Winning a girl’s heart is a mighty task but if you’ve set your eyes on a particular lady who has completely taken over your heart, get ready for the wild ride of making her yours!
Mutual love is something we all dream of finding and keeping for as long as possible.
Falling in love is a daunting experience, because a man in love is capable of doing things he normally wouldn’t dream of doing.
But love has a way of playing with our mind and making us see how far we are actually willing to go, once consumed by that insatiable emotion!
If you are dead set on winning this girl’s heart, it must mean she’s got you pretty hooked, right?
That’s okay, the more intense your feelings, the stronger your sense of pursuit and your chances of succeeding can only go upwards from there!
The most interesting thing to note here is that in order to win a girl’s heart, it’s really not necessary to go out of your way and do anything extraordinary.
Girls aren’t that complicated, to be honest with you. It’s just that once we’ve had our expectations met, we refuse to lower them for guys who can’t be bothered.
We don’t require grand gestures that will prove your undying love and commitment and we don’t need you to be our knight in shining armor!
Consistency and effort are two of the most basic, yet extremely important, components we all seek in a romantic partner.
But it’s funny how hard it is to find someone who will actually prove that good men aren’t such a rare breed after all.
This is why it may seem difficult winning a girl over, when in fact, the girl you’re so into is probably just looking to find somebody who is here to stay, that’s all.
These days, most men seem to be into the whole ‘hit it and quit it’ shtick, which gives a bad reputation to those with sincere and genuine intentions.
Don’t be discouraged by this. All you need to do is show this girl that you’re interested in her for real and booty calls and that those type of things are the furthest thing from your mind!
The journey to her heart is not going to be without its obstacles but if you’re truly into her, you’ll make the effort and show her what a real man is.
Prove to her that her faith in men is not in vain and show her that the guy she’s been waiting for is right there in front of her.
All you need to do is be upfront and real with her and no matter what happens—stick around.
It’s true, there isn’t a universal recipe on how to win a girl’s heart per se but based on many years of experience, I can honestly say that there are certain approaches that will definitely enhance your chances of winning this girl over!
Pay attention and read closely.
Here are 9 proven ways that will for sure help you win your girl’s heart. And remember—be a man of action, not a man of words!
HOW TO WIN A GIRL’S HEART: 9 LEGIT WAYS TO MAKE HER YOURS
1. Confidence is key
Girls notice these things more than you know.
If you approach this girl with your hands shaking and your voice cracking at the very beginning of the conversation, it’s most definitely not going to leave a good impression.
I know you’re nervous, and that’s totally normal and fine. I’m just saying don’t approach her until you’ve got all your ducks in a row.
Have a shot if necessary, pump yourself up, call your best buddy and have him calm you down.
Don’t look at it as this great quest. Just try to see it from a chill standpoint.
You like this girl, she’s right there and you’re going to go and say hi.
You have an idea of what you could say and in case it doesn’t go well, you can always excuse yourself and use the restroom.
There, you can get it together, think of something else to talk about and hope it all goes well.
The most important thing is to not let her see how nervous you are.
If you appear confident, she’s going to be immediately attracted to this quality and give you the benefit of the doubt.
Just don’t put too much pressure on yourself and you’ll be fine.
2. Pay attention to the things she talks about, no matter how insignificant they seem
Girls absolutely love it when you actually remember something they randomly mentioned a few weeks ago, totally not thinking it would stick in your mind.
But there you are, surprising her with those cute earrings she fell in love with a few weeks back when she was in your part of town!
Those are the little things we remember and appreciate.
It’s not the gifts, it’s the attentiveness on your part!
It means you actually listen when she talks and care enough to remember stuff she wouldn’t expect you ever would.
See, it’s so simple. Just paying attention to her and keeping in mind the little things she mentions so you can show her later that you’re in it for the long haul as opposed to just wasting her time.
Being attentive, showing you care about all parts of her life and knowing how to make her happy is all it takes to win a girl’s heart.
Once you guys realize how simple it really is making a girl’s day, hopefully you’re going to put in the effort and do those little things more often.
3. Make her feel safe and protected around you
You don’t have to have the body of a Greek god or be in the best shape of your life.
That is not what I’m talking about here. Physical strength is not a prerequisite for her to feel protected.
Making her feel safe around you is so much more than that.
Be her safe harbor. Be the person she goes to when the world gets her down.
Be her words of encouragement when she’s doubting herself and show her the strength she has within when she feels like she can’t go on.
Be the person who she goes to for everything when she doesn’t know what to do with herself. No judgment and no excuses, simply be there.
Make her see that you are a constant in a world full of elusive people. When she sees she’s got a real rock in you, her heart is going to be all yours.
You don’t have to be her superhero, you just have to make her see you would do anything for her.
Even when it’s out of your hands, listen to her and comfort her because sometimes, that is all she’s going to need.
4. Prove to her that you are a good listener
Make her see that not all guys only listen when they want something in return.
Show her that you are not afraid of communicating with her about anything and everything.
Let her vent to you and get things off her chest. Listen just for the sake of listening and not just to reply.
Get rid of any judgmental thoughts and try to understand where she’s coming from.
Don’t ever make her feel like she can’t tell you certain things because she feels you wouldn’t understand.
I strongly suggest that you learn to just listen to her because if you can’t, that’s a sure-fire way to lose her.
You can’t win the heart of a girl by only listening to her when it suits you. It doesn’t matter if you’re in the middle of a video game—pause it.
It doesn’t matter if you were just about to watch a game, it can wait five minutes.
Her time is precious, so prove to her you’re not wasting it by being there when she needs you, regardless of how inconvenient it may be for you at that very moment.
5. Show her you can take care of yourself and don’t need her to keep you in check
Some men look for a girlfriend but what they really want is somebody who will make them lunch, do their laundry and clean up after them.
Let me just tell you right now, if that’s what you’re looking for, you’re barking up the wrong tree.
No girl is interested in that. Ever. She’s not your mom and you’re a grown-ass man. Take care of yourself!
Make your own lunch, tidy up after you make a mess and do your own laundry. It’s called being a grown-up.
Any woman who sees that you just want her to take care of you is going to run in the other direction—and rightfully so.
If you want to win her heart, show her you’re an adult human being who takes care of himself with all aspects of your life.
Show her that you are organized, ambitious and don’t take anything for granted.
She will like it when she sees that you are so maintained and mature and only then will she be able to picture herself with you.
No girl is looking for an immature mama’s boy, remember that.
Show her that you’re much more than just what the eye can see and she’ll be letting her walls down, slowly but surely.
6. Give her compliments when she least expects it and make her day
If you notice your girl is having a particularly lousy day, try to brighten it with a compliment or two but only if it’s genuine and comes from the heart.
Maybe she’s not in the best mood or doesn’t seem to want to talk about it but that’s okay.
Just tell her how beautiful you think she looked this morning when she woke up and how lucky you are to have her.
Tell her how proud of her you are and if her issue is work-related, compliment her on her ideas and creativity.
But always speak from the heart. If you’re being dishonest she’s going to be able to tell.
Things she doesn’t feel she’s good at are the things you need to pump her up about. Make her see she’s so much better than she thinks she is.
A kind word from the man she cares about is going to mean the world, guaranteed!
It may not change the reality of her situation but it will damn well change her attitude and make her smile, even for just a few seconds.
7. Kiss her passionately and often
You never need an excuse to kiss your girl. She could be having the most amazing day or her week could be a total disaster; either way… kiss her with such passion that she’ll forget about anything that’s on her mind.
A kiss, especially an unexpected one, is the best medicine for anything.
It is a rare circumstance in which you will forget about the world in an instant and just let go and enjoy the feeling.
If you’re sitting in a bar and talking about something, just pause for a second, look her deep in the eyes, smile for a second and give her a long, passionate kiss.
If you’re just chilling at home, watching a movie, just turn around and without hesitation give her a kiss and show her how crazy you are about her. A kiss is always a good idea, so don’t be afraid to get to it.
8. Surprise her with cute, romantic gestures
Yes, girls love romance. That’s no secret. You don’t need to rent out a casino and get the world’s most famous violinist to serenade you as you dine on lobster and drink the most expensive wine there is.
Romance is not about money and places, it’s about something personal and intimate you know would mean a lot to her.
Take her to a place you know she used to love going to when she was a kid but hasn’t visited in ages.
Take her on a moonlit walk along the beach, bring her flowers and just lie there, listening to the sound of the waves crashing and gazing at the stars.
It’s those priceless, intimate moments that are the epitome of romance. Things you will remember and cherish forever.
Where it’s just you and her and a private moment that nobody can ever take away from you.
9. Be honest about your feelings and intentions
Women have a sixth sense when it comes to mind games and lying. So do yourself a favor and just be yourself.
Don’t lie, don’t trick her and don’t say things you don’t mean; she’ll know.
If you feel a certain way, tell her. She would love to hear how you feel about her and where this is going.
If you have a problem with something, talk to her about it. She will appreciate your honesty.
That is the way to a girl’s heart. Whatever you may feel and however you may think she’s going to take it, give her the benefit of the doubt.
Women would always choose the truth, no matter how uncomfortable it may be, rather than be lied to.
So don’t even try being dishonest. It’s a complete waste of your time, as well as hers.
If you’re serious about her, practice transparency and never deviate from it.
Be honest and be true to yourself and that is the only way you are ever going to win her heart.