15 maneiras de enlouquecer os narcisistas e de os enganar

When you’re dealing with someone que tem NPDQuando a pessoa se sente mal, assume que não há nada que possa fazer para a magoar emocionalmente. Mesmo quando tenta, eles encontram sempre uma forma de fazer com que o tiro saia pela culatra.

But I’m here to end your misery. Once you learn what drives a narcissist insane, you can give them a taste of their own medicine and reverse the roles once and for all!

Estas 15 tácticas vão ajudá-lo a enlouquecer o seu narcisista!

1. O tratamento silencioso

If you’re looking for formas de magoar alguém com um comportamento narcisista, the best way to do so is by ignoring them. Yes, that’s right, I’m telling you to give them the tratamento silencioso.

Desde que te lembras, deste o teu mãe narcisistaO pai, a mãe ou o parceiro queriam exatamente o que queriam de si. Chorou, implorou-lhes que mudassem ou discutiu com eles até perder todas as suas forças.

And what did you accomplish with this? That’s right, one big, fat nothing. So, why wouldn’t you change tactics? Why wouldn’t you try ignoring them and behaving like they don’t exist?

Trust me, this is what will trigger their narcissistic rage in the blink of an eye. And that’s when you’ll have them right where you want them.

2. Perder o controlo

O que é comum a todas as pessoas com NPD? Entre outras coisas, um dos seus objectivos finais é ter controlo sobre as suas vítimas.

Narcisistas, sociopatas e psicopatas emocionais will get possessive because they’re scared of losing control over you. You have to be aware that you’re dealing with maníacos do controlo. Tudo tem de ser à maneira deles ou não tem de ser de maneira nenhuma.

That’s why you must show them that they can’t rule over you. You’re the only one in charge of your own life. How do you do that? Well, you can start by disobeying them about some seemingly little things.

No entanto, o mais importante é mostrar-lhes que já não têm qualquer influência sobre si. Pelo menos, não tanto como costumavam ter.

3. Aceitar críticas

Here’s every narcissist’s biggest secret: they have incredibly baixa autoestima. Quem diria, não é?

Bem, na verdade, eles escondem o seu verdadeiro eu porque odeiam a pessoa que são. As pessoas com perturbação da personalidade narcísica têm uma perceção muito frágil do seu valor próprio. That’s why being criticized is one of their biggest fears.

Eles investem muito tempo e energia na construção de um rosto aparentemente perfeito que mostram ao mundo. Assim, no momento em que as criticamos sobre a mais pequena coisa, causamos uma lesão narcísica.

You don’t even have to do it on purpose. You can jokingly say you don’t like their new shirt or that they could have cleaned the house a bit better. On a conscious level, they know that you’re joking or that you mean well. However, their fragile ego can’t stand admitting and accepting something like this.

4. Não ser o centro das atenções

O que é que um narcisista precisa? Validação e admiração. O que leva um narcisista à loucura? Não ter nada disso!

It doesn’t matter if we’re talking about your pais narcisistas, romantic partner, or friend – they’re all the same when it comes to this. Estas pessoas gostam de estar na ribalta. De facto, precisam de atenção como uma pessoa normal precisa de ar para respirar.

So, what happens when someone else becomes your center of attention? A narcissist goes completely crazy. But you know what the funniest thing about this is? They can’t take that you’re your own center of attention either.

The moment that happens, a narcissist feels like they’re losing the ground they walk on.

5. Ser chamado à atenção pelas suas acções

How great would it be if we could all do whatever the hell we wanted without anyone pointing out our mistakes? Well, that’s exactly what every narc expects of their victim.

Há que ter em conta uma coisa: estas pessoas debatem-se com uma falta de empatia. Se, por exemplo, acabar com uma relação narcisista, your ex will never feel guilty for breaking your heart. Not only that – they’ll also be surprised if you gather the courage to call them out on their actions.

And if you really refuse to give them a second chance and explain that your behavior is just a reaction to their actions, they’ll be stunned.

We’re talking about someone who thinks they’re smarter than the rest of the world. So, they’ll go crazy once you tell them straight that you know exactly what they’re doing and that you don’t plan on putting up with it.

6. Other people’s happiness

We’ve already established that a lack of empathy is one of the most common traços narcísicos. This doesn’t only mean that they can’t sympathize with someone else’s pain.

This lack of empathy also means that they don’t have the ability to be happy for other people. They just can’t stand someone else’s happiness and will do everything in their power to destroy it.

No fim de contas, todos os narcisistas são apenas invejosos. No fundo, sabem que não podem sentir a verdadeira e pura felicidade e odeiam todos os que são capazes de a sentir.

Basically, if you want to drive a narcissist crazy, it’s enough to show them that you’re genuinely happy. Once they realize that all of the jogos mentais, gaslighting, e abuso emocional they put you through didn’t kill your spirit, they will be devastated.

7. Espelhar-se num narcisista

Como fazer acabar com um narcisista? It’s enough to treat them the same way they treat everyone else. Just give them a taste of their own medicine. Inverta a mesa e faça-os andar um quilómetro no seu lugar.

This kind of behavior is called mirroring a narcissist. Don’t worry, you won’t become just like them for real. You’re a normal person, and you’re only pretending to be like this to play with a narc.

But I’m warning you: narcissistic mirroring is anything but easy. It includes numerous manipulation tactics, such as bombardeamento de amor (seguido de fantasma), gaslighting, tratamento silencioso, etc.

Let’s get one thing straight: I would never advise doing any of these things to some other random person. However, sometimes, this is the only way to ferir emocionalmente um narcisista.

8. Quebrar o seu feitiço

What drives a narcissist insane? Well, the fact that their victim managed to break their spell. It’s the realization that you got to the bottom of their intentions. It’s that you got them all figured out.

Basically, they get upset the moment you realize that you’re a victim of abuso narcísico. Compreender isso é o primeiro passo para escapando-lhes, e eles sabem-no muito bem.

They don’t want you to take off your rose-tinted glasses. They’ll do everything in their power to prevent you from seeing properly.

But when you finally get rid of their magic, they don’t know what to do. You’re no longer enchanted, and they don’t have as much influence over you as they used to have.

9. The victim’s independence

Lembra-se de termos falado de um narcisista que perde o controlo? É preciso saber que estas pessoas esperam que os seus parceiros, amigos e familiares sejam emocionalmente dependentes delas.

No entanto, o que acontece quando a sua vítima deixa de ser emocionalmente dependente on them? Well, that’s another thing a narc can’t stand. O seu mundo deixou de girar à volta deles, o que destrói imediatamente o seu sentido de autoestima.

Nevertheless, I’m not only talking about emotional independence. I’m talking about any kind of independence, including financial, social, and so on.

They will go insane if they see that you’re capable of making your own decisions without their involvement. It looks like you don’t need them anymore, which means practically nothing is holding you back from leaving.

10. Qualquer pessoa ser melhor do que eles

Todas as pessoas que sofrem de perturbação da personalidade narcísica têm sérios problemas de autoestima. Tentam escondê-lo, mas comparam-se constantemente com toda a gente à sua volta, incluindo amigos, familiares, parceiros românticos, colegas de trabalho e até pessoas que passam por elas.

In their twisted sense of reality, they have to be better than everyone else. On the contrary, they’re completely worthless.

To them, people’s entire existence on this planet is nothing but a big competition. Então, o que leva um narcisista à loucura? A terrível perceção de que alguém é melhor do que ele.

It’s enough for you to praise their coworker and tell them that they have a good sense of humor or to tell them that you like their best friend’s new car. Normal people wouldn’t even notice these remarks. But a narc will think about them for days!

11. Tratamento ordinário

One of the first red flags to pay attention to when figuring out if someone is a narcissist is this person’s sense of self-importance.

That’s the irony of their personalities: they actually lutar com grandes inseguranças, but at the same time, they think that they’re more important than the rest of the world.

Estas pessoas esperam um tratamento VIP onde quer que vão. Querem sentir-se como a realeza, sempre sob as luzes da ribalta. But what if that doesn’t happen? What if you invite them to a party? You don’t ignore them, nor do you welcome them as a special guest.

Trust me, that would crush them more than anything! It means that they’ve lost the ability to get any reaction from you. And that was the only superpower they had. If that doesn’t destroy them, nothing will!

12. Embaraço público

If you know a thing or two about narcissism, you know that people with NPD are usually the most prominent members of society. It doesn’t matter what kind of abuso narcísico you’re going through – your abuser will always do their best to hide it from the world.

After all, why do you think gaslighting is so important to them? They’re terrified that you’ll speak out about their actions. They want to prevent it so badly that they’re ready to persuade you that you’re imagining things.

So, what drives a narcissist insane? Destroying their public image! They can’t stand being embarrassed in front of other people.

Criticizing and humiliating them when you’re with company will do the trick. But you know what will destroy them completely? Showing the world their true colors! Lifting the mask they show everyone and revealing who they really are will crush them more than anything!

13. Não conseguir o que quer

It doesn’t matter if we’re talking about little things or huge decisions. A narcissist has to have everything go their way. Have you forgotten? After all, we’re talking about the most intelligent and capable people in the whole wide world!

Todos, especialmente as suas vítimas, têm de os ouvir e seguir as suas indicações. É mais uma coisa que os faz sentir superiores e que os ajuda a manter a sua auto-confiança. Por isso, o que os enlouquece é o facto de as coisas não correrem como eles querem.

For example, you’re in a relação narcísica. O seu parceiro romântico planeou insultá-lo, mas depois começou a enganar-vos. They were sure that things would go smoothly, as always. They would manage to convince you that you’re overreacting and imagining things.

But this time, you reacted differently. You stick to your story, and you don’t allow them to brainwash you with their manipulation tactics. Not getting the outcome they were expecting leaves them confused. However, you have to be careful about this one because it also triggers narcissistic rage!

14. Ser chamado à atenção para as suas inseguranças

A diferença entre uma pessoa normal e uma pessoa com narcisismo é a forma como percepcionam estas inseguranças. As pessoas normais sabem que ninguém é perfeito. Sabem que as inseguranças são perfeitamente normais; fazem o seu melhor para as ultrapassar e, por vezes, até brincam com elas.

On the other hand, every narc pretends to be flawless. They deceive the world into thinking that they love their true selves even though that couldn’t be further from the truth.

If you look closely, you’ll get to the bottom of as suas inseguranças. You’ll find out what they hate about themselves the most. And once you find that out, it’s time to tackle these insecurities. But make sure to pretend that you’re doing it by accident.

You’ll get an even better effect if you do it in public.

15. Não estabelecer contacto

Finally, if you’re wondering what drives a narcissist insane, the answer is: não estabelecer contacto! Isto inclui não falar com eles, bloquear o seu número, ignoring their text messages, not visiting places you know you might run into them, not mentioning their name to your mutual friends…

Significa cortá-los completamente e viver a sua vida como se eles nunca tivessem feito parte dela. Mas há algo que é preciso ter em conta.

Quando normalmente não entrar em contacto with someone, you’re doing it to get them back. You want them to feel your absence so they can appreciate your presence.

Nevertheless, this shouldn’t be your primary goal when dealing with a narc. Trust me – you don’t want this person back, and you don’t want them obcecado por ti.

You’re going no contact for two reasons. First of all, you’re doing it to drive your narc crazy. But at the same time, you should be doing it to help yourself heal.