Work is a great place to meet a bunch of amazing people, and some people even meet their best friend or soulmate at work. But to get there, you first need to know the difference between being just polite, friendly or flirty. And it can be really hard to figure it out because of professionalism or the company policy on banning relationships between co-workers. That’s why it’s really important for you to be cautious when considering dating a coworker. It can seem quite unprofessional or disrespectful to company policy if you get involved in a relationship with a coworker. Plus if things go south, it can be truly hard and painful to look at him every day.
But if you’re still up for it and you’re already looking for signs a coworker likes you, then this article is for you. Or it is if you’re just trying to avoid that awkward situation where he confesses his love for you and you feel a little bit less than nothing for him. Either way, you’ll see that figuring him out is not so hard once you know what to look for and there are a lot of telltale signs that can tell you the truth about if a coworker likes you.
1. He talks to you more than he does to others
There are a few reasons behind this one. He likes you, he needs something (maybe for you to cover his shift) or if you just got there, it can seem that he is just trying to be polite so you don’t feel left out or something. But the important thing is to pay attention to other signs from the list as well and the topics you two are talking about. If it’s something personal or basically non-important work-related stuff, it could just be him looking for a way to spend time with you.
2. He smiles at you in meetings
Whenever you look at him, he is smiling back at you. If you are the one holding a presentation or talking, he encourages you and supports whatever you say. You can even catch him looking at you and he will look away at the same moment. This is usually the number one sign that someone likes you, because he just can’t help it. Just looking at you makes him happy and puts a smile on his face. And if he’s unable to hide it in meetings, it means he is seriously interested in you.
3. Brings you coffee
Without you asking him, he remembers what kind of coffee you love and he brings it to you regularly, followed by flowers he picks up somewhere on the way or chocolate bars and lollipops. If you’re out of office supplies, he brings them to you, so you don’t have to bother.
You may think that he does this for everyone or at least for every woman in the building but pay attention to his behavior around you. If he suddenly gets nervous when he’s next to your desk and seems clumsy while around you, it’s because he wants to be perfect for you, which puts him under pressure, thus him being nervous and clumsy. And he gets all bundled up, confused and starts to blush that it is so adorable it actually makes you sick. A little.
4. He wants to know how your day outside of the office went
Here’s the thing, men who are only interested in getting it on or getting something else from you will never ask about your day. Or if they do, they won’t really pay attention to the answer. You know that type of man, you’re talking to him and you can actually see that he is so absent that nothing is getting through to his head. And his only reaction is, “Yeah, great. So, what about the thing I talked to you about?”
But if he asks you and he’s genuinely interested in what you have to say and he actually remembers things that you say, he’s interested in you. And well, he’s a catch. A man who listens and cares about the things you are talking about is a man worth having around.
5. Offers you lunch dates
Any man who offers to take me to lunch is my kind of a man! Think about it, you get to eat as much as you like, food is all over your face and he stills looks at you like you’re a gift from the heavens, Aphrodite herself. That’s what true love is all about.
Now, let’s get serious. He wants to get you out of the office, even for lunch, because it’s hard to get comfortable and relaxed when you’re at work. When you’re surrounded by your bosses and other co-workers, there is no way you’d be relaxed and interested in a little bit of naughty chit-chatting. He needs you to be relaxed so you can get to know each other better and maybe arrange another date. Who knows. After all, the way to a woman’s heart is through her stomach. Or was it the other way around?
6. He sits next to you in meetings
It can seem like something that happens accidentally but trust me, it’s not. And if there are others signs from the list, boy, he has seriously got the hots for you! It’s a perfect way for him to be as close to you as possible and maybe accidentally touch your leg with his. Or pat your back while you’re talking, as a sign of support. Either way, he wants to be close to you so he can show you that he is there, that you have his support no matter what. Isn’t that adorable? (Unless he’s some kind of a creepster).
7. He touches you accidentally
He bumps into you in the hallways and when you’re on your lunch break his hand always swiftly and gently touches yours. Unless you have seriously tight and small hallways or he’s incredibly clumsy, which I don’t think is the case, he is dangerously drawn to you.
You see, when we are attracted to someone, our bodies attract as well. It’s something we can’t actually control, like we have no control over with whom we fall in love. But hey, at least there is something interesting to look for on a dull day at the office.
8. He offers you help with work
No matter how busy he is, he always has time to stop by your desk and see how you’re doing and if you need any help. He offers to carry heavy stuff, to fix a printer or to assist you with anything that you have to do. And he still respects it when you say no to him, because he’s not trying to show you how to do it or that he’s better at it; he simply wants to help you because it makes him feel good. And he gets to be around you even more.
On the other hand, if he gets all offended and mean to you after you turn his help down, be aware of him. He could be looking for a quick way to get into your panties or to prove that he’s better than you are. That’s not a man who can give you the healthy relationship you deserve.
9. Defends you to coworkers
He goes protective mode level Captain America on Bucky when it comes to you. Whether it’s offering to walk you to your car, to stand up for you in meetings or if someone bad-mouths you, he’s there to be your knight in shining armor who defends your honor.
What I love about this is that it really shows the kind of man he is. He could remain quiet and let them trash talk you while he nods and does nothing. Instead, he defends you even if they come after him or even if it means he will take part of the blame and anger for you. And if that doesn’t make him a true knight, I don’t know what does.
10. He gives you funny nicknames
Ah yes, the nickname game. Men love to tease and they love to be teased. It can be friendly teasing but let’s be honest ladies. We can tell the difference. There is a difference in the way he jokes with you and the kind of nickname he gives you. If he’s acting all friendly, there is no chemistry and you’ll see long stares and smiles. But when there is something more than friendship, he blushes and stutters while joking with you.
And there is that split second when we catch him staring at us while telling a joke, waiting for our reaction, completely naked and vulnerable, before he masks it with another smile and stupid joke. And in that moment, you hold complete power over your relationship. Whether you want to cut it off right there and then or deepen it, it’s completely up to you.
11. He remembers your birthday and special events
Honestly, I’m always the one who forgets birthdays and special events. It’s not because I don’t care, it’s because I seriously have issues with remembering important stuff. But it’s really great that I remember what happened on the 8th episode of season three of Game of Thrones. But when I fancy someone and I want to show them I care, I actually remember shit. And even if I don’t, I write it down (hey, it still counts).
So, if he remembered something you mentioned weeks ago and he asked you how it went, that’s a sign he fancies you. And better yet, if he remembered your birthday is coming soon and he asked about your plans, that could mean he has some plans of his own. Or maybe he surprised you with giving you something you really love, like socks with cute little jars of Nutella on them.
12. Praises you to other coworkers
“Hey, you know who could do it perfectly? She could, you know she slayed it last month!”
The thing is, we all know when someone goes behind our back and says something. Whether it’s good or bad, it somehow always finds a way to us. And if people come to you talking about how he has your back and has praised you or he’s actually the reason your boss recognized your work, the boy has fallen head over heels for you. And he doesn’t care if he made it public by praising you, he just wants what’s best for you and he’s glad to help you get it.
13. He tries to figure out your relationship status
Even if he never asked you directly, he asked about your weekend plans with, “Someone special, eh?” Or he asked how last night went, and you could tell that he was relieved and happy when you told him that you spent it alone or with your cat. You can tell that he wants to ask you, but he’s too polite to do it, or too afraid of the answer. Whatever the reason is, if you noticed he did it, now you know why he did it that way.
14. There’s always something to talk about
He always has some new funny videos for you to see and something to talk to you about. It doesn’t matter how irrelevant it is, for him it seems like his life depends on it. And he has no problem coming to you for help about the most mundane things, just so he can talk to you. He’s also interested in your life outside of work and wants to share his with you.
15. His shifts suddenly match yours
You noticed that he’s at work at the same time as you are and the thing is, his shifts rarely matched yours before. It could be a coincidence but if there are more signs from this list to be found in his behavior, then it’s pretty obvious that he is into you. Plus if he offers you a ride home or even as company if you’re staying late, bingo! He’d kill to be your boyfriend. Let’s just hope not literally.
16. His body language tells you
The famous body language. There are so many clues his body gives away unconsciously that it’s actually pretty funny to look for them once you know what to look for. For example, he’ll be constantly fidgeting with his fingers, always looking for an excuse to touch you (moving a hair from your face, tapping you on the back or touching your shoulder, etc.). His body is also always faced toward you as a way of telling you that he is open to get to know you better and he wants to become closer.
Another great giveaway is mirroring your movements. If you cross your arms, he’ll cross his too. And when you’re talking, you have his undivided attention; it’s almost like the rest of the world disappeared and you’re the only one left.
17. Makes excuses to see you outside of work
This one depends on his imagination but whatever the excuse is, the reason behind it is always the same. He’s so into you that he’ll do anything just to see you. He will forget some paperwork and reach out to you for it or there’s some movie night and chill at a bar and he really wants you to be there. Or he suddenly remembered about a certain deadline and he would really appreciate your help and in return, he’ll buy you drinks. Like I said, it depends on his imagination but you get the point.
18. He goes on his break at the same time as you
No matter how much work he has left and even if it’s not the time he usually goes on a break, it matches yours all of a sudden. And he is always so pleasantly surprised that you’re there too; he was just thinking about something funny to talk to you about. He will even offer to take you somewhere on the break, depending on how long it is. And trust me, to him it is never long enough. Poor fella.
19. He agrees with you on work-related stuff
Having someone who always has your back is amazing. Especially when you know that he respects your opinion and knowledge in the work field, not just your looks. There is a huge difference between agreeing to everything you say and supporting you when you need it. A man who is attracted to you physically will nod his head all the time and make you feel like some sort of goddess. But a man who fell in love with your brilliant mind and personality will support you when it matters. No one is perfect and we all make mistakes but he always has your back, no matter how badly you screw up or how well you succeed. And he makes sure that everyone else knows it. That’s what truly matters—someone who knows you’re not perfect but still makes you feel like it.
20. He asked you out
And the biggest and greatest sign of them all—he asked you out. Not on a group hangout or team bonding or for margaritas with staff after work. He asked you out, just the two of you. Maybe he didn’t use the word ‘date’ but it still is one. Which leaves me only to wish you all the luck in this world and congratulate you on getting a date. And who knows? Maybe you’ll get a happy ending after all!