Ele ama-te (ou não)? 21 Sinais claros de que ele PRETENDE te amar
I know you feel confused. One part of you wants to know the truth, and the other would be happy living a lie as long as you’re still with him.
Mas, por muito que doa, mereces saber o que ele realmente sente por ti. Being with a guy who doesn’t care about you is nothing but a waste of your precious time.
I’ve been where you are. Levei anos para finalmente romper com ele. I learned my lesson the hard way… but I still learned it.
Embora a questão aqui seja: É mesmo necessário deixá-lo? E se o seu instinto estiver errado? Quais são os sinais de que ele finge que a ama?
Stay with me, and let’s find out together!
21 Sinais claros de que ele finge amar-te
O seu amor é verdadeiro? Estes 21 sinais dar-lhe-ão a resposta:
1. You just don’t feel the love at all
You’re probably confused right now. You’re wondering if your insecurities are lying to you or if he really doesn’t have feelings for you. Which is it? Well, I’m here to help!
Let’s do it this way.
Quero que pensem por um momento em todas as pessoas que vos amam.
Em quantas pessoas pensaste? Como é que elas o fazem sentir? Como é que o tratam? O que te faz ter tanta certeza do seu amor?
If you’re capable of sensing their love but not that of your boyfriend, then the problem is definitely him.
SEMPRE confie no seu instinto!
2. Parece que nunca se consegue sair da relação
A man who loves you is eager to show you off to the world. He wants to scream your name and tell everyone that you’re his woman.
If he’s not yet ready to do that, it might be one of the signs he pretends to amo-te. He enjoys the benefits of your relationship but doesn’t care enough to make it official.
He’s just wasting your time because he doesn’t have anyone else to turn to. Please, don’t let him treat you like that anymore.
You should be with someone who’s proud to call you his own. Don’t ever settle for less.
3. He doesn’t share much with you
Does everyone know what’s going on in his life but you? Do you find out important stuff from a random person on the street?
If so, that’s a MAJOR bandeira vermelha.
Se um homem está apaixonado por ti, you’ll be his go-to person for EVERYTHING. He’ll do it not because he has to but because he genuinely wants to. His love for you urges him to share every little thing that happens during the day.
If your man lacks these traits, that’s one of the sinais seguros ele finge amo-te. Don’t put up with it any longer!
4. You’re the only one making an effort
He never initiates conversation. You’re probably desculpando-se com ele, but deep down, you know he just doesn’t care enough.
Encontra sempre uma forma de o surpreender e de o fazer feliz, mas ele não aprecia nem retribui.
When you go out, you feel like a circus clown that’s meant to make him laugh. He puts so much pressure on you and blames you when you don’t live up to his expectations, even though he doesn’t lift a finger.
Why not try to put in as much effort as he does? I bet he won’t like being treated the way he treats you!
5. O seu comportamento muda em frente de outras pessoas
Ah, the ”nice guys.” They will charm you and make you feel special only to get your attention, but they don’t mean any of it. What they feel for you isn’t amor verdadeiro.
It’s not even paixão. They probably just like their ability to have you wrapped around their little finger by whispering sweet words into your ear…
Of course, this is not your fault. It’s not easy to see through someone’s lies. But, you can start by noticing how he treats you in à frente dos outros.
One day, he’s all cute and loving, and the next day, he’s cold as ice. He suddenly turns into a misogynist full of sexist jokes about women, and he dismisses your every word because he’s got to be ‘the man.’
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If he ”loves” you only behind closed doors but not in front of others, that’s one of the obvious signs he pretends to love you.
6. Ninguém sabe da vossa relação
A little privacy can definitely be exciting, but this guy isn’t just keeping your relationship private – He is HIDING the fact that he’s in a relationship with you from EVERYONE!
Mas porquê?
Who knows! Maybe his family members don’t approve of you, or his friends don’t like you. Or maybe he wants other women to think he’s single so he can still flirt with them.
It’s especially awful if he doesn’t even tell you why he’s doing it. He doesn’t think you deserve to hear the truth. But, oh, you so do!
Pergunte-lhe abertamente qual é a sua proposta. Se ele se recusar a dizer-lhe, afaste-se. Se ele lhe disser a verdade, mas vir que continua a não ter planos para o futuro, afaste-se na mesma.
Um homem que te ama de verdade nunca te faria passar por uma coisa dessas!
7. Não há piadas internas disparatadas
It’s so evident when two people enjoy each other’s company. You can just sentir a química no ar. Por vezes, basta uma palavra para os fazer desatar a rir.
Têm a sua própria linguagem que mais ninguém à sua volta entende.
So, if you’re looking for signs he pretends to love you, think about how you both feel in each other’s presence.
É agradável, ou temos sempre de dar espetáculo para depois chegarmos a casa exaustos?
If you feel happier and more peaceful in his absence, that’s a sinal revelador que algo está MUITO errado.
8. Ele nunca te chama
Se este tipo nunca se dá ao trabalho de pegar no telefone e ligar-lhe, he just doesn’t care about you de todo.
Ele pode arranjar as desculpas que quiser, mas a verdade mantém-se: Se alguém quiser ter tempo para si, terá. Ninguém está assim tão ocupado.
Isto é especialmente verdade se essa pessoa estiver numa relação de compromisso consigo.
É claro que ele tem a sua própria vida para cuidar, mas um bom namorado colocaria sempre a sua mulher no topo da sua lista de prioridades.
But, if he NEVER makes time for you, that’s not a sign of a loving and relação saudável.
Don’t believe his lies anymore. Look at his actions instead. If he is busy literally all the time, that’s just one of the signs he pretends to love you…
9. You don’t feel all that happy
Sente-se infeliz de cada vez que ele fala consigo? Perdeu a ligação que tinha inicialmente com ele?
Seja honesto consigo próprio. You actually already have the answer to your question; you’re just afraid to face the facts.
But, sadly, it’s necessary… unless you want to be stuck in a relação sem amor para sempre.
You need to trust your feelings. When you’re unhappy, you just know it. You don’t need to listen to anyone’s advice or his lies.
Agora, quero que respirem fundo e pensem nestas questões:
- Achas que mereces ser assim tão infeliz?
- Aren’t you sad that you’re missing out on happiness with someone else?
- Are you really going to waste your life being with a guy who doesn’t appreciate you?
10. He doesn’t take your feelings into consideration
If your man has a 24/7 job of insulting you and making you feel unworthy, his love for you isn’t as real as you might’ve thought.
He probably justifies himself by saying that he’s just ‘brutally honest,’ but that’s nothing more than an excuse to be cruel to you.
He doesn’t even apologize if he takes it too far because your feelings aren’t his concern.
Por outro lado, se ferir os sentimentos DELE, a história é bem diferente. He’ll pin you with awful labels and be more than happy to fazer-se de vítima.
In reality, you’re just copying his own behavior, but he clearly doesn’t see you as equals.
Queres mesmo um tipo como este na tua vida?
11. You’re there to fulfill HIS wishes
What YOU want doesn’t matter. There is no YOU at all. To him, you’re simply someone who exists to please him.
He doesn’t see relationships as a bond between two people who are equal to each other. No. Even if he claims that he’ll be there for you, his actions prove otherwise.
When he’s bored, he’ll ask you out. If you reject him, you’ll be the bad guy. But when he rejects you, that’s totally fine, and you’re the crazy one for overreacting.
Tudo o que lhe interessa é que lhe aumentes o ego e que ele se sinta digno. Pára de lhe dar essa satisfação. Mereces ser amado por quem realmente és.
12. Apanha-o a namoriscar com outras mulheres
A audácia! Este tipo de homem seduzirá descarada e abertamente outras mulheres e depois acusa-a de ter ciúmes! Quero dizer, o quê mesmo?
He thinks it’s okay to disrespect you like that. He feels like his need to talk to someone else needs to be satisfied because, after all, you don’t have the right to restrict his freedom.
But, that’s the thing. Your jealousy isn’t a way of taking away his freedom but rather of demanding o respeito que todas as mulheres merecem numa relação.
Remember – if he doesn’t see how wrong this is, it is one of the signs he pretends to love you.
13. Só falas de coisas superficiais
Será que ele só está interessado em intimidade física? Ele alguma vez abrir para si?
When a man isn’t serious about you, he will stick to lighter topics. He will laugh with you but won’t ever dig deeper because he doesn’t care about connecting with you.
Se partilhar algo importante sobre si, ele mudará de assunto de bom grado. Se lhe pedir para lhe contar a sua história, ele transformará tudo numa piada.
When he touches you, he only does it to satisfy his lust. There is no emotional element to ANYTHING he does. It’s very easy to sense this if you pay attention.
P.S. It’s also possible that he has questões de empenhamento. In that case, give him some time… but not too much time. After all, you want a boyfriend, not a project!
14. He doesn’t give you his full attention
Todas as pistas estão escondidas em a sua linguagem corporal.
Ele anda a olhar para outras mulheres enquanto passar o tempo with you? Does he stare at his phone a lot while you’re talking to him?
Estes são todos sinais subtis ele finge amo-te. He can’t fully focus on you because he just doesn’t care about what you have to say.
Um homem apaixonado por si não tira os olhos de cima de si!
Toda a sua atenção será dirigida para si porque ele se preocupa e quer que o saiba.
15. He’s a master manipulator
I know it’s not always easy to notice signs of iluminação artificial, but you just know that something isn’t quite right…
He always plays the victim while you’re the one to blame. And then you start feeling guilty even though you’re aware you did nothing wrong.
If that feeling sounds familiar, then he is most likely gaslighting you. It’s not your fault.
Homens com baixo autoestima seek power by hurting someone else because that’s the only way they can feel good about themselves.
Don’t believe a word he says. Talk to someone you trust who will help you see what’s what.
Quando um homem gosta genuinamente de si, ele vai assumir a responsabilidade pelos seus actos. Ele nunca te vai atirar as culpas para cima. Por isso, lembra-te que mereces muito mais.
16. He’s never there in your time of need
If you find yourself going through hard times alone while he’s out there having fun, that’s also one of the signs he pretends to love you.
If he truly cared about you, he wouldn’t leave your side until he was sure you were okay. He would do his best to make your pain more bearable.
Don’t settle for a guy who puts everything else before you. Do you really want someone you can’t rely on, someone who can watch you cry without even flinching?
It’s time to accept that he’s just not worth it because only then can you seguir em frente para algo melhor.
17. Os bons tempos passaram à história
Do you know that feeling when you just leave your guy after a date, and you’re all smiley?
Yeah. If that doesn’t happen to you anymore, that’s your intuition telling you that he only pretends to love you.
A fase de lua de mel ended a long time ago. You barely see each other, and when you do, he just doesn’t try to make you feel special like he once did.
Encontrar-se é mais uma obrigação do que algo que se faz por amor.
It’s even worse when you’re in a relação à distânciae, no entanto, já não tens nada para falar. Foi o meu caso, pelo menos.
The words that come out of our mouths were there only to fill in the awkward silence. And then it suddenly hit me – This isn’t going to work!
Trust me, when he loves you, you can’t ever get tired of each other.
18. As mentiras nunca acabam
I once read that ”to love is to stop lying.” How very true that is!
Quando gostamos de alguém, queremos estabelecer uma ligação profunda com eles, and you know you can’t do that if you’re not telling the truth.
Assim, um dos sinais claros ele finge amo-te is when he keeps lying to you. Even his “Eu amo-te‘s” feel fake.
He has become so used to lying that you don’t even know who he really is.
Do you really want to be in a relationship with someone who doesn’t value you enough to be honest with you?
19. He doesn’t care about your life at all
Interrompe-o quando começa a falar para contar a sua própria história? Ou pior ainda, ele está demasiado distraído com a sua redes sociais aplicações para vos prestar atenção no primeiro lugar?
Um homem que apenas finge amo-te nunca se importarão com o que tens para dizer. He won’t bother asking how your day went or what childhood events affected you the most.
He won’t ask because, to him, you’re just… there. He may label you as his girlfriend, but he doesn’t treat you as a loved one.
So, yes, if you notice that he’s the one doing all the talking, that’s a big red flag.
20. He doesn’t respect you yet demands your respect
Um dos sinais de que ele finge amar-te é quando he doesn’t respect you mas exige o SEU respeito.
Whenever you’re open about something that bothers you, he’s quick to judge you. You’re always the dramatic one who makes a fuss about nothing at all.
He probably manages to convince you that you ARE wrong, but deep down, you know he just doesn’t respect you enough to listen to your wants and needs.
In a nutshell, he disrespects you, but when you call him out on it, he acts like you’re the one who disrespected him.
21. Tudo o que sentes é desilusão
When you feel someone’s love, it fills you with energy and strength. Every time you think about them, it makes you so happy you might burst.
Mas, quando pensamos na forma como o nosso homem nos ama, o nosso humor cai subitamente.
Parece que a sua vida amorosa se tornou numa desilusão atrás de outra. Mal se consegue lembrar da última vez que foi genuinamente feliz.
I hope you know that true love isn’t supposed to hurt. If you feel nothing but desgosto, then it’s not love.
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Ele ama-me, ele não me ama
Have you noticed any one of these signs he pretends to love you in your own relationship? I sure hope not, but if you have, don’t forget that you deserve much better.
I know it’s hard to leave someone you love, but it’s even harder being with them despite knowing that they don’t reciprocate your feelings.
Don’t turn your amor não correspondido into something poetic because that’s self-destructive. Keep the love in your heart, but don’t stay where you aren’t appreciated.
No momento em que finalmente chegares a um lugar onde és amado, verás que fizeste a escolha certa.
