27 segnali rivelatori di una relazione finita per lui

Il vostro l'uomo diventa distante and cold all of a sudden? Has he distanced himself to the point you can no longer get through him, and you can’t help but wonder if he’s thinking about leaving you?

Ho qualcosa che fugherà o confermerà tutti i vostri dubbi: un elenco di segnali di pericolo la relazione è finita per lui.

By the time you finish reading this article, you’ll know if il tuo uomo è davvero su di te. I’ve also added a few tips that will help you endure it all and accelerate your healing process.

27 segnali d'allarme di una relazione finita per lui

Un elenco delle bandiere rosse e dei segnali di allarme più evidenti di una relazione fallimentare:

1. He’s distancing himself

Se il vostro l'uomo inizia ad allontanarsi and shutting himself off emotionally, it’s a huge sign that he’s thinking about ending your relationship.

Maybe he has some personal issues, or his emotions are all mixed up, and he doesn’t know how to speak to you about it. On the other hand, it may also be because his feelings for you have changed, and he doesn’t have the guts to admit it.

Il mio consigli sulle relazioni è che dovreste provare a confrontarvi con lui. Tell him that you’ve noticed he’s become distant, and you want to know what the real reason for his behavior is.

2. E, allontanandoti

On the flip side, if you’ve already tried to do that and ti ha solo allontanato and distanced himself even more, it’s clear that something is off.

Now, it’s up to you to figure out what that ‘something’ is. Is he really struggling with some other issue, or has he indeed stopped loving you?

3. La mancanza di fiducia è evidente (da entrambe le parti).

The problem is that he’s not the only one in your relationship who has problemi di fiducia – you’ve also started doubting his feelings. Il suo comportamento sospettoso vi ha portato al punto di non avere più fiducia nel suo amore.

The truth is: you can’t have un sano, relazione d'amore if he doesn’t trust you or viceversa. La mancanza di fiducia è un grande ostacolo nelle relazioni.

If you don’t start working on ricostruire la fiducia tra di voi, prima o poi, farà allontanare uno o entrambi.

4. Smette di contattare regolarmente

Is poor not even a good enough word to describe your communication? And even if you’ve tried hard to improve it, you can’t because the other side doesn’t show any interest in doing so?

I’m sorry I have to break it to you like this, but it’s a clear sign il tuo altro significativo doesn’t care for you as much as you think he does (actually, he probably doesn’t care for you at all).

Although, it may also be a sign that he just isn’t ready for a relazione impegnata. Maybe you’ve talked about taking your relationship to the next level, and it freaked him out. These are just assumptions, and your man is the only one who knows the real reason.

5. Continuate a litigare e lui continua a incolparvi di tutto.

Do you constantly fight over unimportant, little things, and you can’t find a way to put a stop to them? No matter what you do, does he always blame you for everything?

It’s obvious that he’s playing il gioco malvagio dello scaricabarile. Vuole rompere con te, and he’s trying to manipulate you into taking the blame for the breakup.

Be smart and don’t fall for those manipulations. You know you haven’t done anything wrong, and he’s the one who needs to gather the courage to break up with you directly without manipulating you.

6. No matter what you do, it’s impossible to please him

If your man has become impossible to talk to, deal with, live with… it’s more than obvious that something is bothering him.

You can try to please him and cheer him up, but it most definitely won’t work – you’ll only drive yourself crazy. Quello che dovete fare è capire la causa principale del suo comportamento.

Avete fatto qualcosa che lo ha fatto arrabbiare? Ha qualche problema personale, come problemi in famiglia o sul lavoro?

If you can’t figure out any possible cause for his umore insopportabile, it’s probably because there isn’t any. He’s simply over you and can’t stand being around you.

7. He’s started spending a lot of time with his buddies…

If he’s started spending more time with his pals and going out, it’s a bad sign that his priorities have changed.

Sure, it’s completely normal to spend time with other people outside your relationship, but your partner must always come first. Non dovreste mai trascurarli per i vostri amici o i vostri cari.

8. …While he limits spending time with you

Prima, trascorrere il tempo with you was his priority, but, all of a sudden, that’s changed, and now, you rarely even see him. I know that feeling of being crossed off your partner’s priority list well, and, trust me, I know how awful and heartbreaking it is.

It feels like you’re inseguendolo per tutto il tempo, and I know… You’re tired of that chase.

Quindi, tutto ciò che dovete fare è smettere di inseguire. He’s obviously running away from you and doesn’t want to be caught.

9. He’s become an expert in the art of making excuses

Come si fa a sapere quando per lui una relazione è finita? La risposta è semplice: inizia ad evitarti e diventa un esperto di alto livello di trovare scuse senza senso.

He isn’t ready to call it quits just yet, and he’s keeping you as a backup. Now, it’s up to you to choose whether you’ll let him manipulate you or run him off, together with his excuses.

10. Smette di essere il vostro sostegno numero uno

Era la persona con cui potevi parlare di tutto. Era la persona a cui rivolgersi ogni volta che si aveva un problema o si voleva condividere una buona notizia. Era il tuo più grande sostegno e il tuo fan numero uno.

He WAS… That’s the point. Now, he’s just a man who once loved you, a man who doesn’t have the guts to spill the beans and admit that he’s su di te.

11. You constantly walk on eggshells when he’s around

When you’re in a relazione sanaVi sentite a vostro agio con il vostro altro significativo. Sentite di poter parlare e condividere tutto con loro perché sapete che non vi giudicheranno mai o vi faranno sentire in colpa per questo.

If you feel like you’re walking on gusci d'uovo, if you feel like you need to carefully choose your words with your partner, it’s a huge bandiera rossa la vostra relazione è tossica.

Actually, it’s not important whether he loves you or not anymore. The only important thing for you is to realize the consequences that una relazione tossica può lasciare su di voi e uscirne il più presto possibile.

12. La disconnessione emotiva

Il motivo per cui dubitate dei suoi sentimenti verso di voi è la scarsa comunicazione? You’ve stopped sharing your thoughts and feelings, which has led to an emozionale disconnessione, che vi ha portato ad allontanarvi.

This doesn’t mean he’s stopped loving you, but it’s definitely a sign that his feelings are changing. If you don’t find a way to connect with him soon, you’ll lose him forever.

13. You can’t even remember the last time he expressed his love for you

Okay, it’s clear by now that he has stopped showing his love for you through his actions. Tuttavia, riuscite a ricordare quando il l'ultima volta ti ha semplicemente detto ti ha amato era?

You can’t, I know because it was a long, looooong time ago. Well, you can actually see it as something positive: at least he doesn’t want to lie to you.

14. He turns your dates into ‘Netflix and chill’

L'unica cosa che funziona davvero nella vostra relazione è la vostra vita sessuale. However, you can’t feel good about it because it makes you feel like you’re in una relazione occasionale.

Sex shouldn’t only make you feel physically good. It should also strengthen your intimate and emotional bond.

If your man doesn’t want to stay the night, if he always gives you some lame excuse just to leave immediately after you’ve done the deed, it’s a huge red flag he doesn’t love you.

15. Il romanticismo è finito da tempo

He was so romantic before… He always tried to surprise you with piccoli gesti romanticie attraverso questi piccole cosesapevi con certezza che ti amava.

Tutte queste cose sono ormai passate, e da parte sua c'è solo silenzio e mancanza di rispetto? Credo che le cose siano abbastanza chiare. Avete davvero bisogno di altri bandiere rosse, o questo rosso è sufficiente per lasciarlo finalmente?

16. Anche la scintilla si è spenta

Quando la storia d'amore muore in un relazione romanticaAnche la scintilla muore con essa.

Il fatto è che si può amare profondamente l'altro, ma se non c'è scintilla, if you don’t work on reigniting it, you’ll eventually get sick of one another.

17. La mancanza di gelosia

Una sana dose di gelosia fa sempre bene ad un relazione romantica. Dimostra che i partner si preoccupano l'uno dell'altro e hanno paura di perdersi.

Se il vostro uomo smette di mostrare gelosia anche quando ne ha davvero motivo, avete tutto il diritto di sospettare che non vi ami più come prima.

18. He’s no longer excited to make plans with you

Avete fatto progetti per il futuro insieme? Il vostro partner era desideroso di fare progetti e sognare il futuro con voi? Ciò significa che stava davvero puntando a a relazione impegnata con voi.

However, if that has changed, if he starts avoiding those talks, it’s a segnale di avvertimento that those ‘aims’ and his plans have changed. Forse i suoi piani sono rimasti invariati, ma uno dei personaggi principali è cambiato.

19. You’ve found traces of infidelity

Se questo è il caso, allora hai davvero bisogno di altri segni che la relazione è finita per lui? Se potesse tradirti, it’s more than obvious that he doesn’t love you.

20. Anche i vostri cari si rendono conto che qualcosa non va

Are you not the only one who’s noticed that your partner is acting strange? Have your friends and family also noticed?

Well, it’s possible that you’re wrong, but it’s less likely that all of you are wrong and that nothing is truly happening with your relationship.

21. He’s become abusive

If your man has become aggressive or even abusive, it’s a good sign he doesn’t love you anymore.

Beh, probabilmente non ti ha mai amato nel primo posto perché solo un codardo sarebbe in grado di ferire e maltrattare una donna di cui è stato innamorato.

Needless to say… Don’t ever allow any man to abuse you in any way, no matter how much you love him, because that is the worst and most unfair thing you can do to yourself.

22. Influisce profondamente sulla vostra salute mentale

Il vostro altro significativo the reason you’ve been depressed and anxious? Beh, se il vostro partner influisce sulla vostra salute emotiva e mentale, it’s one of the telltale signs the relationship is over for him.

It’s simple actually: if he cared for you, he wouldn’t allow his actions to hurt you in this way. Non farebbe mai nulla per ferirti, perché sentirebbe il tuo dolore come suo.

23. Rifiuta ogni tentativo di salvare la relazione.

Provate e riprovate e cercare di salvare la vostra relazione but constantly fail. And the only reason for those failures is that he doesn’t want it to happen.

He doesn’t want to give your relationship another chance because he wants you to take separate paths.

24. Impazzisce quando si parla di terapia di coppia

Se rifiuta di chiedere aiuto a un coach relazionale, it’s a clear sign that he isn’t willing to work on fixing your relationship.

Ricostruire un relazione romantica è una strada a doppio senso. It most definitely can’t be done if only one side is ready to put effort into making things work again.

25. You simply haven’t felt loved for a long period of time

Constant fights, humiliation, him pulling away and hurting you… Even though you still don’t want to admit it to yourself, you simply feel that his heart has changed.

If you aren’t feeling LOVEDrispettati, amati e apprezzati, cos'altro serve perché possiate finalmente rendervi conto che avete bisogno di lasciarlo andare?

26. L'amore si è indebolito anche da parte vostra

Potreste cercare di ingannare voi stessi, ma in fondo sapete che è così. Stop blaming yourself and suppressing your feelings because it’s normal that you can’t love someone who keeps hurting you.

I know that you’ve also started thinking about ending your relazione sentimentale, e avete tutto il diritto di farlo.

Don’t stay where you’re not welcome, and don’t ever allow someone to treat you like you aren’t worthy of being loved.

27. Si ritira

That’s it, the final and definitely most obvious sign the relationship is over for him: Alla fine ammette che i suoi sentimenti sono cambiati e vi lascia.

I agree that it’s something he should have done as soon as he stopped loving you. Tuttavia, dovreste ringraziare Dio perché la vostra agonia è finalmente terminata e ora sapete esattamente qual è la vostra posizione.

Cosa fare se i vostri dubbi diventano realtà

If you’ve recognized most of these warning signs of a failing relationship, then you must think about your next steps. There are two possible scenarios, and I’m about to walk you through them.

• Give him time and space

If you’re in un relazione a lungo terminepotrebbe davvero essere solo una fase. Forse siete rimasti bloccati in una routine che lo ha semplicemente prosciugato.

If that’s the case, he’s probably confused and doesn’t know what to do next. Il mio consigli sulle relazioni per voi è di lasciarlo in pace. Smettete di inseguirlo e lasciatelo solo con i suoi pensieri e le sue emozioni.

• Go no contact for a while

La maggior parte esperti di relazioni concordano sul fatto che la cosa migliore da fare sia andare nessun contatto per un po'. In questo modo, entrambi avrete il tempo di riordinare i vostri pensieri e sentimenti, in modo da poter prendere la migliore decisione possibile sul futuro della vostra relazione.

If he comes back, if he reaches out first, it’s a buon segno che ti ama ancora. On the other hand, if you don’t get any response after that time, it means that he’s truly done with you.

• Then, break the silence and try to win him over again

Se vi manca, and he still doesn’t reach out to you after a while, you’re allowed to break the no contact rule and reach out first.

L'obiettivo di un relazione sana è che le coppie devono avere una comunicazione aperta e sana. Quindi, invitatelo a uscire e iniziate a parlare.

Siate diretti e mettete tutte le carte in tavola. Parlate dei vostri sentimenti e di tutte le cose che vi preoccupano. Inoltre, ascoltate attentamente ciò che ha da dire e cercate di capirlo.

• Suggest couples therapy

If you still love each other, there is no problem you can’t overcome together. As long as there is love, there’s also hope to save your relationship.

Se entrambi volete lottare per la vostra relazione, dovreste cercare un aiuto professionale. Lasciate che un coach di relazioni vi guidi nella risoluzione dei vostri problemi e vi aiuti a ricostruire la vostra relazione.

IF that doesn’t work…

If your man doesn’t come back, you simply need to accept the truth that he’s su di te e concentrarsi sulla propria guarigione e avanti.

• Come to terms with the truth

Il vostro partner non vi vuole più nella sua vita. As hard as it is to accept it, it’s a fact, and the sooner you learn to come to terms with it, the sooner you’ll andare avanti.

I know it’s not a great consolation, but you aren’t the first person to go through this. Many of us have been in your situation and managed to recover from it, and you will too.

• Be proud of yourself for trying

Avete lottato e cercato con tutte le vostre forze di salvare la vostra relazione, e di questo dovreste essere davvero orgogliosi. If you didn’t try, you would be left with regrets forever.

Ci sarebbe sempre stato quel e se, and you would blame yourself for not even trying to save your relationship. This way, you’ll know it wasn’t you, and trust me: it’ll help you move on faster.

• Know when to let go

Quando ogni speranza è svanita, costringetevi ad accettare la realtà e ad andare avanti. There is no point dwelling on what could have been when it’s clear that all of it was just a dream.

This is your reality, a not-so-great one, I agree, but it’s yours, and you need to accept it and live with it.

• Now, you need to give yourself time… to heal

You gave him time to think about you and your relationship, and now it’s time to give yourself time. Don’t hurry with moving on.

Il vostro cuore soffre, e voi dovete concentrarvi solo su guarigione. If you move on before you heal, you’ll only be left with an awful burden that will prevent you from forming a healthy relationship with another man.

• Break free from grudges

Don’t hold grudges. Don’t feel regret. God will send many people on your path, and He’ll use some of them to teach you valuable lessons.

And that’s how you should look at your relationship: as a huge lesson. Now, you’re equipped with more caution for the next person who comes into your life, and you won’t allow someone else to hurt you like this ever again.

Come si fa a sapere quando un uomo ha chiuso con la relazione?

Naturalmente, tutte le coppie attraversano momenti difficili e ci saranno momenti in cui il vostro uomo potrebbe prendere le distanze o allontanarsi. However, once the affection disappears, once he stops treating you as his priority, that’s when you’ll know he’s done with you for good.

Most of the time, you won’t be able to recognize him… You’ll feel that he isn’t the man you fell in love with.

He’ll start doing things behind your back. Actually, he’ll keep doing things that hurt you and won’t even bother to think about how those things make you feel.

Whether he comes clean about his (lack of) feelings or not, deep down, you’ll simply know. You may struggle to accept that he’s over you, but you’ll definitely know before he even admits it to you.

Devo aspettarlo o andare avanti?

Truth to be told, you’re the only person who can answer this question correctly. Both are okay: you can wait for him IF you truly love him and think it’s all just a phase. Or, you come to terms with the truth, andare avantie cercate di guarire il vostro cuore spezzato il prima possibile.

La risposta a questa domanda si trova nel vostro cuore. However, that doesn’t mean you should neglect yourself completely in the process of making the final decision.

Your emotions are important, but that still doesn’t mean it’s justification enough for you to stay in a relationship or fight for someone who doesn’t love you.

Quando si deve lasciare andare un ragazzo?

When it’s obvious that his feelings for you have disappeared. Don’t try to deceive yourself that you may change what’s in his heart because, non importa cosa you do, you can’t make someone love you.

Finché credete sinceramente che vi ami ancora, dovete lottare per lui. Tuttavia, nel momento in cui vi rendete conto che l'amore è svanito, dovete smettere di provarci e rinunciare a lui.

It’s hard, but you need to know when a lasciarsi andare. Don’t perdere se stessi trying to keep what obviously wasn’t meant to be.

Parole finali

Did you recognize most of these signs the relationship is over for him? Does your man’s behavior match most of these behavioral patterns above?

If your answer is yes, then, unfortunately, it’s a bad sign that devi lasciarlo andare. Risparmia il tuo cuore da un ulteriore dolore e vai avanti.

In the end, if your man is dumb enough to leave you, you need to show him that you’re smart enough to let him go.