Ci amiamo ma non possiamo stare insieme: Cosa fare
‘We love each other but can’t be together’… Yes, there are two sides of love, and this is the not-so-pretty one. L'amore proibito, quasi impossibile può ferire maggiormente una persona.
It’s when your heart is filled with love for some person, but at the same time, you’re attraversare la più dolorosa delle rotture di cuore. You love them, but you know you shouldn’t, and it’s killing you inside.
Indeed, our heart has that awful habit of ignoring our mind a little too often. It’s just that no matter how hard you try and no matter how much you want it, you just can’t control it.
You can’t control your romantic emotions nor do you have the power to delete someone from your heart. Tuttavia, è bene sapere che, a prescindere dalla situazione, amore vero is always worth the fight. And, I’m here to help you come out from that battle as a winner.
We Love Each Other But Can’t Be Together: 8 Possible Reasons, With Relationship Advice
There are various reasons why two people in love can’t be together. I’ve selected the most common ones and provided them with some efficient relationship advice.
Conoscete il detto: procrastinare porta alla perdita… So, let’s find a way to build a bridge between you and your loved one, and make things between you work.
1. We love each other but can’t be together because of distance.
I know… being in una relazione a distanza fa schifo. Quando uscivamo insieme, mio marito ha dovuto trasferirsi lontano per motivi di lavoro e, giuro, quello è stato l'anno più difficile della mia vita.
Tuttavia, non abbiamo mai considerato la rottura come un'opzione. We made a promise to each other that we’ll stay together no matter what, and that no distance will be able to separate us.
To make a long story short, we endured it all, and now, four years later, we’re happily married. Your love story can have the same ending, but only if you make efforts to far funzionare la vostra relazione a distanza.
- La comprensione e la comunicazione regolare sono l'arma più potente contro la distanza.
You should simply behave like you’re in a ‘normal’ relationship. Tenetevi in contatto regolarmente, parlate e guardatevi in faccia tutti i giorni, parlate delle vostre giornate, pianificate le vacanze insieme, trovate un modo per mantenere il contatto con i vostri amici. l'intimità alive whether it’s through sexting or whatever…
Siate pazienti e comprensione sopra ogni altra cosa. Tenete presente che la distanza non significa nulla quando due persone si amano sinceramente e vogliono stare insieme a prescindere da tutto.
2. We love each other but can’t be together because of different faiths.
I always try to comfort myself that our society has overcome these faith-related issues, but unfortunately, that’s not true. These things still exist and many couples decide to break up because of le loro diverse religioni.
Please don’t become one of those couples. God loves us all, and in His eyes, we’re all the same.
- Tutto inizia e finisce con il rispetto e l'accettazione
You can always agree to disagree about some things; however, you shouldn’t mancanza di rispetto or completely refuse your partner’s values and beliefs. If they’re important to them, such things must be important to you, too.
In the end, different holidays come with different faiths. That means you’ll have more reason for celebrations and more reasons to be happy and surrounded by people you love.
3. We love each other but can’t be together because we’re committed to other people.
You’re deeply in love with each other, but are one or both of you married? The fact is, these things happen every day, and that’s exactly the reason why divorce exists.
However, don’t engage in any kind of relationship while you don’t end your marriage. Relazione con un uomo sposato/woman is terribly difficult and almost never ends in a good way… trust me, I know it best.
- Entrambi dovete scegliere da che parte stare
In questo processo decisionale, dovreste chiedervi una cosa ed essere brutalmente onesti con la risposta. Are you truly in love with each other or do you think it’s just passion or infatuation?
Questo potrebbe aiutarvi a trovare la risposta; 10 differenze cruciali tra amore e infatuazione.
If you have any doubts regarding the strength of your love, you might make a huge mistake by leaving your partner… a mistake that will haunt you for the rest of your life.
However, if you’re sure of what you feel for each other, then it’s unfair to lie to your life partner. You need to find the strength to lasciare il matrimonio e stare l'uno accanto all'altro anche se il mondo intero è contro di voi.
4. We love each other but can’t be together because we keep hurting each other.
Gaslighting, abuso emotivomancanza di comprensione e di rispetto, manipolazione, jealousy… Sono tutti questi gli schemi della vostra relazione?
Just because you’re in love doesn’t mean you also have to be blind. It’s good that both of you are aware of your unhealthy relationship, but it’s not good that you’re thinking about rinunciare al vostro amore.
If one person keeps hurting the other, then it’s amore non corrispostoe non ha davvero senso lottare per questo tipo di relazione. Tuttavia, se entrambi siete ugualmente colpevoli di questi errori, è possibile far funzionare di nuovo la vostra relazione se la volontà di impegnarsi è reciproca.
- Lavorate sulla vostra relazione invece di rinunciare ad essa
Solo i codardi se ne vanno e si arrendono quando le cose si fanno difficili.. Il punto è rimanere e continuare a lottare.
Avete già fatto un grande passo avanti sistemare la vostra relazione; you admitted that it’s toxic. Ora bisogna solo trovare un modo per spremere la tossicità e renderla di nuovo sana.
Just because you walked onto a few obstacles on your way doesn’t mean you can’t be together anymore. You can and you must for the sake of your love.
5. We love each other but can’t be together because our families don’t approve of it.
No matter how much you try to prove that your love is sincere and that you’re really made for each other, your families just won’t support la vostra relazione.
Capisco perché pensiate che sia meglio separare le vostre strade e andare avanti con le vostre vite. They’re the people you love the most in the entire world, and it’s completely normal that their opinions matter to you that much.
However, shouldn’t your happiness be the most important thing for them? If you two make each other happy, aren’t they being unfair for standing in the way of your love?
- Avere il sostegno dei vostri cari è importante, ma dovete decidere quali sono le vostre priorità.
Avete due scelte: lasciarvi andare l'un l'altro solo per compiacere le vostre famiglie, oppure andare contro di loro e combattere per il vostro amore.
I agree… both of them are hard ones. However, together, you can find a way to deal with your families while, on the other hand, if you choose the first option, you might regret it for the rest of your life.
After all, they’ll have to find a way to accept you two as a couple sooner or later. I think they won’t risk losing their family members just because they don’t particularly like your life partners.
6. We love each other but can’t be together because our life goals don’t align.
Oggi è diventato un malinteso comune che due persone in una relazione d'amore debbano avere le stesse o almeno simili ambizioni, obiettivi e scopi per il futuro.
Al contrario, l'intero scopo di una relazione sana è mantenere la propria indipendenza. È possibile avere diversi obiettivi di vitama dovreste sostenervi e aiutarvi a vicenda per raggiungerli.
- Compromise! It’s always better to bend a little than to break into pieces
Per far funzionare una relazione, dovreste condividere un solo obiettivo: invecchiare insieme. Se questo è l'unico obiettivo che avete in comune, non conta nient'altro.
Don’t let your selfish desires ruin what you two have. I’m not saying you should give up on your goals and dreams, but by cultivating acceptance and respect, you will be able to find common ground… the ground to build your future together.
7. We love each other but can’t be together because of the big age gap.
Voi due siete innamorati, ma l'enorme divario di età between you is causing you real problems, and you think it’ll never allow you to be happy together.
Of course, it’s not only age, but all the differences and different life experiences that come with it… oltre a questo, suppongo le vostre famiglie sono fortemente contrarie alla vostra relazione, giusto?
Well, let me tell you one thing: none of those things matter because you’re looking at it from a very wrong perspective…
- Dovreste vederla come un'opportunità, non come un ostacolo.
Most couples are terrified of their differences because they think it’ll ruin their relationship sooner or later. Unfortunately, they’ve no idea how wrong they truly are.
Queste differenze possono effettivamente avvicinare due persone. Le differenze ci permettono di scoprire e imparare tante cose l'uno dall'altro, il che non può che rafforzare il legame tra i partner.
After all, love doesn’t care for age, faith, race, and such things… actually, when two people truly love each other, nothing else matters except that love.
8. We love each other but can’t be together because of his/her infidelity.
Stavate vivendo una relazione d'amore, ma all'improvviso la vostra favola è stata distrutta perché il vostro partner vi ha tradito?
Now, you know you still love them and they claim they love you, too, and how it was all just a mistake they don’t plan to repeat ever again. However, do you think that you aren’t able to leave their mistakes behind, but at the same time, you think you can’t leave them behind either?
Ad essere onesti, la scelta tra Perdonare un traditore and letting go of them is a tough call, but you’ll have to decide what to do soon. I hope this will help you make the right decision…
- Il perdono è la forma più alta di amore
There is nothing wrong with forgiving your partner for cheating on you. However, it’s only if you’re doing it for the right reason… if you’re doing it because you really love them and see that they honestly regret their mistake.
Gli errori sono diventati una parte importante della nostra vita e la verità è che nessuno è immune dal commettere errori, soprattutto quando si tratta della nostra vita sentimentale.
On the other hand, if you really can’t find the strength to forgive your partner for betraying you in such a way, you really shouldn’t continue that relationship. It’ll be a deeply unhealthy relationship, and sooner or later, you will break up and it’ll be for good.
What Do You Do When You Love Someone But Can’t Be Together?
Being in this situation can seriously impact your mental health, especially if you don’t know how to cope with it. Here are a few tips that will help you keep your own sanity during these hard times in your life.
1. Rimanere realistici e vedere le cose come stanno.
Don’t get me wrong… you should have the faith that one day, you’ll overcome obstacles and finally be together. However, what you shouldn’t do is keep living in hope.
You can spend some time there, but sooner or later, you’ll have to step into reality and stay there. Non importa quanto dura o ingiusta sia la vita, non avete altra scelta che viverla.
You have to keep that realistic point of view for the sake of your own sanity. Living in a bubble may work for some time, but once you step out of it, you’ll be affrontando il più doloroso dei colpi al cuore della vostra vita.
2. Accept that some people simply aren’t meant to be together.
Alcune cose sono fuori dal vostro controllo e dovete solo accettarle. No matter how much you want something to work out, God has other plans for you, and that’s something you can’t change.
Alcune persone, nonostante i forti sentimenti che provano l'una per l'altra, non sono semplicemente destinato ad essere o rimanere insieme per sempre.
Potete accettarlo e concentrarvi sulla vostra guarigione, oppure potete continuare a vivere nella menzogna e a sperare che accada l'impossibile. Ad essere onesti, entrambe le scelte sono difficili, ma la prima è molto meno dolorosa.
3. Gestire le emozioni in modo sano.
Don’t even think about suppressing your emotions. You’re separated from the person you love… this is not the time to pretend you’re strong.
You may think that bottling up your emotions helps you ease the pain. But, the truth is, it’ll only prolong your heartbreak because sooner or later, those emotions will find a way out.
Trovare un modo per controllarlo montagne russe di emozioni travolgenti you’re currently dealing with. Cry if you have the need to, break something if it’ll help you with the anger that is eating you inside. Don’t let your emotions consume you… find a healthy way to deal with them.
4. Confidatevi con il vostro migliore amico.
Condividere i propri dolori con i migliori amici e con i membri della propria famiglia è l'unica terapia di cui si ha bisogno.. Even if they can’t offer you advice about what you should do, they will be there for you and they will try everything just to see you smile again.
It’s perfectly normal that you can’t deal with all of this alone. Permettete ai vostri cari di aiutarvi e confortarvi.
This is really not the time for you to act like you’re so brave and all of that nonsense. Trust me… when it comes to love, we’re all weak and we all need help.
5. Non importa quanto li amiate, dovreste sempre amare di più voi stessi.
L'unica persona che vi accompagnerà per il resto della vostra vita è voi stessi.. That’s the only fact, and it’s time to remind yourself of that.
Non si deve mai amare un'altra persona più di quanto si ami se stessi. Ricordate sempre una cosa; you’re the only person you can’t live without.
6. Se non ha senso lottare per ottenerlo, trovate la forza di lasciarlo andare.
If it’s really pointless to keep fighting for it, you need to gather the strength and courage to andare avanti. Let go of what can’t be and save yourself.
It’s pointless to hold onto something you know can never work. It can only keep breaking your heart, every single day, piece by piece…
7. Credere nel potere del tempo.
Forse they aren’t your soulmate after all. Forse lo sono, ma vi siete incontrati nel momento sbagliato.
Il tempo lo dirà. Non avete altra scelta se non quella di dare tempo al tempo e vedere cosa succederà. If you’re meant to be together, you’ll cross paths in the future, and you’ll never separate again. On the other hand, if they aren’t your destiny, time will bring you peace and healing.
Si può essere innamorati senza stare insieme?
Unfortunately, you can. In fact, the pain and the longing can intensify the love you feel for them even if they’re taken away from you forever.
Even if many bad things happen between you, even if they’re far away from you, even if you decided to part ways years ago, you can still be in love with them like the very first time you meet them.
Whether we like it or not, love isn’t something that can be controlled. Only our heart has the privilege to decide who it’ll let in and how long that person will stay there.
Il pulsante per spegnere le emozioni non esiste e non esisterà mai. Il cuore vuole ciò che vuole e non si può fare assolutamente nulla al riguardo.
We Love Each Other But Can’t Be Together Quotes
You can also seek solace in these powerful ‘we love each other but can’t be together’ quotes.
1. “A flame may love a snowflake, but they can never be together without each harming the other.” – Chris Colfer
2. “I don’t cry because we’ve been separated by distance, and for a matter of years. Why? Because for as long as we share the same sky and breathe the same air, we’re still together.” – Donna Lynn Hope
3. “My heart and mind are telling me two different things. My heart is telling me that this is a great love. My mind is telling me that there is a difference between real love and forbidden love. My mind is also telling me that I shouldn’t want to be with you.” – Cassandra Clare
4. “I love you more than I could ever describe, but our time has come and gone. I don’t want to end things like this, and I don’t give up hope. Maybe someday, we will meet again and it will be back like it used to.” – Unknown
5. “Even though we were never supposed to be together, I can’t be with anyone else, no matter the consequences.” – Nicole Gulla
6. “And then, when there is nothing else between us but love, we can begin to find a way to truly be together.” – S.J. Watson
7. “Our forbidden love was never meant to survive. I had no idea life could be this hard without you with me. I see clearly now that we weren’t meant to be together. The love we have is a forbidden love.” – John West
Pensieri conclusivi
‘We love each other but can’t be together’ is the sentence I hate the most because nothing is impossible with amore vero. I believe with all my heart that love is the most powerful force in the universe, and the only one that’s capable of making real wonders.
Sometimes, you need exactly that… a wonder. On the other hand, sometimes, a bit of faith combined with mutual effort is more than enough in order to far funzionare una relazione sana.
If it’s truly impossible for you to be together, then you must know that it isn’t amore vero dopo tutto. E questo renderà il processo di transizione molto più facile per voi.
One day, you’ll incontrare l'anima gemella; the person who’ll show you what true love really is. At that moment, it’ll be perfectly clear to you why this relationship couldn’t survive.
