Women are open books when it comes to their feelings. We are just that type of people. When we like someone, when we are emotionally attached to someone, we’ll let them know. We’ll be straightforward because there is no point in wasting any time—you have to get down to business right away.
Men, well, they are a completely different story. It is not said that we are completely two different worlds by accident. There is a damn good reason for that. Women are verbal beings and they like to express themselves in words, while men hide their true feelings, the fact they are emotionally attached.
They keep it inside because most men are not that good with words. Maybe they are scared of rejection or humiliation if the feelings are not reciprocated. So, they will show if they are attracted to you but in a subtle way with little adorable signs.
It is up to you to decode them and see if he wants you to respond. Give them a break—it’s not that easy to court a girl if you are not sure she likes you back, especially if the man is just another nice guy scared to do something stupid and lose you.
Actually, when you think about it, these signs will also tell you if he is a nice guy or a bad boy because bad boys don’t have the time to do these things. They get right to business and usually, that business leaves you alone and heartbroken.
So, if you see these signs, not only can you be sure he is emotionally attached to you and likes you, but you can also be positive that he is a good guy.
Difference between emotional attachment and physical attachment
Relationships are difficult as it is, but to make things even worse—which you kind of expected because nothing can go smoothly—there are 3 different types of attachment when it comes to men:
1. Friend attachment
2. Physical attachment
3. Emotional attachment
Friend attachment is very common. You begin building a relationship with him, but his feelings for you remain only platonic. This is definitely a friend zoning alert. You can forget about having a romantic relationship with him. He has blocked you in that way and once you get blocked, there’s no way of getting unblocked.
Physical attachment is based solely on your looks and the chemistry. But, as you know, chemistry is not enough if you want a serious relationship. You can start with it, but after the honeymoon phase is over, the chemistry will fade and you’re left with nothing. Your sex may be great in the beginning, but after some time, that will fall apart, too.
Emotional attachment is something you should be interested in. That is the real deal. It’s the final phase when you can be absolutely sure that he wants to be your forever person. It’s something you’ll have and feel for the rest of your life.
How to know if he’s emotionally attached to you?
1. He likes spending time with you
This is one of the most obvious signs he is emotionally attached to you. He will use his free time which was usually reserved for relaxation for you. He will go and hang out with you because he likes you, and he definitely has some feelings for you. I know, some of you may say it’s because he thinks he can have sex with you, but what if you’ve took sex off the table? What then? If he still hangs out with you, does it mean that he is with you only because he is interested in taking advantage of you? You see, it doesn’t because he really has no ulterior motive. Your relationship is not physical, it’s not sexual because you are not friends with benefits, so you can be sure he is not in it for the sex. He is in it because he likes you.
2. He contacts you all the time
Not a day can go by that he doesn’t call or text you. Isn’t this adorable? He wants to see if you’re okay and he wants to let you know he’s thinking about you, that he’s missing you. I know this sounds a bit pushy and stalkery, but not if it is adorable. There is a big difference between being creepy over the phone and absolutely cute. If you like him and if he doesn’t bother you by wanting to see your every move, if he isn’t acting possessive, then it’s just adorable. He genuinely wants to see if you are okay and in the end, he just wants to say “hi” and show you he exists and is thinking about you.
3. He is only interested in you
He is focusing his whole energy on you. You can be sure that you are the only woman for him. He is spending all this time with you; he’s calling and texting you just to see what you’ve been up to and most importantly, he is not dating other people. Okay, you can definitely be sure he is emotionally attached to you and wants to have something with you.
4. He is going above and beyond
Who doesn’t love gifts and dinners for Valentine’s Day? For most of your guys, you know what you’re getting and you kind of expect it. But, what if your guy can’t afford all those beautiful things he gives you, all those beautiful places he takes you to? Well, if he does it anyway, than he is really giving everything he’s got to win you over. You mean that much to him.
5. He looks at you in a special way
You just know this kind of a look. Once you see it, you know it’s the look that says he wants you and only you. You can see love in his eyes; you can see admiration. His face is peaceful and happy while he is looking at you. You just can see that this is it. This look cannot be faked. You can be a world-winning actor but you can’t fake that look. Not even a serious narcissist in disguise can fake this look. It’s genuine and you’ll know it when you see it.
6. He always puts you first
Let’s get one thing straight. If he doesn’t put you first and if he acts selfishly, you can be sure he is not the man who’ll stick around longer. If he only takes care of himself and his needs, he’s probably even a selfish lover, and he is not the man for you. Don’t think that a man who only thinks about himself is going to take you to a restaurant or actually pay any attention to you. But, a man who is willing to do anything for you and who cares about your needs and you in general is the man who is emotionally attached to you and wants to be with you.
7. He introduces you to his family and friends
One of the most important signs that he is interested in you and wants to be with you is when he insists on you meeting the most important people in his life—his friends and his family. He likes you that much that he wants to show you off to his loved ones. He wants to get their approval, but even if he doesn’t, that won’t stop him because emotionally attachment is not something you can easily forget.
8. He asks for your opinion
He really cares about what you think. Whenever he needs help, he knows he can come to you. He knows you won’t judge him or tell him ‘I told you so’. He knows you’ll help him as much as you can. When he needs advice, he will seek yours because he knows that you will do your best to give him a suggestion that is in his interest. He likes the way you think and he respects your thoughts—that’s why he wants to hear your opinion.
9. He is leaning closer to you
He is not doing this on purpose. It’s just the law of attraction and he is attracted to you big time. Whenever he is close to you, he can’t help it but to lean to you because he wants to be with you and his body wants it, too. He will never ambush you and capture you, so you don’t have anywhere to go if you don’t want him to lean to you. He will always leave you a bit of space for you to move back if you feel uncomfortable.
10. He is not pretending to be something he’s not
Around you he is his genuine self. He doesn’t want to act to be something he’s not. This is yet another sign of powerful male attraction, of emotional attachment. He wants to be himself because he knows you won’t judge him. He doesn’t want to play you because you mean so much to him and he refuses to gamble away the chance of being with you. He knows that masks fall sooner or later and he doesn’t want to risk it. Either you like him or you don’t.
11. He moves mountains for you
There is nothing he can’t do for you; nothing is too difficult. It is not because he is a sucker. He enjoys it because he is emotionally connected to you. He loves you and it’s not a problem to do anything you need him to do. He will use extra effort to take you out on a nice date. He will really try to plan things out as well as possible so you could be happy.
12. He is honest
He opens up to you and there are no secrets. I mean, he won’t tell you his whole life story the moment he meets you, but when your relationship becomes more complex, he won’t hide anything from you. He will answer every question you ask him because when you are in the picture, his whole life is an open book. He knows that liars will always be labeled as liars. Even if they repent for their lies, no one will trust them completely ever again. He doesn’t want to take that risk with you.
13. He wants to commit to you
He is positive that you are the person he wants to spend the rest of his life with. He knows that your emotional connection is over the moon and he doesn’t want to risk losing that. Dating other women is out of the question because he only wants you. You are the source of his happiness and the meaning of his life. It may sound cheesy, but you are, and you are one lucky girl to have that something so many other women are dreaming about.
If you find yourself in these signs, then congratulations—you’ve got a man that is completely in love with you and wants to spend the rest of his life with you. He is not a liar; he doesn’t pretend to like you because he has no other motives to be with you except the fact he wants to. Give him a chance because he’s probably too scared to say something directly. Well, men are like that—what you can do but make the first move!