So, you can’t stop thinking about him day and night (especially at night when you just want to curl up next to his body and fall asleep), and whenever you’re feeling off, you just think of his smile and your day immediately gets brighter.
You imagine all of the things you would want to do with him like holding hands, long cuddle sessions or looking him deeply in the eye without saying anything because your words could never explain how you really feel.
Ah, those sweet, romantic feelings that have the power of turning us into dreamers and hopeless romantics!
If it weren’t for them, we would never know how patient we actually are because when we really like someone, seconds turn into hours, and your first date becomes the most anticipated event of the year.
(Well, at least, for me).
The last time, I was in the same infatuation situation wondering about that famous question, ‘Should I tell him I like him?’, it was really intense and let’s say—exciting.
Every day I would think about the countless pros and cons of telling him how I feel and every time I tried to imagine, I would end up with the same case scenario in my head: Him laughing at me or telling me that he’s not interested (or both).
I have no idea how long I was in this limbo, but I bet it was a fair amount of time.
A lot of people, including my best friends were telling me to simply tell him how I feel because they were sure that nothing bad would happen and that it wasn’t a big deal.
Well, I wish I also had had that amount of sureness, but unfortunately I didn’t.
I even considered learning a few pickup lines just in case I needed them some day if my lips betrayed me and stayed frozen in time instead of expressing feelings.
And, yes, I also re-read thousands of dating tips and guides on how to flirt (subtly) even though the first date was still miles away or better said, mission impossible at the moment, but I guess I like to be prepared in advance. And then, one day, I just couldn’t bear it any longer.
The more I prolonged it, the more my feelings intensified, and I knew that this prolonging thing just didn’t make any sense and it would only result in wasting my time.
I remember my guy friend motivated me to make the first move by giving me a lecture on YOLO things and when someone do this to you, you have no option but to really do it because the message was really powerful:
“You’ve got nothing to lose.
If you tell him you like him, you will either learn that he’s interested or that he likes you too or you will save your time and keep living your best life without much overthinking.
Either way, you win!”
“Hell yes!”, was the only thing I could reply, and then I finally did it.
To be exact, I admitted my feelings for him face-to-face because I was sure I wouldn’t survive waiting and rotting for a text message. And do you know what happened?
HE ASKED ME OUT ON A DATE BECAUSE HE WOULD LIKE TO GET TO KNOW ME BETTER!
(I think there’s no need to illustrate the amount of happiness that was oozing from my house that day.)
The bottom line is that I really needed someone to tell me the above YOLO sentence and give me a reason to do it because in my head, I had only reasons on why not to do it.
Back then I wished that I’d read somewhere a list of reasons why should I tell him I like him, but I couldn’t find one.
That’s why I’ve decided to make that list today for all of you who are in the same situation now or sometime in the near future!
Since I’m feeling extra generous today, down below you’ll also find a mini guide on how to tell a guy you like him (just in case you need some alternatives apart from the face-to-face method).
So, let’s not waste any more time, and let’s get started with damn good reasons why should you tell him you like him!
1. He probably has no idea that you like him
Regardless if he’s a friend of your mutual friend or some stranger whom you tried to seduce with prolonged eye contact, he still probably has no idea that you like him!
Even though you’re (probably) already head over heels in love with him, and you know exactly where you’re going to live, what you’re going to do, how many children you’ll have including other future plans, he has no idea that you even exist. And that is why you should reveal your true feelings!
No matter how nerve-wracking it seems to you, you need to do it for yourself in the first place because chances are that he will also like you A LOT once he has met you, and all you need to do is gather the courage to tell him first. Lord knows, he might immediately ask you out on a date!
2. Guys like girls who take the initiative
We’re all familiar with the fact that guys have always been less willing to admit their feelings because for them, it means showing their weakness instead of masculinity.
So, when it comes to guys, expressing feelings is something that requires extra courage and determination.
That is why they simply can’t help themselves but really LIKE those girls who take the initiative!
When he sees that you’re not afraid to say what you really mean and fight for what you want, he will be amazed because this is a huge turn on for guys.
Let’s say that he already liked you and now when you tell him all of this, he will like you even more!
Trust me, there’s nothing sexier than a girl who knows what she wants in life!
It shows that you’re determined, bold, and you don’t give a shit about being embarrassed or about what he will think of you.
You just say what you mean, and you hope for the best (which is the best recipe for sure when it comes to your love life).
And he can either like you or like you even more because there’s not a chance that he could ever stay indifferent to this act of bravery.
3. Your people will support you
Sometimes we go too far and spend a lot of time thinking that our girlfriends and other good friends will not really approve of our choices.
We have this barrier in our head that is preventing us from doing anything because we’re afraid that they won’t or don’t really like the person we’re crazy about (especially if they’ve said something not that nice about them).
We forget that they’re only worrying about us. They want to see us happy and that is why sometimes it’s so hard to win their approval.
But, once you convince them how crazy you are about this one special person, they will be there for you, and they will support you!
Once they see how happy you truly are and once they get to know him, your people will support you no matter what.
You will enjoy every second of spending quality time with both your friends and your potential future boyfriend together.
4. He will respect and admire your boldness
When you really like someone, it’s hard to think rationally and clearly about possible outcomes.
All you have is this fear of being rejected, made fun of or mocked. But, none of this is real! (Trust me, I’ve been there.)
When we like someone, we tend to exaggerate everything because our feelings are so intense that we can no longer think rationally.
And that is why I’m here to tell you that there’s not a single possible outcome or possibility where I can imagine him responding negatively to your interest in him!
Because guys LOVE attention and they enjoy feeling wanted just like everybody else.
And they know that expressing feelings is not an easy thing to do!
That’s why he will respect and admire your boldness, regardless if your feelings are mutual or not.
In a nutshell, you don’t need to be anxious or overly worried about being ridiculed or similar because this will NOT happen! Period.
5. You’ve got nothing to lose
Let’s say that after all that overthinking about ‘Should I tell him I like him?’, you finally told him how you feel about him and he instantly asked you out on a date, adding that he finds you really cute and he wants to know you better.
Awesome, right? Now, let’s say that you finally told him how you feel about him and he appreciated all of it but gave you an explanation that he’s not interested in dating at the moment for some reason (or that he’s already seeing someone).
Awesome again, right? (Now you’re probably asking yourself: ”How in the world could that be awesome?
I just realized that the man of my dreams is not interested in dating and you’re telling me that’s awesome?”)
Well, it is. Why? Because you will finally know where you are at, and you will no longer waste your time in gathering the courage to tell him how you feel.
You will continue living your life without unnecessary overthinking about ‘What if’ and ‘Should I’. Either way, you’ve got nothing to lose!
And, who knows, maybe after some time he decides to reach you and ask you out on a date with an explanation as to why he couldn’t do it earlier!
6. You’ll feel ten times better
Imagine a life where you’re totally carefree without all of these unnecessary overthinking sessions and multiple frustrations over the same question: ‘Should I tell him I like him?’
Imagine a life where you wake up content and proud of yourself for telling how you really feel!
Well, you can have it but only if you tell him that you like him! Once you say what’s in your heart, you’ll feel ten times better, and you’ll make your life so much easier.
Over time, unsaid words turn into a huge burden that you’re constantly wearing on your shoulders. Honesty is the key to healthy relationships and a healthy lifestyle.
And that’s why it’s time to finally unburden yourself because, at the end of the day, regret over unsaid things is ten times stronger than a heartache.
7. Why the hell not?
You’re an amazing woman! You’re smart, beautiful, and cute!
So, why the hell not? Why should you live in fear and hide what you’re feeling when you could be out there living your dream?
Don’t limit yourself to believe that you shouldn’t do something when there are no reasons to support that argument.
Whenever you’re thinking about that question: ‘Should I tell him I like him?’, just replace it with another one that goes like this: ‘Why the hell not?’
Sometimes, this is the only valid reason we need in life, and there’s no need to bother ourselves with tons of others.
Life is not meant to be lived in fear or in the anxiety of unsaid words and feelings!
The only time we’re truly living a life is when we’re fearlessly fighting for our dreams without giving a shit about what other people will think of it!
And that’s exactly what you need to be doing! You need to look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself that you’ve got nothing to lose and you’re ready to live the life that you deserve. And here’s how you’ll do it!
How To Tell A Guy You Like Him
If you’re reading this, I assume you’re ready to tell him how you feel about him (yay, congratulations!) because it’s the only right thing to do and no matter what happens, you’ve won because, remember, you’ve got nothing to lose!
Now, in case you’re wondering how to do it, no worries because here are some indirect and direct ways that will help you get his attention and make him realize how much you like him!
1. Flirt with him
If you want to show your guy that you’re interested in him, flirting is definitely one of the best ways to do it. Now, there are different types of flirting such asdirect and indirect.
When it comes to men, they mainly prefer direct approaches and, indeed, if you want to be one hundred percent sure that he’s gotten the right message, you should opt for this one.
An example of a direct approach is something like this: “Hey, you’re hot! Mind if I join you?”
If you want to spice things up even more, after you’ve said it, just sit next to him before waiting for his permission because, remember, you’re a confident and brave woman who knows exactly what she wants!
Now, if you’re more of a shy or introverted type of person, you can flirt with him while texting him.
If you’re not really sure how to do it, you’ll find plenty of texting examples that might also motivate you to come up with your own at this link: Flirty Texts To Send Him: 51 Seductive Ways To Make Him Yours.
2. Smile A LOT
Did you know that when we smile, we tend to appear ten times more likeable, inviting, and attractive?
Indeed, there is something really powerful about a genuine smile that creates a cloud of positivity around that person.
So, if you want to be noticed and at the same time give him a hint that you’re interested, I suggest smiling until your lips start hurting!
But, really! If he’s sitting across the room, smile. When he approaches you, smile.
When you go on a first date with him, smile! Smiling will create positive energy around you to which no one can stay indifferent.
And as long as it’s genuine, coming from the heart, you can never overdo it!
3. Share something personal with him
When you really like someone, you don’t like them because they’re perfect, right?
You like them because they have something special about them that makes them unique.
They have these weird habits or a funny way of doing things, and all those little things contribute to us liking them even more.
Do you know what else contributes to liking someone even more? Sharing something personal.
Share with him something funny, sensitive or interesting about your life to engage him in conversation and give him a glimpse into your unique personality.
(Don’t worry, he won’t think that you’re friend-zone-ing him.) He will know that you like him and trust him because you’ve chosen to tell him something really personal! And he will appreciate it A LOT!
4. Compliment him
I bet there isn’t a single person in the world who doesn’t like to be complimented!
We all enjoy it when someone notices our efforts and all the little things we pay attention to when it comes to our appearance, personality, etc.
If you want to let him know that you like him, you should definitely do that!
You can compliment him on his appearance, his effort (especially if he’s done something for you), his personality, his intelligence, and similar.
Whenever you feel like it’s the right moment for compliments, do it, and I promise you—he will be more than flattered and pleasantly surprised!
5. Have a middleman deliver a message
By middleman, I mean your close friend or, even better, your mutual friend (if you have one).
If you’re interested in an old-school romance, you should definitely send one of your close people to tell your special one a few things about you and how you’d make a great couple together.
And, perhaps, he might also send back a middleman to invite you to go on a date with him!
6. Ask for his help
Asking a man for help is more like asking him to be the hero of the day, and trust me, there isn’t a single man who would ever refuse that title!
So, if you want to make him feel extra useful and wanted, just ask him for his help regarding your job, homework, everyday struggles, and similar (I’m sure you’ll find the perfect way).
When you do that, he will instantly start feeling needed and wanted, and he will want to feel like that more often.
He will enjoy every second spent with you, and over time, he will want more and more because you make him feel great about himself for being there for you and helping you.
7. Buy him a drink
If you’ve met a guy in a bar, the best way to let him know that you’re interested is by buying him a drink!
All you need to do is tell your server that the next drink that (special and hot) guy orders is on you.
And the moment he gets his drink and the server points at you, just wave and smile like you own the place!
If he smiles back and if he’s interested, there’s no doubt he’ll come to you.
But if he doesn’t come, this isn’t necessarily a red flag. Some guys are more shy than others.
In that case, you can walk over to him instead and surprise him with how bold you are!
If you’re still not convinced that you should tell him you like him, then read this all over again.
Joking aside, if you’re still not ready, it’s totally okay if you need more time to gather your courage and show that man that you like him and want him!
It doesn’t matter if you do it tomorrow, the day after tomorrow, in a week or a month as long as you have a real intention to do it!
Remember that whatever happens, you win because you’ve got nothing to lose!
You two will either match or you won’t, saving yourself tons of your time—and you’ll find another match.
No matter what happens, you will stay your same beautiful and unique you.
No matter what happens, you will still have your special people in your life who will be there for you.
“IN THE END… We only regret the chances we didn’t take, the relationships we were afraid to have, and the decisions we waited too long to make.” – Lewis Carroll