9 señales de que tienes un problema de ego (y qué hacer al respecto)
En mi opinión, el ego es una de las cosas más frágiles del mundo y, al mismo tiempo, una de las más poderosas.
Si dejas que te controle, puede crecer hasta alcanzar proporciones enormes y, por tanto, interferir en tu vida cotidiana y en tus relaciones con otras personas.
Before we make things complicated, let’s start with a simple definition of ego: An ego is a person’s sense of autoestima y prepotencia.
So, what exactly does it mean when you have an ego problem? It means that you have overly high self-esteem and self-importance. Let’s not confuse ego with amor propio.
I’m not saying that you shouldn’t have a great opinion about yourself and your skills, but la diferencia clave entre un problema de ego y un ego sano está en crear equilibrio.
To help you understand it better, below, you’ll find a brief comparison of healthy and unhealthy egos + warning signs of ego issues, including solutions.
El ego sano frente al problema del ego
Cuando tienes un ego sano, tienes una dosis saludable de autoestima y autoimportancia, lo que te proporciona espacio para más crecimiento personal. You don’t have problems accepting criticism, and you don’t need to feel like a winner in all circumstances.
When you have an ego problem, you have difficulty being flexible, expanding your knowledge, and you can’t help but constantly compare yourself with others.
¿Le suena algo de esto? Then, it’s time to check the following signs that indicate you have an ego problem. You’ll also learn how to free yourself from it.
9 señales de advertencia de que tienes un problema de ego (+ soluciones)
You know you have an ego problem if you detest criticism, always need to feel like a winner, or need to be right every single time (even when you know you’re not). Below, you’ll find these and other signs explained in detail, and accompanied with solutions:
1. La crítica es tu enemigo mortal
Personas con grandes egos can’t stand criticism. This means when someone is giving you constructive criticism, you won’t see it as something productive, but rather offensive.
There’s another reason why you would avoid criticism, and that is the pain of hearing the truth from other people. ¿Crees que escuchar a los demás es un ataque directo a tus capacidades y a tu esfuerzo? Piénselo otra vez.
Aceptar consejos y sugerencias sobre cómo mejorar las cosas es la única forma de crecer como persona. Déjate inspirar por esta famosa cita de Sócrates: “I know that I am intelligent because I know that I know nothing.”
Solución:
- Aprende a responsabilizarte de tus actos.
- Tenga en cuenta que not everyone is going to like you, and that’s okay.
- Practica el autoconocimiento.
Be aware of your flaws and qualities. Don’t focus only on exaggerating the positive sides of your personality or work. Acepta el hecho de que hay muchas cosas que puedes aprender de los demás. Remember that you’re also prone to making mistakes just like the rest of us perfectly imperfect human beings are.
2. You can’t help but constantly compare yourself to others
¿Siempre tiene esa tendencia a compararse con los demás? Permítanme decirlo de otro modo. Do you always think that you’re better than others?
Puede ser un compañero de trabajo al que acaban de ascender, un amigo, un vecino o un familiar.
If you can’t help but think that you deserve better things than others because you have better skills, you’re prettier, or you’re more capable than them, then you have an problema de ego. It’s one of the signs that your ego is slowly taking its toll on your mental health and viewpoints.
El síndrome de la hierba más verde has always been a part of our lives, but it’s up to you to choose rational instead of delusional thinking.
Solución:
Céntrate en ti mismo de forma racional y modesta. When you focus on things going on in your life, you’ll have less time to think about what everyone else is doing. You’ll have less time to compare your life to other people’s lives or to compárate con una mujer más guapa o el hombre.
La solución clave aquí es verte a ti mismo como tu mayor oponente en lugar de a los demás. Tu objetivo debe ser mejorar y no compararte con los demás.
3. La necesidad de sentirse siempre ganador es fuerte en ti
Nómbrame una persona a la que le guste perder en el amor o en la vida. Ya me lo imaginaba. Ninguna persona disfruta perdiendo, pero las personas con egos inflados llevan esto al siguiente nivel.
Harán literalmente cualquier cosa para ganar y demostrar a los demás que son mejores que ellos. Esto incluye mentiras, comportamientos engañosos y otras tácticas de manipulación.
Oftentimes, if an egoistic person thinks they can’t win, they won’t even participate in a certain activity because they couldn’t survive losing.
Pensar así es totalmente irreal, porque por muy bueno que seas en algo, hay alguien que lo hace mejor que tú.
Solución:
Abstenerse de en busca de validación and praise, and focus on celebrating other winners when you lose. Work on realizing your true worth and not the worth you’re imposing on yourself.
Cuando te das cuenta de lo que vales, you won’t feel the urge to constantly feel like a winner. You’ll feel in balance and content with yourself. And remember, controlling your emotions doesn’t mean avoiding them.
4. Sientes la necesidad de ser dominante en cada conversación
Here’s the thing with people who have big egos: they have difficulty valuing other people’s opinions because they’re solely focused on being superior to others, a.k.a. being dominant in every conversation. This also includes social media.
If you’re doing the same thing, it basically means that you believe you’re smarter than others and only your opinion should be praised.
You also have difficulty compromising with others (be it in a romantic relationship or with coworkers) because you’re convinced that it should be your way or nothing.
I’m sorry to put it this way, but this is called ser egoísta, and it can’t bring anything good either to you or to people around you. This is both a matter of self-respect and respecting other people.
Solución:
If your present moments mostly consist of moments when you’re trying to impose your self-image and sense of self-worth on others, think about the reasons why you’re doing that.
Allow others to express themselves, and value their opinion even if it doesn’t match yours. That way, you’ll be more flexible and empathic. You’ll allow yourself to enrich your perspectives and grow as a person.
Acallar el ego repercutirá positivamente en tu bienestar y en tus relaciones con los demás.
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5. You don’t feel the need to express gratitude and appreciation
Do you appreciate other people’s efforts? Do you ever feel like saying “thank you” for the things they do for you?
Si no es así, entonces sabes que tu ego te lo impide. If you don’t feel the need to express gratitude, it means that you feel like others are supposed to do things for you because you’re, in a way, superior to them.
You have an overly high sense of self-worth, and this prevents you from acknowledging other’s efforts or agradecer lo que se tiene. Don’t get me wrong: a healthy amount of self-confidence is very much needed, but it shouldn’t interfere with your sense of gratitude.
Solución:
Te recomiendo que vayas paso a paso. En primer lugar, hay que centrarse en las pequeñas cosas and stop minimizing other people’s time and effort. Understand that every single one of us is a part of a chain called Life, and all of us deserve to be praised and acknowledged because we’re equally important.
Todos tenemos un propósito único, y apoyar a los demás en su camino vital es realmente un gesto divino. El principio clave para vivir una vida más fácil y feliz is in opening doors for greater blessings, and you’ll do that by expressing gratitude.
Dicho esto, he aquí algunas frases de agradecimiento que inspiran gratitud todo el año.
6. Siempre quieres ser el centro de atención
You know you have a huge ego if you have a strong urge to always be in the center of attention. Regardless of whether you’re at a party or at work, your desire to be in the spotlight will be equally strong.
You also can’t help but show off your leading skills and establish dominance. We’re talking about a twisted image of your self-worth and prepotencia.
When these practices continue for some time, you become more and more entrapped in the belief that you’re the center of the universe. Do you think your needs should be superior to the needs of other people? Sea sincero consigo mismo porque ahí está la respuesta.
Solución:
Reconozca que ser egocéntrico es un rasgo tóxico. Estar dispuesto a trabajar en equipo con los demás en lugar de intentar controlar a cada uno de los miembros de un grupo. Quiérete a ti mismoPero también ayudar a los demás a crecer y recordarles su fuerza y su belleza interior y exterior.
7. A menudo adopta un pensamiento defensivo
How do you react when someone’s opinion doesn’t match yours? Do you consider this as a personal attack on your beliefs? Do you have this tendency to turn even the slightest disagreements into fights?
Si es así, entonces sabes que tienes un problema con tu ego. By convincing yourself that no one should express their opinion because you’re always right, you’re jumping into defensive mode.
It’s important to realize that we all make mistakes, and there is no one right answer but multiple variations of different perspectives. By considering those perspectives, you gain.
Si aplicas un pensamiento defensivo, pierdes. Entonces, ¿qué será?
Solución:
It’s time to make better decisions when engaging in conversations with others. Instead of focusing only on things you want to share, focus more on listening to others.
You don’t have to agree with them on everything, but be willing to accept the fact that they have the right not to agree with you. Embrace diversity and the beauty of different mindsets.
8. You need to be right every time (even when you know you’re wrong)
You’re not interested in other people’s comments or listening to their point of view because you know that you are and you need to be right every time. But, is that really true?
¿Cómo podemos saber con certeza si alguien está equivocado o tiene razón? Exactly. If you have an ego problem, you’ll be convinced that no matter what you say or do, you’ll always be right and others, wrong.
Pero, cuando se miran las cosas desde otra perspectiva, uno se da cuenta de lo errónea que es esta hipótesis. If you have a strong urge to avoid admitting that you’re wrong (even when you know you are), this means that you’re lying to yourself.
You’re not living a genuine life and you’re not allowing yourself to grow.
Solución:
Whenever you feel the urge to convince others that you’re the one who’s right and they’re wrong, stop for a few seconds, take a deep breath, and don’t say anything.
Listen to the person you’re talking to and tell them that you understand their point of view, but you don’t agree with it entirely (or you do).
Whenever you know you’re wrong about something, admit it because this will only make you a greater and more humble human.
9. Tiene tendencias narcisistas
You know you’re partially or entirely stuck in the realm of narcissism when you don’t care about other people’s needs, but you only think about fulfilling yours.
Para ello, se suele utilizar manipulación emocional tácticas como luz de gasmentir y engañar a los demás de diversas maneras. Abuso narcisista is not a joke, and it can severely affect other people’s mental health.
If you don’t remember the last time you thought about how your actions will impact others, then you know your ego is at play.
If you’re in a relationship, you don’t allow your partner to express themselves, there’s no compromise, and you’re always right (or at least you think you are).
Solución:
The first thing you need to do is understand that you’re not being fair toward others. Instead of thinking only about your needs, focus on meeting the needs of others.
When you’re about to do something, ask yourself: What’s my main intent here? If it’s only about satisfying your own needs, then don’t do it. Always question your decisions and actions in order to prevent your ego from controlling you.
Conclusión
Si tienes un problema de ego, debes saber que no se han perdido todas las esperanzas. Aún tienes la oportunidad de trabajar en ti mismo y hacer las cosas bien. Vivir con un ego exagerado no es sano ni para ti ni para los que te rodean.
Cuanto antes reconozca sus consecuencias, mejor. Cuanto antes empiece a trabajar para acallar a esa bestia testaruda llamada gran ego, the better you’ll feel about yourself.
Entrar en contacto con tu verdadero yo no es posible cuando tu ego se vuelve dominante. Establecer el equilibrio en todos los aspectos de tu vida es una forma segura de formar relaciones sanas con los demás y la que tienes contigo mismo.
El cambio equivale al crecimiento.
