Dagli 3 giorni - La magia di questo potente consiglio di fidanzamento
Okay, I’m sure that almost each and every one of us has heard of the famous relationship advice ‘give him 3 days’ at least once. On the other hand, I am also sure that many of us aren’t sure what it means or how it can affect our relationships.
Lo capisco perché la prima volta che l'ho sentita ho pensato anch'io che fosse un'assurdità. Except it wasn’t nonsense but the best decision I’ve ever made because thanks to this piece of consigli per gli incontri, I’m still with my man, and we’ve never been happier.
And that’s why my mission today is to help you understand and embrace this 3-day rule. So, let’s get down to business and help you save yourself or your relationship.
Cos'è la regola dei 3 giorni senza contatto?
La regola dei 3 giorni è un semplice consiglio per gli appuntamenti che ha aiutato molte donne salvare le loro relazioni. In pratica significa che dovreste Lasciate spazio al vostro uomo and time… that you should lasciarlo in pace per 3 giorni.
And ‘nessun contatto’ means exactly that: NO phone calls and NO text messages. It’s as simple as that.
Yes, I know that you’ll all say now that it’s easier said than done, but believe me, it’s not as heartbreaking as you think. If you use those 3 days wisely, it’ll help your relationship flourish again.
3 motivi per concedergli 3 giorni
If you still aren’t convinced that you should give him 3 days, here are 3 reasons that will definitely change your mind.
1. He’ll enjoy having his own space
Cosa ne pensate? Perché ha bisogno di spazio in primo luogo? Of course, it’s because he wants to do things he likes and spend time with his best friends.
It’s not like he’ll create a Tinder profile and start seeing/chatting with other girls. He’ll just dedicate that time to his interests in life, and maybe he’ll even find a new hobby.
He’ll enjoy that sense of freedom and individuality, and he’ll only appreciate you even more for it. In altre parole, dandogli lo spazio migliorerà la vostra relazione in ogni modo possibile.
2. It’ll give him time to sort out his thoughts and emotions
A volte un uomo ha bisogno di spazio per entrare in contatto con le proprie emozioni. If he isn’t completely sure how he feels about you, this alone time will help him put his emotions in order.
Also, if he’s been struggling with personal issues, spending some time alone may help him find a way to solve those. In both cases, he and your relationship may benefit from the 3-day nessun contatto periodo.
3. He’ll have time to figure out which way he wants your relationship to go
If you’ve had disagreements, if your man has started distancing himself, this alone time will also give him the opportunity to finally decide whether he wants you to be a part of his life or not.
Forse lui ti ama ma è paura dell'impegno and doesn’t want to engage in a relazione seria troppo presto. In poche parole, il futuro della vostra relazione sta nella regola dei 3 giorni.
5 vantaggi della regola dei 3 giorni senza contatto
Ci sono molti benefici di questo incredibile consiglio per gli appuntamenti, and you’ll find the most important ones below.
1. You’ll know for sure how he feels about you
Se il quarto giorno vi raggiunge e vi augura un buongiorno o semplicemente vi dice che gli siete mancati profondamente, allora le cose sono abbastanza chiare: ti ama sinceramente and doesn’t want to lose you.
On the other hand, if he doesn’t reach out and decides to prolong the no contact period, it’ll be a clear sign of how much (actually, little) he cares for you.
2. It may make him understand that he can’t live without you (or it may not)
Just last night, my boyfriend said that he’ll always be thankful for those 3 days we were ‘separated’ because it was during that time that he understood that he can’t and doesn’t want to live without me.
La verità è che la regola dei 3 giorni è una di quelle relazione di forza o di rottura momenti.
If your man understands that you’re the only woman he loves and wants in his life after those 3 days, it’ll make you the happiest woman alive.
On the other hand, if your man decides to give up on you, it’s still a good thing because you’ll finally know the truth. It’ll accelerate your process of accepting the truth and andare avanti.
3. Evita di farvi sembrare disperati
We’re all different human beings, and we all struggle with insicurezze. They’re simply a part of us, and no matter how confident someone is, there will always be something about them they won’t be confident about.
Unfortunately, sometimes those insecurities make us believe that we’re indegno di amore, and we simply aren’t able to shake them off even when we’re in a relazione sana con un'altra persona.
That’s why we become appiccicoso, dependent, and desperate. To avoid that, give him 3 days and show him that you’re perfectly aware of your worth and aren’t afraid to give both him and yourself some space.
4. L'opportunità di ridefinire la vostra relazione
Trascorrere questi giorni separati darà a entrambi il tempo di riflettere sui propri sentimenti e di prendere una decisione sul futuro della vostra relazione.
Maybe you’ll both want to slow things down or, on the contrary, maybe you’ll want to take your relationship to the next level. That’s actually irrelevant, but the important thing is that you find a common language and agree on a decision that will really be the best for you and your relationship.
5. It’ll help you understand that some things are or are not meant to be
If you believe in destiny, then you already know that some things are meant to happen… that some people are meant to be together.
If your man comes back after the no contact period, it’ll be a sign that he’s your soulmate and the right one for you. On the flip side, if he doesn’t come back, you’ll know that he wasn’t your destiny and that there is still someone out there, a man who is meant to stay in your life forever.
5 modi per superare il periodo di 3 giorni di divieto di contatto
Now, the question that probably intrigues you the most is ‘how to deal with the 3-day no contact rule,’ right? Well, don’t worry because I’ve got you covered here too.
1. Concentrarsi sulla propria vita
Utilizzate questo tempo per pensare alla vostra vita. Siete felici e soddisfatti di come si presenta attualmente la vostra vita?
Se non lo siete, fate qualcosa per cambiarlo. The fact is, you’ll never truly be happy with another human being as long as you aren’t happy and satisfied with yourself.
2. Trascorrere del tempo con gli amici
Don’t wait for a phone call or text back. Sitting at home and waiting for him to reach out to you won’t bring you any good. It won’t change anything, but it may harm your mental health.
Quindi, alzatevi dal letto, mettetevi dei bei vestiti e uscite con i vostri amici. You’re in a situation where you desperately need the so-called ‘chilling with besties’ therapy.
Your best friends won’t allow you to keep worrying about whether he’ll come back or not. They’ll do everything they can to make you smile, and that’s something you need most right now: a reason to smile and be happy.
3. Trattate voi stessi
Metti via il telefono. Smettere di controllare il suo Punteggio di Snapchat and stop stalking him on social media in general. Don’t think about what the next day will bring, and just try to focus on yourself for a change.
Spoil yourself. Treat yourself to a relaxing wellness day at the spa. Go shopping. Do something you’ve wanted to do for a long time but were never able to find time to do. Just do something nice for yourself… Keep your mind occupied and your soul happy.
4. Riconsiderare la vostra relazione
This is especially important if you’re in una relazione a distanza. If you see that your man has been distancing himself for a lot of time and can’t even remember the last time he said that he loves you, this is a good time to reassess your relationship.
If you’re aware that it’s not going anywhere, that la vostra relazione è profondamente malsana, you should finish it before it’s too late. Risparmiatevi un inutile strazio, concentratevi sulla vostra guarigione e andate avanti.
5. Entrare in contatto con i propri sentimenti
Giving your man space doesn’t mean that he’s the only one who should think about his emotions. Questo è anche il momento in cui dovreste fare un check-up con voi stessi e concentrarvi sui vostri sentimenti.
Dig deep and try to understand everything that’s going on in your heart. Be honest with yourself… Are you still as in love with your man as you were on your very primo appuntamento? Ti rende davvero felice? È davvero l'uomo con cui puoi immaginarti in futuro?
La verità è che i nostri sentimenti possono cambiare, e per molto tempo potremmo non esserne consapevoli. Continuiamo a vivere nella menzogna e a fingere che tutto vada bene.
L'assenza di contatto lo farà andare avanti?
Dipende davvero. Se il tuo uomo ti ama davvero, then this no contact period won’t make him give up on you. He’ll fight and keep fighting for you, no matter how much you persist with nessun contatto.
On the flip side, if he doesn’t love you enough, the fact is that he won’t wait for you for too long. Quindi, sì, in questo caso la regola del divieto di contatto può indurlo a lasciarvi definitivamente e ad andare avanti.
Un'altra possibilità è che il vostro uomo inizi a pensare che voi siate andate avanti con la vostra vita a causa dell'assenza di contatti, il che potrebbe fargli prendere in considerazione l'idea di andare avanti a sua volta.
However, the bottom line is that he won’t give up on you easily if his feelings for you are strong and honest.
Pensieri conclusivi
So, what are your thoughts about the ‘give him 3 days’ relationship advice? I honestly believe that it can only positively impact you and your relationship.
After all, you know what they say… Se ami qualcuno, lascialo andare. If they love you, they’ll come back, and if they don’t… Well, you’ll finally be free to shift the love you feel for them towards yourself.
Il punto è che questi consigli per gli appuntamenti non possono che giovare a voi. With it, you’ll finally know exactly where you stand with your guy.
