We’ve all dealt with fake people. They lie about their feelings and emotions, and act differently in front of everyone. You never really know what they think. But, how do you even recognize them?
Do you have that one friend in your group who never talks about themselves, but gladly talks behind other people’s back? Or, a friend who’s never really there for you?
There are many different ways to spot them, but they all have one thing in common – they make you feel insecure.
In the modern world, when everyone is using social media, it is even easier to have low self-esteem. People seek validation by creating fake profiles, stealing pictures from influencers, and pretending to be someone else.
Fake people are really all around us, so if you want to know the signs as well as ways to deal with them, read on and you will.
6 Clear Signs Of Fake People
Who is considered a fake person? Do you have difficulties with recognizing them? Well, here are 6 clear signs that can help you with that:
1. They don’t care about your big moments
Fake friends are all around you. Just when you think they are your real friends, they end up being liars.
Whenever you are having an important event, they tend to disappear and try to justify it by making an excuse. Try treating them the same way and see what happens.
2. They don’t like talking about themselves
Usually, they are quiet about their intentions or needs, but are the first to comment on other people’s lives. Why? Because they are trying to hide their real life and distract you from their fakeness.
That’s when you can see their true colors, especially if they are talking about people they are close to.
3. They try to hide their insecurities
Fake people try to hide their insecurities by making you feel bad and insecure. You probably know that one person who tries to make a joke by insulting you. That friend is usually the one who brings bad vibes into the friend group.
The bottom line is they are negative, and they genuinely don’t care about your well being because they are too busy being selfish.
4. They will never call you first
If you called your friend to hang out or go to the cinema, the next time should be their turn to invite you. True friends will care about you equally as you care about them.
One of the very important signs of a fake friendship is when they never call you out first, and when they usually spend time with somebody else. You already know you don’t need that kind of a friend in your life.
5. They pretend to be somebody else
They are never really their true selves.
They will try to copy somebody else’s behavior and put a lot of energy into being different personas, so that different types of people can like them. It really shakes them up if you ignore them, which is one of the best ways to cope with them.
6. They are there for you only when they want to be
Remember how you called them for a cup of coffee, but they didn’t show up? Well, they had no benefit from that.
If you, perhaps, told them you will pick them up and treat them to dinner, they would surely make time for you. This is another sign that those are not genuine people, and you need to keep away from them for your own good.
How To Handle Fake People
Here are the things you should do in case you recognize fake people in your company:
1. Distance yourself
If you are tired of people being fake, you can just try ignoring them. It drives them crazy, and you are just chilling like nothing is happening.
Of course, some people might be closer to you. They might even be your best friends, so in this case, it is harder, even impossible for some. But, you need to do it for your own good.
2. Tell them about their behavior
If a fake person happens to be your close or even your best friend, it might be hard for you to just distance yourself from them like they never existed.
In this case, you can try telling them politely how you feel, point out some things they do, and ask them why they do it.
Perhaps they will want to remain close to you, so they might try to become better. Everyone has a choice to act like they want to, so please try to remain calm and have a polite conversation.
3. Never stoop to their level
This might be hard to do, but remember you should always keep your level and never go lower than that.
If they are capable of being such bad people, that is no reason for you to behave in the same manner.
4. Ask for advice
Lachlan Brown says: “Nothing can harm you as much as your own thoughts unguarded.”
Heed his advice, and don’t handle things all by yourself.
If you don’t know what to do, you can always ask another friend or a close family member for some advice.
7 Signs Of A Relationship With A Fake Person
These types of relationships usually seem quite normal because people are faking it for the public. Those who aren’t satisfied with their partners, or their relationship overall, tend to hide their problems really well.
So, how can you recognize if your partner is actually fake loving you? Well, this is how:
1. They often change their opinion
The same as with fake friends, fake partners tend to do tons of bad things. One minute, they are absolutely amazing, and the next, you don’t recognize them.
You are not even sure if you know who they really are because they act so differently all the time.
The only solution is communicating with them and encouraging them to show their true selves.
2. They are often narcissists
They love themselves to the point of arrogance. They love hearing good things about them, but always struggle to give YOU a compliment.
Moreover, whatever relationship problem you have, they always shift the blame on you.
3. They take advantage of you however they can
They may not respect your wishes, and will require you to be okay with that. However, if you don’t listen to them, it might turn into a fight.
Stand your ground, talk to them nicely, and see if you can smooth things out. Don’t be a people pleaser.
4. Very little or no romance
Even if there is some romance, it’s something your partner likes only because they care about themselves. Their intention isn’t to make you happy.
Your conversations also tend to be boring, and you might feel like you have nothing in common.
5. Not taking anything seriously
If you have made plans for the weekend and you don’t do any of the things you agreed upon, you probably are in a relationship with a fake person.
They don’t take your plans seriously, and they are most likely not planning a future with you.
Don’t believe these signs blindly. Sometimes, things are not going to go according to plan.
Perhaps your partner’s boss changed their shifts for the weekend, and now you can’t go to that new restaurant. It’s not always their fault.
6. Lying to you
No matter how big or small they might be, there is no place for lies in a relationship (except those cute ones you make when you are making a surprise dinner for your partner).
If you find out your partner has been lying to you, talk to them and clear things up.
7. Jealousy and manipulation
There is a certain amount of healthy jealousy in every relationship. But, when your partner crosses the line, it becomes a huge problem.
You are allowed to go out with them and their friends, but every time you want to hang out with your friends, it becomes a problem.
They might even lie to you about your friends, so you stop going out with them. It is even a bigger problem if you have male friends (for women) or female friends (for men).
Again, don’t be a people pleaser, and do not let your partner control your life.
How To Handle Fake Love
If you are tired of your relationship and feel like it isn’t so genuine after all, take a look at the following pieces of advice:
1. Break up
The first and best advice you should listen to is this: break up with your partner. If you already tried talking to them on many different occasions and nothing has significantly changed, you don’t need them in your life.
Don’t expect to change someone completely, and don’t keep hoping that they will become better because that rarely happens. Realize your own worth and walk away.
2. Don’t stay friends
It always becomes worse if you end your relationship badly and then try to remain friends. Most people who do this can’t get over their ex for good. They usually get hurt again.
Staying friends never works for obvious reasons. If you could get along, you would still be in a relationship.
3. Stand your ground
Oftentimes, your ex will come begging you to get back together. They might try to make up a lot of reasons why you should have never broken up, and tell you how much they love you.
Please do not fall for these tricks.
I know it hurts when someone you love hurts you deeply, but they will only leave you more heartbroken than they already did.
4. Learn how to be happy by yourself
We all know that toxic relationships leave you completely torn apart. So, take some time to heal your sad soul.
Try new things you have always wanted to do, read books, cook, do sports, or hang out with friends. Learn how to love yourself again.
Always work on being better, but don’t forget to accept your flaws as well. We all have them, and that is perfectly fine. Be gentler with yourself.
5. Raise your self-esteem
Only when you are happy by yourself will you be able to find the right person to share your happiness with.
You are the main character again, so treat yourself the way you deserve!
Fall in love with taking care of yourself, and try to develop yourself in every field you have ever wanted. Think of all the things you want to be and work on becoming that person. It’s time to unlock your full potential.
Fake People On Social Media
Now, let’s talk a bit about social media. As you may know, there are lots of fake profiles all over the internet.
People make them for various reasons. Some want to stalk another person, and some want to represent themselves differently by stealing pictures from genuine people.
What do you do if you see a profile like this?
You should immediately report it. Don’t let them stay on the internet for long.
Only the best
There are other kinds of fakeness on social media. You might have noticed that a lot of people post only the best moments of their life.
These include traveling, buying expensive things, going to the best places in town, etc. But, do they really live this way or are they just “doing it for the gram”?
Most people don’t have this lifestyle. They want to represent themselves in the best way possible. That way, even the ones who don’t know them can envy and validate them as being successful.
These beautiful pictures can have a bad side as well. A lot of young people nowadays are using social media, and they don’t quite understand how the world works.
This is why pictures can have a very high effect on their self-esteem because they might feel as outsiders if they don’t have all the things influencers do.
Social media is a huge problem for young people nowadays because they can develop certain conditions, such as anxiety and depression.
Do it for the gram
You can’t really see all the true colors of people on the internet.
Sometimes, they post something provocative or they start a taboo topic on their profile just to get more people involved. This also creates bigger traffic on their profile.
There are lots of interactions like comments, messages, and sharing of their content. These things can bring a huge number of new people to your profile, including haters.
What most people don’t know is the real life behind these accounts.
There are lots of fake people on the internet who may be middle-class, for example, but they represent themselves as being rich so they can enjoy the validation of others.
Some tend to post quotes about being nice and honest, but in reality, they treat their friends completely different. You never know.
So, how would you act if a person you know in real life acts unlike themselves on social media? Would it change your opinion about them? Would you tell them anything or would you keep your opinion to yourself?
Most people feel different about their friends if they act in contrast to their real selves. They might feel like they are liars or that they just have insecurities they want to cover up.
Good friends will ask you or they will just let you know how they feel about it. If they don’t, you know where you stand.
How to behave
Please bear in mind that nobody is going to represent their whole life on social media, and that is totally okay. Yes, there are lots of fake people on the internet, but sometimes we are too quick to judge.
Some people like to share more; some less. Just understand that everyone has their own problems and private matters, so they are trying to stay positive on social media.
Don’t bring bad vibes to someone’s profile just because you had a bad day. Go for a walk instead.
Fake People Quotes To Be Inspired By
1. “If someone in your circle cannot congratulate you on your success, heed the warning and distance yourself from that person because they are not for you.” – Germany Kent
2. “Respect people who find time for you in their busy schedule. But, love people who never look at their schedule when you need them.” – Unknown
3. “Having fake friends is like hugging a cactus. The tighter you hug, the more pain you get.” – Riza Prasetyaningsih
4. “Not everyone’s your friend. Just because they’re hanging around and laughing with you doesn’t mean they’re friends of yours. People pretend to be good. At the end of the day, real situations expose false people, so be careful.” – Unknown
5. “A friend is one that knows you as you are, understands where you have been, accepts what you have become, and still gently allows you to grow.” – William Shakespeare
6. “Be very careful of who you share your problem with. Remember that not every friend that smiles at you is your best friend.” – Kemmy Nola
7. “Many of us believe that when we give love, we are getting the love back, but sometimes it’s just an illusion of what we gave them” – Akash B Chandran
8. “Spend your time with those who love you unconditionally, not with those who only love you under certain conditions.” – Suzy K
9. “Trust their actions, not their words.” – Unknown
10. “Always sleep with one eye open. Never take anything for granted. Your best friends might just be your enemies.” – Sara Shepard
After seeing all these signs, I’m sure you realized you know at least one fake person. If you just feel that someone isn’t your friend or if your gut is telling you that someone is bad news, then there is probably a reason that you will spot later.
Even when you are sure someone is a good friend of yours, double check these signs and ways to deal with them.
Please don’t think you are the problem, even if fake people make you feel that way. They are the way they are, and there is only a very small chance of changing them.
Even if it doesn’t seem that way, and you’re wondering why you had to have a fake person in your life, remember that we all do at some point in our lives. But, at least we get valuable life lessons.