de cambiar, nunca debes dejar que alguien te utilice de esa manera.

Que siga teniendo su relaciones esporádicasy vas a buscar algo que realmente te llene.

You deserve to have someone you don’t have to try that hard for!

7. No quiere ningún compromiso

It’s also quite possible that the guy actually wanted to offer you what you wished for, but in the end, he still decided to reject you.

No es culpa tuya.

A veces, una persona puede convencerse a sí misma de todo tipo de cosas, encontrando una razón para abandonarte cuando la única razón real es sólo su propio MIEDO.

Probablemente alguien les decepcionó y no quieren volver a vivir esa experiencia, así que arruinan la relación antes incluso de que empiece porque creen que algún día lo harás de todos modos.

They ruin it so you can’t.

As sad as this might be, if you keep trying for him, yet get no results, it’s time to face the facts.

He has issues to solve, and you are not his therapist… just a person in need of love. So, go to a place where you’ll actually get it.

8. Piensa mal de sí mismo

Have you ever gone out with a guy for the first time and he showed clear signs of affection, yet you didn’t hear from him the next day… or any other day?

Why would a guy reject you if he likes you? It may actually not be about you at all…

Maybe you did show him how much you liked him on that one date, but he still managed to convince himself that it’s all in his imagination. Esto se debe a que tiene una autoestima muy baja.

He may think he doesn’t look appealing enough to you, or that he made too many embarrassing jokes you laughed at out of pity.

There’s usually no way of knowing whether a guy has reached this level of insecurity. But… there is something you can do.

Has disfrutado de la cita, ¿verdad? Pues díselo. Puede que le inspires la suficiente confianza como para confesarse a sí mismo.

After all, it doesn’t always have to be the guy that makes the first move. If he’s so unsure of himself, help him out a little bit.

9. You’re too clingy, or too distant

There’s quite a possibility that a guy likes you, but doesn’t want you liking him so much that he feels suffocated.

Si quieres estar con él 24 horas al día, 7 días a la semana, y te molesta un poco que dedique su tiempo a otra cosa, puede que eso le resulte agotador.

Let’s be honest. No guy wants to be en una relación con una novia pegajosa.

Know that it’s fine to want closeness with someone, but people also want to be by themselves sometimes. You should not only respect that, but try practicing it yourself.

Por supuesto, si eres demasiado ignorado por el tipo, that’s not due to his need for some privacy, but due to not wanting to be with you. Haz lo correcto por ti mismo y deja de intentarlo.

Another thing he might dislike is quite the opposite – you are too distant.

Maybe you like your alone time way too much (in his eyes) while he’s trying to get closer to you. What you have to decide here is this:

Do you want him in your life so much that you’re ready to slightly change your ways? Or, is he just some guy who’s not more valuable than your personal freedom?

10. You’re too eager to be with him

Sabes que a los tíos les gusta perseguir, ¿verdad? Well, that might also be a reason why he continues to reject you – you’re trying too hard.

Puede que le guste mucho tu personalidad, pero que tu afán le resulte demasiado desagradable como para querer intentar algo más.

Este tipo de hombre sólo prospera cuando finalmente te conquista después de días, o incluso meses, de intentarlo.

What’s important to know in this case is this: He’s just not for you.

If you’re the type of person who is brave enough to actually act on how you feel, you ought to never lose that. I hope you realise what a gift that is.

So many people want your courage, so don’t be throwing it away only for some guy!

Porque realmente, si a un chico le gustas de verdad por lo que eres, apreciará cada uno de tus avances. Lo que le importa eres TÚ, y NO la persecución.

11. Pareces demasiado arrogante

I don’t know about you, but I was shocked when people demonstrated to me how intimidating I can look at times…

When you unconsciously look too proud and angry with the world, even if you’re the prettiest and smartest woman there is, it is actually a common reason why a guy doesn’t approach you.

…Because you are unapproachable. O, al menos, lo pareces, aunque seas la persona más dulce que existe.

The only thing you can do to remedy this effect (because it’s okay to look however you look, no need to change that!) is to perhaps smile at him if he happens to be nearby.

Or, approach him yourself and show him that you’re not as he pictured you to be.

12. You don’t need him, and he hates it

Existe un concepto psicológico llamado instinto de héroe. Básicamente, un chico quiere que le necesites para sentirse tu héroe.

¿Te ha ofrecido llevarte, pero lo has rechazado? ¿Ha insistido en pagar el almuerzo esta vez?

Well, this kind of guy will not enjoy your objections to his acts of kindness because he NEEDS to feel important. It’s all about him.

He’s a narcissist que te cree una cosita frágil que hay que poner bajo su protección.

Así que, si resulta que careces de las cualidades femeninas de una mujer, como la suavidad, la sensibilidad y la codependencia, este hombre se irá por otro lado sin más.

He might like you a lot, but that’s not what truly motivates him to make a move!

13. Su éxito le hace sentirse mal

Puede ser triste, pero muchos chicos de hoy en día quieren que tengas menos éxito para poder ser tu protector.

When you start talking about your achievements, all he can hear is: ”I failed”, or ”I can’t let a woman hold greater power than me.”

Of course, it’s not always necessarily sexist. It can be a personal issue of his, that is, jealousy.

If he really is sexist, then trust me, you don’t want that kind of guy. Wouldn’t you want someone who’s genuinely happy every time you tell him good news?

If it is jealousy, on the other hand, it’s a bit more complicated.

While it is awful to know someone envies you, they don’t necessarily want you to fail. They may just feel bad about not having what you have.

It’s not easy to accept that, but if it’s genuine love you both feel, you might want to talk it out. Be the one who’ll reach out to him and show him how worthy he is, too.

14. He’s bothered by your guy friends

Tal vez te resulte difícil encontrar amigas y estés rodeada de hombres todo el tiempo. Puede que al chico que te gusta no le haga mucha gracia.

This doesn’t mean that you should abandon your friends. Just try explaining to him the nature of your relationship. Or, even introduce them! Have mutual friends.

Be honest – if you have noticed that your guy is constantly around a lot of women, wouldn’t you think that he’s involved with one of them?

It’s important that you let him know about their position in your life, and while you’re at it, maybe even tell him what’s his. Puede que se anime y se te insinúe oficialmente.

15. He doesn’t feel the connection

Has it ever happened to you that you truly enjoy someone’s company, but there’s still something missing…

A todos nos gusta pensar que tenemos un tipo, y puede que así sea. Pero, al final, lo que importa no es de qué color tiene el pelo o si comparte tus intereses.

A veces, tenemos poco en común con alguien, pero aun así disfrutamos con lo que nos cuenta. Puede que tu chico entre en esta categoría.

Entonces, ¿por qué te rechazaría un chico si le gustas?

This doesn’t mean that it’s your fault. You don’t have any flaws that you need to work on, or anything of the sort. You’re just not right for each other.

Le animo a suéltalo , and start looking for a kindred spirit of your own! Although, truthfully, best connections happen when we’re not really looking for them.

16. He doesn’t think it’ll last

It could just so happen that a guy likes you very much, but there’s still something telling him that it’s not going anywhere.

¿Hablas constantemente de que no quieres casarte nunca, o de que te ves como una anciana que vive sola con sus gatos?

It’s quite possible that he mistakes your words as a sign you don’t want to be with him rather than a sign of you fearing to die alone.

You may think that by saying this, you’ll somehow motivate him to make a move, but in reality, you’ll only discourage him.

Instead, try opening up about your fear, or at least find another way to motivate him because this won’t work.

Sometimes, though, it’s not about what you say, but rather about how the guy sees things.

If he feels that he can’t see a future with you, know that it’s not on you to convince him otherwise. Sin embargo, si realmente te gusta, puedes darle una oportunidad.

But, in all honesty, if he can’t see it for himself, he’s telling you all you need to know.

17. He’s immature

Este tipo de guy doesn’t have the emotional maturity tratar a una chica que le gusta como se merece.

He may even be extremely rude, just like a little boy, when he has a crush on you. You don’t really need that.

Te mereces delicadeza, y quizás alguna broma bienintencionada, pero NUNCA grosería.

You may try to solve this issue, but it’s really not your job to raise a guy. He has to be ready to accept his issues, and work on them himself.

You’re not meant to be a parental figure, but his support system.

18. He’s not that into you

I’m not telling you this gladly, but it’s very possible that a guy keeps rejecting you simply because he doesn’t like you.

Tal vez malinterpretaste sus buenos modales, y viste cada acto de amabilidad como una clara señal de sus sentimientos hacia ti. O, tal vez convertiste todo en una señal.

Nos pasa a todos. Vemos lo que queremos ver.

Si notas una falta de su afecto, puede que sea el momento de renunciar a él. I know it’s hard, but it’s better than chasing a wild goose.

I’m sure there’s a guy out there who is more than happy to be with you. For now, be there for yourself.

Start practising self-care by abandoning the guy that doesn’t appreciate you.

19. You’re in the friendzone

This is something we dread more than anything else – wanting to be someone’s romantic partner while they desire nothing more than to be a good friend of yours.

A veces es muy difícil averiguarlo, pero puedes hacerlo si prestas atención. Una señal reveladora puede ser que hable de su excitante vida amorosa.

While this can also be a way to make you jealous, more often than not, it’s proof of a lack of interest.

La única forma de saberlo con seguridad es confiésale tus sentimientos directa o indirectamente, y ver cómo reacciona. Whatever happens, at least you’ll know for sure.

I know it’s frightening because this way, you have hope, but you realise that you are wasting your time waiting for something that may never come.

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¿Cómo saber si un chico oculta que le gustas?

Uno de los mayores indicadores de que le gustas a un chico, pero lo está ocultando son el nerviosismo, arreglar su aspecto (antes de verte), muchas caricias sutiles, etc.

Ahora bien, hay múltiples razones por las que los chicos ocultarían su afecto por ti, y las más frecuentes son la timidez o la jugando duro .

Salir con un chico tímido es una experiencia única, pero también todo un reto. Lo mismo ocurre con los hombres que prefieren el juego de hacerse los duros.

If you aren’t sure as to whether a guy truly likes you or not, here are the most common signs that scream he totally digs you (but is hiding it):

• He teases you (all the time)

• Subtle touches are frequent (this is the biggest cue of atracción física )

• You often catch him looking at you

• He tries to impress you

• Nervousness

- Te hace cumplidos

• He’s protective over you

- Contacto visual prolongado

• He remembers everything about you

So, if the majority of these signs describe his behavior, then you know he’s trying to hide how much te quiere a ti.

¿Cómo saber si un chico te rechaza?

Notarás el rechazo en su lenguaje corporal. Se distanciará de ti, tanto física como emocionalmente.

He won’t care about your advances nor will he appreciate time spent with you. It will feel like everything else is more important than you.

Have you ever been in his presence, but instead of being excited, he couldn’t wait to leave to do something else? Or, have you ever texted him, and he found the time to reply… ten hours later?

That’s your cue. Deja de analizar su comportamiento para encontrar algún atisbo de esperanza porque él ignorando tus mensajes means he doesn’t care about you as much as you wish he would.

¿Cómo hacer que un chico se arrepienta de haberte rechazado?

Well, you can be the best version of yourself you can be, and make him see all he’s missing out on. If you’re leading your best life, he may want to be a part of it.

Además, si puedes ofrecerle todo lo que busca en una mujer, he’ll miss you seguro.

¿Tienes el mismo sentido del humor? Ve y haz reír a otro delante de él.

¿Veis los mismos programas de televisión? Háblalo delante de él sin incluirle en la conversación.

¿Le gustan las mujeres abiertas? ¡Comparte tus creencias e ideales con el mundo!

Sin embargo, espero que reconozcas la irrelevancia de un tipo que necesita tantas pruebas de tu valía.

¿Cómo aceptar el rechazo de un chico?

Bueno, coge la indirecta y mantente alejado de él.

Sé consciente de que tu dolor es válido y tómate el tiempo que necesites para procesarlo. Habla con alguien de confianza.

If you’re having a hard time opening up to your friends, go to a therapist. Either way, share your story.

Let your goal be trying to appreciate all the good he gave you without ever reflecting on it again. Feel the precious moments, but don’t relive them!

It’s exhausting to live your life filled with hatred. He doesn’t deserve it, and neither do you. Besides, not every guy will reject you, so don’t give up your hope just yet.

En general,

Todavía te preguntas por qué te rechazaría un chico si le gustas o por qué sigue soltero? Sepa que rara vez tiene algo que ver con usted.

It’s mostly his own insecurities, or simply the fact that you two aren’t a match after all.

This doesn’t mean that either of you is to blame. Dependiendo de la situación, deberías ser sincera sobre lo que sientes por él, o dejarlo por el bien de tu bienestar.

Don’t hold onto hatred, but rather accept things as they are, all the while appreciating the good memories.

Recuerda que mereces algo más que aferrarte a alguien que no quiere saber nada de ti.

Pero, si lo hace, y aún así le cuesta demostrártelo, ¡ayúdale haciéndole ver lo enamorada que estás de él! Creo en tu valor, ¡y tú también deberías creerlo!

P.D. Aquí están las mejores formas de hacerle saber a alguien cuánto te gusta.