27 Sinais reveladores de que a relação acabou para ele
O seu o homem torna-se distante and cold all of a sudden? Has he distanced himself to the point you can no longer get through him, and you can’t help but wonder if he’s thinking about leaving you?
Tenho algo que irá dissipar ou confirmar todas as suas dúvidas: uma lista de sinais de aviso a relação acabou para ele.
By the time you finish reading this article, you’ll know if o teu homem é realmente sobre si. I’ve also added a few tips that will help you endure it all and accelerate your healing process.
27 Sinais de alerta de que a relação acabou para ele
Uma lista das bandeiras vermelhas e dos sinais de alerta mais óbvios de um relação falhada:
1. He’s distancing himself
Se o seu o homem começa a afastar-se and shutting himself off emotionally, it’s a huge sign that he’s thinking about ending your relationship.
Maybe he has some personal issues, or his emotions are all mixed up, and he doesn’t know how to speak to you about it. On the other hand, it may also be because his feelings for you have changed, and he doesn’t have the guts to admit it.
O meu conselhos sobre relações é que deve tentar confrontá-lo com isso. Tell him that you’ve noticed he’s become distant, and you want to know what the real reason for his behavior is.
2. E, empurrando-te para longe
On the flip side, if you’ve already tried to do that and ele só te afastou and distanced himself even more, it’s clear that something is off.
Now, it’s up to you to figure out what that ‘something’ is. Is he really struggling with some other issue, or has he indeed stopped loving you?
3. A falta de confiança é evidente (de ambas as partes)
The problem is that he’s not the only one in your relationship who has questões de confiança – you’ve also started doubting his feelings. O seu comportamento suspeito levou-a a um ponto em que já não confia no seu amor.
The truth is: you can’t have saudável, relação amorosa if he doesn’t trust you or vice-versa. A falta de confiança é um importante fator de desempate nas relações.
If you don’t start working on restabelecer a confiança entre vocês, mais cedo ou mais tarde, isso fará com que um ou ambos se afastem.
4. Ele deixa de contactar regularmente
Is poor not even a good enough word to describe your communication? And even if you’ve tried hard to improve it, you can’t because the other side doesn’t show any interest in doing so?
I’m sorry I have to break it to you like this, but it’s a clear sign seu outra pessoa significativa doesn’t care for you as much as you think he does (actually, he probably doesn’t care for you at all).
Although, it may also be a sign that he just isn’t ready for a relação de compromisso. Maybe you’ve talked about taking your relationship to the next level, and it freaked him out. These are just assumptions, and your man is the only one who knows the real reason.
5. Continuam a discutir e ele continua a culpá-la por tudo
Do you constantly fight over unimportant, little things, and you can’t find a way to put a stop to them? No matter what you do, does he always blame you for everything?
It’s obvious that he’s playing o jogo diabólico da transferência de culpas. Ele quer acabar consigo, and he’s trying to manipulate you into taking the blame for the breakup.
Be smart and don’t fall for those manipulations. You know you haven’t done anything wrong, and he’s the one who needs to gather the courage to break up with you directly without manipulating you.
6. No matter what you do, it’s impossible to please him
If your man has become impossible to talk to, deal with, live with… it’s more than obvious that something is bothering him.
You can try to please him and cheer him up, but it most definitely won’t work – you’ll only drive yourself crazy. O que precisa de fazer é descobrir a causa principal do seu comportamento.
Fez alguma coisa que o deixou zangado? Ele tem algum problema pessoal, como problemas com a família ou no trabalho?
If you can’t figure out any possible cause for his mau humor intolerável, it’s probably because there isn’t any. He’s simply over you and can’t stand being around you.
7. He’s started spending a lot of time with his buddies…
If he’s started spending more time with his pals and going out, it’s a bad sign that his priorities have changed.
Sure, it’s completely normal to spend time with other people outside your relationship, but your partner must always come first. Nunca os deve negligenciar para os seus amigos ou entes queridos.
8. …While he limits spending time with you
Antes, passar o tempo with you was his priority, but, all of a sudden, that’s changed, and now, you rarely even see him. I know that feeling of being crossed off your partner’s priority list well, and, trust me, I know how awful and heartbreaking it is.
It feels like you’re perseguindo-o a toda a hora, and I know… You’re tired of that chase.
Depois, tudo o que tem de fazer é parar de perseguir. He’s obviously running away from you and doesn’t want to be caught.
9. He’s become an expert in the art of making excuses
Como é que se sabe quando é que uma relação acabou para ele? Resposta simples: ele começa a evitá-lo e torna-se um perito de alto nível em dar desculpas sem sentido.
He isn’t ready to call it quits just yet, and he’s keeping you as a backup. Now, it’s up to you to choose whether you’ll let him manipulate you or run him off, together with his excuses.
10. Ele deixa de ser o seu apoio número um
Era a pessoa com quem se podia falar sobre tudo. Era a pessoa a quem se recorria sempre que se tinha um problema ou se queria partilhar uma boa notícia. Era o seu maior apoio e o seu fã número um.
He WAS… That’s the point. Now, he’s just a man who once loved you, a man who doesn’t have the guts to spill the beans and admit that he’s sobre si.
11. You constantly walk on eggshells when he’s around
When you’re in a relação saudávelSe se sente confortável com o seu outra pessoa significativa. Sente que pode falar e partilhar tudo com eles porque sabe que nunca o vão julgar ou fazer sentir mal por causa disso.
If you feel like you’re walking on cascas de ovos, if you feel like you need to carefully choose your words with your partner, it’s a huge bandeira vermelha a vossa relação é tóxica.
Actually, it’s not important whether he loves you or not anymore. The only important thing for you is to realize the consequences that uma relação tóxica pode deixar em si e sair dela o mais rapidamente possível.
12. A desconexão emocional
A razão pela qual duvida dos sentimentos dele em relação a si é a falta de comunicação? You’ve stopped sharing your thoughts and feelings, which has led to an emocional desconexão, levando a que se afastem.
This doesn’t mean he’s stopped loving you, but it’s definitely a sign that his feelings are changing. If you don’t find a way to connect with him soon, you’ll lose him forever.
13. You can’t even remember the last time he expressed his love for you
Okay, it’s clear by now that he has stopped showing his love for you through his actions. No entanto, lembra-se de quando o última vez ele simplesmente disse-lhe ele amava-te foi?
You can’t, I know because it was a long, looooong time ago. Well, you can actually see it as something positive: at least he doesn’t want to lie to you.
14. He turns your dates into ‘Netflix and chill’
A única coisa que realmente funciona na vossa relação é a vossa vida sexual. However, you can’t feel good about it because it makes you feel like you’re in uma relação casual.
Sex shouldn’t only make you feel physically good. It should also strengthen your intimate and emotional bond.
If your man doesn’t want to stay the night, if he always gives you some lame excuse just to leave immediately after you’ve done the deed, it’s a huge red flag he doesn’t love you.
15. O romance já desapareceu há muito tempo
He was so romantic before… He always tried to surprise you with pequenos gestos românticos, e através destes pequenas coisas, sabias com certeza que ele te amava.
Será que tudo isso já faz parte do passado e só se ouve silêncio e desrespeito da parte dele? Penso que as coisas são bastante claras aqui. Precisa mesmo de mais? sinais de alerta, ou este vermelho é suficiente para o deixares finalmente?
16. A faísca também se desvaneceu
Quando o romance morre num relação românticaa faísca morre com ela também.
O facto é que podem amar-se profundamente, mas se não houver faísca, if you don’t work on reigniting it, you’ll eventually get sick of one another.
17. A ausência de ciúmes
Uma dose saudável de inveja é sempre boa para um relação romântica. Mostra que os parceiros se preocupam um com o outro e têm medo de se perderem.
Se o seu homem deixar de mostrar ciúmes, mesmo quando tem uma razão para isso, tem todo o direito de suspeitar que ele já não a ama como antes.
18. He’s no longer excited to make plans with you
Fizeram alguns planos para o futuro em conjunto? A sua cara-metade estava ansiosa por fazer planos e sonhar com o futuro consigo? Isso significa que o seu objetivo era mesmo a relação de compromisso convosco.
However, if that has changed, if he starts avoiding those talks, it’s a sinal de aviso that those ‘aims’ and his plans have changed. Talvez os seus planos tenham permanecido os mesmos, mas uma das personagens principais mudou.
19. You’ve found traces of infidelity
Se for esse o caso, precisa mesmo de mais sinais de que a relação acabou para ele? Se ele pudesse enganar-vos, it’s more than obvious that he doesn’t love you.
20. Os seus entes queridos também se apercebem de que algo não está bem
Are you not the only one who’s noticed that your partner is acting strange? Have your friends and family also noticed?
Well, it’s possible that you’re wrong, but it’s less likely that all of you are wrong and that nothing is truly happening with your relationship.
21. He’s become abusive
If your man has become aggressive or even abusive, it’s a good sign he doesn’t love you anymore.
Bem, provavelmente ele nunca te amou no primeiro lugar porque só um cobarde seria capaz de magoar e maltratar uma mulher por quem já esteve apaixonado.
Needless to say… Don’t ever allow any man to abuse you in any way, no matter how much you love him, because that is the worst and most unfair thing you can do to yourself.
22. Ele afecta profundamente a sua saúde mental
O seu outra pessoa significativa the reason you’ve been depressed and anxious? Bem, se o seu parceiro afecta a sua saúde emocional e mental, it’s one of the telltale signs the relationship is over for him.
It’s simple actually: if he cared for you, he wouldn’t allow his actions to hurt you in this way. Ele nunca faria nada para te magoar porque sentiria a tua dor como se fosse a dele.
23. Ele rejeita todas as tentativas que faz para salvar a relação
Tentamos e tentamos e tentar salvar a vossa relação but constantly fail. And the only reason for those failures is that he doesn’t want it to happen.
He doesn’t want to give your relationship another chance because he wants you to take separate paths.
24. Ele fica louco quando se fala em terapia de casal
Se ele se recusar a procurar ajuda de um treinador de relações, it’s a clear sign that he isn’t willing to work on fixing your relationship.
Reconstrução de um relação romântica é uma via de dois sentidos. It most definitely can’t be done if only one side is ready to put effort into making things work again.
25. You simply haven’t felt loved for a long period of time
Constant fights, humiliation, him pulling away and hurting you… Even though you still don’t want to admit it to yourself, you simply feel that his heart has changed.
If you aren’t feeling LOVEDSe o seu filho é respeitado, acarinhado e apreciado, o que mais é necessário para que finalmente perceba que precisa de deixá-lo ir?
26. O amor também enfraqueceu do teu lado
Podes tentar enganar-te a ti próprio, mas, no fundo, sabes que é verdade. Stop blaming yourself and suppressing your feelings because it’s normal that you can’t love someone who keeps hurting you.
I know that you’ve also started thinking about ending your relação romântica, e tem todo o direito de o fazer.
Don’t stay where you’re not welcome, and don’t ever allow someone to treat you like you aren’t worthy of being loved.
27. Desiste
That’s it, the final and definitely most obvious sign the relationship is over for him: Finalmente, ele admite que os seus sentimentos mudaram e acaba consigo.
I agree that it’s something he should have done as soon as he stopped loving you. No entanto, deve sentir-se grato a Deus porque a sua agonia finalmente terminou e agora sabe exatamente qual é a sua posição.
O que fazer se as suas dúvidas se tornarem realidade
If you’ve recognized most of these warning signs of a failing relationship, then you must think about your next steps. There are two possible scenarios, and I’m about to walk you through them.
• Give him time and space
If you’re em um relação duradouraSe o que está em causa é o facto de ser apenas uma fase. Talvez tenha ficado preso numa rotina e isso simplesmente o tenha esgotado.
If that’s the case, he’s probably confused and doesn’t know what to do next. O meu conselhos sobre relações para si é deixá-lo em paz. Deixem de o perseguir e deixem-no estar sozinho com os seus próprios pensamentos e emoções.
• Go no contact for a while
A maioria especialistas em relações concordaria que a melhor coisa a fazer é ir nenhum contacto durante algum tempo. Isso dar-vos-á tempo para organizarem os vossos pensamentos e sentimentos, de modo a poderem tomar a melhor decisão possível relativamente ao futuro da vossa relação.
If he comes back, if he reaches out first, it’s a bom sinal que ele ainda te ama. On the other hand, if you don’t get any response after that time, it means that he’s truly done with you.
• Then, break the silence and try to win him over again
Se tiveres saudades dele, and he still doesn’t reach out to you after a while, you’re allowed to break the no contact rule and reach out first.
O objetivo de um relação saudável é que os casais precisam de ter uma comunicação aberta e saudável. Por isso, convide-o para sair e comece a falar.
Seja direto e ponha todas as cartas na mesa. Fale abertamente dos seus sentimentos e de todas as coisas que a incomodam. Além disso, ouça com atenção o que ele tem para dizer e tente compreendê-lo.
• Suggest couples therapy
If you still love each other, there is no problem you can’t overcome together. As long as there is love, there’s also hope to save your relationship.
Se ambos querem lutar pela vossa relação, devem procurar ajuda profissional. Deixem que um orientador de relações vos guie na resolução dos vossos problemas e vos ajude a reconstruir a vossa relação.
IF that doesn’t work…
If your man doesn’t come back, you simply need to accept the truth that he’s sobre si e concentrar-se na sua cura e avançar.
• Come to terms with the truth
A sua cara-metade já não o quer na sua vida. As hard as it is to accept it, it’s a fact, and the sooner you learn to come to terms with it, the sooner you’ll seguir em frente.
I know it’s not a great consolation, but you aren’t the first person to go through this. Many of us have been in your situation and managed to recover from it, and you will too.
• Be proud of yourself for trying
Lutaram e esforçaram-se muito para salvar a vossa relação, e isso é algo de que se devem orgulhar. If you didn’t try, you would be left with regrets forever.
Haveria sempre aquela e se, and you would blame yourself for not even trying to save your relationship. This way, you’ll know it wasn’t you, and trust me: it’ll help you move on faster.
• Know when to let go
Quando toda a esperança tiver desaparecido, force-se a aceitar a sua realidade e siga em frente. There is no point dwelling on what could have been when it’s clear that all of it was just a dream.
This is your reality, a not-so-great one, I agree, but it’s yours, and you need to accept it and live with it.
• Now, you need to give yourself time… to heal
You gave him time to think about you and your relationship, and now it’s time to give yourself time. Don’t hurry with moving on.
O teu coração está a sofrer e só precisas de te concentrar em a cura. If you move on before you heal, you’ll only be left with an awful burden that will prevent you from forming a healthy relationship with another man.
• Break free from grudges
Don’t hold grudges. Don’t feel regret. God will send many people on your path, and He’ll use some of them to teach you valuable lessons.
And that’s how you should look at your relationship: as a huge lesson. Now, you’re equipped with more caution for the next person who comes into your life, and you won’t allow someone else to hurt you like this ever again.
Como é que se sabe quando um homem está farto da relação?
É claro que todos os casais passam por momentos difíceis e haverá alturas em que o seu homem poderá distanciar-se ou afastar-se. However, once the affection disappears, once he stops treating you as his priority, that’s when you’ll know he’s done with you for good.
Most of the time, you won’t be able to recognize him… You’ll feel that he isn’t the man you fell in love with.
He’ll start doing things behind your back. Actually, he’ll keep doing things that hurt you and won’t even bother to think about how those things make you feel.
Whether he comes clean about his (lack of) feelings or not, deep down, you’ll simply know. You may struggle to accept that he’s over you, but you’ll definitely know before he even admits it to you.
Devo esperar por ele ou seguir em frente?
Truth to be told, you’re the only person who can answer this question correctly. Both are okay: you can wait for him IF you truly love him and think it’s all just a phase. Or, you come to terms with the truth, seguir em frentee tenta curar o teu coração partido o mais depressa possível.
A resposta a esta pergunta está no seu coração. However, that doesn’t mean you should neglect yourself completely in the process of making the final decision.
Your emotions are important, but that still doesn’t mean it’s justification enough for you to stay in a relationship or fight for someone who doesn’t love you.
Quando é que se deve deixar um homem ir?
When it’s obvious that his feelings for you have disappeared. Don’t try to deceive yourself that you may change what’s in his heart because, não importa o quê you do, you can’t make someone love you.
Desde que acredite sinceramente que ele ainda a ama, deve lutar por ele. No entanto, no primeiro momento em que se aperceber que o amor desapareceu, deve parar de tentar e desistir dele.
It’s hard, but you need to know when para deixar ir. Don’t perder-se trying to keep what obviously wasn’t meant to be.
Palavras finais
Did you recognize most of these signs the relationship is over for him? Does your man’s behavior match most of these behavioral patterns above?
If your answer is yes, then, unfortunately, it’s a bad sign that tens de o deixar ir. Poupa o teu coração de mais dor e segue em frente.
In the end, if your man is dumb enough to leave you, you need to show him that you’re smart enough to let him go.
