Não sei o que fazer com a minha vida: 30 dicas para mudar o jogo
There’s no human being on earth who never feels lost. We all experience it, and yet somehow, we always forget that…
Being lost has a different meaning for all of us. Perhaps you’ve just finished high school and you think it’s time to finally get a job. Or, perhaps you’re generally stuck in a rut.
Either way, you think ‘’I don’t know what to do with my life… I don’t know who to be.’’
Since I perfectly understand what you’re going through, you will be offered life-changing pieces of advice. Do you want to know what those are? Then, read on and watch how you can assuma o controlo da sua vida em pouco tempo!
Is It Okay That I Don’t Know What To Do With My Life?
Sem dúvida.
I know it’s hard being uncertain about which step to take next, but that doesn’t say anything about you.
A vida pode ser confusa, mas devemos aceitá-la por muito frustrante que seja. A culpa não é sua e, por vezes, perder-se é perfeitamente compreensível.
You aren’t defined by only one thing
Walt Whitman once said: ”Sou grande, contenho multidões.”
Well, you are indeed large, and not at all defined by your inability to choose a path in life. Rather, think of the paths you’ve already chosen. Acknowledge all you’ve achieved so far. THAT is who you are.
Instead of going on a guilt trip over what you can’t do, look back and celebre-se a si próprio e todas as vossas vitórias, even the ”minor” ones.
This is only a setback and not proof of your failure. Besides, isn’t it more fulfilling to get something you want after really fighting for it?
Others rarely know what they’re doing either
When you feel lost, you often believe that you’re the only one feeling that way. However, there are actually a lot of people who share your sentiments and who struggle daily because they can’t figure out what to do next.
Don’t make things harder by convincing yourself that you’re alone in this. It’s only natural to be confused at times; others just don’t talk about it. They perceive it as a weakness that is not worth sharing the same as you do.
Mas it’s not a weakness. It’s just a normal part of human existence, and you should accept it.
Faça-o ao seu próprio ritmo
Eu sei que percorrer as suas redes sociais e ver outros alcançar os seus objectivos faz-nos sentir mal. Isso coloca uma enorme pressão sobre nós, porque somos socialmente condicionados a acreditar que temos de alcançar certas coisas numa determinada idade.
Well, know that you don’t have to. It’s okay if you don’t want a job at this moment. You don’t have to marry before you’re thirty years old. A única coisa que é importante é que o faça o que o faz feliz regardless of your age or other people’s lives.
Remember – there are no rules; only the ones you make. Your life is your own, so treat it as such. Don’t compare it to anyone else’s.
Seja gentil consigo mesmo
It’s understandable to be upset if you come to the point where you think ”I don’t know what to do with my life.” Just make sure that you don’t judge yourself para isso.
People will often tell you that self-criticism is the greatest motivation, but what they don’t tell you is como é importante para o seu bem-estar para apenas seja gentil consigo mesmo.
Praticar a autocrítica para determinar quais as áreas da sua vida que precisam de ser alteradas, mas deixar de ser auto-depreciativo porque isso fará mais mal do que bem. Em vez disso, implemente autocuidado emocional na sua rotina diária.
Como é que sei o que devo fazer da minha vida?
I know that sometimes, you get stuck in one place and you don’t exactly know where to go. You yearn to mudar a sua vida, but you don’t even know how.
What’s the right thing to do? What should you be like?
Se é isto que está a pensar fazer, eis alguns conselhos gerais:
1. Ir devagar
You don’t have to figure it all out in an instant. Think about it. You only have one life.
Quer escolher um caminho apenas por escolher?
Wouldn’t you want to be enthusiastic about it?
Confia em mim, quando menos esperares, ela virá até ti. Faça o trabalho necessário para melhorar a sua vida, mas adie qualquer decisão importante só porque acha que TEM de a tomar agora.
Fazer pequenos planos, mas também ir com a corrente.
2. Pensa em quem és
Sometimes, the people around you will try to convince you that being a doctor is the ideal job while you have a start-up company of your own in mind. Or, they will tell you that it’s time to settle down despite knowing that being single makes you happy.
É provável que se aborreça e as ignore, mas o facto de as ouvir constantemente influencia-o. Os seus planos escapam-lhe e, inconscientemente, começa a partilhar as suas opiniões. Don’t let that happen. Think about who you truly are.
Quer ficar solteiro e, em vez disso, fazer uma viagem a solo à volta do mundo?
Quer fazer o que gosta apesar de não ser bem pago?
Tenha apenas em consideração os SEUS desejos, pois são os únicos que interessam.
3. Think about who you’d like to be
While it’s important to know who you are, you also have to think about what you want to change.
Deseja ter melhores capacidades de gestão do tempo?
Sonha com ser solteiro but you don’t know como terminar uma relação?
Todos temos objectivos diferentes, e mesmo os aparentemente pequenos podem mudar a nossa vida. Nada é desimportante se tiveres o mínimo desejo de o fazer.
4. Encontre a sua inspiração
Isn’t it a great feeling when you find something or someone that inspires you to work hard for your objectivos de vida? Pinta o quadro de como a sua vida pode ser e aumenta a confiança no seu núcleo.
Whenever you start thinking ‘’I don’t know what to do with my life,’’ go to the source of your inspiration and don’t abandon it until you feel otherwise.
However, don’t become too immersed in it either. Seeing others living the life that you want can affect you to the extent to where you easily forget about yourself.
Remember – you want motivação e não uma fuga da sua realidade.
5. Saia da sua zona de conforto
I’m sorry to say this, but you can’t have the life you want if you stay where you are comfortable. Sometimes, it’s necessary to get out there and do the thing that terrifies you.
It’s valid to be afraid, but you can’t let it control you. Once you saia da sua zona de conforto, it’s going to be really hard at first, but eventually, you’ll see that it isn’t so bad.
Se for, por outro lado, pode sempre dar um passo atrás e procurar o que quer noutro lado. O importante é tentar.
6. Deixar de arranjar desculpas
Muitas vezes, estamos motivados num minuto e, no minuto seguinte, arranjamos uma desculpa para abandonar a nossa busca da felicidade. O medo de experimentar algo novo dominou-nos e só queremos voltar à nossa bolha para nos sentirmos novamente seguros.
Stop this. As comforting as it is, your bubble doesn’t let you feel the joy of fulfilling your own wishes. Expand it.
Staying in the same place doesn’t do you any good, and you feeling guilty about it doesn’t change anything. What you should do is convince yourself that whatever you imagine is yours to have because you DESERVE it.
7. Fazer as pazes com o possível fracasso
There’s nothing quite like the fear of failure to stop us from reaching our goals. Although this kind of self-sabotage serves as a way to protect us, it actually does the opposite. Don’t let it.
Go out there and fail big if need be. There’s truly nothing shameful about that. It may sound cheesy, but failure really does help you learn.
You can’t always succeed. There are always going to be bumps in the road, but that doesn’t mean you suck at life. The day you realize this will be the day you mudar a sua vida inteiramente.
8. Criar um quadro de visão
There’s nothing more motivating than having all of your life goals in front of you whenever you wake up in the morning.
Queres ir para a universidade? O teu maior desejo é visitar Nova Iorque?
Visualize a sua vida ideal e coloque-a no papel. Procure citações e imagens, ou desenhe algo você mesmo. Faça disso um projeto criativo. What’s important is that it inspira o seu crescimento pessoal.
Don’t let anyone tell you that this is meant for those of a young age. In reality, it’s more meant for adults because we are the ones with a bunch of goals, are we not?
Como posso encontrar uma carreira que me agrade?
Finding your dream job can indeed be challenging. Perhaps you already know what it is, or you’re still trying to figure it out. Either way, things aren’t going the way you want them to, and you constantly think to yourself ”I don’t know what to do with my life”.
Por onde começar?
Deve deixar que os outros o guiem para a decisão correcta?
Should you reject any opportunity that doesn’t lead to your emprego de sonho?
If this is what you’re wondering, here’s what to do:
1. Saiba quais são os seus pontos fortes
I’m sure that upon reading the title, some of your desirable traits came to mind. We all have them, but sadly, we’re often not aware of it.
If you’re not certain what yours are, discover them, or ask someone else to give you feedback. Either way, determining your talents is crucial in finding the perfect career path.
Be aware of what you’re good at and use it to your advantage. Em breve, será capaz de fazer praticamente tudo.
2. Estar consciente dos seus pontos fracos
Ignoring what you’re not good at is simply not an option. To find the perfect job, you need to figure out your weaknesses so you can work on them.
For instance, if you want to be a teacher, you need to be able to convey your knowledge to others properly. How do you think you’ll manage that if you’re not good at explaining yourself?
Don’t be hard on yourselfNo entanto. You can’t be good at everything, but you do need to look at the situation realistically in order to succeed.
3. Experimentar empregos diferentes
While it’s useful to go in the direction of success, it can be exciting to try something a bit riskier. You don’t always need to look for a long-term job that will fulfill you for life.
Porque não tentar fazer uma série de de curto prazo empregos de que não sabe nada?
If you want to be a cashier at the moment, but aren’t good with calculations, does that mean you should never give it a shot?
It may not always be wise, but it’s still an opportunity to learn a new skill and to gain an amazing experience overall!
4. Observe o que o enche de entusiasmo
You probably don’t associate anything positive with the word ‘job.’ It feels more like an obligation that you have to fulfill in order to have a decent life. However, it doesn’t have to be that way…
Pense na coisa que o deixa tão entusiasmado que quer fazê-la todos os dias. Consegue transformá-la numa profissão? Se sim, então força!
Of course, not everything has to be monetized, but money isn’t the point here.
If you could have the chance to both do something you love AND get paid for it, wouldn’t you take it?
5. Don’t listen to others
As we’ve previously mentioned, others filling our heads with their ideas of who we’re supposed to be can have a great impact on us. It’s crucial that you ignore them and figure out what YOU want.
Por vezes, seguimos inconscientemente a direção que nos aconselham, acreditando que a escolha é nossa. Tenha cuidado com isso também.
You can let others offer you advice on what to do, but it’s not on them to make that decision for you.
Como posso ter uma vida melhor?
Eu sei que, por vezes, parece que ter um vida pessoal equilibrada está fora do seu alcance. Mas, acredita em mim, nunca está.
It’s just not enough to only think ”I don’t know what to do with my life.” You need to work for it and accept that it can’t change in a single day. It’s fine if it takes you a long period of time, even years, because a importância reside nos seus esforços diários.
Um dia, olhará para trás e, de repente, aperceber-se-á de como a sua vida é diferente do que era antes. Ter paciência.
If you’re not so sure where to begin, here are some useful tips:
1. Ter um bom horário de sono
As good as it feels to be a night owl, it does you no good, and that’s a fact. You simply CANNOT function during the day if you’ve slept only a few hours. O seu corpo precisa de tantos cuidados como a sua mente.
If you’re having trouble fixing your sleep schedule, you can always take baby steps. Start going to bed and waking up only an hour earlier or even less because you can’t change all of a sudden. It needs to be gradual to be effective.
You don’t have to give up the joy you feel at night entirely, but keep in mind that continuously staying up late is self-destructive. So, get enough sleep and you’ll see how much better you’ll feel!
2. Don’t forget to eat and drink water regularly
This one might be obvious, but I know a lot of you skip meals and don’t drink water regularly. You’re either too sad to care or too happy to remember. Whatever your reason is, make sure not to do that anymore.
Se quer ter a vida que deseja, precisa de alimentar corretamente o seu corpo. Coma três refeições por dia e beba cerca de 2 litros de água, como aconselham os especialistas. Verá como se sentirá muito melhor e mais preparado para novas vitórias.
3. Exercício físico diário
Eu sei que a simples ideia de atividade física o faz revirar os olhos e suspirar, mas é realmente uma componente crucial do auto-aperfeiçoamento. What’s the use in feeding your mind if your body’s neglected?
You don’t have to devote two hours to exercising. In fact, you shouldn’t. That will only deter you from doing it again because you’ll be too exhausted.
However, if you start small, and increase the time bit by bit every few days, it’ll keep you motivated. You will have the energy to accomplish anything you set your mind to!
4. Dar um passeio
There’s nothing better to help you clear your mind than a nice, long walk. It’s the perfect opportunity for contemplation, whether you go by yourself or with a loved one.
O simples facto de estar ao ar livre dá-nos uma perspetiva totalmente nova da nossa situação. Todos os problemas parecem, de alguma forma, mais solucionáveis e todos os objectivos parecem mais alcançáveis.
Ouça música ou os sons do ambiente que o rodeia e mergulhe profundamente nos seus desejos. Garanto-lhe que quantos mais passeios fizer, melhor se sentirá, tanto mental como fisicamente.
5. Passar tempo na natureza
Contemplating your life may be important, but simply allowing yourself to just ‘be’ sometimes is entirely necessary.
Vá para a floresta ou sente-se junto a um rio. Deixe de lado todos os seus problemas e desfrute dos sons da natureza. Viver a vida em harmonia.
You’ll see how you’ll forget yourself in an instant! Tudo o que existe será apenas o que vos rodeia. Fundir-se-ão com ele e todos os vossos problemas deixarão de existir durante algum tempo.
‘’Live in each season as it passes; breathe the air, drink the drink, taste the fruit, and resign yourself to the influence of the earth.’’ – Henry David Thoreau
6. Começar um passatempo
We all have a daily routine. If you don’t want to add anything to it, that’s fine. But, if you get bored and think ”I don’t know what I want to do with my life”, finding a new hobby is the perfect step!
It doesn’t have to be something you’re good at. Try something you have never done before. The purpose of this isn’t to show how skilled you are, or even to become skilled, for that matter. It’s rather about taking your life into your own hands and making it more fun.
You can take piano lessons or practise drawing. I even bought a color book to find my inner child again. A hobby doesn’t necessarily have to be a sport or anything of the sort. It’s whatever you find amusing. Go and do it NOW!
7. Definir tarefas diárias
It doesn’t matter if you’re doing housework or doing research on an interesting topic. What’s important is that you set tasks for yourself every day.
This helps you be more organized as well as motivated. It’s fine if you don’t fully perform them. You can do it the next day because it’s all about training your mind and making yourself a more hard-working person.
You can download To-do list apps, or simply write the tasks down. It’s not necessary to devote your whole day to them. It can just be one hour. It’s all up to you.
8. Don’t forget to relax
As essential as daily work is, you shouldn’t overexert yourself. Make time for relaxation for the sake of your mental health. Reward yourself for all you’ve achieved that day.
Whether it’s watching your favorite TV show or eating chocolate, it’s crucial for your further progress and motivation.
Não se permitir descansar pode causar fadiga extrema, o que pode impedi-lo de cumprir as suas tarefas com sucesso. Para além disso, ficará ressentido, mesmo que goste muito de as fazer.
That’s why you should always find a balance between work and play. That one bar of chocolate might just increase your efficiency at work!
Como é que posso melhorar como pessoa?
Self-improvement isn’t an easy task at all. It’s especially hard because even when you know that you need to change, you fail to be honesto consigo próprio.
Não tem princípios e nunca questiona nada?
O que é que faria se alguém viesse ter consigo com os seus problemas?
If your answers aren’t what you’d wish them to be, this is what you should keep in mind:
1. Estar consciente dos seus defeitos
You can’t let go of your old self if you’re untruthful about who you are now. Self-improvement comes only when you admit that you are a flawed human being who doesn’t always make the best choices.
And, that’s fine. You can’t be perfect, but what you can do is pay attention to your flaws. After you acknowledge that you have them, figure out why they’re there in the first place. Take a psychology class or simply read self-help books, but either way, work on them.
Your flaws don’t define you, but how you deal with them does.
2. Praticar a empatia
Improving yourself sometimes means shifting your focus on other people. It’s true that you’re the most important person in your life, mas dar toda a atenção a si próprio é tanto prejudicial para si próprio como completamente egoísta.
So, if you’re still thinking ”I don’t know what to do with my life,” there’s your answer. Ease someone else’s pain by listening to them. Be their emotional support, and you will instantly feel better about yourself.
”If there’s any kind of magic in this world, it must be in the attempt of understanding someone; sharing something. I know… it’s almost impossible to succeed, but… who cares, really? The answer must be in the attempt.” – from the movie, ”Before Sunrise”
3. Tratar os outros com bondade
There’s nothing that screams ‘insecurity’ more than mistreating others in any way. But, your arrogance really won’t get you anywhere because it comes with a delusion that you don’t need fixing when you so clearly do.
A bondade, por outro lado, é o que requer a verdadeira força. You’re kind because you’re aware of how words can affect a person. You know that we are all equally important.
Naturally, you should stand up for yourself if need be, but don’t strive for power. That, in essence, is nothing but weakness. Instead, lutar pela bondade e verás como ficarás orgulhoso de ti mesmo.
4. Ser genuíno
There’s no better company than an honest person, and there’s no better person to be than an honest one.
Diga o que pensa e diga o que realmente sente. Se não gostas de alguém, deixa de fingir que gostas da sua presença.
Not only is this trait admirable, but it’s also easier for you to live a life devoid of pretense. Think about how liberating it must be to be nothing more than yourself.
5. Siga os seus princípios
Todos nós temos certos princípios na vida. The problem arises when we don’t follow them ourselves, but only preach them to others.
Por isso, quero que pensem nos vossos valores e os escrevam todos.
Quantas delas encontra na sua própria prática?
Em quais é que precisa de trabalhar?
Depois de responder a estas perguntas, faça um plano minucioso sobre o que deve fazer a seguir. Talvez queira tornar-se mais ético ou mais protetor dos mais fracos.
Seja o que for, imagine como deve ser gratificante tornar-se finalmente a pessoa que admira.
Como posso encontrar o meu objetivo?
Basta descobrir o que o preenche.
I know you’re overthinking this because it’s natural. We all want to know why we’re here, secretly wishing that it’s for a grand purpose that will forever change the world. However, this is rarely so…
O seu objetivo de vida may be being a nurse who saves lives daily, but it can also be making people smile. Think about what drives you and what you couldn’t be without. That’s why you’re here.
On the other hand, maybe none of us are here for a reason. But, that doesn’t mean that we can’t make our existence meaningful on our own. Don’t think too much about it. Simply feel it and you’ll find your answer.
Como é que posso gozar a vida?
Being lost doesn’t always mean that you’re a passar por um desgosto ou a tentar encontrar um novo rumo profissional.
When your head is full of ”I don’t know what to do with my life” thoughts, sometimes it simply means that you want a break, but you’re not quite sure o que fazer…
Bem, a chave para ter um vida plena é redescobrir a sua criança interior!
Independentemente do seu tipo de personalidade, aqui estão algumas ideias que o podem ajudar viva a sua vida ao máximo:
- Correr uma maratona.
- Tocar um instrumento musical.
- Compor uma canção.
- Fazer investigação sobre uma lenda urbana.
- Visitar todos os continentes.
- Praticar tiro com arco.
- Ir nadar com golfinhos.
- Praticar a auto-defesa.
- Ir observar as estrelas.
- Viajar sozinho para algum lado.
- Coser um fato de Halloween.
- Visitar uma casa assombrada.
- Pintar o cabelo de uma cor invulgar.
- Fazer uma prova de vinhos.
- Dormir numa casa na árvore.
- Fazer uma cápsula do tempo.
- Escalar uma montanha.
- Ir a um encontro às cegas.
- Visitar um castelo.
- Ir ao LARP-ing (Live Action Role-Playing).
If these are too much or too out of reach for you, you can always have a picnic or go for a walk in the woods. There’s beleza na simplicidade. Vá e divirta-se.
Conclusão
Being lost doesn’t mean that you’re incapable and that you will never find your path. It simply means that you’re struggling right now. What you feel isn’t final.
I hope that the next time you start thinking “I don’t know what to do with my life,” you remember the importance of daily efforts.
There are no big changes, only small ones that eventually turn your whole life around. So, don’t despair. You got this!
